prophetfire:
Premium tears loading for the man. This I have seen.

Why going to UK? Because of money .
Isn't the man making money here in Nigeria?
Just going to UK because of more money isn't ideal.
Either he goes there and his wife turns him to houseboy and throws him out or he stays back here and builds his family and business. Money isn't everything.
You can never know a Nigerian woman until you start feeding from her hands.

ednut1:
this one hard o. From this i guess the man is a business person without skills in indemand occupations like medicine, nursing, tech and consulting. So na mostly hustle jobs he will see . With night shift being his likely option because he will baby sit during the day and go hustle at night. Daycare is very expensive too abroad. Leaving a 3 months old baby behind in Nigeria self no go easy. If her mom is still alive let her follow to be doing nanny/ omugwo while the husband figures what good job or skill he can do. Can be visiting them.

MrBrownJay1:


whatever this couple does, they should do it AS A FAMILY... so if she goes to UK, everyone goes... and if he wants to stay back in Nigeria then EVERYONE STAYS BACK IN NIGERIA!

RALPHOW:
Honestly, the most important thing is the natural attitude of your wife.
If she is arrogant type or has tendency to be arrogant, please stay in Nigeria with your business, the worse is that you may marry another wife if she mess up. Otherwise you will regret the day you board the plane.

However, if she is naturally humble and submissive, you may please proceed on the journey. She may need to support you financially to start a good business or get certified in your chosen course.

IkpemhiTG:
Your candid advise is needed.

His wife got a job in the UK which pays her about £30,000/ annum. Husband will be going with the wife along with thier 3months old baby as a dependent. How do you think this man can cope nursing thier baby for God knows how long before he gets something doing.

On a second thought he will rather let the wife go while he stays back with the baby in Nigeria managing his business. He's not doing do bad in Nigeria.

My people what's the best option he should take that would favour him and his family?.

Wodu89:




You've pointed out my fears

A woman can be very deadly when she is a high earner, there's a kid to look after with no one besides the partner and the partner isn't earning. It's then she'll begin to say the dark things Satan whispers to her heart she has been keeping for long.

IkpemhiTG:
Your candid advise is needed.

His wife got a job in the UK which pays her about £30,000/ annum. Husband will be going with the wife along with thier 3months old baby as a dependent. How do you think this man can cope nursing thier baby for God knows how long before he gets something doing.

On a second thought he will rather let the wife go while he stays back with the baby in Nigeria managing his business. He's not doing do bad in Nigeria.

My people what's the best option he should take that would favour him and his family?.

IkpemhiTG:
Your candid advise is needed.

His wife got a job in the UK which pays her about £30,000/ annum. Husband will be going with the wife along with thier 3months old baby as a dependent. How do you think this man can cope nursing thier baby for God knows how long before he gets something doing.

On a second thought he will rather let the wife go while he stays back with the baby in Nigeria managing his business. He's not doing do bad in Nigeria.

My people what's the best option he should take that would favour him and his family?.

RecentHistory:


Oga, I bought Rav4 and gave a lady I stupidly called my fiance. One day, she told me to stop making noise in her car. A vehicle that she didn't put 1 kobo inside.

That day was a turning point in my relationship with females of all kinds.

Only a mother loves unconditionally. Others are after their own survival.

Ilekokonit:
What if his wife loses her job in the UK and both he and their child are dependent on the now lost income and he has already closed his CERTAIN source of income in Naija

I personally will not subscribe to anyone father or mother being a nanny or stay at home parent as you tend to lose your skills by staying at home for an indeterminate period of time.

So, if he moves to the UK, he has to find a job fast so that he puts some money on the table every month end especially since child care in the UK is upwards of £1,000 per month talk less of the brutal cost of living crisis EVERYONE in the UK is currently facing.

His wife's £2,035 net pay per month can not pay the monthly child care costs + rent + gas + water + electricity + council tax + TV licence + broadband + baby costs + phone bills + feeding + clothes + toiletries + a little something kept aside for emergency bills that WILL surely pop up now and again especially with a baby in tow - baby medicine, pampers, food, winter clothes etc, etc.

He should think hard and fast about this as the grass always looks greener when looked at from the other side of the fence and does he want to jack in certainty for uncertainty. ??

quatrevingtdix:


This is from experience.
Why TV license when you’re still hustling netflix never do you?(you don’t have to pay tv license if you watch netflix and prime and don’t stream live channels like bbc, channels and the likes)

IkpemhiTG:
Your candid advise is needed.

His wife got a job in the UK which pays her about £30,000/ annum. Husband will be going with the wife along with thier 3months old baby as a dependent. How do you think this man can cope nursing thier baby for God knows how long before he gets something doing.What about nakingxxxxx

On a second thought he will rather let the wife go while he stays back with the baby in Nigeria managing his business. He's not doing do bad in Nigeria.

My people what's the best option he should take that would favour him and his family?.

COMPUTERVILLA:
My Advice,

Let her take the Baby along(The baby will have better opportunities there and might even become a citizen) and let them sign a contract before she leaves stating that if the child grows to age 12 then she will let him train him onward if eventually he does not have any plans to be travel there. nevertheless, he should at all times visit her at least once in 6 months.

and he should also focus on growing his business.

quatrevingtdix:


“How about if she looses her job in the uk?”. Okay, how about if he looses his source if income in Nigeria?.
Come on everything is a risk, you don’t live scared of taking decision because of if it fails, you take it and work against it failing while planning for whatever life throws at you.

Everybody keeps shouting bills bills, haba! Its like most people here dont want people to come or people in Nigeria are half informed.
Manchester for instance, there are houses(2 bedrooms for instance) that are 800-900 amd 1k tops
Monthly budget:
900 - house
African food(which is the most expensive from african stores) - 200

Light and gas -200
Council tax - 150 tops

Diapers - 2 maxi pack(pampers which is the most expensive) for 22pounds at morrisons, enough for a month.

Baby food - 34pounds )thats if its just baby food no breastmilk)

Total - 1500
If you want to spoil yourself enter primark shop and shop -300gbp for tourself and baby.

This is from experience.
Why TV license when you’re still hustling netflix never do you?(you don’t have to pay tv license if you watch netflix and prime and don’t stream live channels like bbc, channels and the likes)

Abeg lets stop discouraging people from coming please, @o.p I’m just giving you the info needed to make an informed decision.

Most people here shout bills bills, ehn UK is expensive, and they haven’t gone back to Naija. The cheapest thing here is food stuff. So live according to your income and you should be fine, but don’t all come if there’s no accommodation ready. Make plans.

RecentHistory:


Oga, I bought Rav4 and gave a lady I stupidly called my fiance. One day, she told me to stop making noise in her car. A vehicle that she didn't put 1 kobo inside.

That day was a turning point in my relationship with females of all kinds.

Only a mother loves unconditionally. Others are after their own survival.

IkpemhiTG:
Your candid advise is needed.

His wife got a job in the UK which pays her about £30,000/ annum. Husband will be going with the wife along with thier 3months old baby as a dependent. How do you think this man can cope nursing thier baby for God knows how long before he gets something doing.

On a second thought he will rather let the wife go while he stays back with the baby in Nigeria managing his business. He's not doing do bad in Nigeria.

My people what's the best option he should take that would favour him and his family?.

Ilekokonit:


Na wa o.

My friends wife in London told him point blank in his car on their way from church with their kids present not to keep playing Sunny Ade music in the car when their kids are in the car as she does not want her kids spoken English to be as bad as their Dads own.

She is inferring that her husbands English is poor because he listens to too much Sunny Ade music.

Acidosis:


You pay to stream live programmes in the UK? What about YouTube livestreaming?

LadyPortable:


Thanks for the in-depth analysis. Can you throw more light on this tv license stuff. I'm confused. I got a non smart tv and virgin media broadband and has been worried if I need a tv license.the tv has got channels like itv and bbc

quatrevingtdix:
Yes you need to pay as long as what you are streaming online is live, be it : BBnaija, channels tv, BBC, CNN, Arise TV, youtube livestreaming. Anything live you pay the TV license fee 😁

The only thing you get to watch without paying is netflix, prime disney paramount and other pay on demand streaming platforms.

Mom007:

Anything short of this is a loose loose situation.
For the man to be asking for advice sef, shows he doesn't have the temperament to sit home and nurse children. But it won't be too bad where there is love and understanding. He can get a night shift job and then go to work when his wife returns. Its not that mental🙄

luminouz:


Nawa o mommy!! This your advice na die oh.

He will go for night shift work and come back to SLEEP, and the baby will be unattended during the day while the wife is at work. Think am na. You don see night shift people dey alert during the day ni?

Mom007:


Lol. Una never ready for UK life be that. What do you think those your friends, cousins and uncles in UK are doing? Alert kor, alert ni
If you cannot do the above I mentioned, better avoid coming to UK with a baby unless you are ready to not work until that child is 5. Even then, you have to be there by 9am and 3pm to do drop offs and pick ups.
This your comment is exactly why Nigerian men go abroad with their wives and start beating them and complaining the wives are riding them. If the op cannot do this, he should stay back.