adaperry25:
gifts are meant to be a surprise not when the person is aware.

The 1st lady bought me gifts I was not aware of.

Let me guess... she'd still ask you to pay for the gift she bought for you right?!

imagrg:
Yes; My Siofra too. I want to marry her this year.
Our wedding shall be live on Nairaland.

You this boy!

Leave me na!

adaperry25:
Please judge with a logical mindset.
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So please is it that all Naija ladies have this orientation that they should just receive everything and the best they can give is sex. Is a man not suppose to be gifted too or offered something valuable the man will always run to her for? I'm yet to see a lady with a different orientation especially my ibo ladies because I'm from south East.This year I want to focus on my career and finances. When I'm ready, I'll just marry bearing in mind that she won't bring anything rather than bear kids.

You first need to acquire a logical mindset of your own before you go attempting to judge others logically. This New Year, please endeavor to get a book on Logical/critical reasoning/thinking so you can grow your mind and as such become able to logically analyze your decisions, and the world around you, including your relationships for yourself. I recommend the book Being Logical but any other text that you are more comfortable with will work too. the key is to put into regular(continuous) practice what you learn so you become a more logical being than you are today.

On that note, it is illogical to conclude from your experience that all Naija ladies have the orientation of the two women you dated. That reasoning is so flawed, that all I can do is to state that it just is. If you are looking for particular characters in the women you date, then take what you have learned particularly about yourself — what you want and what you don't want — from these past experiences and use that in vetting your potential dates for next time. That is how the dating process is meant to go.

Let me get this straight, you had 2 situationships both were long distance and one was online! You think this is what a relationship is?

My friend, it is your fault! But you’re here to diss women and your audience is here.

Small boys and their big mouths and low self esteem. *spits*

DaddyCK:



so insted of u goin to disco night club to find babe to marrrry, u marrry babe from facebook & then expet us to feel sooory for u becus
its yor birthday.....corrrect?...
Bro are u ok in the head? (no ofeinse)

Candidlady:
ifeel for you


if you really wanna try again reach out to me let see if things work out. iam also tired of heartbreaks and guys letting me down but iam ready to give love a chance this year

hit me up

08zero 2219024two
o8zero 8zero 68 5442

serious relationship please I am not getting any younger

Are you tired of my dvck already? So I've been dating myself all this while?

Festus30:
He's logical, all this things wey you dey write na jst grammar. Naija girls no get Orientation. dem too like money and self centered.
Take for example, see siofra, Jennyclay, Candidlady, Islandlady, Sweetplum, they are after money in a relationship and if person no get money we no fit date them.

Shoo fly! Don't bother me!

imagrg:
Yes; My Siofra too. I want to marry her this year.
Our wedding shall be live on Nairaland.

U want carry overload abi?

adaperry25:
gifts are meant to be a surprise not when the person is aware.

The 1st lady bought me gifts I was not aware of.

As far as am concerned, you v not given enough reason to leave those girls. Especially the baby mama. She did nothing wrong. Shey your family no get baby mamas ni?
Will you be happy if they are treated that way?
The second lady, you should v waited and see the gift she's giving you. Maybe the money she ll use to buy the gift was ripe a day before your bday, maybe she was busy to v sorted your gift ahead or whatever the reason, you were quick to judge. From the beginning, you v to create 100 trust in relationship. It's not about trust of cheating or faithfulness but trust to know that love overcome all.
So...you need to work more on your psychological mind.

Festus30:
He's logical, all this things wey you dey write na jst grammar. Naija girls no get Orientation. dem too like money and self centered.
Take for example, see siofra, Jennyclay, Candidlady, Islandlady, Sweetplum, they are after money in a relationship and if person no get money we no fit date them.

You no get life again except to mention me

Sweetplum:

As far as am concerned, you v not given enough reason to leave those girls. Especially the baby mama. She did nothing wrong. Shey your family no get baby mamas ni?
Will you be happy if they are treated that way?
The second lady, you should v waited and see the gift she's giving you. Maybe the money she ll use to buy the gift was ripe a day before your bday, maybe she was busy to v sorted your gift ahead or whatever the reason, you were quick to judge. From the beginning, you v to create 100 trust in relationship. It's not about trust of cheating or faithfulness but trust to know that love overcome all.
So...you need to work more on your psychological mind.

if it was on her birthday or any Nigerian lady's birthday that I didn't prepare for ahead of time, hell will be let loose.
What is good for the goose is good for the gander, men deserve to be loved

adaperry25:
if it was on her birthday or any Nigerian lady's birthday that I didn't prepare for ahead of time, hell will be let loose.
What is good for the goose is good for the gander, men deserve to be loved

Ok. Happy breakup in advance with the next girl you meet cos you don't know you v an emotional issue

Festus30:
I go continue to qoute you, until u get a job and not a boyfriend.

I v a job. I could employ you as a PA, be paying you N40K monthly.

Sixfeetbelle:
Every minute of every day, Nigerian men on nairaland will come online and post made up stories to bash women. Same script everyday, no new thing.

I say make I ask: the members who comment on every of these posts, body no dey pain una? Brain no dey headache una to dey read same rubbish everyday?

So, for this new year, I want those that got married between January 2022 till now to be the only ones posting their stories. For a change, let us learn from those that crossed that threshold how they did it. No be everytime, "relationships is fake", "women are fake" yen yen yen.

Chidinmma Obiagelli Nwosu

adaperry25:
Please judge with a logical mindset.
Last year, I decided I was going to have a stable relationship that would lead to marriage.
Was tired of running in circles.

Relationship 1: met her on Facebook, we flowed well till the 4th month, she came to my location and confessed she's a single mom. My mind couldn't take it, same as my family. We separated.

Relationship 2: Not like I was a perfect guy but I tolerated her excesses. For example, if we have a little argument on how we going to shAre bills when we get married. She'll rush to WhatsApp status and make a sarcastic post concerning what we discussed. I corrected her severally on this. I just kept on loving because I was tired of hoping from one affair to another. Sometimes, she'll keep on repeating she has no foodstuff anytime I ask if she has eaten and ill be forced to send something to support. So many mind games.
What broke the camel back was few days to my birthday, I traveled to see her because we stay in different states. At least I expected a surprise gift but I got none, rather she took me to a mall and I did shopping. She now remembered my birthday was the next day and said let her buy me a gift.
I told her it's eye service and she shouldn't bother.

So please is it that all Naija ladies have this orientation that they should just receive everything and the best they can give is sex

Is a man not suppose to be gifted too or offered something valuable the man will always run to her for?

I'm yet to see a lady with a different orientation especially my ibo ladies because I'm from south East.

This year I want to focus on my career and finances. When I'm ready, I'll just marry bearing in mind that she won't bring anything rather than bear kids.

Change your circle bro ...

Keep searching ... If u say you're tired, you will get desperate and am average naija babe will smell it and take advantage ... If you're also a "keeper/committed", you don complicate matter ...

Just keep looking ... There is always someone who will want your kind of guy and would also have what you're looking for ..

Meanwhile, steer clear of the non working ones (no hating sisters in the house but bitter experience pro max edition don teach me)

Go for someone who is working and your status match ... A working lady knows the value of money so if u give her any kobo, she will appreciate it ...

toujurs:
You see that number 2 , she is a chronic introvert, that is how they do. They updated status 24/7 about their mood . Very annoying personality. They don't know and can't express themselves in a conversation if it's not on chat's. They are very boring like annoyingly boring. If you don't talk to her, she would feel comfortable not talking. they can press phones. Lazy and can stay indoors comfortably.

Regarding the single mum, Godforbid. I will ever take a single mum to see my parents. Like am i mad . The problems that comes with a single mum, trust me you are too young for such mental stress, protect your state of mind. Their mood swings alone. Bro

you right about no 2