lonelydora:
There's a difference between having a separate room and sleeping together.

If she will have her separate room and sleep with her husband, then, there's no issue. But is she wants to have her room and still sleep in that room while husband sleeps in another room, it's a red flag.

She wants to be doing dirty chats with her ex-boyfriends. She might even be a l*sbian.

Innomach:
Common sense should tell you that it will be almost impossible to share same room, same bed with someone without having body contact or talks. But when you are in separate rooms, one can simply walk into his/her room, bolt the door and that's the end..... Certain issues are best resolved faster by intimacy than words.

Ishilove:

Yezzur

We4all:


The man is obviously a traditional man and wired in a certain way. If he doesn't like the idea, he should take a bow. It's not by force.

immortalcrown:
Who you are before marriage determines who you will be in marriage. Stop fooling yourself. My concept or understanding of marriage will not allow me desire to have a separate room when I get married.

Mariangeles:
Separate bedrooms in marriage is nonsense!
Couples who have separate bedrooms will hardly be able to resolve issues in their marriage (quickly).
Whoever wants a separate bedroom in marriage is selfish and simply not ready for marriage.

CaptainGo:
You know nothing about marriage my friend.

Get married first. Revisit this post after 3 years, and you would understand why staying in different rooms is no big deal.

You cannot come and tell married people what works and what doesn't.

hammer567:
MY BROTHER, AT LEAST THIS WAY, NOBODY GO TAKE KNIFE CUT YOUR PRICK, IF U DEY SLEEP.


MAKE SURE U LOCK YOUR DOOR WITH BOT AND KEYS.


NO MORE SLEEPING WITH ONE EYE OPEN AFTER U AND MADAM FIGHT.

Jeon:
I support separate bedrooms .At least one suppose to have a private space and time.
No be everytime I go dy inhale someone's breathe, odour, or fart.

AskNgige2:
Reason why I suppose to abolish marriage,
But we can have kids, knack but live our separate ways..

Try friends with benefits and see how peaceful it is..

LeeSmart:
Omor before i met my wife i use to date the daughter of the current CoS to the gov. of benue state, she told me daht if i eventually get married to her daht we're going to have our seperate bed rooms nd she was serious about, no be me u go do daht kind play with. Daht was how the relationship died a natural death.

godofuck231:
Na to employ BBL house girl , only to serve him na , she can't send his maid on any errand while in 5he house ,all those hot Brazilian maids

Faposky95:


You're not married....!

descarado:

Intimaty sweeps problems under the carpet. It does not solve it cos when it happens next time, you will lament that no solution was reached before. This is not girlfriend-boyfriend relationship but marriage.

loveoris:
Is it su a heated lady what she wants.

Hear me out!!!

lol

hammer567:
MY BROTHER, AT LEAST THIS WAY, NOBODY GO TAKE KNIFE CUT YOUR PRICK, IF U DEY SLEEP.


MAKE SURE U LOCK YOUR DOOR WITH BOT AND KEYS.


NO MORE SLEEPING WITH ONE EYE OPEN AFTER U AND MADAM FIGHT.

We4all:


The man is obviously a traditional man and wired in a certain way. If he doesn't like the idea, he should take a bow. It's not by force.

loveoris:
Is it such a bad idea though? I mean, to actually want separate bedrooms from your husband? Maybe his room bigger, the Master bedroom to accommodate both parties but another smaller separate room for wifey....just saying.

An intending couple got into a heated argument just a few weeks before their wedding when during a conversation the wife stated that she wanted her own bedroom. The man didn't take it to heart at first assuming she was joking, but soon enough realized the pretty lady wasn't joking at all. She meant every word of it. This ensued in a huge argument that dragged on for days. Members of the family and friends even got involved at some point. I remember my dad calling to ask me how I felt about the whole situation, my answer was pretty much simple- Give the young lady what she wants.

Hear me out!!!

Firstly, the space is not an issue, its not like they need to go buy or rent another house to accommodate this arrangement. They own a house of their own that has enough rooms that nobody uses.
Secondly, her reasons are very valid, which probably would be my reasons too. We don't always want to talk, be cuddled or argue, sometimes we just need our space to think clearly and enjoy the solitude. She went ahead to say she doesn't like herself during her menstrual phase so she stays away from everyone, doesn't go to work, she is just indoor writhing in pain and consoling herself. She would like to continue with that without having to bother or lash out at her husband simply because she is in pain. She made him understand that he is only fighting it because he has been conditioned traditionally that they must have the same room. However, if he is been truthful to himself he would realize that alone times can't be bought with money, doesn't mean they don't love each other anymore, it just means there is a need for recharge.

Her other reason was she wouldn't want her siblings or very close friends to ever have a reason to step into their matrimonial bedroom, which is the husband's room.
Her last reason, very valid too, is that she is quite a clumsy person, she looks for one outfit for the day and the whole place is upside down, her husband however is very neat freak and loves everything exactly how they should be. She said she wants to have her freedom and be able to have her things in a separate room, that way her mess is out of his face.

I personally think its a great idea for a woman to have a separate room that is hers, she can decorate it to her taste, have her me times, like her own closet. Even though most of the night I will be in my husband's room cuddled up, cos what is sleep without my man. But I'd love to know the option is there for me when I need to be alone for whatever reason. Moreso, the room is not going to be out of bound to my husband, he can always come in whenever he wants, the bed will be big enough for two, just incase the HS ministers to us right there....lol

immortalcrown:
Nonsense! That means she is incompatible with the man.

Just admit that you don't understand the meaning of marriage and the level of commitment that is required in marriage. Anybody, whether male or female, who plans to not share a room with his or her future spouse will not be commited and sincere in the marriage. The inability or the unwillingness to share one room clearly means incompatibility. Quote me anywhere.

All the reasons presented in this article are childish. Only two of those reasons appear a bit reasonable but are not enough for someone not to share one room with his or her spouse. Let me address those two reasons.

1.
Menstrual pain:
When she battles with the menstrual pain in her separate room, is the husband expected to check on her? If yes, why should she have a separate room? Is it not easier for the husband to check on her when they share the same room? Or should he not check on her? If yes, who will be blamed if she becomes unconscious and something goes wrong? If pregnancy disturbs her and she vomits and becomes too weak to feed herself or put her room in order, will the husband be expected to take care of her in the situation? If yes, it is wrong for her to use menstrual pain as an excuse to have a separate room. If unfortunately she becomes bedridden to urinate and defecate in bed, will the husband be expected to take care of her? If yes, why should she use menstrual pain as an excuse to have a separate room?

2.
Giving her siblings and her friends access to her own room:
What will a married woman keep or do in her matrimonial home that her husband is not worthy to know but her siblings and her friends are worthy to know? Answer this very question if you are not supporting infidelity in marriage. Remember that infidelity is not only about sex.

Every other reason presented in the article is very silly. You know that you keep rooms untidy but you are not willing to adjust and learn how to tidy up your room. You now want to use that bad attitude as an excuse to have a separate room. Any adult that identifies his or her weakness and is not willing to work on it is very insincere and manipulative. Quote me anywhere.