I observed this when i go to shopping malls and public places. You see a pretty and happy wife with good looking kids. You would expect the husband to be happy too but you would see him wearing a forlorn look without acknowledging the wife or kids except to periodically scold the kids when they are playing too much.

Why is it that the men never look happy?

Iamblessed85:
I observed this when i go to shopping malls and public places. You see a pretty and happy wife with good looking kids. You would expect the husband to be happy too but you would see him wearing a forlorn look without acknowledging the wife or kids except to periodically scold the kids when they are playing too much.

Why is it that the men never look happy?

Because all your topics are always questioning people..

Men are going through a lot.

Have you ever seen happy goat in midst of lions?


Women are killers

Are you married? If you are not, when you do, you will get the answer you desire.

The first four comments on this thread shows most are scared of marriage

But then nobody is forcing you to be entangled with with women in one terrible institution... You all sounded like you'd be marrying out of your own will

Who nor go nor know... It cuts both ways really.
Only that women are good at keeping happy faces for the sake of their children and society... While fading away from the inside.

So many miserable married people abound. That's a sad reality people get to live with daily.

We could go on and on about the reasons for this.

Men in marriage are like men in prison, same demeanor. When next you see a married man, have pity on him because he is going through a lot. That's the reason marriage is not for people like me who just want to live peacefully and exit this world peacefully. Cheers to all of us who have sworn never to domesticate street dogs.

Because women fake happiness more than men do. The woman is mostly not happy too, but she fakes it for her children and haters.

Men are more real when it comes to emotions and expressions of feeling.

A woman will not like a man but still get down with him and even moan the loudest while, a man will not even rise to start with. You get

OP, you are correct. 👍

Come to Delta Mall, ShopRite, Warri and you will see your Exact point.

It is Simply because the Husband is BROKE, HEAVILY IN DEBT and the Ignorant Wife still forced him to go For the Outings
by Secretly Telling the Children 'Tell your Daddy that you want to go to ShopRite'.

Because say some those men na sadist, so what do you expect

He knows how much that outing alone will cost him.

Because he is not financially stable.
A man that earns enough money to fund his family life will be very happy in such scenario.

How can you expect somebody who's about to spend money unnecessarily to be happy at the same time?

Iamblessed85:
I observed this when i go to shopping malls and public places. You see a pretty and happy wife with good looking kids. You would expect the husband to be happy too but you would see him wearing a forlorn look without acknowledging the wife or kids except to periodically scold the kids when they are playing too much.

Why is it that the men never look happy?

Coz the outing wasn't approved by him but for peace to reign and to have access to the body at night

I've been married for over 15 years so i guess I have a bit of experience. We are are not forlorn or unhappy we are actually enjoying that those we love are having a great time on us. We look that way because we are on alert and in protective mode. Assessing all dangers that the kids or wifey cannot in their lives fathom.

blaksril:
I've been married for over 15 years so i guess I have a bit of experience. We are are not forlorn or unhappy we are actually enjoying that those we love are having a great time on us. We look that way because we are on alert and in protective mode. Assessing all dangers that the kids or wifey cannot in their lives fathom.

yes o o. you have to be at alert especially if you have daughters

Iamblessed85:
I observed this when i go to shopping malls and public places. You see a pretty and happy wife with good looking kids. You would expect the husband to be happy too but you would see him wearing a forlorn look without acknowledging the wife or kids except to periodically scold the kids when they are playing too much.

Why is it that the men never look happy?

I will answer this question sincerely as a happily married man.


There are many reasons for this and it also depends on the man and how happy he is in his marriage.


First reason is this; men carry a lot of financial burden as soon as they become married with kids, this take a toll on many men and usually deprive them their former joyous life.

The wife and kids don't know how the money used to sponsor them to the mall came about, all they know is to be happy and enjoy the moment while the husband who sponsored the outing is there brainstorming on how to stay financially afloat and to avoid going broke. Every successful man fears going back to financial lack. So while wifey and kids are busy flexing themselves, hubby is cracking his brain on how to balance the expenses and what to do to recover the money being spent.



While some, it could be as a result of promiscuity. If the man is a chronic womanizer, he could be scared and cautious of stumbling upon one of his side chicks.


Another reason is if the man was forced to the mall by his nagging wife. Some women force their husbands to do these things. Maybe the man is not the outgoing type; most men don't like going out, some start learning it after marriage just to please their wife and kids.


Like me for instance, I am not an outgoing person. I don't like crowd. I love privacy a lot right from when I was single. I prefer staying alone or with close friends in a private environment. I get nervous when I see crowd. Sometimes I become confused and moody when in midst of crowd and this started right from when I was a teen, and I am observing same trait in my son.

The financial obligations of a married man are enormous and his mind state is usually in a state of calculation, projection, troubleshooting, balancing a situation before it even happens.


When a man is out shopping in a mall like that; while his wife is busy picking what they need, the kids are busy with Impulse purchases (stuff not planned for but they want it), the man mentally goes into a state of calculation and how to influence everyone decisions to shop prudently. While doing this, he is also mentally planning for tomorrow expenditures as well.

The wife doesn't share that mental burden except she is the bread winner of the family and kids wouldn't understand what it means to be a bread winner.


That's why men always have that look.

Men who are rich never have such look, they would be the one at the fore front asking their kids, do you want this or that — or sometimes remain in the car while the wife and kids go into the mall.

Could be it's the wife and kids idea to gooo out... He is the 'Ubar Driver'.

blaksril:
I've been married for over 15 years so i guess I have a bit of experience. We are are not forlorn or unhappy we are actually enjoying that those we love are having a great time on us. We look that way because we are on alert and in protective mode. Assessing all dangers that the kids or wifey cannot in their lives fathom.

You actually speak for a very small circle of men.

As for assessing all dangers... It's just God o.

Divoc19:
Because women fake happiness more than men do. The woman is mostly not happy too, but she fakes it for her children and haters.

Men are more real when it comes to emotions and expressions of feeling.

A woman will not like a man but still get down with him and even moan the loudest while, [b]a man will not even rise to start with. [/b]You get

You know nothing about male physiology.

To secetly observe yash

Nonexisting1:
Men in marriage are like men in prison, same demeanor. When next you see a married man, have pity on him because he is going through a lot. That's the reason marriage is not for people like me who just want to live peacefully and exit this world peacefully. Cheers to all of us who have sworn never to domesticate street dogs.

This right here ..

I can't tell if it's a proverbs or a friggin jab...

The man has a forlorn look cause that outing would have all the expense on him, the wife won't bother to even say lemme pay for this.. everything na the husband ..


It's just like one using her money to eat all sorts of shiit and going to her husband to ask him to pay the bills for painting her nails ..


Who wouldn't wear a forlorn look in this situation..

Women are always told to smile in society. But nobody questions a man's stone somber look.

A305:
The financial obligations of a married man are enormous and his mind state is usually in a state of calculation, projection, troubleshooting, balancing a situation before it even happens.


When a man is out shopping in a mall like that; while his wife is busy picking what they need, the kids are busy with Impulse purchases (stuff not planned for but they want it), the man mentally goes into a state of calculation and how to influence everyone decisions to shop prudently. While doing this, he is also mentally planning for tomorrow expenditures as well.

The wife doesn't share that mental burden except she is the bread winner of the family and kids wouldn't understand what it means to be a bread winner.


That's why men always have that look.

Men who are rich never have such look, they would be the one at the fore front asking their kids, do you want this or that — or sometimes remain in the car while the wife and kids go into the mall.

Don't have kids if you can't afford them. They made their bed, they should lie in it.

Iamblessed85:
I observed this when i go to shopping malls and public places. You see a pretty and happy wife with good looking kids. You would expect the husband to be happy too but you would see him wearing a forlorn look without acknowledging the wife or kids except to periodically scold the kids when they are playing too much.

Why is it that the men never look happy?

Because when we go to toilet we don't laugh

1Sharon:


Don't have kids if you can't afford them. They made their bed, they should lie in it.

the problem is not the kids, its the wife ..

If she was supportive enough, everything is gon be alright..

Because 9 times out of 10, he's the one footing the bill for the wellbeing of the happy family. The moment he falls short of being the breadwinner, both society and that same wife will call him a useless man and publicly ridicule him.

Add the frustration of Tinubu economy to the picture and you get the complete image of a man who is living on the edge and trying to keep things together in an increasingly difficult situation.

Iamblessed85:
I observed this when i go to shopping malls and public places. You see a pretty and happy wife with good looking kids. You would expect the husband to be happy too but you would see him wearing a forlorn look without acknowledging the wife or kids except to periodically scold the kids when they are playing too much.

Why is it that the men never look happy?

A305:
The financial obligations of a married man are enormous and his mind state is usually in a state of calculation, projection, troubleshooting, balancing a situation before it even happens.


When a man is out shopping in a mall like that; while his wife is busy picking what they need, the kids are busy with Impulse purchases (stuff not planned for but they want it), the man mentally goes into a state of calculation and how to influence everyone decisions to shop prudently. While doing this, he is also mentally planning for tomorrow expenditures as well.

The wife doesn't share that mental burden except she is the bread winner of the family and kids wouldn't understand what it means to be a bread winner.


That's why men always have that look.

Men who are rich never have such look, they would be the one at the fore front asking their kids, do you want this or that — or sometimes remain in the car while the wife and kids go into the mall.

Silentgroper:
the problem is not the kids, its the wife ..

If she was supportive enough, everything is gon be alright..

Supportive in what way?

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