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During my University days, there was this chic who had a long crush on me (and I did not know). She did not know how I was going to respond (or react) if she ever told me about her feelings. Sometimes, I observed that she was acting up somehow whenever I was around, but I did not bother myself, because I didnt know what was on her mind (I dont read minds)

One day, she mustered the courage to tell me. Although we eventually did not date, we became BETTER friends. She became her normal self and did not have to bother herself about how I was going to react ('cos I explained politely without insulting her, why we could not be intimate).

Today, she is married to a very nice guy and we are still very good friends and she still holds me in high esteem.

Lola, my advice is that you sit down with this guy and tell him your mind. From your description, you've known him for a while, so I know he won't bite. If he returns your love, then congrats. If not, no wahala! At least, you have let it off your chest. Stop burning slowly my dear. Tell him how you feel. Who knows? The feeling might just be mutual, but how can you know if you dont tell him

Cheers,
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Ileke-IdI:

Call him while having se x another guy

LOL Joking. Simply ask him, the worst he can say is "No". The world stops for a moment, then it keeps moving.

Boyloaf:

@cuddlemi, it's very unfurtunate that we both hav to xchange written words online tru nairaland, but trust me, if u see me live, u go take xcuse frm me b4 u alter excreta frm dat ya mouth else na simple AHUMEN i go echo 4 your ear n d rest go be history! @sexkillz, d last time i checked, your comment on nairaland's numerous topics is out of your free will! Abi dem dey force u to make comment? No need to remind me pls! And if u like ya self, stick to clean words wen addressin me cos U neva can tell where yawa dey pass gas my friend!

Speak to youself first bro! You were the one that called other people's comment BLABBING! Did you not have something better to say? Or were you recycling your brain at that particular moment in time? Hypocrite! What is yawa? E be like say you smoke sha! SHUT THA F[b]U[/b]CK UP!

Boyloaf:

so sexkillz u tink because its a forum u can spit sh**t out to any1?.[size=29pt]U r nt safe[/size]

ROTFLMAOOOO! Are you serious? I'm scared sh[b]i[/b]tless! RUBBISH!

deniyor:

I used to think Boyloaf was a smart dude. . . . . I guess I can't be right all the time

Yeah! Once upon a time! Times change though! Sup bro?

Boyloaf:

@cuddlemi, it's very unfurtunate that we both hav to xchange written words online tru nairaland, but trust me, if u see me live, u go take xcuse frm me b4 u alter sh**t frm dat ya mouth else na simple AHUMEN i go echo 4 your ear n d rest go be history! @sexkillz, d last time i checked, your comment on nairaland's numerous topic is out of your free will! Abi dem dey force u to make comment? No need to remind me pls! And if u like ya self, stick to clean words wen addressin me cos U neva can tell where yawa dey frm gas!

horny4u:

I beg to differ with the ask him out, when you ask him today ,

are you ready to propose to him tomorrow
are you ready to pay his groom price
are you ready to ask him for sex
are you ready to provide and protect him
are you ready to take "I am sorry but you are like a sister t me"

Women are not helpless but subtle.
Seducing does not mean drop your gstring ,

it means act feminine around him ,
Laugh at his jokes in a girly way,
Use the power of body language,
Admire his muscles,
Cook for him ,
wink at him,
touch him playfully,
Adjust his tie,

If all of the above fails , then he doesnot fancy you as a girlfriend,

A man may be shy but he is not
a wimp
a sissy
and when most men see what they want and it is flashing green like a disco light they have it in them to plunge themselves in.

If you date him and marry him, my dear you will take all the decisions and wear the trouser for as long as you are together, be patient , wear your tightest jeans, be very sweet and girly, a woman does not need more than being a feminine woman to get a man who likes her.

The moment you ask him out your attraction in his eyes will diminish.

All in all good luck with the decision you take

deniyor:

I used to think Boyloaf was a smart dude. . . . . I guess I can't be right all the time

sexkillz:

Yeah! Once upon a time! Times change though! Sup bro?

dipo+:

Its noble to come to a forum and give your candid opinion when someone asks.
The responses have been sincere but I think sexkills and co have left something out in their thought. No MAN will be a close friend to a lady for 6 years and not have a clear definition of what he wants.
If Lola's friend finds Lola physically attractive to him, he well would have asked her out. Its one thing to love someone's company and another to be physically attracted to that person.
IMO, Lola has done all within a lady's place: spent time with him, show him how comfortable she is when its just them.
We have roles and we shouldn't try to play other people's roles.
MEN ask a lady they are interested in out. If a MAN doesn't, another will.
Lola should be open to other guys so she doesn't tamper with the fine relationship she has with this friend.
I speak from experience, friends