There's a certain lecturer in my school(a prof) who is notorious for his nocturnal carousing forays. During our introductory class he told us without batting an eyelid that if anyone of us should come across him in a club, they should think nothing of it and keep having their fun. The warning was probably to prevent the repitition of a certain occurence a couple of sessions ago where a couple of his students ran into the old lecher at a certain party and bolted, something which he claimed greatly embarrassed him. He playfully justifies his actions by saying he wants to keep himself acquainted with the ways of the world so he'd be sufficiently equipped to condemn same acts if he becomes a pastor someday. Personally, I think he's a shameless old lecher, but i, along everyone else, also think he's got a lot of swag . At least he's straightforward about the whole thing. They are countless married men who indulge in acts a lot more sickening than 'just' clubbing.

@r231

I don  vex for you - so you dey run club you no let me know?

Oya issue me free ticket immediately make I come jollificate.

@ topic

It depends on the man, the reason for clubbing and his relationship/understanding with his wife.

While man A might be ok clubbing because he's got self control and isn't the straying type, man B might be too weak to fend off those sexy mamas shaking their thing. Man C might go there just for his business dealings, while Man D might be there specifically to cheat.

While wife A might be ok with her man being out late at night with lots of very attractive women around him, wife B may not like it and may have made it clear before marriage that she isn't keen on him clubbing. Woman C might only want her hubby to go clubbing with her, while Woman D would hate to crimp her hubby's style.

There's no universal rule here.

In this particular case however - the wife is displeased and the man is intent on having his will regardless of her feelings then the clubbing is not the issue but the relationship with his wife. A couple should be able to agree on what each person can do.

As a husband, doing something persistently regardless of the wife's feelings is insensitive - nothing should come above the relationship.

Yes.

If at all a married man desires to go to the club, then it should be with his better half.

What is good about NIGHT CLUBS? Nothing. Nothing goods happens in the night. So if a married person went to a night club something bad will come out from it

Only with their wives.

What for? He's now a husband and possibly a father.

If they want!

I am a little worried as my husband goes to clubs. Comes home.4-5am he says he goes there to hang out n talk to guys
My heart feels uneasy about this. and it hurts.

If he decides to do as he pleases until 7am in the morning....I will too do as I please until 7am in the morning

Good topic. My husband just started going clubbing and comes home 5am. I get so insecure angry and hurt. I don't understand why he goes. And he gets angry when i question. I worry Specially that he goes alone. Without mates. I cannot sleep and it hurts so much all I picture. Is him buying ladies drink, dancing with them or them flirting with him. Or worse behaviour.. And it hurts that he would rather be there than take his family out. He's even lost interest In intamacy. And calls me names it hurts so much I feel fat, unattractive, a bad mother and useless.

There is a time to play, and a time ti QUIT.
Going to club as a married man is NOT the best thing to do
Certain things should be curtailed when you say I DO.

Life is in phases, and getting married is another phase of life.