MARRIAGE DOES NOT NEED LOVE

A successful marriage has little to do with love. Love is not the qualification for marriage.

Love is a dangerous thing.

Love can make you think you can make it.

Every divorce person was first in love with the person they divorce.
So, don't tell me love keeps you together.

Love does not guarantee success in marriage.

Love brings happiness but doesn't bring what it takes to make marriage work.

The only thing that makes marriage work, is knowledge.

You feel like you love someone, but you better get knowledge on how to live with them. And we are such a feeling culture that our insanity takes us to the alter, making commitments we know we can't keep.

Marriage is not protected by love, Marriage is protected by knowledge.
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Your copied write-up is incomplete. You said marriage needs knowledge

Knowledge about what?

Hmmm. I don’t understand the message. Love is the main ingredient for marriage. People don’t fall out of love most times they just can’t endure the pain caused by the other person as they both grow and they grow apart. Those who stay together just endured the pain and now enjoy the fruits of their pain. We’re growing everyday but our fast food generation wants it all now! Lol! Bleep love!

Love is a scam.

It exists no more.

Knowledge on how to live with them

Nazgul:
Your copied write-up is incomplete. You said marriage needs knowledge

Knowledge about what?

Tell them for me o

imagrg:
Love is a scam.

It exists no more.

@FuckTheMod love has always been lust to me since my teenage years. That doesn't mean I didn't fall once though but the experience was not good for me. I rora dey on my own now

Divoc19:
MARRIAGE DOES NOT NEED LOVE

A successful marriage has little to do with love. Love is not the qualification for marriage.

Love is a dangerous thing.

Love can make you think you can make it.

Every divorce person was first in love with the person they divorce.
So, don't tell me love keeps you together.

Love does not guarantee success in marriage.

Love brings happiness but doesn't bring what it takes to make marriage work.

The only thing that makes marriage work, is knowledge.

You feel like you love someone, but you better get knowledge on how to live with them. And we are such a feeling culture that our insanity takes us to the alter, making commitments we know we can't keep.

Marriage is not protected by love, Marriage is protected by knowledge.
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You get SENSE.

Love is the least thing one should consider in marriage, BECAUSE LOVE IS DOESN'T LAST.

Op I agree with you…

I think what you should have used is compatibility instead of knowledge!

I feel love exists but should be the least to consider in getting married.

But love/emotions seems to be the first thing most consider for obvious reasons!

I feel marriage will work better with more of commitment, dedication, compassion and compatibility to a partner rather than when love is the major focus in a relationship. Love should be a bonus.

You just have to at least like a person to a certain extent to be able to live, cope and tolerate a person but what is more important are the qualities stated.

Love is just not enough!

Sacrifice, tolerance, is what keeps a marriage. Having all tge knowledge about someone is of little use if you cannot tolerate each other's excesses. Be with someone who's always trying to please you, ask you what's wrong and this should apply for the both couple

No matter how committed you are if the commitment is one sided then, it won't last
because you will get exhausted along the line, motivation go finish

brain54:
Op I agree with you…

I think what you should have used is compatibility instead of knowledge!

I feel marriage will work better with more of commitment, dedication, compassion and compatibility to a partner rather than when love is the major focus in a relationship. Love should be a bonus.

Love is just not enough!

I agree. Yet all on your list is rare.

burp18:
Sacrifice, tolerance, is what keeps a marriage. Having all tge knowledge about someone is of little use if you cannot tolerate each other's excesses. Be with someone who's always trying to please you, ask you what's wrong and this should apply for the both couple

Divoc19:
No matter how committed you are if the commitment is one sided then, it won't last
because you will get exhausted along the line, motivation go finish

The commitment and everything else obviously has to come from both parties involved…

Nazgul:
Your copied write-up is incomplete. You said marriage needs knowledge

Knowledge about what?

She an angry black divorced woman .
So she still hurting from a betrayal.
Hence the Tina Turner rendition- “ What’s love got to do with it “.,,,

Divoc19:
MARRIAGE DOES NOT NEED LOVE

A successful marriage has little to do with love. Love is not the qualification for marriage.

Love is a dangerous thing.

Love can make you think you can make it.

Every divorce person was first in love with the person they divorce.
So, don't tell me love keeps you together.

Love does not guarantee success in marriage.

Love brings happiness but doesn't bring what it takes to make marriage work.

The only thing that makes marriage work, is knowledge.

You feel like you love someone, but you better get knowledge on how to live with them. And we are such a feeling culture that our insanity takes us to the alter, making commitments we know we can't keep.

Marriage is not protected by love, Marriage is protected by knowledge.
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copyright is iligal....section 14, act 25 chapta 1 page 17, third paragraph of the Nigerian Money laundering code...juss saying(.( No oofencsse)

Read what the scriptures says about love and then come back and read your post ...

Coming from both sides it the rare-est thung in earth. People come together for different reasons and most wont tell their partner their real intention of getting together.

brain54:

The commitment and everything else obviously has to come from both parties involved…

You are so entitled to your opinion. I respect that

rickleye:


She an angry black divorced woman .
So she still hurting from a betrayal.
Hence the Tina Turner rendition- “ What’s love got to do with it “.,,,

I sight you Daddy KC

DaddyCK:



copyright is iligal....section 14, act 25 chapta 1 page 17, third paragraph of the Nigerian Money laundering code...juss saying(.( No oofencsse)

Divoc19:


Marriage is not protected by love, Marriage is protected by knowledge.
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Money nko?

We can build money and wealth if we have the same goals in life.

Goodlady:

Money nko?

Divoc19:
Coming from both sides it the rare-est thung in earth. People come together for different reasons and most wont tell their partner their real intention of getting together.

Now you are deviating from your topic…

Am not deviating... Am I talking about love and you are talking about commitment am simply explaining how the commitment may/may not work if coming together is for different reasons
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brain54:

Now you are deviating from your topic…

Divoc19:
Am not deviating... Am I talking about love and you are talking about commitment am simply explaining how the commitment may/may not work if coming together is for different reasons
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People marry for different reasons…


It could be love, commitment, money etc.

Your topic is if marriage needs love/will work better based on love or other factors…

What I understand your asking is among all the reasons or factors for get married if love should be considered as most important.


It’s only natural to marry a person with same goals, ideals, ideology or whatever with a partner or could be love that unites the couple.
Meaning something has to bring two people together in the first place whatever reason that is. So should love be the sole reason or most important consideration for marriage. That’s your question.

And am still saying marriage does not need love because love is not enough. If you have someone that ticks your list love is grow. Our parents didn't marry out of love, both families made research about each other before allowing their children to be together.. we can learn from them. Love to me is an oyinbo phenomenon

brain54:

People marry for different reasons…


It could be love, commitment, money etc.

Your topic is if marriage needs love/will work better based on love or other factors…

What I understand your asking is among all the reasons or factors for get married if love should be considered as most important.


It’s only natural to marry a person with same goals, ideals, ideology or whatever with a partner or could be love that unites the couple.
Meaning something has to bring two people together in the first place whatever reason that is. So should love be the sole reason or most important consideration for marriage. That’s your question.

Divoc19:
And am still saying marriage does not need love because love is not enough. If you have someone that ticks your list love is grow. Our parents didn't marry out of love, both families made research about each other before allowing their children to be together.. we can learn from them. Love to me is an oyinbo phenomenon

I made this exact point on another thread…

Like you just said everything in that post.

Wow.. send me the link i want to see the post
See we will get there some day it may not be in our time but let's do the one we can for now
One love

brain54:

I made this exact point on another thread…

Like you just said everything in that post.

Fahvvy:
Read what the scriptures says about love and then come back and read your post ...

I wonder... Same women that rush men to marry them on altar will come out and sideline the very beliefs upon which the marriage is founded and base "hypotheses" on how they feel alone


Weytin konsain me, leaving d thread...

Nm

Actually, marriage does need "love"

But it doesn't need ONLY love.
It needs love, commitment and understanding.

And if there's money?
That on its own is a huge bonus.

Divoc19:
MARRIAGE DOES NOT NEED LOVE

A successful marriage has little to do with love. Love is not the qualification for marriage.

Love is a dangerous thing.

Love can make you think you can make it.

Every divorce person was first in love with the person they divorce.
So, don't tell me love keeps you together.

Love does not guarantee success in marriage.

Love brings happiness but doesn't bring what it takes to make marriage work.

The only thing that makes marriage work, is knowledge.

You feel like you love someone, but you better get knowledge on how to live with them. And we are such a feeling culture that our insanity takes us to the alter, making commitments we know we can't keep.

Marriage is not protected by love, Marriage is protected by knowledge.
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Trust is more important than love. What you and your ideal partner need to make marriage work for both of you are:
1) practice sacrificial giving. To friends and family before marriage until it becomes your character. Too many selfish people today is the reason marriage crumbles
2) try to be empathetic. Learn to be moved to help others. Be genuine about your intention and never expect payback. Continue even if you are hurt by others who refuse to return the favor
3) try to be a dependable and trustworthy person by letting your closest pals know some of your plan and seeking and following "good" advices only. some people don't know how to be transparent or build trust. Sharing your mind, your plans, help build trust.
4) don't be a flirt for any reason. People who have multiple sex partner before marriage cannot be trusted around their exes because in most cases they will sleep with them at the slightest opportunity. Don't date people who have had too many sex partners.. do personal research on this from their friends in a coded way
5) don't love/marry a selfish person and don't be selfish yourself. Both of you must agree on how to treat or care for inlaws and agree on the limits you can go before saying yes I do. Many times sentiments around "I love my mother, father, siblings must help them even if I will hurt my partner or take from him/her" - this is what split couples
6) agree on financial plan, contribution formula and never shift ground except situation warrants eg to help a sick spouse pay bills.
Common sense is what makes marriage work not love. You must both have equal Intelligence quotient so that you don't have brawls due to poor IQ and comprehension problem from the other partner