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Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by themanderon: 9:45pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
Appreciate and love your family, especially your parents whatever may be their faults. They have a purpose they are fulfilling in your life. I lost my mum this year and the devastation hasn't left me even though she was aged. We have limited time to spend in this world and you don't know when you will see or speak with them for the last time. |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Uchemus(m): 9:45pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
Cruise777: Moderation is not vague, you simple lack understanding. All youv been saying doesn't make sense, and you keep shooting yourself in the foot. Everyone's moderation is different, bottom line is everyone should drink to their moderation. 1 Like |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Nobody: 9:54pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
No comment. Bintabisiriyu2: |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Whatisurproblem(m): 10:02pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
Tonero5200:may his soul rest in peace, there are people like that, they don't have anything but they're important to people than president. People don't joke with them. |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Ed12(m): 10:12pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
Men are the strength |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Ed12(m): 10:17pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
This post partially attract to me... Like the Yorubas saying Pikin wey him mother lazy for being poor, and say him mama useless because them, make him no worry. Shebi you self still dey alive.. I miss my father so much |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by frozen70(f): 10:20pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
VULCAN: Thanks dear |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by ttoyetade: 10:55pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
I had a similar experience too after my Dad's passing. My Dad loves women and married many wives . We were always fighting him and hated this side of him . But this man was a very wealthy and generous human being. He will deep his hand into his pocket to give people money without counting it sometimes . So our house was a Mecca of sought back in the days. He was a real community leader. Not until he passed away that we begin to really appreciate the many good qualities in him. Since his death I have never heard any of the children speaking ill of him contrary to what we used to do in his life times. 1 Like |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Teeneyo(m): 11:02pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
The level of violence on dis forum..ehn U brought a post about ur family on d frontburner What did u expect Peeps will comment Den u turn around insulting and acting out |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by tuzle(m): 11:11pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
Cruise777:I disagree with this ur statement, even the white see it as a problem, especially if it is consumed to much |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Pharaohny: 11:21pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
I just love the Vawulnce just bring on |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by lendahand(m): 11:34pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
Deeprooted:may the Lord comfort you dear...hugs... |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by lendahand(m): 11:35pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
Deeprooted:may the Lord comfort you dear, it happened to me 26 yrs ago...hugs... |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by ericmor: 11:46pm On Oct 25, 2023 |
Cruise777: just give one yeye guy like that in my area one babioki, him don finish be that. e will be out for the whole day if not for two days self. is everyday the nonsense guy use to say he will stop drinking but when he get himself back, he will take another drink again and miss work for the day and for twi days sometime because he is a ubar driver but he already settled the owner of the car which means the car now belongs to him |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by wisdomkid: 12:01am On Oct 26, 2023 |
It would have been great, if he passed the knowledge to you guys. |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by juman(m): 1:03am On Oct 26, 2023 |
When the people of a generation die, the closeness of family members reduces. The children of your father need to be friends to some of your cousins. Thats how you people can get information of what is going on in the family. |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Aguiyimba(m): 1:29am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Cruise777: Hmmmmmmm this person self |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by benjyyyyy07: 1:33am On Oct 26, 2023 |
meditator: I’m sorry, but I feel you don’t understand what he’s saying. Drunkards are similar to alcoholics but way different ask around. |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by doneback04: 3:16am On Oct 26, 2023 |
[quote author=Tonero5200 post=126602656] Holding the family in terms of what? My elder bro has been the one fending for us since 2009 He trained me to the stage I am now, while my father was just looking, drinking. But hey if you say my father was still the one holding the family I agree but you have to be specific, because from your post it seems financially but it's not. The point I am trying to make here is different. Everyone is useful you might not know now, but when they are gone. You get to realise that[/quot The truth is that none of you welcome that little respect that was given to your family if there were any of you who always accompany him and was welcome those visitors they would still be coming till dates, they now feels none of you no the tradition so they can't come |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Bfly: 4:45am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Whichever way no man in his right sense is useless. they seek your father when he is sober but when drunk he is not only useless but also a reproach. If he is always drunk then he will always be useless and no one will seek him. They seek him because he is elderly, lower your ego and seek join them to seek another elderly man in your family. The respect is not about your family but about him. Don't expect it to continue. He is gone. |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by dkidd: 5:14am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Tonero5200:Of course no one is completely useless |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by zglobal1: 5:35am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Really |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by ruffhandu: 5:43am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Tonero5200: Alcoholism is a negative vice, just like cocaine addiction, womanizing, gambling., etc. It makes the closest relative feel bad and embarrassed, but the truth is that every human has a weakness, only those who cannot put theirs in any form of check, or who do not have 3nough resources, constitute nuisance, albeit for a short period of time. Many in these categories can still be productive like the other guy said, though they may not be during their messy periods. The musicians you look up to if you are a young Nigerian, most of them are drug addicts. Many past qnd present Nigerian governors are cocain addicts, Many are constituting nuisance in some ways to their immediate family, but since they are able to quench their urge anytime, and because their are PEPs, the society overlooks their addiction. To know that Your father was not born an alcoholic, and alcohol does not permanently erase his memory makes him valuable to many while he was alive. I think we should learn from others' experiences. Some people are looking up to you and hoping you live up to their standards and not 'embarass' them with your lifestyle, the choice is yours. Your father indeed had his value, you only saw his weakness , and that is understandable. |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by SalamRushdie: 6:11am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Tonero5200: He must have paid his dues to society in his younger days |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Fredfr33zy(m): 6:29am On Oct 26, 2023 |
People only come around because of what they can get from you, and that the only people who love you genuinely are your immediate family. Additionally, people move on quickly, so it's important to take advantage of the situation when you are in a position to provide value because people will eventually move on when they no longer have a need for you. |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Unrated900(m): 6:31am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Bro just stat focus and be serious with your self. Soon the world will celebrate you once you ate attaining peak. Remember no one want to associate with Inferior people. God will see you through |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Nobody: 6:40am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Tonero5200: I didn't finish the reading before this comment, if you are from the south east, your extended family ignoring you guys is cos you guys don't have money, the respect of your father that had a point for your family is gone, therefore you guys have no communal vqlue hence no respect. I might be wrong. |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by nedekid: 6:42am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Cruise777:Consuming alcohol is different from being an alcoholic. |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Nobody: 6:43am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Tonero5200: Alcohol is a drug. |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Invest4growth: 6:50am On Oct 26, 2023 |
And you think you are the only one suffering this. It was your father they respected not you. My own parents died about ten years ago. We suffered the same fate. You the children must face front and earn your respect. When you succeed, trust me the children of those scorning you will re-establish contact. Otherwise let them go away. It saves you energy, time and money. So don't expect the family to serve your father and yourselves. Earn.the respect. Thank God, cost of transport is high and there is social media platforms now, so it saves visitstions |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by zedman1(m): 6:51am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Tonero5200:Ha! You put up a post, I'm sure you were expecting responses from your readers. Why respond in such harsh manner to that guy? Calling him a 'kid' for that comment sounds insulting. Why so emotional? Or you drank something? At the end of it all, you were the one who actually acted childish for calling him a child over that comment. 1 Like |
Re: See What I observed After The Death Of My Father by Nobody: 6:51am On Oct 26, 2023 |
Samantha124: Stop kissing loud for the last time. |
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