PETERANDRE lol what an excuse!!!   but I think you were initially talking to poster as her "good man"

much available

NAYAH maybe u swept me off my feet after i read u commendation on my response,dont u think its very possible.There is nothing such as an excuse,maybe it was destine to be this way.How come u were only the one that commended my respond to the poster.Well its gonna be difficult for anything happening between us due to the fact we are thousands of miles apart,am not saying its impossible but difficult.

A man's meat, another man's poison, There is in fact no perfect man or lady anywhere, you only get what you make out of every relationship or courtship!

Only try in complimenting your man in his better areas and try to mould or help adjusting the darker sides, No one man has it all, believe it!!

gLOWITDAN,UR RYT BUT AS FAR SA AM CONCERNED AM OUT OF DATING FOR GOOD,I HV DECIDED TO REMAIN SINGLE COS WEN U SEE LOVE U WNT HAV 2 ASK,U WIL KNW DEEP INSIDE UR HEART(FOR THOSE DAT DIER HEARTS HAV BIN BROKEN N SMASHED-WHICH I HAV NEVA XPERIENCED,IT MYT NOT B NOTICED IMMEDIATELY),ANYWAYS MY POINT IS DAT NO ONE IS 100% PERFECT,WE ONLY TRY TO BE. SO,POSTER,PLS STOP LOOKING 4 GOOD MEN and mayb dey myt find you,COS if uR desperate( lyk u sound) u myt NEVA find HIM! bONNE cHANCE!! [flash=200,200][/flash]

For the ladies; Boyz II Men - Good Guy Lyrics

Why should I be the good guy
And get left for the man that don't treat you right
There's nothing good in being good guys
Tell me why, tell me why, tell me why?

See, it is not profitable (in a heavy igbo accent) to be a good man. So, they are scarce, but not taken.

LAW OF NUMBERS NI

How many men do you see in a week.
Advertise yourself : be out there , be sociable , be available, be happy, be smiling, be party-able, be sports-able, be everywhere you can find your kind of man.

Then sod exclusivity date at least 3 times a week different guys but close your legs, , give your self a year and very soon you will be with your soulmate.

Donot forget to write down what you want and donot downgrade your list, when you meet someone tick them on that list 7/10 is good , 10/10 is not too good sha , but anything lower than 7 is not good.

how old is OP ?

obowunmi:

how old is OP ?

Love and age , have nothing to do with eachother,
80 year old women fall in love sef so?

@horny4u
That's very true. I know I don't go out enough. When I do go out, I get hit on. But I don't have a sister and my friends and cousins all live far off. I don't club or party. I'm not so so religious too. I'm an introvert. So most of the times, I'm just indoors.

@obowunmi, I'm in my 20s.

late or early twenties ? Where are you located ?

LaShawn:

@horny4u
That's very true. I know I don't go out enough. When I do go out, I get hit on. But I don't have a sister and my friends and cousins all live far off. I don't club or party. I'm not so so religious too. I'm an introvert. So most of the times, I'm just indoors.

You need to go out, meet up and all that, if you want the man , kids et all, its the price you got to pay.
So dust yourself and donot worry about going out alone, either drive or have a fav taxi that you can trust and be out, stressful but it pays of,
Plus its just for a year, no other way, no man is coming to get you indoors.

^^^Thanx @ horny4u

@obowunmi
I truly want to keep things anonymous. I only opened up here on this open forum cause I could do that incognito. With all the age and location question, someone could put two and two together. My senior ones visit here too. And a good number of my friends.

In my own case, i was determine to get the will of God for my life, because i knew that if i missed it in the issue of marriage, my destine will be adversely affected,so, i took time to seek the face of God in fasting and prayers,so that i can marry the person that will not destroy my destiny, after the prayer, the Lord touch my heart concerning my wife,that was it. @poster take time to seek the face of God, it is only God that can see through the heart, so called good men may be a snake,lion or tiger in three piece suit.watch out! A three days prayer and fasting without food except water,will go a long way,you will enjoy the reward of seeking the face of God, but remember,when God answer your prayer,do not reject the person in the first place, there is no perfection for Now,but later the person will eventually turn out to be the best you can ever get. I am a living witness to this. If you are looking for a xter without flaws you may not get married for a long time. Be nice to people,show courtesy,humble yourself,forgive those who hurt you. Pray to God, to help you correct your own weakness. God will see you through. God bless you. God2man.

Ok, well you just need to put yourself out there or let your friends hook you up.

^^thank you, Obowunmi.
I hear you. I do have a problem with forgiving people who've hurt me. Not that I'll hurt them back or anything, but I just have a hard time letting go of past hurts! I've been trying to work on that for a while now!!


@God2man, Thanx. . . .I appreciate that!

@ poster

The gospel truth about this topic is that:

There are still numerous good guys around

The major problem is that these are the type of guys you ladies naturally don't get attracted to.

Most ladies naturally get attracted to the fun loving, party freak,not too serious minded guys who often do not fall within the circle of the good guys.

^^^
Yes, I want an outgoing guy cause I'm very introverted and quiet. But thank you, I don't want the loud, lousy guy claiming to be badt! I don't party, I don't drink or smoke and those vices don't attract me.

My favorite places to hang out is the pool, beach or at the movies. Or just indoors talking and cuddled up and seeing a movie. Or strolling late evening tucked under his arm. Or traveling to see new places, culture and food cause I love nature. I love music too.

I don't like loud parties, loud guys or anything. As you can see, I'm not the stereotype!!

^^ you my lost twin?

Good in what way? ope you don't mean Mr. yes/smiling/nice to everybody kind of guy.

The 'good' in my defination are too smart and you don't find them everywhere and anyhow and everytime.

No I am still here. I will like to believe I am a good man whatever that may mean.

pendo89:

^^ you my lost twin?

Good in what way? ope you don't mean Mr. yes/smiling/nice to everybody kind of guy.

The 'good' in my definition are too smart and you don't find them everywhere and anyhow and everytime.

Very true!

@Pendo89
Maybe I am  


No, I don't mean that kinda guy. I mean a man who loves God, is smart, intelligent, well spoken, clean, has values, is confident, isn't playing me around, and is humble (it takes a strong man to remain humble). A man who won't take advantage of my calmness like my ex did.

Also, I have dreams and please, such a man shouldn't stop me from achieving them if those dreams won't be detrimental to our family.

LaShawn:

@Pendo89
Maybe I am  


No, I don't mean that kinda guy. I mean a man who loves God, is smart, intelligent, well spoken, clean, has values, is confident, isn't playing me around, and is humble (it takes a strong man to remain humble). A man who won't take advantage of my calmness like my ex did.

Also, I have dreams and please, such a man shouldn't stop me from achieving them if those dreams won't be detrimental to our family.

Are you looking for one or are you just asking if there are any still available?

LaShawn:

@Pendo89
Maybe I am  

No, I don't mean that kinda guy. I mean a man who loves God, is smart, intelligent, well spoken, clean, has values, is confident, isn't playing me around, and is humble (it takes a strong man to remain humble). A man who won't take advantage of my calmness like my ex did.

Also, I have dreams and please, such a man shouldn't stop me from achieving them if those dreams won't be detrimental to our family.

I feel your pain and think it might be time to consult the man upstairs about this.

Thing is, the good girls hardly ever get the good guys and vice-versa… this is where faith seriously comes into play – this coming from an equally disillusioned soul.

@Long one
So I'm not alone in this??


@cito us
Lemme see. . .
Isn't that supposed to be the same thing??

^^^definitely not alone

@ LaShawn, one is out of curiosity and the other is out of want/need , see the difference now?

^^^
What woman wouldn't want one in her life. . . ? You know your partner determines the quality of the rest of your life!! So I'm both curious, then I'll use tips from here and snag one for myself before it gets out of stock!!

@LaShawn Then hit me up and see what you get

So you're saying you fit into what I listed??