Dear Fellow Nairalanders,

How has your childhood affected you growing up?
Recent psychological evidence points to the fact that past trauma particularly in childhood strongly affects how we form relationship bonds in adulthood.

In a recent conversation with young people across Africa, they revealed that daddy issues, childhood rape, childhood sodomy, absence of their fathers and abandonment by parents shaped their views of love, romance and family.

If you're struggling with such trauma, this conversation: How trauma can shape you is worth listening to.

Pay particular attention to the stories told by the young women, and hopefully you will find strength to heal.

It gets better. Don't give up


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ifSuF7gL5ik

How has your childhood affected you growing up?

Hope this also helps someone with daddy issues, and parental abandonment.

You are not alone. There are people just like you all across the world and we care about you so much.

Here's the full video if you're interested.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pjG7yR_k3wQ

thanks OP. everybody in Nigeria is having trauma issues

How has your childhood affected you growing up?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eR3MCsqxBvA

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I was born and raised on the streets...When j say street,I mean a real ghetto street...But thanks to my mom of blessed memory who made sure we were never influenced by the negative vibes that comes forth with street credibility....Only my immediate elder bro couldn't escape it cuz that nigha is as rugged as shiit . But the few street credibility I learned after my mom's demise has really helped in shaping my life up....... Nothing dey as sweet as being street-wise..............The advantages are just too numerous when compared to a kid that was born and raised in house made of glass.

Dimaya:
Hope this helps someone with daddy issues, and parental abandonment

Why did the host not get a psychologist who has a specialty in trauma, to be there? Discussing ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) triggers and it tends to re-traumatize thus the reason, mental health professionals get involved. I watched and didn't get to see the trauma debrief process that should have come up.

In as much as it is a talk show, do research!

I dont have trauma ,but because my mum and dad did not allow us go out and make friends when we were little.i turned to a confam introvert,who can stay for 1 year without missing anyone or talking to anyone and I wont bother.

Aaaaarghmed:
I dont have trauma ,but because my mum and dad did not allow us go out and make friends when we were little.i turned to a confam introvert,who can stay for 1 year without missing anyone or talking to anyone and I wont bother.

you were a "get inside babe".

all those girls that their mommy will come out and say, " get inside!"

Mindlog:


Why did the host not get a psychologist who has a specialty in trauma, to be there? Discussing ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) triggers and it tends to re-traumatize thus the reason, mental health professionals get involved. I watched and didn't get to see the trauma debrief process that should have come up.

In as much as it is a talk show, do research!

are you a psychologist?

Zigzagman:


are you a psychologist?

Yes.

It was hard at first. I was timid while growing up, I had to read books that brought me out of that mental slavery.


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I'm in charge of my life, no trauma or experience have the power to change me... That's why I have the feelings that I'm most dangerous creature on earth.

I'm commitment phobic.

I don't know any personal childhood trauma whatsoever I could say caused it.

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As a prophet, I foresaw my birth before I was born, so I have no trauma. I knew everything that was going to happen, just like I know that one day one day, I'll overtake Elon musk and become the world richest man.

This I have seen.

Seems you are just looking for an excuse to all the rubbish behaviours portrayed in modern Nigerian relationships? Orishi-rishi

I will wait

Life itself is trauma. I have learned to avoid women, even if it kills me. Life is much smoother and richer without them. I have chosen not to marry except there is something tangible I stand to gain from it. Love does not matter to me, as long as I find the person attractive. In the end loyalty and mutual interest keep a relationship longer than love (which should be appropriately referred to as 'bondage'). I have seen the damage marriage does to 'happily married men' and have learned to avoid it like an evil spirit, except I can profit from it. As Sean Stephenson noted, nations that trade with one another rarely go to war.

No trauma of any sort.. while I was young I choose to delete that "Chop and clean mouth" mentality... right now... if I met a lady... if we don't have relationship.. I can't think of asking her or seducing her for sex... have met many ladies in the journey of my life... some want sex benefits only, but I had to discharge dem because we ain't on same page... that made me lost couple of girls....

Aaaaarghmed:
I dont have trauma ,but because my mum and dad did not allow us go out and make friends when we were little.i turned to a confam introvert,who can stay for 1 year without missing anyone or talking to anyone and I wont bother.

Na me be this,


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My childhood was challenging with different experiences'' but i have to overcome any trauma.
Though i sometimes become emotional especially when i dey bla.

Was raised to believe that life is what you make of it....
Do all u can you make yourself happy...
For every second that ticks by, one person leaves this world... We don't know when it'll get to us...
Be good to the closest person nearby..
This mindset has gotten me into few problems from dubious people, but also has opened doors for me....
I'm grateful for my kind of upbringing...

Curse777:


Na me be this

Yes na you be this. The boy with AUTHORITY.
what a funny boy.
Hahahahahahaha 😂.

Still there.
The trauma and bullying back then In school have refused to go.
Still living in the past.

Trauma is a serious word

Make I read comment


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I used to have "DADDY ISSUES and ABANDONMENT TRAUMA", but it's no problem at all, and I am past it too.

Lol in a everything u sha du Sha try av some street OT cos people out dere are ready to run anybody wey loose guard street....

PTSD got me feeling like curt cobain

Curse777:
Trauma is a serious word

Are you traumatized? Are you?

I hope your AUTHORITY works on your bank accounts because it will be too bad that you have all that super powers and end this year like this.