The Hadith questions the manhood of a person who beats his wife up during the day and derives pleasure from her during the night. Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these basic principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated.

Amidst busy schedules and tasks on the parts of both women and men, Muslim husbands and wives tend to forget the real reasons behind marriage and likewise the rights of each other. Subsequently, they deprive themselves, their mates and their children of the happiness and tranquillity that is the bedrock of a successful family. This unbalanced vision towards a couple’s ideal relationship is bad enough to plunge the family into a situation laden with troubles and worries.

Negative Relationship between Husband & Wife

Some Muslim spouses relate to each other like adversaries rather than life time partners. The husband assumes the position of dictator, and whatever he says is not law. The wife on the other hand feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives do not express their gratitude to their husbands irrespective of how much the man may do for her. Instead they adopt an attitude of ‘never enough’ and make the husband feel like a failure if he does not provide every want and desire their extravagant lifestyles dictate. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in family matters. Moreover certain husbands become so cold and miserly that even the basic expenditure for the house is difficult to come by.

Nikah – A divine institution
The Nikah bond has been divinely established for the welfare and upkeep of a healthy and progressive community. This divine prescription has been unjustly utilised as a vehicle to perpetrate oppression, deception, humiliation, and abuse. Allah Ta’ala describes marriage very differently in the Noble Quran: ‘And from his signs are, He created for you wives from among yourselves, so that you may live in tranquillity with them, and instilled love and mercy between your (hearts) . . . “(30:21)

Head of the Home
The position Islam has accorded to the man as the head of the home is a responsibility which will be accounted for, rather than a privilege which should be abused. We are taught to treat our wives well. Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) has reported to have said: ‘The person possessing the most perfect faith is one who has excellent behaviour, and the best among you are those who are best towards their wives” (Mishkat)

Be Partners in Decision Making
Follow the principle of ‘Shura,” (consultation) and make decisions as a family. Implementing this Sunnah within the home increases harmony and love between family members. It will also assist in enhancing trust and loyalty between spouses and the children.

Abuse
Abstain totally from every form of emotional, mental, or physical abuse to your spouse.

Watch Your Words
Be very careful what you say when you are upset. The wounds afflicted to the heart of a person by words will never heal and remain a lifelong memory. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. Apply the directives found in the Hadith for suppression of anger.

Work Together in the House Occasionally
Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) occasionally assisted his wives with household chores. When Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) did not consider the housework trivial, how can we today obligate our wives to all the house work and much more?

Communication is Important
Talk to each other, communicate, have a dialogue, but do it respectfully. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until they explode.

Live Simply
Do not envy or cast your gaze towards those spouses who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. Be pleased with what you have. The grass will always look greener on the other side. The wealthiest person is the one who has attained contentment of heart. To develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Repeatedly thank Allah Ta’ala for the many blessings in your life.

Admit Your Mistakes
When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never sleep angry with each other.

Past Problems

Everything that has happened is history. Repent for the past and live for the future. Do not focus discussion on the past unless it is something that will make both of you laugh.

Lukgaf:
Is your marriage facing challenges?

Muslim couples, especially newlyweds, often encounter difficulties. Seeking guidance from the Sunnah can help. The below article published by JamiatKZN provides insights.





O Allah! grant us such wives and offspring who will be a source of coolness for our eyes like blowing themselves up and giving us 72 virgins, and make us leaders of the Allah-Fearing after beheading the infidels

Abuse
Abstain totally from every form of emotional, mental, or physical abuse to your spouse.

Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially. And righteous women are devoutly obedient and, when alone, protective of what Allah has entrusted them with.1 And if you sense ill-conduct from your women, advise them ˹first˺, ˹if they persist,˺ do not share their beds, ˹but if they still persist,˺ then discipline them ˹gently˺.2 But if they change their ways, do not be unjust to them. Surely Allah is Most High, All-Great. An-Nisa 4:34

Kukutenla:

This is bidaah
It is common knowledge that a man is allowed to beat his wife in Islam. There's a quranic verse that supports it.
Op, You're trying to conform to Western opinion and thus You're a kufr



AntiChristian should come and see another kufr like him trying to twist the Qur'an
NobleStag007

Expanse2020:

You too mumu much sir
Are you jealous that your religion doesn't have a guide when come to spouse, marriage and family and the solutions to it.....
Too bad for the 3 in 1 nescafe worshippers....
Only following the western orders.. small thing divorce is the solution

Kukutenla:

Actually, Islam allows divorce. So I don't know what you're about
The Op claimed physical, mental and emotional abuse of one's spouse is totally prohibited in Islam. Is he correct or not?

Expanse2020:

Yes it allow divorce but before you divorce you go through some stages. But in your religion did you have anything to say but to go court has wester prescribed for you

Kukutenla:

So going through stages according to you makes one divorce better than the other? Islamists sha
So what stages did Zaynab go before divorcing Muhammad's adopted son to marry Muhammad? Enlighten me pls since Islam's marriage practice is the best.

Anyways, you have ignored the part where the Op lied against the Qur'an and you're instead focusing on divorce. I guess it choke

Expanse2020:


Tell me the time the prophet Muhammad S.A..W. adopted him from where he adopted himand how he raised him first so I will know how to explain in details to you...

Am still coming back to the op question too

Kukutenla:

I don't know. I wasn't there. You should just go to the stages of divorcing to marrying one's son's wife as taught to us by the prophet

If you have anything to say, say it quick or swallow your shame and disappear

Expanse2020:

You weren't there but you can quickly spread rumors about what you don't know..
SMH for you

Kukutenla:

Oya tell us since you were there

MerchantMNT:
I hope for the best. May Allah give me the best. Amin Ya Allah

Expanse2020:

You should hear it from those who told you he adopted a son

Kukutenla:

You mean from Qur'an? It's not there
But all this shalaye because I show you what is on your quran?
It's hard to see a straightforward islamist

Expanse2020:


Can you please show me the Quran verse again

Kukutenla:

Why
What difference does it make

Expanse2020:

Just show us your evidence and I will show you my point

Kukutenla:

Do you deny it now?

Expanse2020:

Show us is what am asking