Cuddlemii:

@claremont,

I don't think the subject of the topic is limited to Nland. If its about Nland then I suggest the op changes the subject to fit in Nland.

Even if its  about Nland, never say never. People have met & married on here so what are you going to say about that? Obviously, the love is not an immediate thing but a collection of various factors & experience with the other Nlander. Destiny is not in the hands of men, so you can't play God if he says your wife is here.

Mynd_44:

^^^
some people are also desperate for attention that they don't mind who gives them as long as they get it

Maguy:

the topic is not about Nland. its a general discussion, ie twitter, facebook or other social network or other forms.

emofine:

Precisely - however as selfish as it sounds I'd rather these emotionally starved people carry out their fantasies online than in real life because others might just end up as collateral damage.

Maguy:

the topic is not about Nland. its a general discussion, ie twitter, facebook or other social network or other forms.

Mynd_44:


If anyone told you this would you believe it? Faceless person ko punnyless person ni

folahann:

watch as this thread will make 100 pages very soon.
If na serious issue, people no go care

claremont:

The conclusion of this whole matter is that it bothers on insanity;
Emotionally starved + Online fantasies + delusions = Insanity.
If this doesn't define insanity, then how else can insanity be defined?!

Cuddlemii:

Smh. Says who? The ones that I have witnessed, the couples make sense. They are educated, intelligent, cultured, resourceful & good looking. So what makes them emotionally starved. What makes the couples that met in real life more special than them with the rate of divorce of people that got married ages ago.

Since when did the meeting point  become the bone of contention. Are we not suppose to focus on the happiness & peace of mind of the couples in a relationship or marriage. So what would you say about people that met in the night club? I think human beings need to stop the criticism, judgmental  & sanctimonious blabbings. Nigerians will never be realistic or say what is happening in the real world. We like to justify, pretend & lie.

I am not saying they would fall in love with each other asap but they would still go through the normal processes that real life meeting people go through. They would also apply the necessary safety precautions too.

Some people are going through emotional blackmail & turmoil with their partners they met in real life. Some have been dating for years with nothing to show for it. Some have been ripped off, Some even bought their men with money & sex so those ones are not emotionally starved but emotional stabbed, right?
So tell me how is real life meeting better than online meeting, is it a determinant of lasting relationship free from heartbreaks.

I know there are hazards involved in online meeting but there are hazard involved with friends we have known from childhood too. Life is a risk. Trust no one & anything can happen. Follow what people think or what people assume to know & stay stagnant.

You think real life meeting can not involve two liars deceiving themselves & cheating on each other. You guys should wake up man & smell the coffee.

I thank God for making me a realist & it has always worked well for me. So for cuddles, whether you people meet in the gutter or spring, they should stand for who they are, earn their respect & enjoy every bit of it.

Cuddlemii:
Smh. Says who? The ones that I have witnessed, the couples make sense. They are educated, intelligent, cultured, resourceful & good looking. So what makes them emotionally starved. What makes the couples that met in real life more special than them with the rate of divorce of people that got married ages ago.

Since when did the meeting point  become the bone of contention. Are we not suppose to focus on the happiness & peace of mind of the couples in a relationship or marriage. So what would you say about people that met in the night club? I think human beings need to stop the criticism, judgmental  & sanctimonious blabbings. Nigerians will never be realistic or say what is happening in the real world. We like to justify, pretend & lie.

I am not saying they would fall in love with each other asap but they would still go through the normal processes that real life meeting people go through. They would also apply the necessary safety precautions too.

Some people are going through emotional blackmail & turmoil with their partners they met in real life. Some have been dating for years with nothing to show for it. Some have been ripped off, Some even bought their men with money & sex so those ones are not emotionally starved but emotional stabbed, right?
So tell me how is real life meeting better than online meeting, is it a determinant of lasting relationship free from heartbreaks.

I know there are hazards involved in online meeting but there are hazard involved with friends we have known from childhood too. Life is a risk. Trust no one & anything can happen. Follow what people think or what people assume to know & stay stagnant.

You think real life meeting can not involve two liars deceiving themselves & cheating on each other. You guys should wake up man & smell the coffee.

I thank God for making me a realist & it has always worked well for me. So for cuddles, whether you people meet in the gutter or spring, stand for who you are, earn your respect & enjoy every bit of it.

emofine:

Well after reading this post I do feel ashamed and believe I was carried away with my judgement and preconceptions. . . I will just clarify one point however, that in response to a particular poster who mentioned that some people are desperate to get attention that they don't even mind who offers such - which is where I introduced the word emotionally starved in the sequence.

I am sorry however if I might have caused offence to those involved in such union. . . I was pretty narrow minded there for a while I humbly apologies.

dammytex:

^^^
If my maths is still good;

I'm suspecting claremont

Mrs.Chima:

You sure about that?

emofine:

Well after reading this post I do feel ashamed and believe I was carried away with my judgement and preconceptions. . . I will just clarify one point however, that in response to a particular poster who mentioned that some people are desperate to get attention that they don't even mind who offers such - which is where I introduced the word emotionally starved in the sequence.
I am sorry however if I might have caused offence to those involved in such union. . . I was pretty narrow minded there for a while I humbly apologies.

dammytex:

^^^
If my maths is still good;

I'm suspecting claremont

Cuddlemii:

Saying "Akoba adaba olorun ma jia ri" in hausa intonation (some beggar sturvs)

Na una know how una take dey draw una conclusions. I tire for some Nairalanders oh!