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Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by doggedfighter(f): 5:05pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
pocohantas: Just like someone said he's holding Mohbad 's wife accountable by spitting rubbish and wants me to argue. I don't know how to argue how to hold a woman who had a child for her husband accountable. He was already accusing her of opening her legs for a crack head as if he knows the whole truth of the matter. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by NothingDoMe: 5:10pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
Father4all:LOL. Okay oh. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Acidosis(m): 5:18pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
tosinhtml: You are absolutely right. In fact, I have seen movie makers produce solid movies with your idea. In one of these movies, the husband was advised to start a full scale domestic duty and keep it on for a week. He nearly died after 12 hours. Nobody taught him to appreciate his wife after that experience. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Acidosis(m): 5:25pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
Harddiskng: Lol, Pocohantas is right na.. No sane woman will willingly agree to a 50-50 formula unless you are willing to go through 9 months of pregnancy and another 12 months of exclusive breastfeeding (for at least one or two of your kids). True, some women go through these phases, do all the cleaning and cooking and still contribute even more than 90% towards the family's expense. But I'm sure you won't wish such on your sister or any of your daughters. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by pocohantas(f): 5:30pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
doggedfighter: Like that takes away the fact that a human is dead leaving a child fatherless at 5mths. Because e wan bash woman, e sha no sense say im fellow man die. Mumu man. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by pocohantas(f): 5:31pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
Acidosis: Godforbid bad thing. Make I get receding hairline. ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Acidosis(m): 5:41pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
pocohantas: You go use wig cover am ![]() Don't mind them. All they want to give to a housewife is money for food with grumble oo. Grumbling no dey ever enter side chick matter sha. ![]() I'm not sure I will ever advise any woman again to choose this housewife thing. Many people are unreasonable. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by pocohantas(f): 5:49pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
Acidosis: I no get wig again o and wig done cost na. Abi you want make I wear that Eucharia type? No lies. Housewives are going through a lot in this Nigeria. Once they give her money for carton of indomie, that is all. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by tosinhtml: 5:56pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
Acidosis: Yes, another confusing issue for Nigerian couples who live or relocated in the West, without some form of support or actual 50/50 (or 30/70 more realistically), most men cannot cope with the rising cost of living. So there is usually a big disparity with how people run homes in Nigeria vs outside Nigeria. In the West, every family member must know how to do every thing, cook, clean, wash & change diapers. Both have to earn to stay above water. A lot of women who relocate are also complaining because this is a big mental shift, so depending on where you're located too. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Acidosis(m): 5:59pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
pocohantas: Aha I feel you! I no too like wig sef so I'm sure I'll love your new style anyway... Eucharia type ke? Abeg oo ![]() ![]() |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Acidosis(m): 6:03pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
tosinhtml: Absolutely!!! |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by optionalY09: 6:19pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: You can buy a stick and stocked in the pushy. case closed- Libido |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:15pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
optionalY09:I blame myself for bothering to engage your kind in what I thought would be a reasonable conversation. ![]() |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Ajibade123(m): 8:17pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
ADURA123:Men and women sex drive are not the same. You can't fault her, she might not have any single sex drive left in her after having kids. These are some of the reasons why our ancestors married a much younger wife later in life. Even in the bible and Quran, the historic men that were discussed took a much younger wife later in their lives. Even if you guys talk it out she will still lose interest after some time. I don't think divorce is right, marrying a younger lady legally might just solve all the issues |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 8:41pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
Ajibade123:Divorce is not right but marrying a woman solely for the purpose of shining your knobs — her existence basically exists then around making sure you are sexually satisfied — is right? Kai! ![]() |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Tayorshd87: 10:09pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
Ahmed0336: May God bless your generation oo |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by JayCynic(m): 11:38pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
pocohantas: What changes outside Nigeria though? |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 11:43pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
JayCynic:Societal pressure on women to conform to that which isn't commonsensical, a realization of their potential, capabilities, and status as human beings. ![]() |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by JayCynic(m): 11:52pm On Sep 13, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Research studies have shown that in more egalitarian countries like Sweden, Norway, Finland, Canada, with unionized economic systems and with gender quota legislations etc when women are given the power of choice, they ironically tend to take on more traditional roles and infact the gender gap in STEM fields broaden. I dunno how long you've lived outside Nigeria, but if you have lived in any of these countries, you'd find that women still voluntarily take on these roles. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 12:14am On Sep 14, 2023 |
JayCynic:Could you please cite at least one such research so I at least get a good idea of where you are coming from? ![]() |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by tosinhtml: 12:45am On Sep 14, 2023 |
JayCynic: The answer is cost of living, an average monthly rent for a family of 3 cost $2000 in the USA, £1,200 in the UK & CAD$2529 in Canada. You can't pay that rent alone except your spouse is also working. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by PeachtreeReside(f): 6:27am On Sep 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: Mmmh |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ealtutu: 9:10am On Sep 14, 2023 |
I'm a woman and currently in your wife's situation, you made sex boring for her, don't blame her rather blame your self, she needs more affection than sex, pay attention to her mind not her body she is Good woman like me, give her a break she will come around women tend to get tired of sex especially when is frequently demanded, improve in your romantic lifestyle, like I Said I'm currently having same issue more affection towards her will solve the problem not by divorcing her. [color=#006600][/color] ote author=ADURA123 post=125671601]Good evening fellow NL members, My story may be long but pls endeavor to read to the end so that you can make proper suggestions or advice. I have been married for more than 10yrs now with beautiful kids, my marriage is one that many Young guy will wish to have, but along the the line I don't know what happened things begin to nose dive. In the last 6yrs I discovered that I struggle to make love to my wife, she will either tell you ohh, she is tire or she don't like sex much..this I have endured for all this years with no cheating. Her qualities are She can cook She can keep the house clean She can manage resources And she is accommodating to my people In all this years I have never cheated on her, proudly saying it coz my dad warned me of cheating on my wife rather I should divorce her and go for another wife. My qualities are I work and earn like about 700k net a month. I give feeding allowance and personal total of 100k a month while I invest the rest on a project which she is aware of. I don't drink or smoke I don't keep late night and I am the best friend to her and my kids. Honestly having talk to her for over 5yrs on this issues of love making and she refused to change, then I have decided to yield to my dad advice and ask her to leave...she is not aware of this plan, but trust me it will hit her. I allow her to do little job to have her own finance is not as if she contribute anything in the house, but she is claiming stubborn, I love her so much, it will hurt me to cheat on her, something I have not done since I got married to her. I plan moving to a new place in February, and she doesn't fit into my plans. My decision between now and December is 1 Avoid asking her for lobe making 2 Continue taking care of her so she won't suspect anything 3 when she comes close I avoid her. 4 February I issues divorce papers and give her like 1m to go get her life back Is there anything more I can do for her? Advice me pls... [/quote] |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ealtutu: 9:19am On Sep 14, 2023 |
[Exactly my advice to him I'm a woman and understands his wife very well he made sex boring to her. quote author=Administration1 post=125675819]From what you wrote up there, I can deduce that you're a boring man. You think it's all about food, clean and money, ogbeni, when last did you take your wife out alone? Have you asked her, if she drinks Smirnoff ice or something, if you don't do alcohol, have you considered that she might be the type that drinks, but she is respecting you since you don't . Oga, go and and spice to your marriage and watch it bounce back to life. [/quote] |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by ealtutu: 10:20am On Sep 14, 2023 |
I'm a woman and currently in your wife's situation, you made sex boring for her, don't blame her rather blame your self, she needs more affection than sex, pay attention to her mind not her body she is Good woman like me, give her a break she will come around women tend to get tired of sex especially when is frequently demanded, improve in your romantic lifestyle, like I Said I'm currently having same issue more affection towards her will solve the problem not by divorcing her. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 1:08pm On Sep 14, 2023 |
ealtutu:Are you insinuating that the woman possibly feels objectified in her marriage by her own husband? ![]() |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Ajibade123(m): 3:20pm On Sep 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:You are talking as if sex is not one of the major reason people marry When he is searching for a second wife he won't be foolish just to look for a woman that's good sexually. It will be a woman he loves obviously |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 3:25pm On Sep 14, 2023 |
Ajibade123:Let me see how honest you can be with yourself... how many of the men who have side chicks out there would "love" the same side-chick if she were to remove sex from the equation? How many men who are married today would "love" their wives the same if they were to remove sex from the equation? ![]() You must be kidding! OP admits that sex is his major reason, yet you conveniently turn a blind eye to that in order to assert your own private delusions instead, why? ![]() |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by OZIOGU1: 4:29pm On Sep 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: I see many people not really looking at the substance of the issue Op raised, This our generation needs to up our game, the way we reason sometimes make people fail exams easy....your point is one of the reasonable comments i have read on this topic. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Gohs: 12:05am On Sep 15, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: God created marriage. And He Hates divorce. God divorcing Israel is a proverb Not literal. You are only allowed to divorce your spouse due to unfaithfulness — which is not the case here. By the way, I am talking about the God of the Bible — no other god. |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Ishilove: 12:21am On Sep 15, 2023 |
ADURA123:Kuku kill her. No wonder she says you want use sex to kill her. Mscheeeew |
Re: I Want To Divorce And Live Alone by Kobojunkie: 12:23am On Sep 15, 2023 |
Gohs:1. God created marriage in Genesis 2 vs 15-16 and God cursed marriage and childbearing in Genesis 3 vs 16. He washed His hands of the marriage of men declaring it to be of the world of men. Jesus Christ reaffirmed this very declaration in Luke 20 vs 34 - 36 ![]() 2. God never said it was not literal since God actually said that is what He would eventually do even in His Law of Moses - Deuteronomy 28 vs 15 - 57 and Deuteronomy 30 vs 1 - 6. God cursed and scattered Israel over 1900 years ago as He said He would, and put a seal on His Old Law as He said He would. 3. Wrong! God allows divorce. Remarriage is what He restricts those who belong to Him, and this is after a divorce. ![]() |
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