Very silly man. He should have kept his wife in Nigeria and be sending money to her. All these would have never surfaced

T'was a mistake.

Neddstark:
Very silly man. He should have kept his wife in Nigeria and be sending money to her. All these would have never surfaced

And you think if she had come upon the same level of success in Nigeria, this man would not have ended her life the way he did on the other shore?

He would have settled in Nigeria, when the kids are done with their first degree send abroad for their masters. While you and your won't remain in Nigeria, but you could go for vacation.

freddie009:
■ He would have settled in Nigeria, when the kids are done with their first degree send abroad for their masters. While you and your won't remain in Nigeria, but you could go for vacation.

Are you insinuating that if both had instead remained in Nigeria, and the wife had turned out just as successful, the man would not have equally found a reason to snuff her life out even then?

yinkus6750:
My Man, you .essed up BIG TIME.
You allowed a woman to condemn your life.
You should have left her alone and move on with your life.
No emotion should have gotten you to this extent.
You are now the greatest loser.
RIP in advance to you.

let this same situation happened to you first. If it happened to u and u did d exact advice u gave now. We go know u are strong. U never be in such situation u dey give advice. Nah wah for u

SWATMan:
RIP to the dead. In as much your story looks one sided and said nothing good about the woman makes the story unbelieveable. Where was he getting the money as a soldier to send accross to his wife and children abroad. Was he from a rich family? There is no morals in this story. It's his responsibility to fend for them. The only thing i see here is a miscalculation of his plan for the future. It's called fate or Adonwo.

Why is your tot on this irrational. To u now u never see people sending money to their family from Nigeria to abroad? I guess u are a woman. Reason u are reasoning like this.

Kobojunkie:
Stop lying!

Where is it indicated in the medical logs or DSM-5 that depression can lead to one having murderous intent? Una go just dey open mouth pla, pla, pla. Having suicidal ideation is not the same as having murderous intentions. This man was clearly bitter and that has nothing to do with depression.

guy go and sit down. Depression can make u do unthinkable. U think nah theory we are discussing here. Be in depression b4 u what it mean to be depressed. We are not talking of Google definition here

OGIBRA:
Moral lesson:-

Also Build yourself while building others

This here is a vital life lesson even for family members but what this man did was totally unnecessary, he didn't consider the well-being of the children at all.

I would have loved to believe him but the woman is dead to ascertain this

Kobojunkie:
You didn't even bother to read the article didn't you?
What you just did is tantamount to saying that since Cancer patients also experience depression--- a comorbidlty--- therefore depression leads to cancer.

There are billions of depressed people world over who have never committed a crime. The vast majority would rather kill themselves than kill anyone else. @Mindlog

This guy abeg how old are u? If Mr A with depression does not commit murder doesn't mean Mr B with depression will not commit murder. Poverty that leads some people to steal. But will not lead all of us to steal.

Spot on! The story get too many holes. He relocated to the US and was an undocumented migrant all the while. Meanwhile nothing is said about the woman's immigration status.

SWATMan:
RIP to the dead. In as much your story looks one sided and said nothing good about the woman makes the story unbelieveable. Where was he getting the money as a soldier to send accross to his wife and children abroad. Was he from a rich family? There is no morals in this story. It's his responsibility to fend for them. The only thing i see here is a miscalculation of his plan for the future. It's called fate or Adonwo.

If u too love your wife pass yourself, u will regret it in life. This is your weakness. In this new generation, know your wife is not part of your family. Women will hate this, but is the bitter truth. These new generation women are not part of your family if u put one of them at home as wife. Stop saying the is how God created them. They are possessed.

imam07:
This guy abeg how old are u? If Mr A with depression does not commit murder doesn't mean Mr B with depression will not commit murder. Poverty that leads some people to steal. But will not lead all of us to steal.

So, even with the information you have here your conclusion is that poverty is the reason why people steal? You are kidding, right? So, rich people don't steal at all since poverty is the reason, you have reached, for why people steal?

imam07:
guy go and sit down. Depression can make u do unthinkable. U think nah theory we are discussing here. Be in depression b4 u what it mean to be depressed. We are not talking of Google definition here

Stop lying! Depression does no such thing.

Dearest Lord in heaven! This is so unfortunate. While I suspect that the narration wasnt entirely truthful with Hassan's contribution to the failure of the marriage, I cant still help pitying all the lives lost/ruined because people do not know how to move on from where they are not valued. It is well fa.

I like when people will say He should have just moved on bla bla bla.Like it is fucking easy.I pray nobody enters such problem in life.

He is not a man,he bleeped up.He shouldn't have put his wife above himself,he shouldn't have sent his wife abroad(His wife with children not his girlfriend ooh lmao)

If he had done it and his wife had respected him this wouldn't have happened.If you love and go hard for a
good and grateful person you will enjoy.

They will say don't so and so fir a woman or person. DOES IT MEAN THAT HUMANS OR WOMEN ARE INHERENTLY EVIL PEOPLE

jimmychang:
I like when people will say He should have just moved on bla bla bla.Like it is fucking easy.I pray nobody enters such problem in life.
He is not a man,he bleeped up.He shouldn't have put his wife above himself,he shouldn't have sent his wife abroad(His wife with children not his girlfriend ooh lmao) If he had done it and his wife had respected him this wouldn't have happened.If you love and go hard for a
good and grateful person you will enjoy.
They will say don't so and so fir a woman or person. DOES IT MEAN THAT HUMANS OR WOMEN ARE INHERENTLY EVIL PEOPLE

Are you insinuating that if this man and this woman had remained in Nigeria, and the woman had turned out just as successful, the man would not have equally found a reason to snuff her life out even then?

Are you suggesting that there arent similar stories to be found right there in Nigeria? It all had to do with their location and nothing but?

Kobojunkie:
Are you insinuating that if this man and this woman had remained in Nigeria, and the woman had turned out just as successful, the man would not have equally found a reason to snuff her life out even then?

Do you read at all.Read well.I have seen your name and you Just like to argue. There is a word there I said.Respect,submission and stuff.

Margaret Thatcher was one time the most powerful woman in the world but she still go home to cook for her husband.She still respected her husband.Shikena.

jimmychang:
■ Do you read at all.Read well.I have seen your name and you Just like to argue.

***Yawn ***

zeestone99:



This is a very nonsense thing to say IMO. you are indirectly encouraging silly behaviors. What the person did is bad full stop. It's not a crime to help someone. You will only leave everyone stingy if we are to go that route. It means don't expect anything from your fellow friend, husband, wife etc which is not possible cos thats not love. Love means to be selfless, caring etc. Let's pray for partners that will reciprocate the energy. My 2kobo

How those building oneself while building others means encouraging silly behaviour or make someone become stingy?

I hope you understand my comment these time arround..

OGIBRA:
■ How those building oneself while building others means encouraging silly behaviour or make someone become stingy? I hope you understand my comment these time arround..

The man was not building the woman. Rather, he was building his own family. He sent his family abroad in order to build his family. There is no mention of him sending his wife to hair care school that you would all assume he was building his wife. His own kids were living and attending school and he, as the breadwinner, was in charge of making sure they were taken care of. While the man was doing all that as the breadwinner, his wife was busy occupying the role of homemaker, raising the kids, and caring for the home as probably expected of her by her husband— the man did not complain at all that she did not take care of her side of her traditional responsibilities, right? That this woman then decided to turn her talent for making hair into a successful enterprise is not of the man building her, not according to that narrative. The narrator no talk say na the man build the woman. So make we no dey add our own story put. At least let's get that out of the way.

OGIBRA:
Moral lesson:-

Also Build yourself while building others

Give a woman small power and all hell will let lose, he would have left the marriage, at least he was working,
This virginarians are not worth it, and look at the man, he was not probably even cheating.

This is the reason to get a side chick, if the main chick just do anyhow, let her go and upgrade the side one

jimmychang:


Do you read at all.Read well.I have seen your name and you Just like to argue. There is a word there I said.Respect,submission and stuff.

Margaret Thatcher was one time the most powerful woman in the world but she still go home to cook for her husband.She still respected her husband.Shikena.

Even as a prime Minister for eleven years Thatcher never employed a chef, not even at 10 Downing Street. How many women can do that? Definitely not the silly talkatives here. They will start reminding you of how you must do more chores at home as if you've not been doing anything at home to help with chores at all.

Even in death people go tarnish your image. I do not know how their life was in the US but I can confirm that there are lots of lies here. RIP Aunty Nanchin.

The man should have left her before she left him. He was a Uber driver. That should be enough to take care of his financial needs on his own. The kids already took sides with their mother. He bet big and lost big. He shouldn't have chased after his loss he should have cut his loss and start over again. There's nothing like "where do I start from".

Obaaderemi2:
Even as a prime Minister for eleven years Thatcher never employed a chef, not even at 10 Downing Street. How many women can do that? Definitely not the silly talkatives here. They will start reminding you of how you must do more chores at home as if you've not been doing anything at home to help with chores at all.

Assuming that story is indeed true, it never occurred to you that her husband, and her children, had to have been hands on at home with chores and all in their home, abi?

Kobojunkie:
So, it never occurred to you that her husband was more than likely helping out with the chores in their home, abi?

And you miraculously saw where I wrote she was the only one doing chores at home, abi?

Obaaderemi2:
And you miraculously saw where I wrote she was the only one doing chores at home, abi?

Oh, now you acknowledge that Margaret Thatcher could not have been the only one doing all the chores and whatnot for the upkeep of her home then?

OK then! So, where in the OP is it stated that this man who killed his wife helped at home with the raising of the kids or even the chores? Since the wife became the breadwinner, where is it stated that the husband at least took to sharing the responsibilities in the home so she could focus more on making money as the breadwinner? Because of the way the story is woven, it seems that not only was the woman the breadwinner, but she too was in charge of the home — chores included — and also raising the kids, sort of explaining why the children were closer to her than they were to their dad. Or what do you think?

Kobojunkie:
Oh, now you acknowledge that Margaret Thatcher could not have been the only one doing all the chores and whatnot for the upkeep of her home then?

OK then! So, where in the OP is it stated that this man who killed his wife helped at home with the raising of the kids or even the chores? Since the wife became the breadwinner, where is it stated that the husband at least took to sharing the responsibilities in the home so she could focus more on making money as the breadwinner? Because of the way the story is woven, it seems that not only was the woman the breadwinner, but she too was in charge of the home — chores included — and also raising the kids, sort of explaining why the children were closer to her than they were to their dad. Or what do you think?

I ask you again, where in my post was it implied that Margaret Thatcher did all the chores at home? SHOULD that even make any sense to any supposedly sane human being?

AND where was it written in the story that the man wasn't helping at home? The day he shot his wife his kids even gave him an errand to get some stuff and bring along to their mom's house. Does that seem like a domineering man to you?

Obaaderemi2:
■ I ask you again, where in my post was it implied that Margaret Thatcher did all the chores at home? SHOULD that even make any sense to any supposedly sane human being?
■ AND where was it written in the story that the man wasn't helping at home?
■ The day he shot his wife his kids even gave him an errand to get some stuff and bring along to their mom's house. Does that seem like a domineering man to you?

It is not implied anywhere in your response that Thatcher's husband was a helper as far as the day-to-day upkeep of the home and the raising of kids, hence the reason why I posed my earlier question to you. It may not make sense to you that a husband would think it beneath him to do chores on behalf of his own family, but this topic is about Nigerian men and the prevalent idea that the woman is the homemaker and child rearer.

2. Given that the man is of Nigerian descent, and that he did not include any hint at all that he partook in the daily chore duties in the house, it is highly likely that he too considered chores to be beneath his status.

3. According to the story, he was to move property— probably furniture, boxes, electronics, etc.— from one home to the other. I am not certain if you have ever done a move before, but that is typically handled by men, and seen as a man's job and not a woman's.

Kobojunkie:
It is not implied anywhere in your response that Thatcher's husband was a helper as far as the day-to-day upkeep of the home and the raising of kids, hence the reason why I posed my earlier question to you. It may not make sense to you that a husband would think it beneath him to do chores on behalf of his own family, but this topic is about Nigerian men and the prevalent idea that the woman is the homemaker and child rearer.

2. Given that the man is of Nigerian descent, and that he did not include any hint at all that he partook in the daily chore duties in the house, it is highly likely that he too considered chores to be beneath his status.

3. According to the story, he was to move property— probably furniture, boxes, electronics, etc.— from one home to the other. I am not certain if you have ever done a move before, but that is typically handled by men, and seen as a man's job and not a woman's.

Wow, you really took your time.
So Thatcher cooking at home implied she did the cleaning and the dish washing as well, all alone. If only you could point out where it's implied in my post that nobody else in the Thatcher household did chores.

So men of Nigerian descent don't do chores at home? That's a new one. Can you please furnish us with any relevant study or report that supports your claim?

Who's talking about moving house? Did you not read the part where his kids asked him to buy groceries and bring them along to their mom's house? Now, you can talk about a particular task being typically a particular gender's task? Inconsistency at its height.

I think I agree with Klass99 who noticed "a certain recurring pattern" in your behavior and stopped responding to you.