No one can marry on a.salary of 30k.

Stop deceiving yourself...

Isn't it amusing that those of you who usually give this type of nonsense marriage advice are usually singles? You advise on what you have no experience in...

I beg don't go start problem you no fit solve

After thought. It can be done and this is how to go about it
1.Relocate back to your village in the village you can still rent a room for N1000
2. There you only need 3 big stone for cooking there is a lot of firewood in the village.
3. Marry from the village especially from village aristocrat
You are good to go

Men are trained to be givers no matter how small, if all you can do is feed your family well with your 30k go ahead.

Chai !
Women no wohwoh like this o !
Forget.. some men don go rob because dey wan do owambe party marriage... even redcapsule.. sorry, redpillers.

Starz825:
.... Marriage different sha....

Some pple na their parent go feed them till their leg go balance well well...

Very common with Yorubas...and it's a good idea...a lot of my mates married through this route..and most are doing fine now.

Anyway, regardless of what u are earning now ..it's just a phase, don't stay there...

keep moving, keep walking, keep looking for ideas, keep asking questions...keep solving problems....keep believing!!

You are absolutely right lol.
If not for this same pattern u mentioned, I would av been miserable or even gone 6ft with responsibilities. The month I resigned from my 20k hotel job out of frustration where about 15k goes to transportation, which also was the same month I got a loan of 1M to start up a business I have envisioned, my girlfriend (now wife) ran to me that she got pregnant. I was really devastated and trouble minded, after dragging back ND forth, I used half of the money to settle bills that comes with pregnancy ND did small introduction and she moved in with us in the family house. The other half of the money I used on a charcoal business wic didn't even manifest and it pack up few months later as the price of product skyrocket in the market.
To tell u it was my mom and my elder sister who kept me grounded as I do not have to bother majorly on food and I do so when I have enough from the little I earn from a patry teaching job I picked up whereas I have to provide for wife ND my daughter. I also do enjoy the support of my wife as she also has her business and we all just managing through.
I am very hopeful things will turn around, I am just buttressing ur point as u do not find anything bad to it, if not for this pattern, alot out there would av gone mad.....

If there's no support anywhere, if one like mk e go marry with 30k, him body go tell am....

If you think you can or cannot, you're probably right!

tensazangetsu20:
20 usd a month and thinking of marriage

Less than sef. mtcheww

In the ancient times of crop cultivation and cattle rearing, the was no guaranty of bountiful harvest in your first or second year of marriage. How did they do it?

santaclaws:


Maybe your own circle is filled with such Yoruba people but the Yorubas I know don't marry so that their family members can feed them... Lai lai!

So where did I say they marry so that their parent can feed..... in fact most of these people are the ones who gets their gf pregnant unprepared....and marriage needs to be done....

I even said 'some'.... didn't say all....even at that..do you think everyone is rich enough to start a family... Or you think most of our parent married when they had all....but look at them today living their best life...

Very obvious..you just blowing things out of proportion...

No wahala..

Don't try it please

Great point. I was living in a shared room as a single person, married and continued to live in a shared room...meaning we even shared bathroom and kitchen as a couple. It all depends on marrying the right person, so yall can live within your means. I know young couples living comfortably in a room self contained. So if you make N30k and she makes about the same amount...that is N60k per month, about N720k per year. Your housing should be at the most 25% of your income so that's N180k per year rent. That can only afford you a room self contained. The couple can put their heads together and hustle doing other services. Hold off on having children because baby expenses are unpredictable until income goes up. That is the way to do it. Waiting till you are buoyant to marry is not a given. Sometimes you actually need a partner to guide you and some carry spirit of success with them...just do not marry wrong, cos both parties will be frustrated on top inadequate income.

seunoladele:


© Seun Oladele, 2O23; reposted, 2O24.
talktoseunoladele@gmail.com

Starz825:

So where did I say they marry so that their parent can feed..... in fact most of these people are the ones who gets their gf pregnant unprepared....and marriage needs to be done....

I even said 'some'.... didn't say all....even at that... Do you think most of our parent married when they had all....but look at them today living their best life...

Very obvious..you just blowing things out of proportion...

No wahala..

Oga, next time, don't say such demeaning things about your tribe (if truly you're Yoruba). I am a Yoruba man and the calibre of people I know in my own tribe don't marry poor and end up getting fed by their family members. It's an insult to our tribe and this is a very popular opinion among Igbos when they talk about Yorubas so, I had to call you out...

Carry on motivational speaker. Na poverty and hardship go scatter the young marriage. Suffer no dey tire you.

Na you know. Marriage isn’t about how much I’m making at the moment. It’s about how much I’ve saved. Una go carry the institution for mind for whatever reason. Maybe una think na enjoyment, last last. Marriage na suffer immediately the wedding end till your children exit the home as adults. It all depends on who your partner is and if he/she is ready to ride the wave of life with you.

Koppaguard:
The comments here so far are highly bias and immensely lopsided, Op made a point, it's not about how much you earn, but how much you can manage while pushing for a better life. Some of our parents trained us with less than 30k per month and that didn't stop us from becoming responsible children. All fingers are not equal, what about people in interior villages with nothing but farm work as a means of livelihood, are they not living quality life according to their level, everybody must not be rich, some don't even care, they just want to be comfortable and afford basic things of life. I will use myself as an instance, my parent trained me with less than 30k salary till I graduated from the University, though Unizik fee then was 21k, I served my country last year, though I haven't gotten a job yet but I send 60k to them monthly for upkeep, all thanks to God and my tech skill as a Web developer. It's not about how much you earn, but how much you can manage the little you have and also invest some parts in what will increase yield. You don't need millions to start investment, even with a paltry 5k or 10k, you can double it if you have business acumen.

Tell me a business I can invest 1 million naira into and will yield good returns

CaveAdullam:
The good thing about such people as the OP/author is that you don't see them in real life to counter them squarely and rub their faces with their ridiculous ideologies.

Despite his useless take, he did make some reasonable and good points: savings and living within your means. However, we must be careful not to swallow the gibberish because of this.

The return on investment in marriage is nothing. Especially for the man. Reproduction as a result of human biological imperative and quality parental investment in raising kids is the point marriage has good leverage. Aside from that, it is nothing but a useless burden.

The OP failed to factor in inflation and poor economic turnout in his post, which affects purchasing power gravely.

The OP said living in a 60k annual rent residence. 5k/month.
However, he failed to consider the utter state of such residences and the poor neighborhoods that define such places of inhabitation. He wants to live by faith.

What should fear you mostly as an individual is your inability to achieve something tangible and meaningful with your life as you become older. Not marriage.

You should be thinking of not accomplishing your purpose in life rather than the thoughts of marriage because you want a steady supply of sex - for the men or security - for the women.

You all just believe that marriage is a blissful union that comes with a special kind of treasure box that will fill the whole house once you say "I do". Rubbish!

Before you get married, make sure your tentacles are large and strong.

Make sure you are closer to your goals in life.

Make sure you have the ways and means to feed yourself and 5 other persons as a single man in the next 20 years without flinching.

Make sure you are fully rooted in your skill and career pursuit.

The world is tougher for you because your parents never cared about their children. Just reproduce like rabbits and inshallah. Jehovah will take the wheel.

Make sure you are emotionally, psychologically, and financially buoyant.

Don't pick marriage in January and start complaining about how the economy is unfavorable to you, your wife, and 4½ kids.

The same applies to women.

Be career-oriented + endeavor to protect your feminity. The economy is performing poorly, and a whole lot is happening concurrently. It is not an easy thing but you must carry your cross too.

Marriage will not give you any blessings. No blessings. It will be enjoyable when you have set the path to follow for yourself.

Don't allow your kids to suffer the same fate you are suffering as a result of your parent's faults and mistakes.

How do you even want to help a child achieve his dreams when you, as the father or mother, aren't able to do so for yourself?

This last part though!

Death ! Off that yeye suit and find small business do

Awon motivational speakers don come.

seunoladele:


© Seun Oladele, 2O23; reposted, 2O24.
talktoseunoladele@gmail.com

Stop misleading people abeg 🙏

I married with a salary of 30k in fact npower program but to the glory of God got a job after after first child, that's how my story changed o, 2019, but don't try it now o, TInubu govt is not encouraging at all, some marriages don scatter self. May God help us all.

Before, I would say yes. After all, we married with a monthly stipend.
But now under Tinubu, I would discourage any man earning less than 200k from getting married.

CaveAdullam:
The good thing about such people as the OP/author is that you don't see them in real life to counter them squarely and rub their faces with their ridiculous ideologies.

Despite his useless take, he did make some reasonable and good points: savings and living within your means. However, we must be careful not to swallow the gibberish because of this.

The return on investment in marriage is nothing. Especially for the man. Reproduction as a result of human biological imperative and quality parental investment in raising kids is the point marriage has good leverage. Aside from that, it is nothing but a useless burden.

The OP failed to factor in inflation and poor economic turnout in his post, which affects purchasing power gravely.

The OP said living in a 60k annual rent residence. 5k/month.
However, he failed to consider the utter state of such residences and the poor neighborhoods that define such places of inhabitation. He wants to live by faith.

What should fear you mostly as an individual is your inability to achieve something tangible and meaningful with your life as you become older. Not marriage.

You should be thinking of not accomplishing your purpose in life rather than the thoughts of marriage because you want a steady supply of sex - for the men or security - for the women.

You all just believe that marriage is a blissful union that comes with a special kind of treasure box that will fill the whole house once you say "I do". Rubbish!

Before you get married, make sure your tentacles are large and strong.

Make sure you are closer to your goals in life.

Make sure you have the ways and means to feed yourself and 5 other persons as a single man in the next 20 years without flinching.

Make sure you are fully rooted in your skill and career pursuit.

The world is tougher for you because your parents never cared about their children. Just reproduce like rabbits and inshallah. Jehovah will take the wheel.

Make sure you are emotionally, psychologically, and financially buoyant.

Don't pick marriage in January and start complaining about how the economy is unfavorable to you, your wife, and 4½ kids.

The same applies to women.

Be career-oriented + endeavor to protect your feminity. The economy is performing poorly, and a whole lot is happening concurrently. It is not an easy thing but you must carry your cross too.

Marriage will not give you any blessings. No blessings. It will be enjoyable when you have set the path to follow for yourself.

Don't allow your kids to suffer the same fate you are suffering as a result of your parent's faults and mistakes.

How do you even want to help a child achieve his dreams when you, as the father or mother, aren't able to do so for yourself?

You wrote this yourself? It is a good piece

kestolove95:
If dem never beat on motivational speaker orders no go learn...

hahahaha! I swear

Koppaguard:
The comments here so far are highly bias and immensely lopsided, Op made a point, it's not about how much you earn, but how much you can manage while pushing for a better life. Some of our parents trained us with less than 30k per month and that didn't stop us from becoming responsible children. All fingers are not equal, what about people in interior villages with nothing but farm work as a means of livelihood, are they not living quality life according to their level, everybody must not be rich, some don't even care, they just want to be comfortable and afford basic things of life. I will use myself as an instance, my parent trained me with less than 30k salary till I graduated from the University, though Unizik fee then was 21k, I served my country last year, though I haven't gotten a job yet but I send 60k to them monthly for upkeep, all thanks to God and my tech skill as a Web developer. It's not about how much you earn, but how much you can manage the little you have and also invest some parts in what will increase yield. You don't need millions to start investment, even with a paltry 5k or 10k, you can double it if you have business acumen.

You can't live within your means if you're earning 70k under this Tinubu as a married man, trust me.
You paid 21k as school fee! That's around 300 to 400k in most public universities nowadays.

sofeo:



The major reason we are backward, very foolish mentality. Germany population was 78.29 million (1980), while Nigerian population was 72.95 million (1980).

Fast track to 2024, Germany is around 83 Million, while Nigerian Population is around 230 Million.

The name thing with U.S, and some other advanced countries, slight increase in population

Get married and struggle to feed the the family, not to talk of giving them a better life, children will grow up to be hooligans and illiterates, and the problems in our society keep multiplying.

who do us this thing o

If he lives in a rural area and has that as an earning from a stream of income outside farming or fishing, why not?

In the city, these will be his fate: he will wear rags; he will be the main byword on the lips of his neighbours; and his stomach will eat the bread of sorrows continually; If he has a bad nature, he will be a thief.

30k can not be motivated to do beyond 30k.

Marry wife and get a child on 30k a month. Does it look after a single person. Unless it's in a vliigae and he farms too and lives in family house then okay.

City no way.

MyVILLAGEpeople:


Tell me a business I can invest 1 million naira into and will yield good returns

Solar energy business can double your money in a short time, where I am now in the North, the parts are very cheap, I buy and sell in the East triple the amount I bought it here. Also you can try vtu business, it's what gave me money for a start and I am still into it. Millions of Nigerians use data on daily basis, all you need is a website like mine and you are good to go. There is money in Telecom business,people like Blord is into it too.

That's a suicide mission

Getting married on a 30K salary?

That's suicide mission

Abort

I repeat

Abort

Don't even think about it

Just abort

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How can someone earning N30k in Nigeria spend less than he earns?

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RealityKings:
You are setting yourself up for poverty and frustration

Na so them dey deceive people.
Motivational speaker isonu.