CalienteMi:

Chalk it up as a life lesson learned. You will be okay.

Weezzy:

Thanks though, buh do you think moving on is difficult for me because she is my first??  or could this be what they call love?

REALITY101:

OP bro is she here on Nairaland?

slimyem:

you threw away the best girl you ever had mainly because of her not too good looks?smh.i hope you dont stay in lagos because you go search tire(if na wife material you dey find).
But i promise you, you will look back at this period in a few years time and wish you never let her go.

pendo89:

just call them first lessons in love.Baby's first walk. Why should moving be difficult? Almost everybody goes through that training but they emerge stronger and wiser Pick the valuable lessons learned,build a bridge then cross it. Don't rush to start another relationship till you have crossed over the bridge.
it means you have healed.

And yes you can find a girl with both outer and inner beauty. gd luck

CalienteMi:

You can do two things; cry about it or dust yourself off and keep your head up.

Weezzy:

She is down to earth, she loved me to a fault,  in many regards she is every man's idea wife material and we we have been dating for over 3years now.
we have broken up like 4 - 5 times, met her in UNI when she was still a naive fresher while I was a sophomore.
Then I graduated and moved cities for NYSC but we kept seeing each other at-least once in month, but I realize that after d last break up/make-up she was never free with me, she started feeling insecure and also warned me that a broken courtship is better than a failed marriage,

She may not be the prettiest chick I have been with (My only genuine concern over our future) but she is a wonderful person.\
She finally broke up with me last week and I'm about to move on but I honestly can't stop reminiscing the good times we had and how we planned a future we may no longer share.

I am scared of what d future holds for me, entering the dating game again after some 3 long years with a partner I never cheated on being d first and only partner I ever made love to (oops I almost forgot: I had a romp with 1 childhood crush and 1 random stranger in-btw our many break-ups ) .
I have a feeling I may not get a girl as good as the one that just left me, I could get a more prettier one, more sophisticated or maybe someone dat can blow me d way a pro blows a trumpet but I feared her love and genuine care for me will be hard to come by, I maybe wrong though.

Matured nlanders to the rescue please: should i overlook her less than satisfactory beauty or should I go on a search for an improved version (beauty queen) with a similar Operating System (who is homely & can show love and care genuinely).

coogar:

you must have a very low self esteem. . . . .

there's always a better girl out there somewhere. it's when you confine yourself in the same environment that you feel like you have lost a gem.
you are still a young man. explore the world. go to many cities and you would know "the best girl you ever knew" isn't worth a dime to the other mamis you would meet out there. one door closes, another one opens.
open a new chapter. move on and completely forget your past!

Weezzy:

She is down to earth, she loved me to a fault,  in many regards she is every man's idea wife material and we we have been dating for over 3years now.
we have broken up like 4 - 5 times, met her in UNI when she was still a naive fresher while I was a sophomore.

She may not be the prettiest chick I have been with (My only genuine concern over our future) but she is a wonderful person.\


I have a feeling I may not get a girl as good as the one that just left me, I could get a more prettier one, more sophisticated or maybe someone dat can blow me d way a pro blows a trumpet but I feared her love and genuine care for me will be hard to come by, I maybe wrong though. - (Of course, you are wrong)

~duchess~:

Like some feople will always say, zere are many fishes in za river.

Truth is, no two people can ever be alike character wise. You might meet someone who will make the lady in question seem like an angel

in comparison and you might also meet someone who will make her look like the devil. Nowhere is it stated that you must end up with the best

person you ever knew cos there just might be a better person waiting round the corner. I guess you both know deep down in your hearts that

you cannot have a future together and thats why flimsy excuses are cropping up o! The grass is not always greener on the other side but yeah,

you could find someone else you will grow to fall in love with more.

D_BestDoc:

Thank You! Well Said

~duchess~:

Like some feople will always say, zere are many fishes in za river.

Truth is, no two people can ever be alike character wise. You might meet someone who will make the lady in question seem like an angel

in comparison and you might also meet someone who will make her look like the devil. Nowhere is it stated that you must end up with the best

person you ever knew cos there just might be a better person waiting round the corner. I guess you both know deep down in your hearts that

you cannot have a future together and thats why flimsy excuses are cropping up o! The grass is not always greener on the other side but yeah,

you could find someone else you will grow to fall in love with more.

Mr, Cork:

Kweeesy. . talk to Mrs Chima. She dates anythin!