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Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by mastermaestro(m): 1:08pm On May 15, 2023 |
Mindlog: The few drops you sprinkled here already reveal much. I would really love to see that research work. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Venerable612(m): 1:09pm On May 15, 2023 |
Jennyclay: Hmmm |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by pocohantas(f): 1:10pm On May 15, 2023 |
bukatyne: Lol. It is the way you numbered it for me. My boss was 39!! And she just got married as the third abi na fourth wife to one Northern elite. I was shocked because I always read that they marry before "22". It is her first marriage too. She schooled and worked abroad. Na husband carry her come back Naija. She told me she can't be in a monogamous marriage because it would affect her career and stress her out. Omo! Their reasons for divorcing plenty o. I love this my friend because if you ask, she would answer you.🤣🤣🤣 I always look forward to her Islam orientations. It was with her I discovered muslim women have some flex, fully backed by their religion but nobody talks about those ones. You see that providing own. She said the onus is on the man to do everything. All this 50:50 we talk doesn't concern a core muslim couple. 5 Likes |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by franberry: 1:15pm On May 15, 2023 |
You DONT OWN THE HOME. stop being chauvinistic by saying you will put a woman in your home. it is her home too and she will leave YOUR HOME if you make her uncomfortable DrAkpamudehe: |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by franberry: 1:17pm On May 15, 2023 |
we dont know what you mean. many women have more money than men on a normal day. so if your husband was rubbing his money to her face just know the marriage ended cos she got tired of the flaunting xynerise: 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by franberry: 1:17pm On May 15, 2023 |
we dont know what you mean. many women have more money than men on a normal day. so if your husband was rubbing his money to her face just know the marriage ended cos she got tired of the flaunting xynerise: |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by odinga1of: 1:19pm On May 15, 2023 |
Jennyclay: Unapologetic feminist? U will divorce the man inside Plane 3 Likes |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by aswani(m): 1:23pm On May 15, 2023 |
odinga1of: Inside Plane, chineke. Why una dey do dis to Jennyclay nau, ah ah |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by gaskiyamagana: 1:33pm On May 15, 2023 |
madridguy:In fact, we go use Sango, Ogun, Obatala and that most powerful Nnyamirin idol swear before we left. You know why; people like our politicians no care for swearing with Qur'an and Bible. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by bukatyne(f): 1:35pm On May 15, 2023 |
pocohantas: I learnt the numbering from one dude here years ago jare. Infact for those of the serious spirikoko ones, they don't change their surnames after marriage, it is haram. Muslim women have some flex: It it is not compulsory to go to the mosque to pray, you don't fast during your period etc. Underneath all their coverings, they use solid 18k gold and correct lingerie. The rich and exposed ones are correct fashion inspo. If you are not looking to be a first wife, marriage is sure at any age if you are interested. They take the injunction of men providing very very seriously just that my Yoruba brothers use culture to ruin their religion and religion wise, you don't waste a lady's time. You like her, you talk to her father. He likes you, she likes you in return, you both marry. And the religion is clear on requirements of both parties. Not I go to RCCG, he goes to COZA so we believe different things. Nobi date ten years, do five abortions and the man suddenly realises that it is a virgin his destiny requires. 3 Likes |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by linearity: 1:38pm On May 15, 2023 |
Jennyclay: The core of the problem is their feminist mentality that you already subscribe to but still in 9ja. I doubt if you will make it past the immigration checkpoint before your true color & feminist tendencies ends the relationship. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by franberry: 1:38pm On May 15, 2023 |
Before we LEFT ko! gaskiyamagana: |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by malcom1X: 1:38pm On May 15, 2023 |
JovialJune: When you are a cleaner in England and you make a little money and decide to bring your woman. The woman comes and further her education and let's say study as a nurse. Then she starts making money than you and you're still a a cleaner because you financed her education too plus kids plus trying to build a house at home in Nigeria. What do you expect the woman to do with all those money she now has plus all the people she sees at her place of work, people with levels better than you the husband. 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by litaninja(m): 1:41pm On May 15, 2023 |
Talking is not some form of guarantee. Yes, we talked yesterday, today, I changed my mind. madridguy: |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by almarthins(m): 1:45pm On May 15, 2023 |
Yames70: Na one chance u wan enter so o! |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by litaninja(m): 1:45pm On May 15, 2023 |
- The premise, concept and current form marriage takes in the human species is flawed. Seems no one has found what actually works yet. - In nigerian marriages especially, people get married for all the wrong reasons. Men typically need some house maid and surrogate mother of some sort, while women just need some biological ATM without having any sort of value in lieu. You can get those in 2- 4 years without needing a marriage, so when people get to a system that has some semblance of functionality, the cracks will widen. EBMedia: |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Kobojunkie: 1:47pm On May 15, 2023 |
keepingmum:Mindlog, abeg tag me too as I wan read am! Such information is worth examining. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by sharpwriter(m): 1:49pm On May 15, 2023 |
xynerise:Tell us more... How long were they married before going to the UK? How long did they stay together in the UK before love lost between them? Did you ever envisage something like this would happen? Was your uncle a bad person to her initially? |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Ajisebioyolaari: 1:54pm On May 15, 2023 |
Jennyclay:Only a fool will believe you. This gold digger |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by djon78(m): 1:58pm On May 15, 2023 |
eazzzy1: This one na very big fact These interventions aren't really real More of to patch up an already broken system For me once all these interventions begin to come The marriage is as good as gone Why not everyone find there way here in naija |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Crafteck1: 2:02pm On May 15, 2023 |
edoairways: Who go talk sey god call am if money no dey there bro |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by Kobojunkie: 2:11pm On May 15, 2023 |
eazzzy1:You nailed it as far as the majority, in my books! |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by djon78(m): 2:12pm On May 15, 2023 |
JovialJune: Simple Let everyone find there way in Nigeria Let the two parties go there way as it's done overseas I recently decided to read up on Michael Jordan I noticed he divorced in the 2000s Paid his former wife $168 million later remarried in 2012 to a Latino woman And he is living happily with the Latino woman Now he is a billionaire in dollars Saw plenty pictures he took with his children 3 from the first wife and 2 from the second wife Honestly na we dey kill ourselves for Nigeria Divorce is becoming normal here If the marriage ain't working The parties should move on and find ways to manage there children We are just making things hard for ourselves here Divorce is really becoming common nowadays in Nigeria so people need to start equipping there minds to that possiblity And even look whether marriage is even necessary (infact many may begin to see marriage as unnecessary) thereby focus on babymama etc. I even feel that by the time our parents generation pass away Marriage may start becoming less interesting because a lot is changing Everyone's eyes is beginning to open now 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by emmaitive(m): 2:22pm On May 15, 2023 |
Jennyclay:are you sure? |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by casualobserver: 2:23pm On May 15, 2023 |
Jennyclay: You that they moved to Lagos and you are already changing your accent? 2 Likes |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by drsibz66(m): 2:31pm On May 15, 2023 |
The honest truth is that once Nigerian women leave Nigeria, they grow wings, the freedom and lack of motherly, fatherly or societal watch which helps to keep things in check is gone and so the true personality and nature of the wife is revealed. It's just like a teenager who is leaving home for university for the first time and would be leaving off campus. Suddenly she realises she now has some power because her husband can't dictate , decide , control or passively tell her what to do again. And she also realises that she doesn't need to depend on her husband again for money since she can make same money as her husband with same work. Also , an average African man can't tolerate a woman who isn't submissive or a marriage he doesn't seem in control or the head over . So things fall apart . But majority of this falling apart is becos of the changes the wife na show case which the man can't tolerate. However, a higher proportion of wives of professionals like doctors, nurses, engineers and those with still very high income tend to remain submissive since they know there is no guarantee that another man outthere might be able to give them their current societal or social status. The few ones that also go ahead to divorce is also most times caused by the wives who are interested in the division of the man's wealth. So in summary, women are responsible for about 90% of Nigerian divorce abroad . |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by mmsen: 2:33pm On May 15, 2023 |
madridguy: It's not too much freedom but too much stress. Stress without support will destroy any relationship. Most people do not factor in that lack of family support when they decide to move to places like the UK. |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by sharpwriter(m): 2:34pm On May 15, 2023 |
DeLaRue:Hmmmm... Your last paragraph is powerful and something to reflect on. 🤔 |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by mmsen: 2:34pm On May 15, 2023 |
djon78: If marriage isn't working why should any man get married? |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by djon78(m): 2:40pm On May 15, 2023 |
mmsen: Most times because of family pressure especially from there parents many men marry We have many bachelor's today in there forties So there are many men not married And as things are changing Many more will begin to join the league As divorce is becoming normal Why marry in the first place? 1 Like |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by pooozeee(m): 2:43pm On May 15, 2023 |
Mine did not get to two years before we got divorced. It was under 6months |
Re: Rise In Divorce Among Nigerian Couples After Relocating To UK by genkins(m): 2:44pm On May 15, 2023 |
Righteousness2: At least they are running away from a prayerful country to atheist nations..e get why 1 Like |
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