From how you sound, you are a complete jerk I can tell and the innocent woman is already fed up with you abuses, subjugation. I hope you realize she is somebody's daughter, sister shaaa. I don't know what you call submission. But ideally, if you are tired stop the abuse and divorce in peace before you die her for her people!

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

frankson1:




I was so angry reading his post. Someone who calls himself a husband is using words like; "collected a loan on her behalf", sacrificed for her", spent unplanned money for her C.S. just imagine

I don't know why every shit should be brought to front page or don't the mods go through posts before bringing them here

He is speaking from his perspective and being honest and I can understand him perfectly considering the president economic situation. .

You are speaking from your perspective too and I can clearly reason your view and honesty.

That is why marriage requires a lot of maturity and widening of the heart. It is not for the spontaneous, aggressive nor egomaniac.

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

Am sorry to say this, she is mad at you because she gave birth with a CS. She is feeling her body is disfigured because of you. She is beginning to hate you because of that, and she will not stop. Am sorry to say this, take that boy she just had for a DNA test. Then monitor her calls for a while for your own good. Am talking from experience.

pocohantas:


🐐🐐🐐 I feel they are more stubborn.

Very very stubborn. After brown, na black, then white..

Dont be silly man. She needs help!

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

Your wife is going through a lot now and not in her right state of mind. It's always the second birth that gives them postpartum baby blues and you need to be more caring. Mbok farabale and show love.

Boldideas:


Am sorry to say this, she is mad at you because she gave birth with a CS. She is feeling her body is disfigured because of you. She is beginning to hate you because of that, and she will not stop. Am sorry to say this, take that boy she just had for a DNA test. Then monitor her calls for a while for your own good. Am talking from experience.

Hmm, this is deep but seems very true.

Are you a woman?

Hmm, the mind of a woman is deep. God have mercy.

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

With the way you sound….it seems like you are the problem here!!!

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

She is most likely going through postpartum depression. Just try to be patient with her.

Your wife is likely suffering from
PPD…Postpartum depression…it’s not her fault, she needs your understanding , care and support at the moment so take it easy and don’t drown yourself in alcohol.
Most importantly, she needs to see an expert.

thesilentman:

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

The bolded is the problem.

"The problem is, You dudes treat the one that you loving with the same respect you treat the one that you humpn." Jay -z

When you're ready for your marriage to succeed, you will delete every thing red-pillers taught you and you will renew your mind with the washing of the Word of God.

Jesus wants to save you and your marriage. If you're willing to let Him.

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

You are an idiot ...You spent 300k on your wife C's and for that, she should remained a tamed cat abi? What kind of monster are you to even think that becos you spent that amount of money, then your wife must stand at attention at your every command ? How much is 300k to spend on a C's procedure that you want her to slave for you even after child birth ! Is the baby not also yours !
What about if she had lost her life in the process of giving birth ? Do you know the life and death situation in birth bearing ,oga!!
Do you even know about post trauma or mental issues that affect women after a traumatic child birth !! That you consider her cries as that of witchcraft .
Nonsense man without any atom of empathy !
She gave you two boys and you think is moi moi. In your small mind women pop out children with when needed and it's no big deal . You are obviously a cold hearted soul that have no business getting married .
Next time, pls get yourself street LovePeddler to bear your children and then a nanny to do your bidding and you want . Nonsense.

Hormonal changes and postpartum depression.

thesilentman:

ok i get you-i just mentioned the money aspect as latest in the sacrifices i make for her.I had believed it would make her respect me more.Reason with me.

wowww what a huge sacrifice,, maybe you shud have insisted on natural birth regardless of complications ,, too stretched your self too much.

You are a mumu, watch idiotic men like you comin g to tell you to divorced her, you open your mumu mouth to say you tamed an adult?
You tammed an adult?

You also used red pills tactics that damaged naira land boys thought you.

She is already tired if been tamed, she wants her freedom, now you are crying, at the end all of you men here will be divorced 100 times , because what you learn here from gay guys will destroy your homes .


Uncle she is tire of your alpha male , redpills and uncarring attitude . So rest .


If you like divorce her she has nothing to lose , if she has a job,




uote author=thesilentman post=125599029]My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.[/quote]

pocohantas:


Most men and women never plan for a CS - Fact.

Skyview never plans for a CS - Never implied and takes nothing off the initial statement.

Thanks.





🐐🐐🐐 I feel they are more stubborn.

Logic and argument on point.

omoharry:
You are an idiot ...You spent 300k on your wife C's and for that, she should remained a tamed cat abi?
What kind of monster are you to even think that becos you spent that amount of money, then your wife must stand at attention at your every command ? How much is 300k to spend on the a C's procedure, tha you want her to slave for you even after child birth ! Is the baby not also your own ? What about if she had lost her life in the process of giving birth ? Do you know the life and death situation in birth bearing ,oga!!
Do you even know about post trauma or mental issues that affect women after a traumatic child birth !!
Nonsense man! She gave you two boys and you think is moi moi , in your small brain, women can pop out children with when needed .

You are obviously a cold hearted soul that have no business getting married . Next time, pls get yourself street LovePeddler to bear your children and then a nanny to do your bidding and you want . Nonsense.

He's unfortunately a victim of the red-pill nonsense that's propagated in recent times as a response to pseudo!feminists/MeToo movement.

Misogynistic and Misandryst philosophies/doctrines.

Don't jump into conclusion yet...first I sincerely don't understand what you meant by tame...do you want a dummy womandon't get it wrong, not saying a woman should disrespect her husband.... Hope you know some women fall into depression after birth??Take your to know more about this and be there during this her trying time..... Birthing experience especially that of CS is traumatizing.... E no easy ooo ..Real work na after delivery ooo

thesilentman:
My blood is burning now as I write.My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman that i thought i had tamed for life has now become a thorn in the flesh to me. I just parted with over 300k unplanned fund for her C.S. I thought she'd be more respectful to me now but no,she has changed completely!

She dares me to do my worst,she cries over small issues that i wonder if it's witchcraft.Or she thinks I can't quit cos she's got two boys for me? The mind boggles. Am just mad and gobsmacked at the same time as all my Red pill O.T have failed and am even considering divorce right now.

I'm at a bar drinking my sorry ass away, brainstorming the best option for me. What could be outta place?

I need candid advice,folks.

If you can afford 300k cs without taking loan, you can afford this strategy, book a hotel room for one week, tell her you have a seminar that will last for one week, mind y6she will never believe but she will accept you go, during the day come home with gift and money for things not available but when it's night, politely tell her you won't be at home. Every evening before you leave, kiss and hug her but don't demand for sex, a week later, let's see how it goes.

The man is also going through extreme mental stress…he needs psychotherapy!

It is this mindset that will destroy that marriage , keep taking advice from fools .


The only way a marriage will work, is when the man is ready to love the wife as christ love the church, then the the wife will submit, but following advice of useless guys that did not create marriage will destroy the marriage totally.







uote author=thesilentman post=125599255]
I have same mindset like you,but when i look at the innocent cute boy,i get madly confused.I don't want to believe my woman really got me this time around. [/quote]

Myer:


He's unfortunately a victim of the red-pill nonsense that's propagated in recent times as a response to pseudo!feminists/MeToo movement.

Misogynistic and Misandryst philosophies/doctrines.

What is this redpill ? It is a drug ? I am lost here !

Romanoff:
Women dey marry rubbish abeg.

I swear. He isn't even grateful that she and the baby is alive and well. All he is talking about is his " money" and " respect" how can a man be thinking about respect when what matter most now is the health of the child and mother.. he even used the word "tame" that is use for only wild animals. How can you tame a person. Your wife for that matter? Some men are really asshole. Now he is here asking for advice. Like who give a f*ck??
All the woman need right now is much love. And he can't even do that for her and he is talking about respect. Respect ko respect Nii. Shior.

Don’t play her game . Sometimes , women are very secretive and vindictive. Make sure you haven’t gone wrong. Be calm , With time , she will come around.

thesilentman:

I appreciate your advice so much.I'd give it a try before i do what's on my mind.

Young man its call post natal stress (trauma)it happened to my wife ,you need to calm down.Giving birth sometimes can make some ladies almost mad.In my own case ,my wife is exposed ,and she was the one that confessed to me that such is happening to her.She need a therapist.Or a Godly counselor.

Ntoorrr. Mumu man. You spent 300k and you want us to praise you? Is the baby not yours too? What about the battering her body went through, the pains of CS and healing? No wonder she has changed. You sound like a very self-centered man. Mehhhhh

Boldideas:


Am sorry to say this, she is mad at you because she gave birth with a CS. She is feeling her body is disfigured because of you. She is beginning to hate you because of that, and she will not stop. Am sorry to say this, take that boy she just had for a DNA test. Then monitor her calls for a while for your own good. Am talking from experience.

Shit advice

thesilentman:

Yes,this is a carbon copy of what am going through now!

Please if u find a solution let me know, this person has been going through this 4 years and no solution. It's even worse now nd the guy is dieing slowly. Did u date her long b4 marraige?

Persephone1:
And some people got mad when I wrote i can't marry a Nigerian man? Just look at this! Very insensitive! All he's concern is the money he spent, taming and respect!

Patiently waiting for the "get a second wife" crew

Becos he spent 300k on C's so the wife must be grateful.. The man is really a slowpoke .. A big one at that

You think say you wise? I bet you are not. You like to sound like you are but na comcom.

Offpointng:


Take it cool on venting your frustrations on the young man. truly speaking he isn't behind ur current woes so you either advice him and if you're angry, ignore the thread.

Giving birth in marriage isn't a sacrifice, it's a commitment and something necessary that should be done, just like calling a man's hustle to put food at his family's table "A Sacrifice" (sounds dumb dont it?) and if she said she won't give birth, no one will advice her to have kids when slurs and gossips of her being barren hit her

Also, Tame isn't a wrong word to use, it simply means, subjecting one into obedience and a state of being unharmful. you lot should try improve your English receptivity atleast.

elipheleh:



You lack simple sense and logic.

Do you think it is wrong to respect and honour the head of your home?

More so, a responsible man at that.

I see in your home, you people are full of ingratitude. You are free to act as you would.

Let me lecture you, every member of a home deserves respect, especially, first respect your father, then mother, then older siblings and so on...

If you have mental issues keep it in check. Don't go about ranting on a public space

And every head of the home requires what is called empathy, love ,care and consideration toward the ones they claim up love.. You speak of respect as it comes without these factors I have mentioned. You guys in Nigeria are too egoistic to a fault ..

omoharry:
What is this redpill ? It is a drug ? I am lost here !

It's a misogynistic movement for men against women.
Just as we have feminist movement for women against patriarchy and men generally.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/technology/2016/apr/14/the-red-pill-reddit-modern-misogyny-manosphere-men