I disvirgined this girl about nine months ago and till now we still stuck in the "I'm not in a mood or its paining" circle. There is no type of pre-intimacy I don't do on her still her mood remains the same. I don't even romance women much before they wet but this one even when she's wet like a river Penetration hurts her.
Worst part is she will improve at some point then decline back to the level of a Virgin that mere fingering hurts her. I'm beginning to give up on the whole thing. I know some people will say I should give her more time but nine months is enough for any human being to adapt to anything / situation, plus this girl is stubborn and has a sharp mouth. I don't see myself being with her in few weeks time if this persists.
Regardless, I'd like to know how men that have come across rigid women handled their situation

Ok

That's why it's very important to do it right that first time. You botched it and thereby turned her off sex. The pain she complains about is in her head, from trauma of that first time. It's called PTSD.
Could also be she subconsciously wants to go back to being a virgin.

siofra:
Leave that girl alone. It's not by force, you goddamm rapist

stop being childish. All this attention seeking is annoying 🙄🙄

@op

The ball is in your court. I think you should try talk to her.

She's probably trying to make sure you don't see her as a LovePeddler or a loose woman.

You know women are always scared of that and being her first man, she'll want to be extra careful not to show that she enjoys sex too much thereby giving you the idea that she's morally loose.

Again if this is the problem only talking to her might be the solution. Try telling her how much you don't judge her and stuff.

If you don't have long term goals with her, hmm, you better start creating an exit now. Please give her a soft landing eh. Abeg

All you are concerned is putting your preeq inside an innocent girl.. where is your moral?

siofra:


Oh so you think what he's doing is not attention seeking? Why attack me first, missy?

he asked a valid question and the only thing that came to your mind is to insult him?

You probably don't even know this guy. Abeg you can do better.

Skyfornia:
All you are concerned is putting your preeq inside an innocent girl.. where is your moral?

can you swear on your life that you've not fornicated before?

Queendera:
he asked a valid question and the only thing that came to your mind is to insult him?

You probably don't even know this guy. Abeg you can do better.

Ah don hear. I'll continue insulting him and all the men on nairaland.

siofra:


Ah don hear. I'll continue insulting him and all the men on nairaland.

never cared. Just find it distasteful

Queendera:
can you swear on your life that you've not fornicated before?

Why are you supporting him so much?

This is suspicious. I don't think you're female. A female nairalander will rarely, if never, support something like this.

siofra:


Why are you supporting him so much?

This is suspicious. I don't think you're female. A female nairalander will rarely, if never, support something like this.

support him?

I hate the hypocrisy that's all.

PoliteActivist:
That's why it's very important to do it right that first time. You botched it and thereby turned her off sex. The pain she complains about is in her head, from trauma of that first time. It's called PTSD.
Could also be she subconsciously wants to go back to being a virgin.

the woman is exactly what the OP described as a frigid woman,not every woman like sex or have emotional feelings for the opposite sex,she might have her genitals mutilated,,a lesbian or just naturally frigid,if you marry such woman the problem will multiply,the best solution is to walk away and find who is more compatible,for such women I will just manage one or twice then I am gone no time for stories

9months abi You dey calculate the amount of time wey she suppose to don dey adjust to your imbecilic preeq but you never calculate the time wey you for don go see her parents and do the needful. After you useless her kpekus finish, you go still come social media to join others to call them boreholes a.k.a non-virgins. Even if I dey very sad before eeh, whenever I remember say I no get sister, I go just dey happy. Una go know say una no get plan for woman but una go still disvirgin dem.
Whenever una don tire and una dey look for one excuse to run, una first statement go be "A girl I was planning to get married to"
I no wan swear for most of una wey dey into this nonsense because people don already swear for una finish. Now you disvirgin her finish, you don dey come here to spit trash.
Oga gettaat jare, make I advise women.
Dear women, when most of una go get sense Dear virgins, never open your legs for any man until he has done the needful. It takes a second for you to be non-virgin aka borehole. Your virginity is your pride, keep it safe and sound. Don't mind what people will tell you, your virginity is a big asset. You can always be non-virgin anytime but non-virgins aka boreholes can never be like you.



I don talk am before and I go talk am again, "Whoever get this forum should create a section for kids because small small children too plenty for here"

siofra:


Why are you supporting him so much?

This is suspicious. I don't think you're female. A female nairalander will rarely, if never, support something like this.

Pickme?

They exist!

siofra:
Leave that girl alone. It's not by force, you goddamm rapist

You jumped into calling him a rapist, because you've been s3x-starved for decades....

You no get joy oh!

Queendera:
stop being childish. All this attention seeking is annoying 🙄🙄

@op

The ball is in your court. I think you should try talk to her.

She's probably trying to make sure you don't see her as a LovePeddler or a loose woman.

You know women are always scared of that and being her first man, she'll want to be extra careful not to show that she enjoys sex too much thereby giving you the idea that she's morally loose.

Again if this is the problem only talking to her might be the solution. Try telling her how much you don't judge her and stuff.

If you don't have long term goals with her, hmm, you better start creating an exit now. Please give her a soft landing eh. Abeg

How did you ignore this?

plus this girl is stubborn and has a sharp mouth. I don't see myself being with her in few weeks time if this persists

your communication as a couple is poor

Banilla:
Pickme?

They exist!

Lol, I thought they weren't on nairaland. I rarely see them here anyway.

siofra:


Ah don hear. I'll continue insulting him and all the men on nairaland.

I just like the defiance of this woman. LoL

iInjureHerYansh:
I disvirgined this girl about nine months ago and till now we still stuck in the "I'm not in a mood or its paining" circle. There is no type of pre-intimacy I don't do on her still her mood remains the same. I don't even romance women much before they wet but this one even when she's wet like a river Penetration hurts her.
Worst part is she will improve at some point then decline back to the level of a Virgin that mere fingering hurts her. I'm beginning to give up on the whole thing. I know some people will say I should give her more time but nine months is enough for any human being to adapt to anything / situation, plus this girl is stubborn and has a sharp mouth. I don't see myself being with her in few weeks time if this persists.
Regardless, I'd like to know how men that have come across rigid women handled their situation

First U haven't disvirgined her mind to the extent U get her broken



U no dey spend on her



U don't make her climax with Ur tongue👅



She's practically still and unripe mango

Sha buy herbs oooo.
Na wetin I Sabi be that.



Na we be your best plug for everything Sexual enhancement

siofra:


Lol, I thought they weren't on nairaland. I rarely see them here anyway.

siofra,,,but why have u stolen some one photo on yor profile & how am we sopose to ask u for some when u use fake photo? ..u no i still want some.

please advisee?(no oofensce)

Queendera:
he asked a valid question and the only thing that came to your mind is to insult him?

You probably don't even know this guy. Abeg you can do better.

madame, please don't waste your precious time bantering words with that girl.

she's a frustrated 16 years old, high school dropout.

everyone knows her here already 🙄

okoroemeka:
the woman is exactly what the OP described as a frigid woman,not every woman like sex or have emotional feelings for the opposite sex,she might have her genitals mutilated,,a lesbian or just naturally frigid,if you marry such woman the problem will multiply,the best solution is to walk away and find who is more compatible,for such women I will just manage one or twice then I am gone no time for stories

Exactly what I'm contemplating. Walking away

Queendera:
he asked a valid question and the only thing that came to your mind is to insult him?

You probably don't even know this guy. Abeg you can do better.

You just wasting your time with that person. The guy below her said all.

Una want the Bleep with ease abi how much is lubricant that u cant buy and use


Una no the sabi enjoy sex sha seun create waste ground wey una go later come dp everything sha

MechanicMike:



siofra,,,but why have u stolen some one photo on yor profile & how am we sopose to ask u for some when u use fake photo? ..u no i still want some.

please advisee?(no oofensce)

So you're back😂😂😂😂