Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by rezy15(m): 12:58pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
07kjb:
Don't kick him out because u are seeing small change
A Single mother training two girls is just breeding them for oloshonism
U better make peace with your husband If na your wife get belle for one random man you go like to make amends? 8 Likes |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Greenbirth: 12:59pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Hi, it doesn't cause a penny to be happy. I am single and searching for a woman who is hard working and has been confirmed that she can bear children. My brother married a deeper life for over 35years now no child. Very pretty but can't bear any children. I need you if you wish. I am willing. Please in that part of your story, delete those parts like building estate and you having many land.just focus on the problem ahead. You can email me. alstone080@gmail.com. Good luck. ![shocked](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/shocked.gif) |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Luckysbab: 1:00pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Helpout12345:
If you are sure he is just pretending to change. Then do what you think it's best for you.
Good luck. Abi |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Ofadaman(m): 1:01pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Until I hear the side of the man 1 Like |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Kingcalls: 1:01pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Life2020: Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.
The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.
The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again.
Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.
Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him.
I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go.
Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it.
Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids
Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.
I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce. U will end up destroying ur kids ....u can keep ursekf aside...but dint ever take advice from a woman...they will destroy u... |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Mindlog: 1:01pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Penguin2:
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
I said it 7 times because 7 is a perfect number so that the universe will bear me witness that somebody on Nairaland warned you.
Kick him out now and you will have that peace you think you need and all that but you will regret it in the long run.
Sit down with your husband and seek out solution on how to go about the girl that is pregnant and try to retrieve your home. Don’t raise your children in a broken home. The home is already broken. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by pikechukwu6(m): 1:01pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
1. This is family matter 2. You have to upload your pics here for confirmation that you are beautiful in case someone can take over 3. We need to hear from your hubby. 4. You get money oo ooh, it might be the problem you're having as it might lead you not to be submissive to your husband. ![](/faces/huh.png) 1 Like |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by mens83: 1:02pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Pls before you settle with your decision can you give a call to Captain smart on Inspiration 92.3 FM Radio - 0700923923923 or on instagram captainsmart007 Speak to him. Help and good advice is on the way. |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Kingcalls: 1:03pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Shalommy: Chaii.. Maybe that man is a nairalander. They have nothing to offer than sex. Oh...grow up ... are u 12 or 13?? 1 Like |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by NigerianAngelo(m): 1:03pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Life2020: Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.
The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.
Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids
I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce. Thank God you threw that rubbish "advice" into where it belongs. That is a very bad "friend". 1. (First, Three Hail Marys for your Marriage and family). 2. Pray a special 7-day prayer to the Blessed Virgin Mary and St. Joseph, asking them to come to the aid of another couple and family. 3. Live as if you are expecting him back. 4. (Is the house yours? It could be a fundamental part of the problem here. (Him not feeling comfortable or man enough there). In future, you could ask him to pay it or partially pay it). 5. You could also give money and help to your poor relatives (2000x more efficacious than normal poor), praying that God should have mercy on your family. As my reward make sure you thumbprint for the best party, 2023. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by noisy45(m): 1:06pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Life2020: Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.
The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.
The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again.
Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.
Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him.
I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go.
Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it.
Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids
Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.
I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce. I beg I can marry you with the kids I'm single and available and be very loyal till death comes and takes me away. Your husband is an ingrate. |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Nobody: 1:07pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Penguin2:
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
Don’t kick your husband out
I said it 7 times because 7 is a perfect number so that the universe will bear me witness that somebody on Nairaland warned you.
Kick him out now and you will have that peace you think you need and all that but you will regret it in the long run.
Sit down with your husband and seek out solution on how to go about the girl that is pregnant and try to retrieve your home. Don’t raise your children in a broken home. 1. Would you say the same if she was a man and his wife had gotten pregnant out side the home. 2.I am not a fan of broken homes...but the man broke the home himself by playing away game. If she stays, chances are the guy will go and score another goal elsewhere..... The man has broken his home. It is sad that some men, and let's be fair women...don't hear word. Marriage is apparently just a piece of paper, that means nothing. p.s i know one guy whose mother took the advice you gave. The man abandoned her eventually...and left her to bring up four kids alone. The guy does not like his father (and no, his mother taught them to respect their dad no matter what...the guy however felt that the dad abandoned them)....and has refused to have nothing to do with him. PS 2 I know that you will say that I am being pro-woman. I am not. I just can't stand anyone, man or woman, who makes a promise, before God and man, and sometimes before the gods , to stay married to a woman or a man, and then procceds to break it. The man broke his home. Let him suffer the consequences of a broken home PS 3 And the thing is, children know. They know. THEY KNOW. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Nobody: 1:07pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
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Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by undigeh: 1:07pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
From your story and your travial, you are alone, no relationship with God nor the Savior of the world. How do you hope to exist independently from your creator and hope to succeed in your marriage and life. When you sorround yourself with people who know not God, they give you ungodly advice that will worsen your situation as it is now. You and your family need Jesus Christ to take control of your family. |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Onewazobia(m): 1:07pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Gaxuvir: Abortion is evil, don't join him in that plot. Also, approach the issue from the spiritual angle, pray hard for God to change him as it could be spiritual attack on him. God will see you through this difficult time. Oga commit for road, what do you by spiritual attack? Was he/she ever saved? Very unfortunate the kind of believers we have this days who recommend deliverance to people who never no The Lord. Woman! Your man needs Jesus, if your are saved pray and introduce in to Christ, He's able to change his (your husband) heart. Shalom |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by chris51(f): 1:08pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
My dear girl. I'm in support of you to throw out your indecent and irresponsible husband. Please do not video it. As you rightly said, he is the father of your children.
Take care of yourself, the children and your education.
For all I care, your husband can move in with his pregnant girl friend. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by fotadmowmend(m): 1:09pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
On side of the whole story ...... How was your sex life before he changed ? According to your story I am suspecting that you had sex issues ....... |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Waywardson6: 1:09pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Dear women, you can't eat your cake & still have it. You reject a good man, because he's too romantic & calm, you'll say he's too gentle, some ladies will even question why their guy (the good guy) isn't cheating on them. Then, you rush for bad guy's, stating that bad guy's are more manly, alpha & bla bla bla. What were you expecting? Happily ever after? With a badtttttt guy? Besides, when the going was good, you didn't vent or say anything online, it's now. Sha, if you plan on throwing him out, have enough evidence & be cautious, so that badt man won't hurt you in the process. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by chris51(f): 1:09pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
chris51: My dear girl. I'm in support of you to throw out your indecent and irresponsible husband. Please do not video it. As you rightly said, he is the father of your children.
Take care of yourself, the children and your education.
For all I care, your husband can move in with his pregnant girl friend. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by jjxxx: 1:09pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Life2020: Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.
The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.
The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again.
Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.
Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him.
I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go.
Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it.
Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids
Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.
I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce. My advice may not be the best but listen… I have seen such men even around me but later some do turn a new leaf. The truth is your kids needs their father especially in the future and as a Christian, divorce is not advisable EXCEPT your life is under threat and danger. U can let him stay but make sure u secure all your properties in your kid’s name and never use his name on any of them because he now has another illegal wife out there and if his name appears in any property, it simply means u and the other woman will have to share them should anything happen to your man. So I advice u save for your kids. all u owe him is food and maybe sex if u wish. Just let him remain in your house and act like its just u and ur beautiful twins exist in the house. By so doing, u are giving him the torture of his life and also remember to pray for him wen ever u pray and u might receive a miracle. |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by aklion: 1:10pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
I no even need read the whole story... If him no wan get sense n focus on one toto n family wey God give am for house... Then my sister help yourself and stay happy. If to kick am out from your house be wetin you wan do... Go ahead. Most men they get sense when them see wee by then e go don de too late for am... 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by MNDY(m): 1:10pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Mindlog:
The side chick is now pregnant why does he want an abortion? Could be fake means of letting peace reign to make his wife calm down. |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Fuckyoumod: 1:11pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Life2020:
I can't kick him out of a house I built with my own money, a land I brought in my own name
And please am a dark beauty, thank u very much Hope u have a nice day it's not too late dear. Think deeply, divorce is not an easy one ooh, especially when you have a child together. Are you saying your husband is irredeemable? Raising children alone is not about school fees, cloths and food ooh. Your children will grow through the hard path of not having a father around them. That's one of the worst things you can ever do to you beloved daughters. A girl child, needs her father more than a boy child. What kind of girls do you intend to raise with out their father? Those girls will surely ask you about their father one day. Na only you know weytin you go tell them. It would also interest you to know, that if you chase him away, it would be unforgivable and the pain in his heart might be transferred to your daughters. He would have nothing to do with them because of you. If he remarries and have kids your daughters would be forgot totally. Take your time and think, if you truly love your daughters, forgive him because of them. This decision of yours shouldn't just be about you, your kids also depend on your decision. Having a child outside marriage, is very stupid and irresponsible but certainly not the worst crime. Change is constant, he can still be saved. If you ever loved the man you married, pray for him and help him change. If you never loved him, you can go ahead with your plans, but have this in mind, there is no perfect man anywhere ask your fellow married women. No perfect partner. This is my advise! Personally, I won't have anything to do with a woman that kicked her husband out of the home because she built it. If you did it to your husband, you can do worse to any other man. Don't make yourself a psychologically and emotionally battered woman. Make peace with your husband. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Ikennaford: 1:12pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Helpout12345:
I remember your story then. The elders did not advise you to scatter your marriage then. We told you to insist on STD tests and ensure he is no longer cheating before you continue having unprotected sex with him.
From your new narrative, he had agreed to conduct STD tests, he had come back home. The pregnancy outside is a new thing now.
About the pregnancy, I think that happened before he decided to change and come back home. I want to say it's part of his mistakes while outside.
I know you are hurting to learn about this now but don't take a decision while under anger or emotion.
If he had truly changed from cheating, you people can start rebuilding your home.
The children suffer the most in a broken home. You even have girls. I can tell you most ladies raised by single mothers end up single mothers when they grow up. Think deeply about your children welfare now and in future before you use emotion to scatter your home.
Lastly, be careful of advise you take from your fellow women irrespective of their age or status because most of them will advise from emotional perspective or outrightly lie to you when they advise you.
I hate my fellow men sometimes, no forgiveness on cheating partner both male or female, she should go ahead and kick the deadbeat out, he doesn't deserve her if what she spit here is true, I know you will chase your wife out when she cheats on you, olodo elder like you, imagine all the stupid guys here telling the woman to forgive the stupid man but will advice guys to chase the wife,,, we africa men are confused sometimes though 6 Likes |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Nobody: 1:12pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Life2020: Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.
The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.
The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again.
Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.
Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him.
I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go.
Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it.
Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids
Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.
I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce. ...I feel your pain and I wish you happiness as soon as possible. But then, you and I know that you will not be single for ever that is if you have not found love somewhere with another person...my question is, when you finally kicked him out, who will be your next " love of your life" ? Obviously it won't be a young guy but rather, someone else's husband. Or are you saying if you leave your husband, you won't have sex again for life ? Hell no... So you will see yourself knacking a married man or a single guy who is yet to post his pre-wedding photos Your situation is very sad. You will end up dating someone else's husband and you you see a single man, he will just be having sex with you until the day you see his pre-wedding photos. Forgive my choice of words, but it's the reality. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Danniedpastor(m): 1:12pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
H VeryWickedGoat:
1. You be worwor mgbeke 2. Thought you women claim to be good advisers? ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) 3. You need a big prick to calm you down this period
DM me. Ignoring the post would have hidden a childishness. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Kingcalls: 1:14pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Jovialjune1:
And so what? Is it a crime? Didn't you read where she said the horseband has a child outside? Why the hell wouldn't she look for a brand new prick? That will still cheat on her ...this time , might add beating and stealing her money to it.... most of u women are very bad advisers ... did u consider the effect on her girls |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by bolademi(m): 1:14pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Life2020: Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.
The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.
The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again.
Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.
Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him.
I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go.
Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it.
Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids
Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.
I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce. Can you see professional advice on this. Don’t be too emotional about it I will advise u forgive him. |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Nobody: 1:17pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Life2020:
U are very wise I thought about that and I have made up my mind that I'm not going to marry again, at least not till my girls are grown up. I have heard stories about girls being sexually abused or even physical abused, I don't want my girls to grow up in that type of environment. I might have a few date here and there but let's see because my girls will always be first. Honestly I want to hear his side of the story because I'm honestly curious to hear his own side of the story.
won't you have sex ? I guess with someone else's husband or one single man who his just waiting for the day his photographer will give him dog copies of his pre-wedding photos. Women of today are very funny...most of them will do everything possible for a man to marry them, and after marriage, they will leave the marriage all in the name of my husband is cheating on me only for them to be fuckin one small boy or one married man... I am not saying a woman must remain in marriage because of sex...I am only pointing out the fact that most women who have money always want to change husband after giving birth to one or two... 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by irunoko(m): 1:17pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Life2020: Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.
The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.
The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again.
Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.
Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him.
I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go.
Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it.
Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids
Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.
I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce. madam you married a narcissist.simple and short.hes not just a narcissist but selfish.such characters are dangerous to have as friends talkless of a spouse because no matter how much emotions and finances you invest in him he will always be a destroyer and devourer Secondly it's clear he's using you to fund his lifestyle and kid outside marriage Thirdly he wants you to have more kids so that you Will be busy mothering them and you won't have time to notice his sexcapades Fourthly if you don't leave such situationship his side hoes will encourage him to kill you just to have him and sit on all your properties or he wrecks you financially.leave to live 1 Like |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Sammy101111(m): 1:20pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
Some people na money break there home no money This one another episode Madam your husband is not serious He is just a happy man flexing but he doesn’t know he is doing wrong . money makes some men deaf they will never listen till they loose it all . Don’t let him infect you oh . |
Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by irunoko(m): 1:20pm On Nov 11, 2022 |
bolademi:
Can you see professional advice on this. Don’t be too emotional about it I will advise u forgive him. madam op you better sieve the unreasonable counsel you get here.shebi na STDs he still dey give you.sit down there till he gives you HIV Don't let a toxic person or someone who has normalised toxic relationships tell you what to do.if Shii hits the fan na them go first come out and mock you 1 Like |