i cant tell her to leave her husband nor can i tell her to report him what advice shd i give?

@OP,what and how do you mean by "abuses her" ?

@OP,
I am Lost.

she asked for my advice that why i cant just mind my own biz

by abuses; i mean beats and treats her with no respect

her husband has a secret lover for about 8yrs that he calls every now and then, sends her money, but the wife isnt sure if they see each other.
each time she decides to talk to her husband about how she feels, he shuts her now and he's never honest with her
its just so hard to know what to advise.

@Poster
u see marital issues are the most sensitive and when husband and wife don't give attention to what they may call little issues, this is always the end result. I believe that the husband was not always like this from day one, and as the wife, what was her reaction at the early stage of her husband sudden changed of attitude, or has her husband been beating her rite from onset? if yes, then it means that she was ready for it.

And u trying to help in term of advising her now, u have to be equally very careful so that u dont destroy what God has joined together. As it sounds now, I think whoever is going to advise - it could be u, should invite both of them together and advice than trying to solve the problem from one end.

Its well with them

thanks amtheone. i think u have a good point, talking to them both but im still praying about it cos the hubby might react negatively to the idea