I have a fiance that I have already proposed to and we are planning on getting married this September. But I noticed that she won't let me touch her before marriage which I think she was just trying to maintain her standard. I also noticed that she doesn't like coming to my place to help me do anything. As a matter of fact, she has never helped me do anything in my house. She has never cooked for me in my house, she has never helped me clean the house, she has never washed my clothes etc. Rather, she stormed my house one very early morning and woke me up just to drag me that I have not been spending money the way she wants on her. I was pissed off and told her that she too has not been satisfied any of my expectations to determine whether she's a marriageable type. She kept quiet and gave me incognito mode for a whole month only for her to return back this time around to resume her attitude of demanding. My last born brother however has been living with me and does all those works for me and doesn't give me stress at all. Instead, she's insisting that when we get married she doesn't want him around in my house. I also noticed that she's doesn't want people around me. She wants herself alone to handle anyone she finds in my life like my family members, friends etc. I tested her one day by asking her for 1k to pay for sth urgent and she quickly knocked it off and diverted topic. I lost my job since last year August and has been doing tailoring job to survive and she's very much aware. Now, I notice that anytime she comes to my house, she comes with lists of demands she writes on paper I must do for her. Sometimes I might work late into the night just to meet my financial target and that's exactly when she wants to see me. And if I take longer time that night to see her, she gets angry and when I still see her that night, it's always fresh sets of demands.

My mind has been telling me a lot of things. But am confused whether it's just me thinking out of point or something else or am blind. I have made commitments towards settling down with her and have even seen her people. I don't know what to do especially on the fact that my people have given me ultimatum that I must marry a woman this year.

RUN!!!

You have given a number of reasons why you have doubts. So why have you proposed to her and gone to see her parents if I may ask?

Your people gave you an ultimatum to marry this year, as a kid you are abi, and to make matters worse, a blood sucking witch is playing tetris with your life and you are here considering wifing her to complete her mission.
Goodluck bro

You mentioned that she comes to you with a lot o demand, but you didn't say if you have been attending to them or not! If you have, RUN

If you haven't, she may be seeing you as a tightfisted person and that's why she's not doing a wife duty as a girlfriend she is still is.

Maeve7:
You have given a number of reasons why you have doubts. So why have you proposed to her and gone to see her parents if I may ask?

I felt am in love and overlooked her issues. But after proposing and going to see her people, that's when her demanding attitudes and stubborn insistence that my baby brother should leave started. It's becoming a horror to me now that she might not care about me. Even knowing that am currently jobless but am the hustling type as well and that I have been struggling hard to meet the demands of bride price and lists from her people and all the expenses to be made all alone on me, she's still making annoying demands and adding expenses I must make for her personally despite the fact that I have told her to pipe low her demands until the marriage is over considering that am the only one shouldering the expenses alone and am not expecting help from anywhere as no one is there to help me.

ayourbamie:
You mentioned that she comes to you with a lot o demand, but you didn't say if you have been attending to them or not! If you have, RUN

If you haven't, she may be seeing you as a tightfisted person and that's why she's not doing a wife duty as a girlfriend she is still is.

I have been meeting some of them. But my energy is on the marriage events itself and which I have sat her down to explain but it seems she doesn't have that feelings for me.

Ethanuella:
RUN!!!

You said it all

Alaye resign.

Lawly:
I have a fiance that I have already proposed to and we are planning on getting married this September. But I noticed that she won't let me touch her before marriage which I think she was just trying to maintain her standard. I also noticed that she doesn't like coming to my place to help me do anything. As a matter of fact, she has never helped me do anything in my house. She has never cooked for me in my house, she has never helped me clean the house, she has never washed my clothes etc. Rather, she stormed my house one very early morning and woke me up just to drag me that I have not been spending money the way she wants on her. I was pissed off and told her that she too has not been satisfied any of my expectations to determine whether she's a marriageable type. She kept quiet and gave me incognito mode for a whole month only for her to return back this time around to resume her attitude of demanding. My last born brother however has been living with me and does all those works for me and doesn't give me stress at all. Instead, she's insisting that when we get married she doesn't want him around in my house. I also noticed that she's doesn't want people around me. She wants herself alone to handle anyone she finds in my life like my family members, friends etc. I tested her one day by asking her for 1k to pay for sth urgent and she quickly knocked it off and diverted topic. I lost my job since last year August and has been doing tailoring job to survive and she's very much aware. Now, I notice that anytime she comes to my house, she comes with lists of demands she writes on paper I must do for her. Sometimes I might work late into the night just to meet my financial target and that's exactly when she wants to see me. And if I take longer time that night to see her, she gets angry and when I still see her that night, it's always fresh sets of demands.

My mind has been telling me a lot of things. But am confused whether it's just me thinking out of point or something else or am blind. I have made commitments towards settling down with her and have even seen her people. I don't know what to do especially on the fact that my people have given me ultimatum that I must marry a woman this year.

All these red flags and you still want advice? Okay..marry her!

Is she your first girlfriend? Count yourself already lost If you fail to heed to advices you get here

Lawly:
I have a fiance that I have already proposed to and we are planning on getting married this September. But I noticed that she won't let me touch her before marriage which I think she was just trying to maintain her standard. I also noticed that she doesn't like coming to my place to help me do anything. As a matter of fact, she has never helped me do anything in my house. She has never cooked for me in my house, she has never helped me clean the house, she has never washed my clothes etc. Rather, she stormed my house one very early morning and woke me up just to drag me that I have not been spending money the way she wants on her. I was pissed off and told her that she too has not been satisfied any of my expectations to determine whether she's a marriageable type. She kept quiet and gave me incognito mode for a whole month only for her to return back this time around to resume her attitude of demanding. My last born brother however has been living with me and does all those works for me and doesn't give me stress at all. Instead, she's insisting that when we get married she doesn't want him around in my house. I also noticed that she's doesn't want people around me. She wants herself alone to handle anyone she finds in my life like my family members, friends etc. I tested her one day by asking her for 1k to pay for sth urgent and she quickly knocked it off and diverted topic. I lost my job since last year August and has been doing tailoring job to survive and she's very much aware. Now, I notice that anytime she comes to my house, she comes with lists of demands she writes on paper I must do for her. Sometimes I might work late into the night just to meet my financial target and that's exactly when she wants to see me. And if I take longer time that night to see her, she gets angry and when I still see her that night, it's always fresh sets of demands.

My mind has been telling me a lot of things. But am confused whether it's just me thinking out of point or something else or am blind. I have made commitments towards settling down with her and have even seen her people. I don't know what to do especially on the fact that my people have given me ultimatum that I must marry a woman this year.

If na someone this thing dey happen to, what would be your advice to the person?

Do you need the gods of your land to tell you how fast you should run?
Love doesn't make one stupid but from all indications, it seems she has used ya brain to prepare nkwobi hence you can't do without her.
You're lucky you ain't my brother because I don't understand this level of simpleton for someone who has never contributed to your growth in anyway.
Op, you are single know this and know peace. Find someoneelse who will build with you and not eat the little you have left🙄

Lawly:
I have a fiance that I have already proposed to and we are planning on getting married this September. But I noticed that she won't let me touch her before marriage which I think she was just trying to maintain her standard. I also noticed that she doesn't like coming to my place to help me do anything. As a matter of fact, she has never helped me do anything in my house. She has never cooked for me in my house, she has never helped me clean the house, she has never washed my clothes etc. Rather, she stormed my house one very early morning and woke me up just to drag me that I have not been spending money the way she wants on her. I was pissed off and told her that she too has not been satisfied any of my expectations to determine whether she's a marriageable type. She kept quiet and gave me incognito mode for a whole month only for her to return back this time around to resume her attitude of demanding. My last born brother however has been living with me and does all those works for me and doesn't give me stress at all. Instead, she's insisting that when we get married she doesn't want him around in my house. I also noticed that she's doesn't want people around me. She wants herself alone to handle anyone she finds in my life like my family members, friends etc. I tested her one day by asking her for 1k to pay for sth urgent and she quickly knocked it off and diverted topic. I lost my job since last year August and has been doing tailoring job to survive and she's very much aware. Now, I notice that anytime she comes to my house, she comes with lists of demands she writes on paper I must do for her. Sometimes I might work late into the night just to meet my financial target and that's exactly when she wants to see me. And if I take longer time that night to see her, she gets angry and when I still see her that night, it's always fresh sets of demands.

My mind has been telling me a lot of things. But am confused whether it's just me thinking out of point or something else or am blind. I have made commitments towards settling down with her and have even seen her people. I don't know what to do especially on the fact that my people have given me ultimatum that I must marry a woman this year.

Dump that lady...she isn't for you.

Lawly:


I felt am in love and overlooked her issues. But after proposing and going to see her people, that's when her demanding attitudes and stubborn insistence that my baby brother should leave started. It's becoming a horror to me now that she might not care about me. Even knowing that am currently jobless but am the hustling type as well and that I have been struggling hard to meet the demands of bride price and lists from her people and all the expenses to be made all alone on me, she's still making annoying demands and adding expenses I must make for her personally despite the fact that I have told her to pipe low her demands until the marriage is over considering that am the only one shouldering the expenses alone and am not expecting help from anywhere as no one is there to help me.

Why are you shouldering the expenses ALONE?
Then you get married to her, impregnate her and boom a 3rd mouth to feed aside extended family. The economy is HARD, don't add a BRAWLING wife to it.
Is she gainfully employed? What is she bringing to the table to ensure the success of the union?

See wetin person won marry!

Maybe na curse sha!

Lol, is this how you will be doing when you marry her

Working your ass out all because of woman. My brother he no worth am jare

But I can tell you if you continue with her she go first finish you, I mean finished all your savings. And japa for you

Lawly:


I felt am in love and overlooked her issues. But after proposing and going to see her people, that's when her demanding attitudes and stubborn insistence that my baby brother should leave started. It's becoming a horror to me now that she might not care about me. Even knowing that am currently jobless but am the hustling type as well and that I have been struggling hard to meet the demands of bride price and lists from her people and all the expenses to be made all alone on me, she's still making annoying demands and adding expenses I must make for her personally despite the fact that I have told her to pipe low her demands until the marriage is over considering that am the only one shouldering the expenses alone and am not expecting help from anywhere as no one is there to help me.

Anything that bothers you now will only bother you more after marriage. Don’t rush it if you have so many doubts. Marriage is till death do you part so you better be sure that this is the person you want to spend your life with. Nobody is perfect but you need to figure out which flaws and shortcomings you are able to tolerate for the rest of your life.

You will bring hell into your life. All the red flags are there for you to call off the damn relationship.

Senior bra ,is not too late to let her off the ring that you ,your self help her fix into her finger ,jux dat she needs to understand you more than you really do ,infact she should be willin' to make everything possible for both of you to get married an know the next step you guys a takin' .
An you can as well punish her silently by prosponin' the bride price ceremony till further notice(agreement btwn you an your self) ,jux to make sure she corporate with you .
Then is up to you

A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage goes the saying. So much red flags, the one for me is that she doesn't want to see any of your relatives around. Watch it 'cos she will alienate you from not only your family members, but your friends too. Such people are domineering, watch it!!

You are under a spell. Seek for deliverance

Abort mission.

RUN FOR YOUR LIFE NOW! That witch will ruin you completely and you will have nobody to turn to.
A word is enough for the wise, though you are not even sounding like a wise man

Lawly:


I felt am in love and overlooked her issues. But after proposing and going to see her people, that's when her demanding attitudes and stubborn insistence that my baby brother should leave started. It's becoming a horror to me now that she might not care about me. Even knowing that am currently jobless but am the hustling type as well and that I have been struggling hard to meet the demands of bride price and lists from her people and all the expenses to be made all alone on me, she's still making annoying demands and adding expenses I must make for her personally despite the fact that I have told her to pipe low her demands until the marriage is over considering that am the only one shouldering the expenses alone and am not expecting help from anywhere as no one is there to help me.

How ona dae use engagé girl ona no sleep with, nobody go tell me no sex before marriage. At the end you are on the loosing end should Incase anything happens

Lawly:
I have a fiance that I have already proposed to and we are planning on getting married this September. But I noticed that she won't let me touch her before marriage which I think she was just trying to maintain her standard. I also noticed that she doesn't like coming to my place to help me do anything. As a matter of fact, she has never helped me do anything in my house. She has never cooked for me in my house, she has never helped me clean the house, she has never washed my clothes etc. Rather, she stormed my house one very early morning and woke me up just to drag me that I have not been spending money the way she wants on her. I was pissed off and told her that she too has not been satisfied any of my expectations to determine whether she's a marriageable type. She kept quiet and gave me incognito mode for a whole month only for her to return back this time around to resume her attitude of demanding. My last born brother however has been living with me and does all those works for me and doesn't give me stress at all. Instead, she's insisting that when we get married she doesn't want him around in my house. I also noticed that she's doesn't want people around me. She wants herself alone to handle anyone she finds in my life like my family members, friends etc. I tested her one day by asking her for 1k to pay for sth urgent and she quickly knocked it off and diverted topic. I lost my job since last year August and has been doing tailoring job to survive and she's very much aware. Now, I notice that anytime she comes to my house, she comes with lists of demands she writes on paper I must do for her. Sometimes I might work late into the night just to meet my financial target and that's exactly when she wants to see me. And if I take longer time that night to see her, she gets angry and when I still see her that night, it's always fresh sets of demands.

My mind has been telling me a lot of things. But am confused whether it's just me thinking out of point or something else or am blind. I have made commitments towards settling down with her and have even seen her people. I don't know what to do especially on the fact that my people have given me ultimatum that I must marry a woman this year.

Where do you people find these sort of girls?

Women are holes. Their role is to take not to give

You’re a mumu man and I don’t give advice to mumu men

Can you read me,I repeat can u read me.May day,May day.lt me translate it in a lame man language,Mayday simple means Danger.My brother Run oooooo.