TheGift:

I don't have enough information to answer the question.
Maybe he hates his parents , so even if He is generous he won't send. Or maybe he
Is stingy but Loves sex too much and for that he is willing to spend.

So you see....a man can be stingy to one person and generous to another. At the end of the day, we are all stingy in our own little way. You get my point

Oga respect urself as a man [quote author=Dididrumz post=124445924]

You're into men?

She will get understanding when it get to that place because i am not addicted to it

Trustmea:


Hmmm even when she is stingy down there

talented321:
Oga respect urself as a man

I actually read your post wrongly, sorry.

Deep

Danisaint112:


What I call stingy is having but ain't giving. You rather prefer to give it to others but your family priority is never important to you and should be considered last.

Stingy beings exist there is reason the word was in existence. Don't get it twisted.

A man that is well to do (rich) but can't give his wife money as a gift and always wanting her to ask first is stingy.

A man that is rich but can't open a viable business for his wife is stingy.

A man that I rich but only considers his children wellbeing until they are sick is stingy. A stingy husband is synonymous to a non caring husband. You get?

What about a stingy woman

Uchesis:

So you see....a man can be stingy to one person and generous to another. At the end of the day, we are all stingy in our own little way. You get my point

I get your point.

However , I think it is still prejudging wether they are being stingy or not.

Everyone can give , but not every one gives generously and cheerfully, some give out of obligation or manipulation cos they want something in return.

The latter are definitely not generous. And generous is the opposite of stingy.

TheGift:


I get your point.

However , I think it is still prejudging wether they are being stingy or not.

Everyone can give , but not every one gives generously and cheerfully, some give out of obligation or manipulation cos they want something in return.

The latter are definitely not generous. And generous is the opposite of stingy.

We are still saying the same thing.
In summary, we give who we like and when we like.
You can't tell me that Dangote gives money to every tom dick and harry that asks him for money.
End of discussion

To the ladies.. Womanizer is worse than a stingy man..

But please choose none, for your sanity..

I equally dislike ladies that keep a lot of male friends and stingy ladies..

vickydevoka:

What about a stingy woman

Vice versa. Ofcourse if she is richer than the man.

grandstar:


I know a lady married to a stingy man and she's happy.

I doubt the man womanizes as he can't lavish money on women outside.

That's why I said most not all. Majority will go for the guy with the cash even if he womanizes.

Uchesis:

We are still saying the same thing.
In summary, we give who we like and when we like.
You can't tell me that Dangote gives money to every tom dick and harry that asks him for money.
End of discussion

Well, since you have ended the discussion, what more can I say, but , have a great day 👍🏽

CuriousStudent:
A stingy man is the most hated of all men. Penny pinching is just not it. Women will forgive a cheat but not one that doesn't spend.

I can't be over estimating prices or lying my way just to collect cash.

I no fit. I will trim you off when I notice. Choose a cheap place(chicken republic) or ask for home dates,then you have entered the ghost list.

I want to go to heaven . Any man that will make me inflate junior school fees is a no go area.

They are always easy to spot
1) always trekking
2) saving drinks from occasions so they don't have to buy drinks to entertain their female guests.
3) asking for house dates
4)will collect the change from bike ( for those of you demeaning yourself by dating men that will make you jump bikes. Until the silencer of the bike burns your leg or you fall into a ditch)

And the rest

So we should not collect our change from bikemen again?

2braithe:


So we should not collect our change from bikemen again?

Leave it for the woman.you should be grateful a woman had to visit you in bike.

CuriousStudent:

Leave it for the woman.you should be grateful a woman had to visit you in bike.

Why can't the woman visit me with her own car?
Or women don't own cars?

2braithe:


Why can't the woman visit me with her own car?
Or women don't own cars?

oga, Biko zukwanuike!

That is your burden of performance as a man. I didn't make the rules.

I also have a burden as a woman. If I reach 36 years,I am undesirable to most men,while you at 36 is desirable
The world is not fair.

Strive to become your very best and then pick any woman of your choice .
I myself will try my best to be the very desirable and secure the commitment of the man of my dreams.

That is just it,know this and know peace

CuriousStudent:
oga, Biko zukwanuike!

That is your burden of performance as a man. I didn't make the rules.

I also have a burden as a woman. If I reach 36 years,I am undesirable to most men,while you at 36 is desirable
The world is not fair.

Strive to become your very best and then pick any woman of your choice .
I myself will try my best to be the very desirable and secure the commitment of the man of my dreams.

That is just it,know this and know peace

In as much as I'll like to disagree with you, you have just said the pure truth!

But once a man becomes the best version of himself and has money, obviously ladies will flock around. You have to be willing to share your man...after all, life isn't fair.
Davido can tell you more.

2braithe:


In as much as I'll like to disagree with you, you have just said the pure truth!

But once a man becomes the best version of himself and has money, obviously ladies will flock around. You have to be willing to share your man...after all, life isn't fair.
Davido can tell you more.

No wahala.

As long we were not there suffering with him from.the onset.

What is in the mind of a gold digger?you think we are not prepared for it? Lol

These polygamous nature of a man is the reason we are wary of staying with a man in his struggling day, because we know that when money comes,other women will be enjoying from our sweat . I can't stay and build a man for a 21 year old to come and be enjoying house rent from him. God forbid,I rather be the one that comes to enjoy where I did not sow than sow and some other women enjoy.

CuriousStudent:

No wahala.

As long we were not there suffering with him from.the onset.

What is in the mind of a gold digger?you think we are not prepared for it? Lol

These polygamous nature of a man is the reason we are wary of staying with a man in his struggling day, because we know that when money comes,other women will be enjoying from our sweat . I can't stay and build a man for a 21 year old to come and be enjoying house rent from him. God forbid,I rather be the one that comes to enjoy where I did not sow than sow and some other women enjoy.

Otilo bayen! 100 percent agree.

But most times when you say you built with a man in his struggling days, it's not as if y'all added anything to him. Most ladies just don't demand as much, and stays with him during that period which is normal and expected.
You didn't do me any favor by staying in my broke years.

2braithe:


Otilo bayen! 100 percent agree.

But most times when you say you built with a man in his struggling days, it's not as if y'all added anything to him. Most ladies just don't demand as much, and stays with him during that period which is normal and expected.
You didn't do me any favor by staying in my broke years.

Exactly,which is why women should not date broke guys . Because she is not doing him a favor or improving his life . Let him just manage the little he have,alone.

Simple

CuriousStudent:

Exactly,which is why women should not date broke guys . Because she is not doing him a favor or improving his life . Let him just manage the little he have,alone.

Simple

Good. Make sure you aren't broke too cos when we level up, we'll date our class and circus.

2braithe:


Good. Make sure you aren't broke too cos when we level up, we'll date our class and circus.

So you will force me not to be broke? Lol.

I am as broke as a church rat,yet I am always with rich guys,and will marry a rich man.

What can you do about it? Nothing!!!

You don't get to determine the rules,if you call disprove it from now till God's kingdom come,there is nothing your can do about rich guys dating poor ladies. Or poor ladies wanting only rich men

Make peace with this knowledge

CuriousStudent:

So you will force me not to be broke? Lol.

I am as broke as a church rat,yet I am always with rich guys,and will marry a rich man.

What can you do about it? Nothing!!!

You don't get to determine the rules,if you call disprove it from now till God's kingdom come,there is nothing your can do about rich guys dating poor ladies. Or poor ladies wanting only rich men

Make peace with this knowledge

It's easy to date rich men as a broke girl, the main thing is "are they willing to marry you?".

Men are becoming more wise to realize marrying a broke woman is marrying a liability.
Marrying a broke woman is marrying a woman that will leave you for another rich man if you ever go broke i.e she only loves your money not you.

2braithe:


It's easy to date rich men as a broke girl, the main thing is "are they willing to marry you?".

Men are becoming more wise to realize marrying a broke woman is marrying a liability.
Marrying a broke woman is marrying a woman that will leave you for another rich man if you ever go broke i.e she only loves your money not you.

oga, if i am dating struggling man, am i also guaranteed they will marry me too?

You need to accept the fact that men and women want different things. When men that have fnnked dozens of ladies request for pure girls,do we complain? Or a man in his late 30s wants a girl in her early twenties does anyone complain or stop him? Do society insist they must be the same age?
You all boast and already are planning on infidelity when you marry . Why? Because you know you will go scot free with it while a woman will not go scot free with marital infidelity. Do dark girls complain when their lightskin friends are getting attention ?
You have seen the campaign and insults they lay on single moms on this forum,has any single mom complain or created a thread to fight back or complain?

Stop trying to project hypergamy as something unfair. The dating scene is balanced.

While every woman will not secure a rich man, it doesn't have to be that will settle.just the same way you dont have to be the one to settle for a retired prostitute. You ,yourself should strive to get the best of women and i will not resent you or judge you for it. You have got my full time support.

CuriousStudent:
oga, if i am dating struggling man, am i also guaranteed they will marry me too?

You need to accept the fact that men and women want different things. When men that have fnnked dozens of ladies request for pure girls,do we complain? Or a man in his late 30s wants a girl in her early twenties does anyone complain or stop him? Do society insist they must be the same age?
You all boast and already are planning on infidelity when you marry . Why? Because you know you will go scot free with it while a woman will not go scot free with marital infidelity. Do dark girls complain when their lightskin friends are getting attention ?
You have seen the campaign and insults they lay on single moms on this forum,has any single mom complain or created a thread to fight back or complain?

Stop trying to project hypergamy as something unfair. The dating scene is balanced.

While every woman will not secure a rich man, it doesn't have to be that will settle.just the same way you dont have to be the one to settle for a retired prostitute. You ,yourself should strive to get the best of women and i will not resent you or judge you for it. You have got my full time support.

You are very right to an extent and I'm feeling you so well.

The daughter of a senator getting married to the son of a president is hypergamy. The daughter of a civil servant getting married to the son of a president is also hypergamy.... it's rare to see the occurrence of the latter.

Just look at the children of Alakija, Dangote, Dantata, Otedola, Buhari, Tony Elumelu, etc and look at the calibre of family they're married/engaged to.

2braithe:


You are very right to an extent and I'm feeling you so well.

The daughter of a senator getting married to the son of a president is hypergamy. The daughter of a civil servant getting married to the son of a president is also hypergamy.... it's rare to see the occurrence of the latter.

Just look at the children of Alakija, Dangote, Dantata, Otedola, Buhari, Tony Elumelu, etc and look at the calibre of family they're married/engaged to.

YOu are talking about the elite and political class,I am talking about well earning guys going for ladies with little or no money.

Are all those tech guru or crypto traders or business men dating women like themselves?

Besides hypergamy is not just about the elite. It is about a man out earning you by a large difference.

Most girls are on monthly support by their guys.

In my undergraduate days up to three of my coursemate were engaged in their final year to guys earning well 700k+,this girls had nothing on their own.They were the ones paying their fees, rent and also put them on monthly pocket money. I will attend one wedding next month. This girls basically had nothing. That is hypergamy

Why are they not dating their fellow male coursemates?

CuriousStudent:

YOu are talking about the elite and political class,I am talking about well earning guys going for ladies with little or no money.

Are all those tech guru or crypto traders or business men dating women like themselves?

Besides hypergamy is not just about the elite. It is about a man out earning you by a large difference.

Most girls are on monthly support by their guys.

In my undergraduate days up to three of my coursemate were engaged in their final year to guys earning well 700k+,this girls had nothing on their own.They were the ones paying their fees, rent and also put them on monthly pocket money. I will attend one wedding next month. This girls basically had nothing. That is hypergamy

Why are they not dating their fellow male coursemates?

Harsh reality 😂😂😂😂