Very useless woman, a woman like this can never respect her husband. It's obvious where the problem is coming from.

Oga leave her and the kids for whoever she wants to be with, because non of those kid s will be buried with you when you die.

Just be happy make money and more money enjoy your life.

talented321:
I am not in support of what the father did.
So because life didn't favour ur father' and the best thing to do is to abandon him' are those children aware they will be fathers and mothers tomorrow.
I don't like their step

It is their choice. If the don't have any attachment to their father or his name, then it's ok. Also, in Igbo culture, if a man has not paid his bride's price, the children will belong to the family of the woman. If it is true that the man hasn't paid bride price after 23 years, then what is he fighting for? It seems that he has money to hire lawyers but not to do the needful.

It is not accept in igbo but it is accepted in yoruba' so who will now obey who? And u expect the man to obey the woman's tribe and forget his own tribe'
Una just dey play for this country.

tctrills:

It is their choice. If the don't have any attachment to their father or his name, then it's ok. Also, in Igbo culture, if a man has not paid his bride's price, the children will belong to the family of the woman. If it is true that the man hasn't paid bride price after 23 years, then what is he fighting for? It seems that he has money to hire lawyers but not to do the needful.

I know someone who had to settle down with his Igbo wife this way otherwise he could lay no claim to the child. And he knows how to speak grammar and quote law up and down, but when the matter choke, nobody told him to go and do marital rites.

The Mr. Obayan could have married her all the years but chose not to. Maybe he felt no man would want her after 4 children.

That is to say, Mr. Obayan has been reduced from a baby daddy to a sperm donor. Eeyyyaaahh!

Men, before you brag about not wanting marriage and having several baby mamas, ensure you do diligent investigation otherwise you are just a breeding ground for another man who would come sweep off your kids.

NotoriousBiggyS:
No wonder there seems to be many bastard children in Igbo land.

Just mention his name abi you dey dear..
SIMON EKPA!!

ijustdey:


https://tribuneonlineng.com/man-drags-wife-to-court-for-changing-childrens-surname-to-lovers/

nawaooo for
This tribe of a thing self

Stupidity
am dam sure,it was advise she collected from her friends,how can you stoop so low of your brain and carry out that nonsence act..no matter what the man might did to you or the children,it doesn't guaratee u to change their father's name.. No matter the circumstance that may attach to the seperation the children would later ask or looking for their father,it is natural..

If I have more than 2 kids then the 3rd will be from another woman..you sweetest wife today can turn ur worst enemy after 1/2 decades

ijustdey:


https://tribuneonlineng.com/man-drags-wife-to-court-for-changing-childrens-surname-to-lovers/

frozen70:


They bear any name given to them by their mum without a surname or their mums surname because they are mainly for adoption

So whoever adopts them in a legal way, gives them their surname

MrDoGood:


That's a different thing entirely.

The kids go into adoption and answer the family name that adopted them.

It's a different thing

see how you defended criminality

I said baby factories because a baby factory is illegal..

A baby factory is not a legal orphanage or foster home.

but you defended

talented321:
It is not accept in igbo but it is accepted in yoruba' so who will now obey who? And u expect the man to obey the woman's tribe and forget his own tribe'
Una just dey play for this country.

As you can see, most of the kids are above 18 and old enough to make a choice. It's Clear that na their papa dey play. There are repercussions for being a deadbeat dad. the moral of this story: As a man take responsibility. Your children would not respect and honor your name if you never gave them a reason to.

greggng:



It baffles me how you people sit down in the comfort of your home to assume things that are not right . I am not the type that would like to come to a forum like this to drop this kind of sensitive info knowing fully well the implication. I even dropped this info cos my ex died last year ...she died while having birth to a baby for her new husband . I was told they induced the labour ...is jefocal terms. May her soul rest in peace... if she is still alive I won't come here to drop this info cos is kinda sensitive . For some of you still doubting...This case is documented at festac passport office...I have no reason to come and lie here ..Everything I stated is 100 percent true . If you don't believe my story is your business not my business.. check my profile ...I have a name to.protect ...I don't concoct story to entertain people ...some of my ex people are reading this now ...my moniker has remained unchanged for more than 10years I have been a member here ...I only posted this to support what the op said ...his story has some similarity like mine .

if your story is true then your case is not similar and you even revealing her death is even worse because If you had agreed and approved that she could travel with the children then she would have had access to better health care abroad and would probably still be alive.

sylve11:


Remove SS.

I'm from SS

tishbite42:

He was doing well but didn't deem it fit to officially wife a woman who birth four children for him?
Let's be objective and real.
The woman's story is more coherent. And, three of the children are above 18, born and bred in Yorubaland so they should no better.
I feel for the man though.

You have a point there.

No wahala

tctrills:

As you can see, most of the kids are above 18 and old enough to make a choice. It's Clear that na their papa dey play. There are repercussions for being a deadbeat dad. the moral of this story: As a man take responsibility. Your children would not respect and honor your name if you never gave them a reason to.

DamnnNiggarr:
you can't just come all the way from God-knows-where, and get someone's daughter pregnant, without performing some marital rites and expect the baby to be handed to you.

You may try that with some woke Igbo families and succeed, but don't ever try that with Igbotic families, especially from Anambra or Abia States, else, you'll have yourself to blame.

😂 the law doesn't recognize any Anambra or Abia tradition, or wether you are Igbotic

Mindlog:


How you reason is so inconsequential to me.

😂 yours is consequential to me cos it makes me think you are s!ck

Ekugbeh:
😂 yours is consequential to me cos it makes me think you are s!ck

The psychiatric patients I work with, also think the same as you do.

sharone21:


I'm from SS

Which part of SS?

sylve11:


She is a "she"

Oh, my bad.

I'm sorry

JuanDeDios:

Which gives a woman the right to take a man's children and give them to whoever she likes. Wonderful.

A man's children you said, not her husband's children,

Don't be a baby daddy to just any woman that catches your fancy!

Mindlog:


I guess the Adelekes couldn't afford a lawyer, who could have explained better to them.

Stop playing.

Flavour that's from the east has how many eastern baby mamas?

Tell me he must marry both so they don't claim his child
Lol

That rubbish can only work when the supposed father is voiceless or lacks the capacity.

Should I list a few others? You can check your neighborhood also.

I am married to an Igbo lady. I'm not against their tradition. But I'm telling you from my observation that they're sending such message so you come marry their daughter. It's difficult for someone to marry a baby mama.

Hope you get it now.

codemaniacs:


So what is the surname of children born in baby factories?

How does the law handle them?

Anyway this news only shows and proves that Yoruba governors, Yoruba senators, Yoruba judges and Yoruba people in the legal system of the SW don't take their traditional laws seriously..

Things like are supposed to be subject only to traditions and culture of the place where the children were born not where the wife comes from.

That's a different thing entirely.

The kids go into adoption and answer the family name that adopted them.

It's a different thing

ijustdey:


https://tribuneonlineng.com/man-drags-wife-to-court-for-changing-childrens-surname-to-lovers/

He didn’t pay my dowry. So, I finally found a man to marry me and my new love wants my children to bear his name instead of that of their irresponsible father.
That☝️ clearly justifies the "fish brain" appellation of that satanic gender called women. They are just absolutely senseless particularly when it involves money and dick.

You must be a deadbeat dad. No pity for you!! Death to all the deadbeat parents.

Armaggedon:
The children never belonged to him and Infact, there was no marriage.

So if there is no marriage does that mean the children doesn't belong to the man. That not only preposterous but defile logic, and not even recognize by the Nigerian constitution. Why will a right thinking man take over the lives of another man's children, just because he's married to their mum, that's BS.

JDJDjD:

telling ur tribe man to go and pay bride price
for a whole 23yrs
haba

What has she been doing for the past 23yrs?

BLoomfrancs:


Shut up there. Mumu.

Counter my argument don't insult me... Or else I will send u home

codemaniacs:


if your story is true then your case is not similar and you even revealing her death is even worse because If you had agreed and approved that she could travel with the children then she would have had access to better health care abroad and would probably still be alive.

some


You didn't understand my story .. she remarried while coming to me for reconciliation but I didn't know..it was after the passport issue that I decided that I xen only proceed when I am ready not following her to do her plan of allowing her take a passport for my son under another man's name ... are you saying I should be taking care of another man's wife cos she was my ex ? She wasn't sick ...I was told she died while giving birth for the new man .. I don't know what role you would ve want me to play in the life of a woman that wanna trick me by obtaining my consent to get another man adopt my son . Read carefully everything happened in Nigeria...we are not abroad.....if not for the immigration I wouldn't have know she start such process cos we separated and every one goes there way ...we talk only when it comes to our child welfare . ..we only had one child together not children

talented321:
Some women IQ is very low' and the new husband is another unserious man' he can't tell his glueless wife that such thing can not happen.
And the children i don't know how to describe them.
This nonsense will not even attempt to happen in my tribe' who pride price epp' for my children i have fed for more than 20years.
In igbo land it is not accepted but in yoruba land it is accept' how do we do about that? who will now obey who?'
Some people just dey play for this country''

In other words, you can just keep a woman, give her belle. She born pikin for you. That's all. You no do anything to show she is part of you. No commitment. Neither trad, court, even church or mosque wedding. That one go sweet oh.

What did she show that she is part of him' so the man is iron and don't have feelings? So the man don't deserve anything'
Some people pay pride price because they were forced' the question is did man forced her for the marriage? So goes into marriage because of her own benefits so let's stop being biased and tell truth about our fore father's mistakes.

comodo:

In other words, you can just keep a woman, give her belle. She born pikin for you. That's all. You no do anything to show she is part of you. No commitment. Neither trad, court, even church or mosque wedding. That one go sweet oh.

codemaniacs:



see how you defended criminality

I said baby factories because a baby factory is illegal..

A baby factory is not a legal orphanage or foster home.

but you defended

I'm talking about orphanage. You don't go to a baby factory to adopt kids.

What the hell is even a baby factory?
Do your government and traditional rulers in Yoruba state recognize baby factories?

Go read the quest you asked again. And I quoted by saying that's a different thing entirely.

Then I went further to address the one you drew my attention stating your government and traditional rulers are supposed to enforce laws like that of the east. Maybe I got your question wrongly. Or you didn't put it right

codemaniacs:



see how you defended criminality

I said baby factories because a baby factory is illegal..

A baby factory is not a legal orphanage or foster home.

but you defended

Can you see the discussion?