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Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by realG101(m): 10:54am On Apr 12 |
Was having random gists with my gf some days ago when she popped a weird question. She was like 'hope you're not having any ideas about polygamy in this relationship' Although I responded swiftly dismissing any chance that I will be a polygamist. but then in my mind, I was like, is that really what I want? Being with the same woman for the rest of my life. It has bothered me for some days now and I realized that my answer to her that I won't take a second wife isn't entirely honest. This is a dilemma for me because personally my word is my bond. It's not my habit to say something and do the opposite. So it's scary that I have told this girl that I won't take a second wife. Is it just me or do most men low-key want multiple women to themselves? 2 Likes |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Ashez: 10:54am On Apr 12 |
Make I grab seat |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Jashub: 10:57am On Apr 12 |
Baba, you're the prize ; because you've worked your ass off to be where you are now . So why would you settle for one woman ... ![]() Just focus on success and making money . When you become that hgh-value man that women love and admire, na you go choose the number of women you want in bed. ![]() In fact, na you go dey hire and fire any person wey no fall in line with your vision and programming. ![]() 20 Likes |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Onuimo1(m): 11:01am On Apr 12 |
These days men go into polygamy based on different reasons. It's unlike during our forefathers when they married so that they will have children that will go to farm. These days some men marry 2nd wives because the 1st couldn't give birth. Some because they're not compatible with the 1st one anymore. But for some of us we're married with one and that's it for us. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Carcholce: 11:16am On Apr 12 |
realG101: You have to make it a habit when dealing with women. Learn to become unpredictable. They will love and respect you more. 9 Likes |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by helinues: 11:36am On Apr 12 |
Keeping a lady self na headache on its own not to talk of adding multiple junks. In order to be able to cheat successfully, you must be a chronic liar, irrespective of gender 2 Likes |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by MrCork: 11:41am On Apr 12 |
realG101: One womens??...bros how many times did u repet primary school sir??(((no oofencsece))) ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Sonnobax15(m): 11:43am On Apr 12 |
![]() One banny is big enough to make a man to start talking to himself while walking on the road.. |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Eunoiaa(f): 12:18pm On Apr 12 |
helinues: Not if he's honest about his polygamous tendencies. There are women who will not mind his being for the streets, so he should tell them upfront and not weigh himself with the 'burden' of commitment. 4 Likes |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by helinues: 12:19pm On Apr 12 |
Eunoiaa: Which lady would be comfortable about her guy cheating? 1 Like |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by y3mi(m): 12:22pm On Apr 12 |
Most women in their selfish thoughts and parochial way of viewing things often tend to conflate polygamy with promiscuity. Polygamy curbs, if not eliminate promiscuity while monogamy Bo only aids it, enables all factors that warrant it. If one man marries one woman, who married the remaining rest? They are the ones who lures and entice the married men. All this issues should be blamed on the menfolk. Men are responsibile for ruining everything. I have a lot analysis to share on this, but ain't got the strength now. Ps. One thing I have always disliked men/guys doing is - after going about destroying girls/ladies in their young sexually active life, introducing them to vices, and badly things or by demanding such from them in order to fulfil a puerile fantasy they will outgrow as they mature, when ready to settle down and start a family, they now not only complain and weep around about the scarcity of decent, tight, up-right, non-wayward girls/ladies who aren't b1tchy, but forgot that they contribute to their making. I think Nigerian men sometimes are fundamentally sick! 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Eunoiaa(f): 12:25pm On Apr 12 |
helinues: Not "cheating." I know ladies who actively work to be 'second wives.' There are even some side chicks that now call themselves 'sister wives' and call the man 'our man.' If he has something they are looking for in a man that they probably cannot from anyone else, they might not mind sharing him. ![]() My own is just that everybody should be upfront about what they want so they can find themselves easily and with less wahala. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by helinues: 12:28pm On Apr 12 |
Eunoiaa: Meaning our ladies are becoming so low be that. Second wife for what? Side chick fun kini? So as reasonable number of them have forgotten about their future dreams all in the name of marriage |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by realG101(m): 12:34pm On Apr 12 |
MrCork: Lol typo, been corrected |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Eunoiaa(f): 12:34pm On Apr 12 |
helinues: Not our ladies lol. Some ladies. But whatever rocks their boat. Not everybody has such lofty dreams and especially about themselves and it's okay, really. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by LordIsaac(m): 12:53pm On Apr 12 |
Wife? No! It’s not easy with one…what’s lacking in that one that you’ll need another for? 1 Like |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by y3mi(m): 12:58pm On Apr 12 |
Eunoiaa:Polygamy is not a tendency. It's also a commitment too. An uneasy one that requires dedication. You fell for the cognitive error laced in helinues faulty argument to have misconstrue polygamy with promiscuity as do most women and by undiscerning men. Polygamy is more like a life-long Titanic project one has to sail without hitting any iceberg, but which has more advantages, reward and merits than the codes disaster called monogamy. Howevee, I don't recommend polygamy in this modern world to a man who is not opulent. In fact I think all rich men should be polygamists and not live a life of pretence where "na-only-me-and-ny-wife" Is constantly faked. Not to digress.. Polygamy inhibits a proclivity to go dog-mode! Monogamy aka nuclear In yesterday's world (ancient), where there isn't capital (monetary funds, assets, investment, stocks, bonds etc) wherein only the amount of environmental resources a man's labour can muster dictates the number of women he can wives if he so chooses, was when even nuclear was supposed to be practiced. But instead polygamy was the default, while monogamy was a choice. But in today's world world where the wherewithall to maintain a normal relationship is directly expensive on the standard of living considered as standard in that society else would be judged as less of a man, in a world where capitalism is been practiced both brutally and viciously with no consequential regards to humanity. Monogamy should stop been the standard of any given society as it's not only built on the hypocrisy of men but also work hand in hand to empower spouse who can't shed off promiscuousness, 2 Likes |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Eunoiaa(f): 1:03pm On Apr 12 |
y3mi: So who asked for this lecture? What's my concern? ![]() Whether polygamy or promiscuity, if you sha like plenty women, stay loud about it, and be putting it on the table early. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by y3mi(m): 1:12pm On Apr 12 |
Eunoiaa:How does clarifying a misconception suddenly became a lecture. I don't care about your concern nor should you about mine. This is a forum for any readers to air their views and opinion not a lecture class. I agree that men should let it be known from the onset to a potential partner rather than placing a burden on them after the effect unannounced prior to. Whatever you meant about 'stay loud about' only makes sense to you. 2 Likes |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by y3mi(m): 1:13pm On Apr 12 |
helinues:was this topic / thread titled How To Successfully Get Away With Cheating? The thread I believe is about "if per eventually, wouldn't polygamy had been the appropriate choice of most who are now unhappy in their monogamous matrimony" and you wouldn't stick to that, you just had to project what monogamist hypocrites do into the topic when it is not about it, from involving justifications of why men cheating to the why the deceptions and lies are warranted. |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by helinues: 1:18pm On Apr 12 |
y3mi: She was like 'hope you're not having any ideas about polygamy in this relationship' You are the one trying to derail the thread Polygamy in a relationship is that not cheating? 2 Likes |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Kobicove(m): 1:33pm On Apr 12 |
Eunoiaa: This is true, a man can have multiple women with mutual consent ![]() |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by realG101(m): 1:34pm On Apr 12 |
helinues: Polygamy does not necessarily translate to cheating. The deciding factor is the rules of your relationship. Did you or not promise you spouse monogamy? If you didn't, then God nogo vex if you go Polygamous later in the relationship. It's will not be cheating in that instance |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Eunoiaa(f): 1:36pm On Apr 12 |
y3mi: We're good then 🤝. 1 Like |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by realG101(m): 1:39pm On Apr 12 |
Jashub: I agree with you for the most part. But imagine that you have a particular babe that was there when you were building your shit. She cheered you up when you were not yet wealthy and even supported financially. Will it be fair to take a second wife over her when you finally arrive especially if you are aware she wants monogamy. |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by realG101(m): 1:42pm On Apr 12 |
Carcholce: I don't quite agree. Yes, be unpredictable and mystical as a man, you are right on that. But being unpredictable is not the same as breaking someone's trust on an agreed pact 2 Likes |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Nonexisting1: 1:44pm On Apr 12 |
Having more than one vaginarian or fuccking more than one vaginarian, which one? You need to clarify. I don't have any but I fucck many.
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Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by Carcholce: 1:45pm On Apr 12 |
realG101: That means you are not ready to deal with the outside world yet. |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by realG101(m): 1:48pm On Apr 12 |
Sonnobax15: This is very funny. You no lie at all. But legend has it that a man can effectively neutralize negative emotions from a troublesome spouse by getting a side chic |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by helinues: 1:49pm On Apr 12 |
realG101: If you are not going to be sincere during the polygamous process, then you must be a liar. Simple as ABC 1 Like |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by idahme(m): 1:49pm On Apr 12 |
If she brings the money to sustain the relationship then I will be Happy to be a monogamist but if she isn't then she should forever remain silent and eat the little given to her. You can't have zero responsibilities and have hundred percent control it doesn't happen. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men, Are You Really Happy With Only One Woman by realG101(m): 1:57pm On Apr 12 |
Eunoiaa: Fair deal. The problem is that women want to eat their cake and have it. And I'm talking to African women here. Nigerian women in particular. You cannot demand monogamy from a man who already had his life together before you came along. If you were there to build a life from the scratch with him, yes you may be entitled to monogamy. But some of you won't even agree to split the cheque with him but want him to be focused on only you. No be juju be that. |
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