pansophist:
If this story is true, then why kill her?

Just move out of the house and let her be. Offing someone's light won't bring light to oneself.

But situations like this are solved from the foundation. As a breadwinner, he should be the one to go first, and not put himself in a position of weakness, where he will start afresh in a new country.

To just uproot yourself as a man from a place where you have economical dominance is suicidal. And not many woman can respect a man they earn more than. A thread in the front page today even validate this.

I pity the kids. They are the real victims here.

Kobojunkie:
And you think if she had come upon the same level of success in Nigeria, this man would not have ended her life the way he did on the other shore?

Fiscus105:
■ If she was successful in Nigeria, she might not go gaga the way she did in oversea, the unlimited freedom that she latter exposed thr won't be available for her here, besides, it would have easier for family to wade in and correct any anomaly here than oversea.

I'm very sure that 90% of people that available to advice the woman thr, would advise her to treat her husband anyhow, since that is common occurrences over there.

Obaaderemi2:
The man should have left her before she left him. He was a Uber driver. That should be enough to take care of his financial needs on his own. The kids already took sides with their mother. He bet big and lost big. He shouldn't have chased after his loss he should have cut his loss and start over again. There's nothing like "where do I start from".

Kobojunkie:
Lol... so let me ask you thiz then. Was Osinachi's crime that she went gaga after gaining success? Was that why her husband killed her? Is that the same tale as far as other female breadwinner wives in Nigeria who met a similar end?

Fiscus105:
■ Hope u know Osinachi died of abuse and not direct gunshots? Besides, I bolded the word might in my post, I biliv u know the meaning of might

Fiscus105:



The man is a very foolish man, who sets up himself for marital slavery and eventually destroy himself.

In the story, I see him became leech and parasite shortly before the tragic end of once beautiful family.

If it's me, immediately I see handwriting on the wall, I would have moved out quickly and found way to stay on my own and contented with little I earned, but he should to glue with her and see nonsense (what you don't see cannot make you sad).

cococandy:
Thank you.

You know, one time I paid $450 for a guy to give me a professional hair cut and coloring with a few wefts clipped in. Extra for the coloring and You still tip them. Young boy of around 23 years old.
But of course he’s not Nigerian so it’s not beneath him to do hair.


My braider doesn’t charge less than $200 for any braiding hairstyle. Women come here see these opportunities and take them. some African men come and think it’s beneath them.

Then that woman is in the store all day trying to make money and he’s upset she comes back late probably because no one made dinner while she was hustling. If he hustled too, their income might be higher and they could both be home on time to take care of their kids.

Their story shows no signs of collaboration. No evidence of leadership on his part. He didn’t come up with a game plan to see how he can reduce the burden of breadwinning and home keeping (which I’m sure fell entirely on her) and that way they can have time to enjoy each other as a married couple. After-all what’s the point in marriage if you’re not enjoying your partner? He didn’t think of that.

softy:
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Killing the woman was not the solution to the problem. He just affected his life negatively, in the presence of God and according to the law of men.

I have always say it, times without number, we live in a crazy world. Women will always blame men for everything. Even when u have tried/are trying to look at the better part for doing something meaningful to their lives. They have this victim mentality at all times. EVE BLAMED THE SATAN, OVERIDED THE THINKING OF ADAM, TO BLAME GOD. Most women will never back down from doing wrongs things. Still blame shit out of u. Pathetic, isn't it?

This man worked in Nigeria, settled up his family in America, just putting his family first in everything, arranged a soft life for them, because he believed he was doing something great for his family. She turned his children against him. Do we evn know if those children are his?

Then, after a while, the woman turned the few failures he had, from the stories he was even trying, doing all sorts of menial jobs to stay afloat, but the wife saw it as not enough.

Most women are not grateful.
I have known this since when I was 13.

More sad news like this will never stop in USA, UK/EUROPE.....
,and generally abroad.

Men please, sometimes balance the equation. As you are labouring everyday to give the best to your family, kindly have recourse to benefit your personal life too. This could help position our future better.

Benwallt:
The most unprofitable investment in a man's life is that which he invested on a woman. The investment will grow astronomically but you will never reap the benefits in peace. It always ends in disaster. I am talking from experience.

Murder is not the solution.

He supposed to just move on as if nothing has happened.

Klass99:

@ Koboe.......you are unbelievable! I have seen you link practically every vice and every situation on this forum to mental health issues. Everything from alcohol to gambling addictions, severe introversion to uncertainty about pregnancy and a man, one female user in particular shared.

Now someone else says the same thing you are famous for by linking Hassan's depression and the murder of his wife to mental health issues and you suddenly have a problem with it. Take a stand already Kobo and don't be all over the place with this mental health issue and mantra. I don't see why it's okay for you to label every issue as a mental health problem then scream blue murder when someone else does.

softy:


You are very correct. Same here, talking from experience

1. Send them to school......no ROI
2. Open business for them....no ROI, no explanation, no genuine reason for not making good profits, avenue to flirt with other men, no more taking care of home and the husband.
3. When they girth birth to ur children...... they want you to be there till the children matures, then they turned sane children against you. Forgetting all the types of support you gave them.
4. Marry them, spoil them, make their lives so comfortable.... they will cheat, turn children against you, build/buy house and turned against you, even take the old house away from u.

In most cases, men are at the receiving end.
The only reasonable and personal pain they ever run through is child birth, still it may be used against you. Every other things are experience outside their body, and must be on a platter of gold!

They even termed it as post partum depression, as if it is a crime to give birth.

Men go through a lots, as men, and ib the hand of evil women. There are still good women though......that is a relative truth.

cococandy:
You have it backwards. Men are the one who always blame women for everything. You must not live in reality. They will literally blame children before they take responsibility for their own actions.

And if he provided a soft life for them, why is she braiding hair for income? Do you even know the meaning of soft life?

It seems as if some of you are entitled to your own set of facts. That’s how y’all conveniently refuse to acknowledge anything women do for the family.
He’s laboring and providing a soft life, bla bla bla yet she’s the breadwinner . In what reality is this your opinion from?

Kobojunkie:
So, even with the information you have here your conclusion is that poverty is the reason why people steal? You are kidding, right? So, rich people don't steal at all since poverty is the reason, you have reached, for why people steal?

softy:


Your comprehension skill is very poor.

oz4real83:
That "African mentality" that says that a man must be the breadwinner of the home has destroyed so many lives and marriages. No woman sees anything wrong when a man provides everything for eternity, but the whole world turns upside down if a woman provides, even for a short time . This is what is turning the modern Nigerian ladies to parasites and liabilities , this mentality needs to change. Asian women who earn more that Nigerian women abroad still respect their husbands and manage their homes when they earn more than their husbands, unlike Nigerian women who suddenly turn to demigoddesses immediately they start earning above their husbands

superlanny:
Depression is real, so is betrayal and lack of loyalty, in as much as it hurts to lose what you once had as happiness and love, it's unacceptable to commit murder and lose everything. Mental illness is real and just takes a trigger to make it all worse.

LilMissFavvy:
Only joker's will believe this FAKE STORY. A good husband can never force his wife to become a full time house wife. Yes, I can beat my chest to say that she was forced to stay at home because if he was that rich and wished her well, he would have set up a business for her. He wanted her to be homebound so that he can manipulate and control her life as he wished .

All the bull$hit tales of How he was a caring/loving husband are well concocted lies so that he can get a lighter jail term. Have you ever seen a Nigerian woman married to a naija soldier in a happy marriage? Happily married my foot.

He thought after relocating he would still be able to manipulate her, but she broke Free and he finally killed someone's precious daughter. Men abandon their wives all the time, so what abomination did she commit?

OGIBRA:


How those building oneself while building others means encouraging silly behaviour or make someone become stingy?

I hope you understand my comment these time arround..

OGIBRA:
Moral lesson:-

Also Build yourself while building others

Kemadealadire:

This here is a vital life lesson even for family members but what this man did was totally unnecessary, he didn't consider the well-being of the children at all.

Therock5555:



Madam you were not there so don't assume what you don't know. Ask yourself this question, if they had remained in Nigeria, would all this have happened?


No wonder some women are called snakes cause they could remain loyal to you for awhile, then go haywire when given the chance.


Make una dey change una mentality oh

Obaaderemi2:
Even as a prime Minister for eleven years Thatcher never employed a chef, not even at 10 Downing Street. How many women can do that? Definitely not the silly talkatives here. They will start reminding you of how you must do more chores at home as if you've not been doing anything at home to help with chores at all.

Fiscus105:



Only insignificant of women that really loved their husbands fully, many love their husbands only because of financial security and to help them shapen the destiny of seeds that came out from them.

To buttress my submission, 8/10 of wives would poison minds of their children against their fathers, if the husbands having unresolved issues with them .