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| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by pendo89(f): 1:36pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
funny. So as a young lady you meet a guy in the club and you expect him to stop going to the club cz he married you? He will, probably within the first year or two but truth be told unless hes a strict christian,the club will beckon. I don't think gals is the only thing that happens in clubs. I don't club, never have but I got friends who do. They meet there to socialise and catch up with buddies. I never condemn them because some get good deals through networking with like minded people. I hate policing men because they become worse. A great man can go club and still maintain his family better than one who spends hours on end in church. |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by sugardaddy1(m): 1:38pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
neyostica:You dance, laugh, shout, booze and unwind generally in the company of friends while listening to trendy music at clubs. To me, this is something that is good for one's health though I'm fully against daily or weekly addictions. |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by sugardaddy1(m): 1:45pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
pendo89:Exactly my point. |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by humblebee: 1:47pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
i'll rather club till im tired of doing it weekly before getting married, compare your marriage to clubbing and make your choice, it all depends on which is more of importance to you, i'll rather cuddle my wife than go out there to those night-crawling wolves  |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by neyostica: 2:09pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
$ugardaddy:Vanity upon vanity Seat with ur wife and read bible or quran or watch africa magíc. I just borrowed u d little money i av |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by sugardaddy1(m): 2:16pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
neyostica: Thanks, but I have enough already to hang out at the club tonight  Thank God today is Friday  |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by pendo89(f): 2:20pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
neyostica:  Are you building a home or a church? |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by brainpulse: 2:24pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
pendo89: obviously you dont know what they do in the night club. What kind of networking? |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by sugardaddy1(m): 2:31pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
brainpulse:I suggest you always go with your partner then. |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by pendo89(f): 2:31pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
brainpulse: lol biz. I know great biz deals are sealed in clubs. Not all guys go there looking for gals. Plus not all clubs all ooze with gals. Okay I wont pretend that am an expert but I have seen men who club and love their families more than those who don't set foot in there. The club is not to blame but the person. |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by akpanbaba: 2:37pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
Yes ke,for the purpose of evangelism and counseling. |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Nobody: 3:09pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
if any married woman cannot trust her husband around other females then they have absolutely NO BUSINESS being married. . . . . . . and clubbing is the least of her worries. people go clubbing for many different reasons, if you believes that EVERYONE goes there to get coochie then you seriously need to get out more. some people go there to unwind, relax, listen to great music in a great environment, dance their stress away, have a friendly drink with buddies, celebrate etc. if wifey wants to join then she should always be welcomed, but if she doesnt want to go (or cant) that shouldnt be a reason no to go. . . . . . . . AND VICE VERSA!!!!! it doesnt matter how sexy/crazy people are in clubs, so long as you know yourself! the fact that you got married doesnt mean it is the end of the world. if that is what you guys enjoyed doing before marriage then why should that change? the important question here IS: why wifey doesnt want him to go? |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Nobody: 3:16pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
Hell yes OP. Marriage is not jail u know? |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Nobody: 3:28pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
funny.What kind of ladies meet Guys in the Club and Marry them? Club Girls! What they see is what they get, there's no 2 ways about that. So how does this answer the question? He will, probably within the first year or two but truth be told [b]unless hes a strict christian,[/b]the club will beckon.Strict Christian? You mean you actually contradicted yourself on this comment? Where? i'll show you!  I don't think gals is the only thing that happens in clubs. I don't club, never have but I got friends who do. They meet there to socialise and catch up with buddies. I never condemn them because some get good deals through networking with like minded people.Haha! So it's only in clubs you can socialise and catch up with buddies? A married man? probably with kids? Really? What kind of deals are struck in the clubs? Can you advise anyone to club and come come 7am the next day, so that he can strike deals? Why are you advising people to do what you would never do? Huh? I hate policing men because they become worse. A great man can go club and still maintain his family better than one who spends hours on end in church.Yeah, right! Who is a great man? How exactly can he maintain his family better than the one that spends endless hours in church? Are you implying that those that spend endless hours in church are Jobless? And cannot maintain their families? Now, How do you reconcile your earlier statement which i quote "unless hes a strict christian, the club will beckon". With "A great man can go club and still maintain his family better than one who spends hours on end in church." Explain to me how a great man who clubs, would be a strict christian, when in fact he is better than those who spend hours in church. . . I'm Discombobulated! And where exactly did you answer the question? |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by neyostica: 3:38pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
Stop playin with a madwoman's bre.ast, stop clubbing. |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by pendo89(f): 3:49pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
. I have seen dudes who love their families to death,but still go clubbing. They have these social groups of theirs and all they do is meet to watch football,drink listen to music,catch up and have their own 'men time' the way we ladies do when we meet. If your hubby/guy is the cheating type he will keep you company the whole nite but still cheat on you at 11 am the following day. The reason I said, we are blaming a facility instead of a person. Truth be told,I would hate to have a guy who is always by my side 24 hrs. Go out there and mingle with your guys. I also need my time alone. Thing is keep it zipped up. A woman must know her kind of man. |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Nobody: 3:58pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
[b] pendo89:There is some truth in wat ur sayin but we all know dat clubs represent an avenue for bad stuffs(at least here in Nigeria). But like a certain gal here always says different strokes for different folks! A married man needs to know dat dier is tym for evrytin,bachelorhood ends on day of ur wedding,simple!! [/b] |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Sleekjd(f): 4:03pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
Should Married Women Club! |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Excelboi(m): 4:07pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
To me, I don't think itz Ideal! |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by neyostica: 4:08pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
Sleekjd:If she's a Ho |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by pendo89(f): 4:11pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
Killz there's a big difference btwn spending hours in church and practising the faith. And yes if I met my hubby in a club why should I try to change him? I found him doing what he likes best so dont force change cz he won't unless he decides to stop by himself. And even if he stops only self discipline can keep him away from the club. But then,does that make him a better family man? what makes you assume that he wont cheat on you by him not going clubbing with his guys? Why are u assuming that he will divert the money spent in clubs to maintaining his family? And who even told you that quantity time is more important than quality time with family? Dont you know that 2 hrs quality time with family works wonders than spending the entire nite doing nothing at home but watching tv and drinking beer while sleeping,belching and farting on the sofa. A man determined to cheat doesnt need a club to do so! He will do it in church or in the workplace. Should a married guy club? I care less really.He can go but I wont hold him back because I should know my guy well not to worry. I prefer a guy who mingles wit his guys instead of keeping me company 24/7.I also need my me time I think. 1 Like |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Ib(f): 4:15pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
As someone who has managed a bar/club in 2009/2010 in ikoyi and VI, i would not advise a woman to feel too comfortable if her husband goes clubbing every weekend. Not all the married men flirt or bring other girls with them, however the huge huge majority of them indulge in activities that make them very vulnerable to adultery. Sometimes it could even be their own friends that arrange chics for them , many things happen, i just cant say it all. For me sha, if i see a man who exhibits traits of excessive hanging-out habits, i would think very hard about going into a committed relationship with him. when you guys are dating, you may be hanging out with him, but the moment you become man and wife, as the marriage goes on, he wont take you with him like before. Yes, men who hang out get to network more and may get business opportunities but remember that you cannot be around sodom and gomorrah and not turn to Lot's wife. Only a highly disciplined man can withstand the temptation. 1 Like |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Nobody: 4:18pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
pendo89:Hell NO! No dude loves his family to death and still goes out clubbing to come back by 7 am! What if there's danger in his home at night? Who would protect his wife and kids? Who would kiss his children goodnight? So his wife should be all alone on the bed, because her husband decided to be selfish, leave her and the kids at home, to go have fun in the club and dance with semi n[i]u[/i]de ladies? Really? Can you as a lady realistically accept this from a man you call your husband? This is serious!. . . They have these social groups of theirs and all they do is meet to watch football,drink listen to music,catch up and have their own 'men time' the way we ladies do when we meet.Yeah, Right! And the best time to do it is when they are supposed to be spending time with their families? Is there no other setting that they can catch up apart from where they would be exposed to temptations? Is it only in clubs that i can watch football, drink, listen to music, have men time, and then come back early in the morning? What example am i setting to my Kids? Like seriously? If your hubby/guy is the cheating type he will keep you company the whole nite but still cheat on you at 11 am the following day.What if he is not the cheating type? Must everything be categorized negatively, just to prove a point? And what responsible man would cheat his wife? And what responsible woman would allow her husband indulge in negative practices, that is sure to be detrimental to her, emotionally, and otherwise? And she turns a deaf ear to all that? because that is who he is, and she is expected to accept him the way he is? Bullshit! If you want to live singles life. remain single! When you get married,live like a married man, or a woman! The reason I said, we are blaming a facility instead of a person.Haha! The facility? Did the facility ask you to patronize it? Must you patronize all facilities, because you can? Wait sef! Who is blaming the facility? I'm blaming the person for going to the facility! Of course, the facility can not come to you, you go to it! So where is the blame? Truth be told,I would hate to have a guy who is always by my side 24 hrs. Go out there and mingle with your guys. I also need my time alone. Thing is keep it zipped up. A woman must know her kind of man. You would hate to keep a guy by your side 24hrs. Hmm! How possible is it that you spend 24hrs with him in the first place? Is he Jobless? So he goes to work, comes home late, and instead of bonding with his wife and kids, his family, he decides to go out there and mingle with his guys? And to you, that is ok? A woman Must know her kind of man, so as to align him when he tries to go astray. If you allow a man indulge in his excesses, because that's the kind of person he is, then i'm sorry to say that you never loved him, and you have NO business being married to him!. . . 1 Like |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Nobody: 4:24pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
with his wife - yes without his wife - no Its not a matter of trust here, its a matter of preserving your marriage. Nothing solidifies a marriage better than having common interests. nothing kills it faster than having separate interests. |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Nobody: 4:41pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
pendo89:True! So? And yes if I met my hubby in a club why should I try to change him?Why would you want to meet your husband in the club? When you know how easy it is to fall prey to ladies advances! You found him doing what he likes best, clubbing and you were ok with that? Haha! What kind of lady are you really? Why would you want to force someone to change, when you willingly married him! The best thing to have done is to AVOID him in the first place. Self discipline yes. but seriously, prevention is better than cure, so why would you allow yourself get infected first, and then start seeking a cure? Is that wise? But then,does that make him a better family man? what makes you assume that he wont cheat on you by him not going clubbing with his guys? Why are u assuming that he will divert the money spent in clubs to maintaining his family?Must a man cheat on you? Is it all men that cheat? If he diverts the money spent to clubs on his family, that's better for him! To a married man, his family should come first! if that is not the case, he has no business getting married, not to talk of having kids. . . Height of irresponsibility! And who even told you that quantity time is more important than quality time with family?So where is the quality time supposed to come from, if he is always clubbing with his guys, and you are ok with it since that is who he is, and you cant change him? Duh! Dont you know that 2 hrs quality time with family works wonders than spending the entire nite doing nothing at home but watching tv and drinking beer while sleeping,belching and farting on the sofa.So with this statement, i should believe you mean that you prefer to sleep alone every Night, as long as your husband spends 2hrs a day with you and your Kids. . . Yeah, Right! A man determined to cheat doesnt need a club to do so! He will do it in church or in the workplace.Again must a man cheat? But then, do you know that the club increases his chances of cheating 110% more than the church or workplace? So why would you willingly allow you husband to indulge in excesses that could ruin your happiness? You careless if a married guy clubs? Yes i agree! You said this because you are not married. Haha! You know your guy so well not to worry? is he a saint? is he perfect? What the hell exactly is that supposed to mean? Just like saying you have an umbrella, and you trust it to protect you, and then you head into a raging stormy wind! Yeah, Right! |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by pendo89(f): 4:42pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
killz u tire me oh 1.How many dads kiss their kids goodnite,read bed time stories and tuck them in every single day because they don't go out? 2.How many guys become superman when robbers strike?lol@ protecting. Some snore they cant even hear nothing or go hiding. 3. So not meeting in the club is setting a good example to the kids? Great mean have been raised up by Fathers who met and sealed deals in clubs. 4.No the whole point of this debate is centred around women in the club. So its all about cheating. If you meet and marry a club guy don't expect too much change unless he does so willingly.This expecting the single guy to transform overnite and change habits is not helpful to the marriage.It will only drive him further from you. If you don't want him to club then I would advise you to wait for him to stop clubbing before you say I do. 5.24/7.means most of the time. One rule I know is nevertry to forcefuly change a grownup. If I love him I will not police him. I told you if I met him in the club then why should I try to turn him into an angel? If I dint want a club guy then why go there to look for one and worse still end up marrying him then try transforming him? Doesn't make sense. Allow him to change on his own. That is love. 6. So what are you saying killz. A man can be home by 5 everyday and not leave the house but still fail to bond with his family. Another will be there at 5 spend 2 quality hrs with family, pop out and be back at midnite. Who is better.? ok it 's friday.Lemmie go to the club now |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Okijajuju1(m): 4:43pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
Frankly I say Yes! Going to the club does not make him immoral. Now the wife on the other hand need to step up her game and either start keeping late night with him at the club or just pary her husband does not get drunk and starts to act a foo'l. But if the wife objects, then I dont think he should. A married man who goes clubbing without his wife and stays till 7am is definitely not happy at home!! think about it. Works monday - friday, prolly 6am - 9pm, and on the weekend he should be with his wife, goes clubbing and stays out till 7 am, falls asleep and sleeps off the hangover till prolly 3pm on sunday! Then yawa dey! |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Nobody: 4:51pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
neyostica: CHAI! , i love this conclusion |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by Nobody: 5:03pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
pendo89:Even if they dont go out, this is when the quality time should be spent with them. Your wife and you kids! 2.How many guys become superman when robbers strike?lol@ protecting. Some snore they cant even hear nothing or go hiding.What of those that dont? Is this a point? So which would you prefer when they come? And what would be the response of those that look up to you when you tell them you were outside you home dancing with semi Unclad women and signing contract papers when your home was invaded?. . . Very soon you will ask me why we need insurance since we dont have calamities yearly! Smh! 3. So not meeting in the club is setting a good example to the kids? Great mean have been raised up by Fathers who met and sealed deals in clubs.How many great men? What are their names, and what is the percentage of those great men? i challenge you, put up a poll on Just NL alone and you'll be shocked sef! Great men my foot! Haha! 4.No the whole point of this debate is centred around women in the club.It's centered around what married men should be doing in the club without their wives. . . So its all about cheating. If you meet and marry a club guy don't expect too much change unless he does so willingly.What if we dont meet and marry in the club, what would my excuse be? Is that even the issue here? Is it all married men that club actually met their wives in the club? So what exactly is the point? This expecting the single guy to transform overnite and change habits is not helpful to the marriage.It will only drive him further from you. If you don't want him to club then I would advise you to wait for him to stop clubbing before you say I do.Better! But then we are discussing a man that you have already married going to a club! He wasn't a club boy before you met him! 5.24/7.means most of the time. One rule I know is never try to forcefuly change a grownup. If I love him I will not police him.You dont force grown ups. You encourage them, and appeal to their sense of reasoning. Is that hard? I told you if I met him in the club then why should I try to turn him into an angel? If I dint want a club guy then why go there to look for one and worse still end up marrying him then try transforming him? Doesn't make sense.Good! But again we are not actually talking about meeting and marrying a fellow club addict, we are talking of married men and clubbing! Allow him to change on his own.Haha! That's not love! Love is when you help them change! What if he doesnt change on his own? Duh! 6. So what are you saying killz. A man can be home by 5 everyday and not leave the house but still fail to bond with his family.Yeah true, but which is preferable? Another will be there at 5 spend 2 quality hrs with family, pop out and be back at midnite. Who is better.?Haha! Smart of you to add midnite. Babe, we are talking clubbing till 7 am, not Midnight! Midnight is still excusable, so you may wanna rephrase that! |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by logica(m): 5:26pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
pendo89:What does Christianity have to do with it? In any case, the best clubs for married men and for sealing business deals are clubs such as Ikeja Country Club, Lagos Island Club, Ikeja Golf Club, etc. Though you will find a few regulars from these sort of clubs also in the bar/club types which usually define our concept of clubs. I usually only go to clubs in which I have a vested (business) interest. The only problem is this: Saturday night until Sunday 7:00am once a week despite his wife's objections The fact that she objects means it shouldn't be done. Only actions both parties agree to should be acceptable. |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by dayokanu(m): 5:34pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
Yes they can. if you cant trust your partner to behave properly when out of sight then you shouldnt be married to him |
| Re: Should Married Men Still Go To Clubs by IbroSaunks(m): 7:13pm On Dec 09, 2011 |
umm, what about football clubs ?? |
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