Pls dont listen dos mumu people asking dem 2 divorce. U r a man now and as such can talk 2 both parties wen need arise. Call her if u can or better still wen ever u r free travel 2 see dem den create time 2 talk 2 her abt it. If she doesn't change. Den she b devil daughter. Try talking ok. It will go a long way

Call your mom and give her a very stern warning. That if anything happens to your dad, you will expose her and disown her for life. Men are going through the worst kind of abuse and bullying in marriages and no one cares to help or understand. Society is so so wicked and harsh to men. It's so sad.

They need to separate for some time(not divorce)...
I don't understand what's up with women in their 50s...
It's becoming a trend

Chaiii....too bad

Op talk to your mom, but it's only your dad that can stop the shiiiiiiit. It's not good for a man to be over gentle with women, once in a why show them the were(madness) in you. Dominique no fit try that nonsense with me

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

simply tell tell your mum , you aware how she's maltreating him, tell her if he die untimely you will never forgive her

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear. You are in the right way. I did the same thing to my mummy when I was 17years old and she stopped it.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

. You are in the right way. I did the same thing to my mummy when I was 17years old and she stopped it. Go ahead and advise your younger one to do the same thing. Tell her that if your daddy die, you will not forgive her. God will bless us men. It's not easy when men are broken. Women don't think what men have done in the past but always looking at what they are eating now. Defend your Daddy

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

are all of you grown? out of university? then encourage your dad to seek a separation. though you have to be sure your dad has his living arrangements worked out. as in your dad can manage a home by himself.

The disagreement between your Dad and your Mom is non of your business.

When your Dad was toasting your Mom you were not there.

Your Dad knows what he is doing, leave him alone.

Focus on your own problems.

Columbine:
This gives credence to the saying that a man is loved because of what he can provide, or by the value he can give.

I won't be surprised if your mum is bringing little or nothing to the table, yet she's not under pressure, she's just loved.

This exactly scenerio is playing out in most families, many married men are dying in silence, especially those of them who tend to live a quiet life.

You need to talk to your mum, don't be too light with it, and neither be too harsh with it but be very serious about it.

U can guarantee you that the only thing still keeping the family is you- the children, that is how it is in most family, blame poverty!

To the young man out there, know this; apart from God, your parents and siblings, nobody loves you unconditionally, the love you get is pegged at the value you offer.

Neither your wife, children or even the society love you, they only love what you offer, take it away and it's just a matter of time, you'll see your "loving" wife and children disrespect or treat you with disdain, moreover, the wife/ mother may be a housewife or even uneducated, but is loved unconditionally by the children and even you, I don't know why it's so, I'm even a victim of this biased love, I blame nature!

Men are endangered specie, Men please stay woke, do everything possible to marry atleast a woman that respects God, that even if she hated you, but for God's sake will force herself to love you, if it's even possible.

The world is not fair to men, but I'll still rather choose to be a man in my next life, if their is.

You just spoke my mind. God bless you so much.

You are reasonable. You are doing the right thing...call your mum and talk to her(not scold). Be very frank and firm with her but don't disrespect her. Dont have this talk with her when your father is there. You and your sister should let her know u love your father and you have seen his efforts all through the years and nothing will make u love him less at this point, and that even if ur mum kills him with trouble, the love won't for the man will be taken to the grave and not transferred to her. Your mum may be mean to your dad, but I can assure u the only thing that will reset her is if she sees that how she's treating your dad will only make you(her kids) have some form of dislike for her. No matter how evil a woman is, they love their child to bits and even want to have the kids love them ALONE, when u threaten her with that thing she desires, I think she will start acting right towards ur dad.

Meanwhile talk to ur dad in private. Assure him u love him so much ..let him know u see all he's going through let him know u see his struggle and appreciate all he has done and u believe all is going to be well with him, also tell him if all doesn't even become well, ur success is his success, just d way this worry of his is ur worry too. This will keep the man going and happy and not fall into depression. Make him happy as much as u can

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

Do you have a grown sister? If yes, speak to her first to let her understand what is going on, why you think it is not good for your popc and why you think she should change. Then with her support (your sister) talk to your mumcy so she doesn't think it is only the boys ganging up against her. If there is no grown up sister, then tell your mom the cold-nosed hard truth about what your dad is going through and how this could lead to an early (God forbid) and why you think it should change immediately. All the best.

as fairly elderly person I will suggest you don't talk to your mother, most women at her age are never going to listen or be remorseful, thus they continue to be serious pain in the family. you are very lucky that they are still together maybe because some of you, the children, have attained independence and are doing fairly well.

please don't talk to her but talk to your dad and enquire why he is taking the provocations without reacting to her nuisances. you will surely learn one or two lessons of your own.

don't talk to her,two, because women of her age with grown up kids are ever ready to pick quarrel with whomever as there are boys to fight for her mentality. use style to calm her down and seek reasons from her for the frequent heat up with everyone. she will ramble for reasons in her calm state of mind.

women are always seeking attention in whatever way or place, calmness and watching them perform is the best trick to keep them guessing say e never do.

nice to know that some boys are growing to men.

Too harsh...

BeardedmeatR:
Tell your mum/dad to divorce since there's no love between them anymore.

If you are not careful, your mum will cause your dad's death through nagging, insults and abuses.
As the firstborn, take it upon yourself to call your mum privately, talk to sense into her to the extent of threatening her that if your dad develops a high BP or dies, she'll be blamed for it and the world will hear what she has done.
Now watch closely if there's any change from her after the hot discussion.
May God continue to save all men from these pretentious, ungrateful and insatiable gender.
AMEN

1Sharon:
As a child stay out of your parents relationship

Your dad may be poisoning your mind against your mum.

What did your father do? Something must have brought it on.

Or deh

FuckTheMod:

Or deh

Honi rah nuu.

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation

Talk to her about it n don't scold her.

The average Nigerian woman is like this; domineering, controlling and bullies. I often laugh when Nigerian men claim to be the head of their home coz that’s the opposite of what it’s obtainable in their homes.

Check very well you’ll see that most Nigerian men claiming to be head are “ceremonial” heads and are under the mercy of their wives. Many have to resort to alcohol and returning late from work as an escape way from the harassment.

Most men claiming head can’t even invite their family members to live with them but their wife’s relatives are always visiting. This is worse with Imo and Anambra women. Take a closer look at most men married to women from these states and see how weak and docile the women have turned them to.

GloriousGbola:


are all of you grown? out of university? then encourage your dad to seek a separation. though you have to be sure your dad has his living arrangements worked out. as in your dad can manage a home by himself.

. Separation or divorce is not the solution because it will affect both and the children. He should just tell his mummy that if his daddy die untimely, he will not forgive her. She will stop it.

SisterAnn:
They will soon be hear to label your dad a Simp without first walking in his shoes.

Once things fall apart and the center cannot hold anymore, separation is the only way out.

Na for matter wey common sense fit resolve una go dey push for divorce, I am an advocate of divorce in a loveless marriage or one where there's no respect but this one can be resolved with ease. It's on the children of the woman to subtly threaten the woman with what's most valuable to every woman(the love of their children)....they should make her know if that man is not happy and not showing sign of happiness, the she gets no love no respect from them.

When a woman constantly bullies her husband, it is nearly certain that one of then is having an affair. I will not help you to point finger.

Thegoodone13:
. Separation or divorce is not the solution because it will affect both and the children. He should just tell his mummy that if his daddy die untimely, he will not forgive her. She will stop it.

Perhaps you did not read what I wrote. It appears the poster is already grown. In the event that the poster and his siblings are grown, there is really no need for an abused parent to persevere and continue with a sacrifice.

The children are not blind and know what's up. That is why the op is posting this story in the first place (assuming it's true)

fuckingAyaya:
When ur pman Kpai of HBP na that time ur malee eyes go open, I just pray you would be able to forgive ur malee

Lol. Funny. Dem woman go fry akara. That's I de hardly pity poor widow, especially those former rich widow

If you must, then do so with caution.

You don't scold your mom when you still live under her roof. You simply sit her down in loving manner, without your dad present so you don't appear to be taking sides, then let her know how her actions hurt you too.

Alot of men including myself go through this bullying and disrespect daily.. this is the reasons men change when they suddenly hit a Jack pot .. dear posted, your mum will not change . People like her are used to things like that and that's their source of happiness ..just continue to speak to your dad.. make him happy and tell him you see everything going on and he shouldn't worry about her ..

😎

Simp everywhere.

Op, your father must be a SIMP, why would your father has only one option, who does that . If you want to marry, make sure you have many options, so that you can Divorce anyone and marry another without wasting time.

That's why i have upto 500 Girlfriends, I don't even know whom to marry anymore.

Op, your father is simply a SIMPle man

My suggestion is for you to call your mom and speak with her then hear what she has to say. If she says something bad clear her instantly also speak with your dad as well. Your mother should bear in mind that if your dad decide to divorce her she will become old sidechick to another man and she will be prone to men using her and dumping her as she is not young anymore women could be deadly and I hope your mom don't have a man outside staffing her. Don't let your mother kill your father

Aonkuuse:
Bro you really need to intervene oo before she will kill him for you people. Men are not speaking out in marriages. But also don't rush in confronting your mother ooo, just talk to her because maybe your father did something that is making her behave like that.

Mothers always listen to kids especially if you talk to her in group. My mama no fit touch any of our house help for my presence bcus she knows I detest seeing people doing that. You can hit your kids not someone else's child

Columbine:
This gives credence to the saying that a man is loved because of what he can provide, or by the value he can give.

I won't be surprised if your mum is bringing little or nothing to the table, yet she's not under pressure, she's just loved.

This exactly scenerio is playing out in most families, many married men are dying in silence, especially those of them who tend to live a quiet life.

You need to talk to your mum, don't be too light with it, and neither be too harsh with it but be very serious about it.

U can guarantee you that the only thing still keeping the family is you- the children, that is how it is in most family, blame poverty!

To the young man out there, know this; apart from God, your parents and siblings, nobody loves you unconditionally, the love you get is pegged at the value you offer.

Neither your wife, children or even the society love you, they only love what you offer, take it away and it's just a matter of time, you'll see your "loving" wife and children disrespect or treat you with disdain, moreover, the wife/ mother may be a housewife or even uneducated, but is loved unconditionally by the children and even you, I don't know why it's so, I'm even a victim of this biased love, I blame nature!

Men are endangered specie, Men please stay woke, do everything possible to marry atleast a woman that respects God, that even if she hated you, but for God's sake will force herself to love you, if it's even possible.

The world is not fair to men, but I'll still rather choose to be a man in my next life, if their is.

Correct bro. So touching.

1Sharon:
As a child stay out of your parents relationship

Your dad may be poisoning your mind against your mum.

What did your father do? Something must have brought it on.

the moment you identify yourself to a religion...tribe... gender.it’s always limit the immensity in you of being human..Be real Na backbone for good thinking 💭 I fear you with this your comment oooo


Few read fewer comprehend you’re the latter I swear.