But let me tell you,there just aren’t any good men in this town. The trick isn’t to find a “good man” but to find one who is real and figure out if you can learn to deal with his imperfections. Here are 12 signs the man you’ve found is a real man. It’s up to you what you do with him after you find him.


1. Are first and foremost, gentlemen.They are polite, respectful, considerate and attentive to a woman’s needs. They open the door, pull her chair, lend their coat, offer to escort her home, pay for the dinner and kiss her goodbye on the cheek not on the lips. Good guys never cross the line of being inappropriate.

2. Are not intimidated by strong women.Good guys are not threatened by women who speak their minds, have different opinions, show passion or the causes they believe in or perhaps, earn more money than them. They see strong women as a gift to society because they are the ones who have the power to change things for the better.

3. He’s Patient–A real man won’t try to force you to be with him. He’ll try to impress you and convince you that he’s worth your time, but he won’t force you to do anything. If you find a real man you won’t have to worry about unwanted groping, date rape, or worse. He’ll take the time to get to know you and take things at a speed you’re comfortable with.A real man will wait for you to open your arms to him. Good guys are humble guys. They don’t need to beat themselves in the chest to show they are better, stronger, smarter, more successful or more handsome than other men. The ego is the enemy of good guys and they usually have it under control.

4. Are supportive to woman’s personal and career goals.They understand the importance of individual growth outside the relationship realm. Good guys see their woman’s success as their own success. Therefore, they prefer to encourage her to move forward as opposed to oppress her desires for expansion.

5. Write cards, send text messages, buy flowers and cook dinners for a woman as an act of thoughtfulness. Good guys don’t need an occasion to express their love. They just do it spontaneously. See their woman as the most beautiful, glorious, magnificent and unique woman in the entire Universe! Other beautiful women may catch a good guy’s eye but his heart and soul belong to her!

6. Keep their word. If they promised to call, stop by, take you out or do anything else, they stick to their promise. If they are unable to fulfill their promise, good guys have a sensible explanation…not a lame excuse.

7. Are not jealous. Good guys don’t require for a woman to check with them every single hour, to give them detailed reports on who she’s speaking to on the phone, to document every one of her activities or to follow everywhere she goes. They are secure enough in themselves to need a constant reaffirmation of the status of their relationship.

8. He’s Flexible –A real man might not be able to touch his own toes, let alone bend into a human pretzel. But he will be able to sleep on concrete, wear the same clothes for days, and survive for indefinite periods of time in beer and ramen noodles. Any man who says he couldn’t survive under the same conditions is either lying to appeal to your fair nose or is hiding a sex change. If he’s being real with you, he’ll admit to his, um, flexibility when it comes to lifestyle options. How is this good for you? A real man’s flexibility means he’ll be able to take your ups and downs, curves and flats, and wild ideas in stride. If a real man loves you, he’ll flex to you. That’s huge.

9. Are in touch with their romantic side. They are not afraid to express their emotions, talk about their feelings, show their interest and do it in the most romantic ways possible. Good guys can make a woman’s heart melt from miles away just by opening their romantic side and letting the love flow. Make love to a woman’s soul at the same time as her body. Merging with her soul is their ultimate goal…not just a mere orgasm.

10. Have achieved a balance in their lives on their own.Good guys have invested enough time in all aspects in their development – family, education, career, health, hobbies, interests and sports. They are happy with who they are and are satisfied with their lives.

11. Will find time and place for you no matter how busy and crazy their schedule may be.Good guys never use the excuse, “Sorry, but I was busy with work.” If they want to be with you, they will move mountains, sail oceans, cross continents, fly countries and do anything they can to be with their special woman.

12. Don’t use past relationship disappointments as excuses to why they don’t want to commit to a woman. What happened in the past, stays there. What’s important is the here and the now…and that is YOU!

I think what you described above are attributes of a 'perfect man'
We know they don't exist. Everyone must have a weak area esp.in no. 5 and 11.
But if any ever comes across any perfect ,please do not hesitate to holla,will be glad to take photo of him.
thnks

NL WHY?

what you tuped abov is tru but i want you to help with sumting

can you?

pendo89:

I think what you described above are attributes of a 'perfect man'
We know they don't exist. Everyone must have a weak area esp.in no. 5 and 11.
But if any ever comes across any perfect ,please do not hesitate to holla,will be glad to take photo of him.
thnks

sowie to ask but describe a perfect woman from your point of views,

13. good men are named Snthesis

mashnino:

sowie to ask but describe a perfect woman from your point of views,

She doesn't exist.

claremont:

Show me a person with the above-mentioned qualities, and I will prove to you that the person is a battery-operated robot!

u just said everything

pendo89:

She doesn't exist.

i tut she did

mashnino:

u just said everything

And the bolded is your own answer to your own question.

pendo89:

And the bolded is your own answer to your own question.

dats d best answer i can see here for now,

Good.

We have wishes and reality. We must learn to separate the 2.

pendo89:

Good.

We have wishes and reality. We must learn to separate the 2.

ok,nw i grab, everything the OP said was a wish, bt it can neva b reality, thank you for puttin me thru

ah ah.
I would 'wish' to have that kind of man but I know its just a wish cz he can never be soo perfect.
I picked no 5 and 11 as examples.
A good man makes me tick and what makes me tick may not be me seeing him cook dinner.
Each woman has her own description of a good man which may include all or non of the above.
But I said we all fall short of perfection.

wow, I am surpise at everybody coment here,

pendo89:

We have wishes and reality. We must learn to separate the 2.

sorry this is not wish its a reality. i have all the 12 attribute of a Good man.i see the reason why most of you all failed in your relationshio and blame one another. I am not a perfect man, but a Good man with all the attribute and qualities.

^^^ Great.May God bless you abundantly if its true.

mrwils:

sorry this is not wish its a reality. i have all the 12 attribute of a Good man.i see the reason why most of you all failed in your relationshio and blame one another. I am not a perfect man, but a Good man with all the attribute and qualities.

you robot tell me who programmed you, you have all the qualities, wait first are u nigerian? if you are, make i shit banana if you gat all these qualities

Characteristics of a good man is not cookie cutter nor one size fits all. 

Every woman has her own definitions and expectations of a good man.  There is a woman who thinks a man must hit her in order to prove he is a good man.  There is a woman who thinks as long as he bring home the bacon he is a good man.  There is a woman who thinks a man who has a big kondo is a good man. 

There are all different types of definitions and characteristics INDIVIDUALLY make a good man to individual women.

my guy has all these qualities and some more

Wow! Y[b]ou have the PERFECT MAN![/b]

There are good men with all those qualities, though they are very few, dated a guy that has 11 of those qualities,

hehehe this NL is so funny, I like it my sister human beings are not like fixed items or something strictly controlable, of course some of your points could be relevant but I truly believe that "ideal" notion is subjective, so that some guys could be seen as good without having the points you mentionned

it's really depends on heart and compatibility

@ op

I love this post of yours.

Can you clone yourself and spread yourself around to others? Your qualities are needed EVERYWHERE.

Very good post. I love it.

lol shy one

^^^^^^^^



yes please - i want one of him for myself

hehehe Shy one who doesn't?

@ op yo cant get all these attributes in a man as a matter of fact there is no perfect man any where you can only make your man what you want him to be as in your taste.

^^that's exactly what I've said, I totally agree