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You should leave her alone and sort yourself out.

EreluRoz:
You should leave her alone and sort yourself out.

I'm trying to but sometimes I just want to talk to her.

Update147:


I'm trying to but sometimes I just want to talk to her.

You need therapy.

It happen. And once it happen, psychiatric doctor is needed.

It means that both of you are compatible.
Marry her.

Hollybratt:
It happen. And once it happen, psychiatric doctor is needed.

Lol... I am very serious about my post.
I am scared that overthinking should not make me fall into depression

imagrg:
It means that both of you are compatible.
Marry her.

That's not enough reason to marry her.

Update147:
I've been dating a girl for some years now, and during the period of time that we dated some ugly incidents happened that made the relationship unideal for us.
So gradually we both going our separate ways, but the more I keep my distance from her, the more I want her in my life.
The worse part is, if she comes back to me I will start regretting that I don't want her in my life.
And if she goes I will start saying I want her back.
I personally do not know what is wrong with me.
Has anyone had any of such experience??
Please I want someone to tell me what is wrong.

I was in this state some time last year and two years ago. It was so tough for me that at some point, it felt like I was being malicious.

I know I wanted the lady, but things didn't seem to be working out. Thankfully, I changed location towards the end of last year and for me, it has been helpful.

I miss her a lot, because she's a pretty good woman, but the distance and "busyness" have helped tremendously. Like someone said above, you need to sort out yourself, and you can't do that by seeing or communicating with her frequently. Otherwise, you'll keep hurting her and yourself.

Sort yourself out bro.

GreatVocalist:

I was in this state some time last year and two years ago. It was so tough for me that at some point, it felt like I was being malicious.

I know I wanted the lady, but things didn't seem to be working out. Thankfully, I changed location towards the end of last year and for me, it has been helpful.

I miss her a lot, because she's a pretty good woman, but the distance and "busyness" have helped tremendously. Like someone said above, you need to sort out yourself, and you can't do that by seeing or communicating with her frequently. Otherwise, you'll keep hurting her and yourself.

Sort yourself out bro.

Thanks, I think your advise makes a lot of sense.

Update147:


Thanks, I think your advise makes a lot of sense.

Thanks for acknowledging.

Experientially, I can confidently say that if you drastically reduce communication with her, with time you'll find balance in your emotions.

That doesn't mean you've stopped loving her, it means you've gained control over your emotions. Then you'd learn to restrict your heart from getting in the way of your head.

Update147:


Lol... I am very serious about my post.
I am scared that overthinking should not make me fall into depression

Date someone else.....
Don't be a low self esteem/ low sense of self guy....

Oga Ade date someone else.....

advanceDNA:


Date someone else.....
Don't be a low self esteem/ low sense of self guy....

Oga Ade date someone else.....

#smiles
I'm actually seeing someone else already. But I still think about the other girl.

What was the root of the ugly incident? Are you the cause or the lady is the cause?
Maybe it's you guilt that is working on you and making you to eat the lady more

Dy don use sex scatter your brain

Update147:
I've been dating a girl for some years now, and during the period of time that we dated some ugly incidents happened that made the relationship unideal for us.
So gradually we both going our separate ways, but the more I keep my distance from her, the more I want her in my life.
The worse part is, if she comes back to me I will start regretting that I don't want her in my life.
And if she goes I will start saying I want her back.
I personally do not know what is wrong with me.
Has anyone had any of such experience??
Please I want someone to tell me what is wrong.

Go and listen to Jahmiel - trust issues. You go de alright.

FitCorper:

Go and listen to Jahmiel - trust issues. You go de alright.

I just listened to the song.. "the jamz enter"
Had to listen carefully to the chorus before I could get the message.
Thanks man

Nemesis0147:
Dy don use sex scatter your brain

You are not far from the point...

She is the only girl I admire after sex, every other girl, after sex I go even dey vex to see them.

I nor know the kind wahala when I done enter so.

Update147:


I just listened to the song.. "the jamz enter"
Had to listen carefully to the chorus before I could get the message.
Thanks man

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