Dear Nairalanders,

My ex decided to end our relationship citing distance as excuse.I asked for some time to see how we can solve it.She agreed but on the condition that the relationship will be on a pause.I ghosted her for two weeks and she started reaching out with WhatsApp call and message checking up on me with the sentence I just wanted to say hi.


Well at some point I started having this feeling that she might be missing me .

Recently I reached out to one of her friends and her sis narrating the situation that I wanted to know if she has moved on with another person so I can face the reality.

The sis said she will try but didn't give me feedback.The friend just reach out to me after four days that She has replied her from their chat.

Anytime I put up a nice WhatsApp status post this girl will immediately post her pictures.

Could her refusal to answer her friend mean what?

I need only reasonable and matured response.

Any childish response I will totally ignore you like a pest.

God bless you all while I anticipate factual response. Cheers.

Long distance relationship is a scam. Either one party is faithful while the other is sleeping around, or they're both just doing their own things while pretending to love and miss each other.

geewean:
Dear Nairalanders,

My ex decided to end our relationship citing distance as excuse.I asked for some time to see how we can solve it.She agreed but on the condition that the relationship will be on a pause.I ghosted her for two weeks and she started reaching out with WhatsApp call and message checking up on me with the sentence I just wanted to say hi.


Well at some point I started having this feeling that she might be missing me .

Recently I reached out to one of her friends and her sis narrating the situation that I wanted to know if she has moved on with another person so I can face the reality.

The sis said she will try but didn't give me feedback.The friend just reach out to me after four days that She has replied her from their chat.

Anytime I put up a nice WhatsApp status post this girl will immediately post her pictures.

Could her refusal to answer her friend mean what?

I need only reasonable and matured response.

Any childish response I will totally ignore you like a pest.

God bless you all while I anticipate factual response. Cheers.

No matter what you do. Dont send her money and if you do, God punish you. Let her hussle even if it is with her toto... no man will do better than you unless you are at fault

This guy does NOT know what's going on.

A girl ABRUPTLY decided that the relationship is over because of distance that was NEVER an issue before.

OP cried and begged her NOT to leave him and she agreed. But she still INSISTED on putting the relationship on pause.



OP, there is a NEW diick in the picture. And your girl wants GUILT-FREE dicking.

OP is the wet dream of the average Nigerian girl. They get to Bleep whoever they want while locking down a lover boy that'd catch a grenade for them.

stop wasting your life/time/energy on long distance r/ships...

Thanks for your response.She works.No need for the swear .I just wanted to know the meaning of her refusing to reply her friend.

Samesame247:


No matter what you do. Dont send her money and if you do, God punish you. Let her hussle even if it is with her toto... no man will do better than you unless you are at fault

I agree with you bro.Because even when she said we should be in a break she kept insisting that we shouldn't tell anyone about the break.I think she is in a relationship while keeping me on side as a second option.

Thanks for this as this will help me ghost her forever.I appreciate

Namaster:
This guy does NOT know what's going on.

A girl ABRUPTLY decided that the relationship is over because of distance that was NEVER an issue before.

OP cried and begged her NOT to leave him and she agreed. But she still INSISTED on putting the relationship on pause.



OP, there is a NEW diick in the picture. And your girl wants GUILT-FREE dicking.

OP is the wet dream of the average Nigerian girl. They get to Bleep whoever they want while locking down a lover boy that'd catch a grenade for them.

MrBrownJay1:
stop wasting your life/time/energy on long distance r/ships...

Many thanks

Energy you for use buy nkwobi and panmi enjoy you dey do love.

When they see a new diik, they put the relationship on pause so they can cheat comfortably without feeling guilty.

Op just chill OK, when she's done cheating she'll come back to gaslight you and you both will continue from where you stopped. Don't give up yet

Just dey play, you nor go find another girl make you dey with before u go con dey tell us your heartbroken story.

She moved on already, do same bro.

geewean:
Dear Nairalanders,

My ex decided to end our relationship citing distance as excuse.I asked for some time to see how we can solve it.She agreed but on the condition that the relationship will be on a pause.I ghosted her for two weeks and she started reaching out with WhatsApp call and message checking up on me with the sentence I just wanted to say hi.


Well at some point I started having this feeling that she might be missing me .

Recently I reached out to one of her friends and her sis narrating the situation that I wanted to know if she has moved on with another person so I can face the reality.

The sis said she will try but didn't give me feedback.The friend just reach out to me after four days that She has replied her from their chat.

Anytime I put up a nice WhatsApp status post this girl will immediately post her pictures.

Could her refusal to answer her friend mean what?

I need only reasonable and matured response.

Any childish response I will totally ignore you like a pest.

God bless you all while I anticipate factual response. Cheers.

She may not want to reply her friend because she feels her friend has no right to know what’s happening with her or maybe she doesn’t want her friend involved.

If you’ll listen to me, go on a 30 day NO CONTACT.
Delete her number. Put your WhatsApp settings in a way that only your contacts from view your dp and about.
Don’t call or reply her chats even if you will…be the first to end the chat or call. “Hi, I’m busy rn..hope you’re good too? Have a nice day”
Stop accepting breadcrumbs from her! “I just called to say hi bla bla bla” please stop it!
And most importantly, focus on yourself. If she's for you..she’ll find her way back especially since she’s the one who initiated the break

thesicilian:
Long distance relationship is a scam. Either one party is faithful while the other is sleeping around, or they're both just doing their own things while pretending to love and miss each other.

Why didn’t u mention d third option “both could be faithful”. Make una learn to de believe in people. I’m sure if she was not giving him sex, e will learn to trust her. But as e don Bleep her now, see finish don enter n e wan begin de turn monitoring spirit.

You'd have to do some more investigation

Kinda seems like interpreting Nebuchadnezzar's dream which he didn't tell anyone

FitCorper:

Why didn’t u mention d third option “both could be faithful”. Make una learn to de believe in people. I’m sure if she was not giving him sex, e will learn to trust her. But as e don Bleep her now, see finish don enter n e wan begin de turn monitoring spirit.

The chances of both of them being faithful are very slim.

GEEWEAN ITS BETTER YOU LET GO OF HER NOW THAT SHE WANT TO END THE RELATION YOU CANT FORCE SOMEONE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU. OR ELSE YOU WILL REGRET THE OUTCOME LETTER MAYBE SHE ALREADY MOVE ON WITH SOMEONE ELSE SECRETLY WHO KNOWS JUST LET GO OF HER OR ELSE WHEN YOU NO EXPECT IN GO SERVE YOU BREAKFAST OOOO

Big thanks my brother

wizrose:
GEEWEAN ITS BETTER YOU LET GO OF HER NOW THAT SHE WANT TO END THE RELATION YOU CANT FORCE SOMEONE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU. OR ELSE YOU WILL REGRET THE OUTCOME LETTER MAYBE SHE ALREADY MOVE ON WITH SOMEONE ELSE SECRETLY WHO KNOWS JUST LET GO OF HER OR ELSE WHEN YOU NO EXPECT IN GO SERVE YOU BREAKFAST OOOO

Any thanks so much for your wisdom.I have effected the no contact rule Asap now.


Lat week Sunday I messaged her that she should Greer my father in law for me( cos she went through see her dad) and I said I won't give up unless she asks me to move on.


She replied with an 😊 and a thank you.

I was expecting her to tell me to move in if she was in a serious relationship.What do you think?

Clevagal:


She may not want to reply her friend because she feels her friend has no right to know what’s happening with her or maybe she doesn’t want her friend involved.

If you’ll listen to me, go on a 30 day NO CONTACT.
Delete her number. Put your WhatsApp settings in a way that only your contacts from view your dp and about.
Don’t call or reply her chats even if you will…be the first to end the chat or call. “Hi, I’m busy rn..hope you’re good too? Have a nice day”
Stop accepting breadcrumbs from her! “I just called to say hi bla bla bla” please stop it!
And most importantly, focus on yourself. If she's for you..she’ll find her way back especially since she’s the one who initiated the break

helinues:
She moved on already, do same bro.

If she has why would she still call to check up on me to say hi ?

geewean:

If she has why would she still call to check up on me to say hi ?

So breaking up with you now mean you guys are enemies to each others that can't communicate again without anything attached?

geewean:

If she has why would she still call to check up on me to say hi ?

You seem to be inexperienced and naive. Nobody should advice this young man any longer. He will only do what he wants.

True love or feelings or anything based on truth is not vague. It is not obscure, uncertain, unsure, and left in doubt. Like sunlight, it is clear, bright, can't be confused, and brings good vibes.

Now compare her attitudes with the preceding paragraph, and then you have your answer. I understand you are not in a good emotional state, but lying to yourself only postpones and increases the pain.

Move on.

This is puppy love 😁. Op is so cute! Don’t listen to these cynical people who have had their hearts broken.

helinues:


So breaking up with you now mean you guys are enemies to each others that can't communicate again without anything attached?

I understand better now.I have started detaching myself and not have any expectations anymore.

Jflex07:
You seem to be inexperienced and naive. Nobody should advice this young man any longer. He will only do what he wants.

Yesss I am but I have accepted the reality and have decided to move on.

geewean:
Any thanks so much for your wisdom.I have effected the no contact rule Asap now.


Lat week Sunday I messaged her that she should Greer my father in law for me( cos she went through see her dad) and I said I won't give up unless she asks me to move on.


She replied with an 😊 and a thank you.

I was expecting her to tell me to move in if she was in a serious relationship.What do you think?

If you want that girl to value you.. you better go “no contact”
Don’t text her to greet anybody. Don’t text her “happy sunday or birthday” ghost her!
And I don’t know why you told her that you’d keep trying until she tells you to move on…she will only look at you like a simp! I’m a girl and I’m telling you the absolute truth.
That girl doesn’t rate you…the only way she will rate you is if you ghost her completely. Stop texting her friend too! Focus on improving yourself. Go to the gym. Meet new people. Hang out with the opposite sex. If you do this correctly, she’ll come begging for you and when she does, don’t act like you’ve waited for that moment all your life.. you act BUSY. Don’t reply fast. Always miss a call then pick the second or call back after 12 hours.

geewean:

If she has why would she still call to check up on me to say hi ?

Stop taking breadcrumbs. She’s only calling to check up on you so when whatever relationship she has going on now fails..she’ll fall back to you as second or maybe third option. Trust me..you don’t want to be anyone’s second option because even if you get married..she’ll still leave if she sees someone else. One thing I’m 100% sure of, that girl doesn’t love you!

Clevagal:


If you want that girl to value you.. you better go “no contact”
Don’t text her to greet anybody. Don’t text her “happy sunday or birthday” ghost her!
And I don’t know why you told her that you’d keep trying until she tells you to move on…she will only look at you like a simp! I’m a girl and I’m telling you the absolute truth.
That girl doesn’t rate you…the only way she will rate you is if you ghost her completely. Stop texting her friend too! Focus on improving yourself. Go to the gym. Meet new people. Hang out with the opposite sex. If you do this correctly, she’ll come begging for you and when she does, don’t act like you’ve waited for that moment all your life.. you act BUSY. Don’t reply fast. Always miss a call then pick the second or call back after 12 hours.

Many thanks dear.I appreciate and don't know how to keep in touch with you .I have solidify my mind totally to COMPLETELY ghost her even if she goes no problem life goes on.

Clevagal:


Stop taking breadcrumbs. She’s only calling to check up on you so when whatever relationship she has going on now fails..she’ll fall back to you as second or maybe third option. Trust me..you don’t want to be anyone’s second option because even if you get married..she’ll still leave if she sees someone else. One thing I’m 100% sure of, that girl doesn’t love you!

Exactly my mind don strong now.

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