folake4u:
When you marry for love instead of money.

olabrinks:
We have said this time and time again. Do not give birth to children you cannot take care of. Nigerians make it seem as if you’re impotent if you have 1 or two kids. Thank God the upcoming generation have learnt from their elders. We will no longer be seeing situations like this in 20 years.

Diligent1:
You need to stop reproduction, do family planning with your wife.
Put your children in public schools and you monitor their studies, check their books from time to time educate them of good behavior and the kind of friends they should have.


Your wife has to be working so that she can support you in the house and no relative should be allowed to live with you for now, they can go elsewhere.

When you want to buy food, buy in bulk when you get to market you will see other people contributing money together to buy in bag and share, this will also save you money and look for better job.
God bless you for the advice u gave that man
It shall be well with you and your family.

anthonioo:
What does ur wife do for a living to support u? If nothing’ try open foodstuffs store for her to Dey sell from there she will see small income and una go Dey see food chop if u are ok with the idea hit me up and tell me ur location lemme see what I can do

EndRape2:
Another reason.why you are more stupid.

You know the country is hard, you can not decide as a man the number of kids you want and take charge , you are here still saying it is not your fault, it is your penis fault? Because you lack self control.
My rod no gree l rest






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It is not my fault

ConfusePoint:
Ranting. Ranting. Ranting.

I have decided to rant out my predicaments on this forum today.

What is the way out of poverty for me?

One inlaw is even living with us, making it 8 in number, all in one room.

This thing don come big pass me.

I know most of you here would blame me for impregnating a woman to give birth to that number of children but then, life is life. It happens like that sometimes.

They say a poor man's prayer is "e go better" but instead of things to get better in Nigeria, everyday things get worse.

Truth is, except I drive myself out of this mess to a better life for me and my children, this poverty that is so stricken will likely be extended to my children, which I really don't want.

No two ways about it except ...

But like a car without tyres, can it move even if it has fuel? Definitely no.

For 4 days now, I sleep outside in an abandoned car because of financial war at home. I can't go back home and I even feel like never to go back there but should I abandon them like that and run away? To where?

When I went to the market the other day with 5k to buy food items for the house, I was crying and talking to myself on my way back because I came back with almost nothing.

Nigeria have succeed to plug life out of poor Nigerians. The poor cannot breathe again. Let's die and go.

Advice: never give birth when you are not financially strong. Unfortunately, I've learned my lesson the hard way.

Life happens.

How do I help this family better than I am trying?

Wishing you the best in all you do.

Tonytonex:
try open a small petty business for ur wife and kids. Any type of business.

ahnie:

Shu!shuu!!shuuu
Who love epp?

Love doesn't pay bills, neither does it cater for the kids needs.


Love that makes no sense.
The bitter truth is....men must hustle hard and upped their money games, because na big error if you cannot care for the wife n kids.

Advice: never give birth when you are not financially strong. Unfortunately, I've learned my lesson the hard way.

franchasofficia:
Many Nigerians are lazy, I speak as an employer of labor.


Majority of Nigerians want Behind jobs where they will sit in an air conditioned office and press computer while watching CNN or African Magic and at the end of the month, the employer dolls out 100k and above as their salary for helping the company to press computer and watch TV.



This is the dream job of majority of Nigerian graduates. This is the only type of job they will get and rush to their Church on Sunday to give testimony of how wonderful God have been to them.


Give them a field work that requires them to dirty their hands and contribute to the revenue growth for the company or business, they will never take it yet they go about complaining of no job but there are lots of field jobs out there. Every Nigerian graduate is busy searching for office job where they sit down idle in the office doing nothing.



Op if you are ready to dirty your hands, there are jobs that pay better than whatever you are doing now, search for it, they are everywhere looking for sincere people to employ but all of una de find soft work without stress

abba190:
fck this country man i swear nigeria issa hell on earth

ConfusePoint:


A driver for a farm.

9jaRealist:


Yes, it’s “nigeria’s” fault that a dude decided to have 5 kids while making N40K…
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abba190:
why are u guys angry because he has just 5kids if nigeria works properly a 38year old will feed 5kids with ease. its not his fault our leaders failed us

abba190:
why are u guys angry because he has just 5kids if nigeria works properly a 38year old will feed 5kids with ease. its not his fault our leaders failed us

Kobojunkie:
Rubbish!

franchasofficia:
Many Nigerians are lazy, I speak as an employer of labor.


Majority of Nigerians want soft jobs where they will sit in an air conditioned office and press computer while watching CNN or African Magic and at the end of the month, the employer dolls out 100k and above as their salary for helping the company to press computer and watch TV.



This is the dream job of majority of Nigerian graduates. This is the only type of job they will get and rush to their Church on Sunday to give testimony of how wonderful God have been to them.


Give them a field work that requires them to dirty their hands and contribute to the revenue growth of the company or business, they will never take it yet they go about complaining of no job but there are lots of field jobs out there. Every Nigerian graduate is busy searching for office job where they will sit down idle in the office doing nothing and be receiving big salary and kickbacks.



Op if you are ready to dirty your hands, there are jobs that pay better than whatever you are doing now, search for it (visit Nairaland job section regularly, look out for those unpopular company recruitment adverts, give them a try) they are everywhere looking for sincere people to employ but all of una de find soft work without stress

abba190:
why would 38year old be earning 40k ?

9jaRealist:


Abegi leave the kids out of it…
Don’t know so many Nigerians think child labor is ok.

Apart from household and basic chores…
Let the kids go to school and concentrate on their studies!
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abba190:
how i wish i can help u

abba190:
u guys are always against having kids the west has succeeded on brainwashing u

1stGenAmerican:
■ You sound like a good person by wishing you could help but did he say what he would do to ensure they don’t make more babies and worsen the already bad situation? If help comes before he takes control of the situation, a tight situation will grow comfortable and having more children won’t seem like such a bad idea to him.

abba190:
why would 38year old be earning 40k ?

abba190:
u guys are always against having kids the west has succeeded on brainwashing u

Tonytonex:
It wasn't a general advice,
I was talking to the Op. If you read his write up, you will understand.
Abi you go help am pay his bills?

Kobojunkie:
Notice how none of those given him suggestions so far has suggested he get a vasectomy or comparative? Somehow they all know this kind rarely change or learn.