You are against paying upfront or front-end but that doesn't mean you don't pay at all. The energy, attention and time you spend with her before getting laid is also a form of payment meaning back-end so in essence All Men pay. It either you pay at the front-end or the back-end, NO P-sleeve is Free. Period!!

Afonja2000:
I have never given any woman money because I wanted to have sex with her or because I successfully had sex with her.

This may be a very unpopular opinion, but it is true.

I AM NOT OBLIGATED to giving you my money merely because I am asking you out and desire intimacy between us.

The one time I attempted doing this in Owerri, I fell violently ill and had to beg the lady to just leave with the money and not expect any action.

I wish more people understood that sex isn't an essential necessity for humans.

Sex is a LIBIDINAL need.

Sex is NOT an ESSENTIAL/SURVIVAL need.

You can live your FULL life span on earth as a human without sex and you WILL BE FINE.

But money?

Money is an ESSENTIAL need!

Especially in today's modern world.

You CANNOT survive without money.

Food, shelter, clothing, security and medical care aren't possible without money.

This is why I DO NOT consider money and sex worthy to be placed on the same pedestal of exchange and transaction.

It isn't balanced to equate a libidinal need to an essential/survival need in terms of exchange and barter currency.

Except you are dealing with a commercial sex worker who uses their skills in sex to satisfy the public and earn a living.

A man should give a woman money because he genuinely loves, cares for her and wishes her well.

A man should not give a woman money simply because she gave him an orgasm.

Exceptions can be made of course in the case of a wife whom it is your duty to provide for.

A sensible man does not give his wife money because she gives him sex styles, but because he loves her and swore an oath to do so till death separates them both.

This is also the case for a woman who bears your child for you.

Naturally, this instance is non-negotiable as well because you owe that woman your world because she risked her life to give you a child.

When I see men maltreating or neglecting women who gave them children, I shake my head because these men do not know the misfortune they are attracting to themselves from the universe.

But sex in itself being the sole reason you give a woman money?

Na.

It's even demeaning and undignifying to suggest this to an emancipated and independent woman.

I mean sex for money.

Sex is too basic these days.

Way way too basic.

Plus modern science and technology have even created alternatives for limitless sexual gratification not limited to masturbation.

Someone may say that not having sex at a certain age may predispose a man to prostate disease.

Na.

However a man chooses to establish ejaculations from time to time and stay healthy is entirely up to him.

With the necessary supplements, lifestyle and diet, a man can stay off sex till he's 90 and no health condition will come to him.

Personally if I meet a woman I like and we bond, I grow empathy for her needs and her problems begin to affect me as well.

It will be hard for me to see her struggle with a financial problem and not want to support in my own small way.

This is NOT me supporting her because I am OBLIGATED to doing so simply because our genitals are doing meet and greet.

This is me supporting her because I care for her and am drawn to her soul beyond her vagina, buttock muscles and mammary tendons.

Happy Sunday, umu nnem.

#ivaneagle
#ivanthemachine

Pauldollars:



You don't pay for sex, but you send girls that are not your wife money.
Omo no difference between you and person wey pay for sex

Pauldollars:



You don't pay for sex, but you send girls that are not your wife money.
Omo no difference between you and person wey pay for sex

onumadu:
Sex in a very complex thing with many moving parts...

Yes, I agree with the OP almost on all the points he listed, but it is because I can afford to agree with him!
What do I mean by that?
I mean I am a good looking man (and I suspect that the OP is one too, because he won't post this if he were not), so, from my first encounters with women, I never had any need to pay them for anything.
In fact they hustled to sleep with me when I was in upper teen but I flatly rejected it.
But while in uni, I had a friend who STRUGGLED to even gain attention from women, and I know how TOUGH it was for him to even "do", back then.
In fact I had to come to his rescue a few times by talking to the girls a few times and one agreed to date him just because of me (those who know know that guys do this). A woman can agree to date a man just because he has a handsome friend (whom she may be eying secretly). Love is a dangerous game!

Without such interventions, how do you tell a guy like that not to pay for sex?
So, when we make all these topics, we should spare thoughts for others who are not as privileged as us.

As for abstaining from sex altogether, it is possible, BUT it all depends on a person's natural sex drive.
Sex drive is purely natural. You cannot really control it. You can try though, and may succeed; but may fail.
That is why we have A LOT of scandals involving sex (mostly from people who pretend they can control themselves, only to do otherwise in secret).

My consistent advice to men is this: MARRY AS FAST AS YOU CAN so that you can have access to sex if you really need to have sex.

There are men who have low sex drive naturally, and who can live without sex lifelong without any "fall of the wagon" times.
But, please when it comes to sex, ALL ARE NOT EQUAL AT ALL.
One person may successfully abstain from it, while another may develop some illness for abstaining.

I just gave a nuanced comment, hoping not to be misunderstood.