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A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Godoverevery: 10:22am On Nov 21, 2023 |
Note- this not a post to bash ladies. A pattern I noticed with most working class ladies have dated from 27yrs old upward. At the earliest stage, they claim to be tired of relationship, they are fine without a man. They are doing fine without a man and in fact if not for pressure they don't mind not getting married...(mostly lies) They say am financially ok without a man, i bought my phone, paid house rent etc without any man and i can never depend on any man hence why they can never be liability since they are working..(mostly lies) Most claim to be doing fine during the wooing stage but immediately we start dating things turn out differently from what they claim. Am dating a lady currently who works for a fashion house on the island...During the wooing stage we actually spoke alot for about 2 months and she claimed to be financially ok and doesn't need a man money. Infact she told me how much she paid weekly which is very decent with free accommodation and feeding. We just started dating not up to 3weeks and this lady have been making demands which I find very childish and too disgraceful for an adult working. She always complaining of money despite earning above minimum wage weekly. This morning she called and i didn't pick........I chatted her up and she telling me her cream have finished and i replied hmmmm. This a pattern have noticed with most working class ladies have dated......they tell you am an independent woman during wooing stage but once relationship start it just seems they are working and not earning with the way they demand and still be pressuring you with marriage talks. (just want to know if am the only experiencing this or is just normal) Note: this the fourth time this lady is demanding from me in 3 weeks and they are embarrassing to me for someone who earns. 36 Likes 4 Shares
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Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by FRANCISTOWN: 10:31am On Nov 21, 2023 |
Godoverevery:You never shee anything. You go Chee chomchin 44 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by NonAIWriting: 10:40am On Nov 21, 2023 |
You will send away all the good wife life is sending in your direction. A man must provide, stop these macho mentality. 20 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by DonBenny77(m): 11:00am On Nov 21, 2023 |
I won't marry a lady that can't afford her body cream. Most ladies do contribution without earnings from any job. Pure magic! 104 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Ballzproblem2: 11:03am On Nov 21, 2023 |
The mentality of billing men has eaten deep into our girls whether they have money or not. Nigeria girl fit get 300k for account but still want that small 5k you dey manage. 105 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by advanceDNA: 11:03am On Nov 21, 2023 |
Godoverevery: Obviously that's not he kind of woman u want ..free the babe....otherwise u will soon pay house rent... Some women use relationship to exploit men for every small thing..from cream to pad, to even toothpaste.....they don't see anything wrong or distasteful in it..... These days ...getting a lady thats decent all round is like winning lottery..... U go Waka small 49 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by drnoel: 11:08am On Nov 21, 2023 |
Godoverevery: Sit down and table the issue. That you are dating someone doesn't mean you have to be their bank. Remind her what her words were before the relationship and make her understand how it has changed during the relationship. Let her know you also have your expenses and would prefer she handles her money matters without disturbing you about it. It's that simple. If then you care to give her something on the side, that's your own wish to do so and not your obligation. I don't know why men shy to make their stance surgically clear on this issue. 31 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Godoverevery: 11:31am On Nov 21, 2023 |
drnoel:For good 2 months me and this lady spoke extremely about the kind of relationship we both want. I don't need to sit her down and table cos it seems that her mindset. She clearly know what she is doing cos the last time I actually had a discussion about this act with her. 9 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Tallesty1(m): 11:33am On Nov 21, 2023 |
"..........What can we do?" I don't know why I'm impressed with this her approach. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by YOUNGELDER1(m): 12:06pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Disgraceful |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Magnoliaa(f): 12:11pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
You must be the male version of Mercy chen at this point. ![]() Na only una don date all the people for this life finish. 5 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Magnoliaa(f): 12:13pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
It's the Lizzy's Cut & Stitches for me. ![]() That means you sef haven't 'upgraded' her from seeing her as just a mere date. So e be like she nor too rate you, too, because I understand that partners should be very generous to each other, but I cannot imagine asking for money for body cream, of all things, in just a 3-week-old relationship. When I am a working class woman, no less. Don't you people do any preliminary 'gauging' before going into relationships? ![]() Anyway, I don't really have much to say. Lemme hope my boo, pansophist, will come and do justice to the matter if he has the time. 5 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by eniolorunfe: 12:29pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Not up to 3 weeks relationship and you’re already her “Ademi” ![]() ![]() 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Gadafii: 12:43pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
She even said “what can WE do” 🤣😅😅 My bro tell her to buy Vaseline and as for her contributions, make she borrow money from loan apps whe they pay her at place if work make she pay loan app back Then disengage from that relationship asap 21 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by APOPTOSIS: 1:24pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Please enough of all these Ladies stuff. Let's start joining hands in salvaging an already precarious situation for them. IF we don't who will. For those men who think dey can carter for 2 Ladies in marriage, pls. settle for 2 in countries such is approved For those Ladies who think they are ripe and groomed for marriage and are ready to settle down, please start making yourselves available to interested men. Please don't settle for domestic violence for that's a prerequisite for death. These Ladies are not finding it easy even in diasopra too. It's even worse securing a spouse there as your chances get slimmer in the midst of other races of the world & now most men are afraid of even wooing a lady. They now see women as their established enemies, hence the emergence of toys and barbie dolls.😭😭😭 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Britishpea: 1:25pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Until you know that ladies lie a lot to gain confidence or respect, then you are a man!. U might find out she’s not earning up to what you think. 31 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Fiscus105(m): 1:40pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Godoverevery: You too, trying to be complaining about Naija economy with lady you are dating, let ur wailing louder than them, let them know how things are not rossy for you at work , infact , be telling them if u see someone to borrow you money that u will appreciate. Nobody sees ATM during Tinubu time and turns it down oo. Many of u guys lack basics displined how to go out with woman in term of reckless spending. To make the matter worst you might not be only guy entering her small shop. 7 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by drnoel: 1:41pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Godoverevery: Then set your foot down and allow her make her choice if the relationship is important to her moving forward |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Fiscus105(m): 1:49pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: It has to do with orientation of individual, and not because working or not. For some ladies, it's embedded in their genes to turn relationship to ATM. Even what they don't need, they request just to be feeling like conquerors. This type of lady u turn her to sexmate,.....only remembering her when her hole hungry you 22 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by DaTruths: 1:53pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Nigerian ladies sees Relationship as a mini marriage no matter how rich they are. Buy the cream for her if you have the money, there is joy that comes with providing for your woman, even if she's dangote's daughter. It makes you the Alpha of the relationship. Me i don't believe in Gender equality, so i will provide for my woman if she's respectful. 8 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by ExudeLoveToAll: 2:06pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
NonAIWriting: A woman must leech ![]() See mentality, any adult who isn't responsible should never be in a relationship. You guys will still go ahead to call him your partner or her your partner ![]() ![]() When bad attitude, is encouraged, entitlement mentality is enshrined in the society. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Godoverevery: 2:08pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
DaTruths:I don't have an issh with one helping out a lady you dating once in awhile but I believe the relationship must have gotten to a certain stage. 3weeks into a relationship is too early for me to be doing all that. Last week it was her soap that got finished after so much complaining of not eating all day I sent her money and this week her cream have finished. 10 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by ExudeLoveToAll: 2:13pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Godoverevery: This is the new normal for you, you decide to accept it or not. Good luck, ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by copyrites: 2:18pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Ballzproblem2: Habits of a thief. 6 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by DanielsParker(m): 2:20pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Godoverevery: I suggest you leave that relationship. On the long run you’ll be full of complaints and all. 3 weeks is too soon for all these coming from a lady that works. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by DanielsParker(m): 2:23pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Fiscus105: You said it all. It all depends on the orientation and mindset. She may work and earn money but the moment she enters a relationship, she demands, even the littlest things she used to provide for herself, from her man. 5 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Godoverevery: 2:28pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
DanielsParker: Am going to tell her straight tonight I don't have money. And I will re define things again ......so she can make a choice. 1 Like |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by DanielsParker(m): 2:31pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Godoverevery: Better. Don’t start what you can’t continue with. If you start buying cream and soap, she will always remind you that her cream and soap has finished. That’s women for you. But if you like her and you have the money, send it to her this first time, and tell her that it may not always be this way. Then watch her reaction, also watch if she will still continue to ask you for these things . 3 Likes |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by Godoverevery: 2:37pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
DanielsParker:Someone that is already complaining of only eating beans and bread since morning just now. I have the money but I won't buy her anything. She left my place yesterday morning after spending the weekend.....she deliver 3 clothes to her client which they paid yesterday night so how come she complaining of not being able to buy food?? 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by pansophist(m): 2:38pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Magnoliaa: This is where the saying that ''actions speak louder than words'' becomes applicable. Financial assistance in a relationship, especially a young relationship should be discretionary, not dutiful. Although if I were him, I would grant some of her requests, and observe. But I won't grant requests that are continuous in nature such as her body creme, transport fare, or recharge card. I will also try to determine if it is a ''one-way'' relationship, by also asking her for requests, not necessarily financial, and see if she would grant it. All these might span within a period of three months maximum. Then I will decide if she is worth repairing, or worth dumping. A relationship should be a place where you help the other person grow, so before dumping, I will try to see if she is teachable. I will tell her that to me, she is the broke man she habitually avoids. It might even happen that she would be the one to break off since what she came into the relationship for is not coming. All in all, every relationship should be based on truism, honesty, and communication. 18 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by DanielsParker(m): 2:44pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
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Re: A Pattern I Noticed With Most Working Class Ladies Have Dated From 27yrs Old. by DanielsParker(m): 2:45pm On Nov 21, 2023 |
Godoverevery: Maybe she wants you to pay her for the weekend she spent with you. Funny but true, Nigerian girls monetize sex directly or indirectly. Like I said , add something to the 4500 she has .. then watch if this behavior will continue. As a Nigerian man, you really can’t avoid these kind of scenarios. 5 Likes |
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