Love has expiring date for married partners.. The love for the kids keeps the marriage going,when the love between the partners expires or becomes weak ..

Your list will not meet it's match because it is hard to find all these in one relationship

Ruke1989:

Trust is more important than love. What you and your ideal partner need to make marriage work for both of you are:

Common sense is what makes marriage work not love. You must both have equal Intelligence quotient so that you don't have brawls due to poor IQ and comprehension problem from the other partner

it depends on what you see as marriage and what you mean by love.

■ Hmmm. I don’t understand the message. Love is the main ingredient for marriage.
■ People don’t fall out of love most times they just can’t endure the pain caused by the other person as they both grow and they grow apart.
■ Those who stay together just endured the pain and now enjoy the fruits of their pain. We’re growing everyday but our fast food generation wants it all now! Lol! Bleep love!

1. That has never been true particularly in the traditional case in your Nigeria.

2. That is also not true in any plane. Love in many cases is a temporary spell --- brain chemicals --- which may fall out of right when or just after reality hits and forces them to wake the fk up from the delusion.

3. How many enjoy this so-called fruit of their pain?

it needs love

1.
Eros (passionate love)

Eros is all about romance, passion, and attraction. It describes the intoxicating and thrilling emotions that the initial stages of a relationship can induce. "Relationships often begin with passion, including infatuation and attraction," marriage therapist Jason B. Whiting, Ph.D., LMFT, tells mbg. "As exciting as this is, it is mostly a fusion element, designed to draw people together."

Hallett adds, "Sexual interest, lust, or passion don't necessarily evolve into lasting compassionate love."

A tip for eros:
Enjoy each other's company and the attraction you feel for each other while it is fresh and new. Over time, this type of love will often transition into another type—or simply fade away.

2.
Pragma (enduring love)

Pragma is sometimes translated to practical love, referencing the kind of love grounded in duty, commitment, and practicality. While this might apply well to the type of love that blossoms in an arranged marriage, this is also the love you see in long-standing relationships and life partnerships—like when you see an old couple that's been together for decades and decades. These are couples who find a way to make it work over time.

Pragma requires a commitment to each other and might be thought of as a conscious choice or perhaps as the type of love that takes years to develop through bonding and shared experiences. Whiting notes: "The brain's response to a cherished long-term partner looks like contentment, caring, and nurturing."

Hallett adds that eros can develop into pragma, and, in fact, many romantic relationships involve both: "Strong romantic relationships involve a combination of passionate love and compassionate love, which promotes an enduring and positive relationship."

A tip for pragma:
The initial rush of attraction when you first meet someone, according to Hallett, "frequently stabilizes over time, which may lead people to feel that their partner 'doesn't love' them as much. To counter this, partners can work together to communicate honestly, to recognize the deeper feelings of connection and compassionate love."

3.
Ludus (playful love)

Ludus is very flirtatious and fun, without the strings that come with eros or pragma. It can be seen in the very early stages of relationships, when two people are flirting, courting each other, and crushing on each other. It often involves laughing, teasing, and feeling giddy around a person. It's very childlike in that way, though it can certainly evolve.

A tip for ludus:
Remember that all your crushes don't need to "get serious" or pan out into full-blown relationships. Sometimes there's great joy and pleasure in just enjoying the flirtation and the will-we-or-won't-we game.

4.
Agape (universal love)

Agape is selfless love, like the kind you might associate with saintly figures like Mother Teresa or activists like Malala. Hallett describes this love as a compassionate love for everyone, also known as universal loving-kindness. It's the love you feel for all living things without question, that you extend knowingly without expectations for anything in return. It's a very pure and conscious love. It's similar to what we sometimes refer to as unconditional love.

A tip for agape:
Feeling that agape flowing through your veins? Practice a loving-kindness meditation, and lean into work that allows you to give back and help others.

5.
Philia (deep friendship)

Philia is the love that develops over a deep, long-lasting friendship. It's platonic, but nevertheless, you feel very close to those you have philia toward and can confide in them, trust them, and respect them on a very personal level. And according to Hallett, these friendships can be just as impactful as romantic relationships. "People may be surprised by the depth of pain and loss related to a long-standing friendship," she says. "Often the loss or 'breakup' of a friendship is as painful and challenging as the loss of a romantic relationship."

A tip for philia:
Spend quality time with your closest friends, and get vulnerable in a way you might not usually, by letting them know how much they mean to you.

6.
Philautia (self-love)

Philautia has actually been having a bit of a moment lately—and rightly so! This love is all about self-love and self-compassion. It may seem obvious, but the relationship we have with ourselves is very important, and yes, it needs to be nurtured. Philautia is important for our own confidence and self-esteem, and it will also influence how we interact with the world. More love of self equals more love to offer. You can't pour from an empty cup, after all.

A tip for philautia:
Pamper yourself with your favorite self-care activities, create a self-love ritual—literally anything you can give to yourself that makes you feel good, do it! (Here are some tangible ways to practice self-love.)

7.
Storge (familial love)

Storge is the love shared between family members (typically immediate family), and sometimes close family friends or friends from childhood. It differs from philia in the way that it's reinforced by blood, early memories, and familiarity. There's a reason people say "friends are the family you choose." You don't choose your family, and whether they actually like your family members or not, many people often do love them instinctually. Storge is compassionate, protective, and deeply rooted in memory.

A tip for storge:
Work to strengthen your relationship with family members and forgive any past grievances.

8.
Mania (obsessive love)

While some might argue this isn't really "love," the Greeks did have a word for "obsessive" love, and that's mania. This is what we would describe as a toxic relationship or codependent relationship, where there's usually some imbalance of affection causing one person to become overly attached. It can be hard to come back from mania, but if you can, there will need to be a healthier balance of affection.
A tip for mania:

Notice any patterns of possessive or codependent behavior and ask yourself what's causing these feelings of insecurity and clinging. Let your partner know you're struggling with it and try to pinpoint what needs to change. (Here's more on how to stop being codependent.)

Source: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/types-of-love

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My comment:

Current marriage system practices mostly Eros, and that is why they fail a lot of the time. Some people even practice Mania and mistake it as love. That is why some kill their spouses for sleeping with other people.
Don't marry based on Eros.

So, for me, Pragma, or Philia can work for most marriages, but Agape will work for ALL marriages.

Love is the first thing that unites a couple, but understanding and compatibility are the factors that keep them going.