"My sister-in-law came to my house for Omugwo and was supposed to stay until the second week of December, which is when I planned for her to leave. However, I found out that my mother-in-law called my wife, and they both agreed to send her back to the village earlier than planned. I came home from work one day, and my wife told me her sister would be leaving the next day, even though she had already stayed with us for three months. I had intended for her to leave the second week of December, so I could buy some things for her before she left.

I was upset because I felt that my mother-in-law should have informed me, given that her daughter was staying in my house. Instead, they made the decision without consulting me. When I asked why the rush, they explained that my sister-in-law had secured a job and needed to leave immediately. I was happy for her, but I still felt disrespected by the lack of communication from my mother-in-law.

On the day of her departure, I refused to take them to the park because, as far as I was concerned, I had not been properly informed about her leaving. Later that evening, around 6 p.m., my mom called me, asking me to send money to my sister-in-law because their vehicle had broken down on the road. I was surprised because my mom lives in a different state. When I asked her how she knew about the breakdown, she said my wife had told her, based on what her sister had said. I was frustrated that neither my wife nor my sister-in-law called me directly. I hung up on my mom and put my phone on flight mode.

When I returned home, my wife refused to serve me dinner, and the next day, she didn’t greet me either. After a long week of work, I took Monday off to rest, but my wife started insulting me, complaining that I hadn’t sent money to her sister. The argument escalated to the point where my mother-in-law got involved, calling me and hurling insults. Every time we have an issue, they threaten to send money for my wife’s transport so she can leave, but this time, I’ve made up my mind: she has to go tomorrow, and they must provide the transport for her. They’ve been making excuses, saying they don’t have the money, but I can’t tolerate the insults anymore. What should I do? The situation is becoming unbearable.

Imredeemed:

"My sister-in-law came to my house for Omugwo and was supposed to stay until the second week of December, which is when I planned for her to leave. However, I found out that my mother-in-law called my wife, and they both agreed to send her back to the village earlier than planned. I came home from work one day, and my wife told me her sister would be leaving the next day, even though she had already stayed with us for three months. I had intended for her to leave the second week of December, so I could buy some things for her before she left.

I was upset because I felt that my mother-in-law should have informed me, given that her daughter was staying in my house. Instead, they made the decision without consulting me. When I asked why the rush, they explained that my sister-in-law had secured a job and needed to leave immediately. I was happy for her, but I still felt disrespected by the lack of communication from my mother-in-law.

On the day of her departure, I refused to take them to the park because, as far as I was concerned, I had not been properly informed about her leaving. Later that evening, around 6 p.m., my mom called me, asking me to send money to my sister-in-law because their vehicle had broken down on the road. I was surprised because my mom lives in a different state. When I asked her how she knew about the breakdown, she said my wife had told her, based on what her sister had said. I was frustrated that neither my wife nor my sister-in-law called me directly. I hung up on my mom and put my phone on flight mode.

When I returned home, my wife refused to serve me dinner, and the next day, she didn’t greet me either. After a long week of work, I took Monday off to rest, but my wife started insulting me, complaining that I hadn’t sent money to her sister. The argument escalated to the point where my mother-in-law got involved, calling me and hurling insults. Every time we have an issue, they threaten to send money for my wife’s transport so she can leave, but this time, I’ve made up my mind: she has to go tomorrow, and they must provide the transport for her. They’ve been making excuses, saying they don’t have the money, but I can’t tolerate the insults anymore. What should I do? The situation is becoming unbearable.

see finish don enter this matter from your wife and mother-in-law.

What does it matter if she leaves now or December

Pettiness flows in the family.. looks like you are beyond this jagaban kareem to still be carrying petty issue for head.

Like.the guy above said, whats the difference between leaving now or December

You're really really petty. Making mountains out of molehills because you were not informed of every single movement. Even after being told you still acted dramatically, refusing to pay or take the lady to the park.

How will you live if you hang on to everything like this? You will just become a radical nag. Vex small and then move ahead. Giving yourself bp for nothing.

Oga give her money to go..
Make u get rest of mind o..
U can't be the man of the house n have ur wife disrespect you.

Haa don't take advice from nairaland o
That girl will not sleep the next day under your roof

Its possible they called your mum and not you out of fear and respect. Or probably they were unable to reach you. For this type of situation you have to be a bigger man and over look certain things but with stern complaints and warning.

And if they continue to disrespect you, let them find their own house to live

If your wife can't communicate with you but would rather involve third parties like her mom or your mom or her brother, please kick her out, of what use is marriage if both parties cant communicate effectively.

However for the sake of your newborn, I will advise you forgive her, sit her down and explain to her the importance of communication between the two of you and serious warn her to advise her mother about interfering or insulting you at will, otherwise you will not hesitate to send her to her parents house.


Marriage don pass before when person go dey endure nonsense, if you partner doesn't give you the peace and respect you deserve, cut them loose, don't tolerate nonsense in the name of I don't want my child to grow in a broken home or what will people say, fuckkk all of that

Please call her and send money to her. Na omugwu she come do for your wife.

I know the economy is responsible for this your behavior....it's not anybody's fault. Look for money and send to her immediately. That's the right thing to do bro.

Your wife is a foolish woman and too attached to her own family

The first time they threatened to send her transport to leave your house, you'd have called their bluff and demanded they send the transport or she'll be living in the streets, send her out of your house yourself.

You seem to be stomaching bullshit from them to the point of no return.

What you should have been doing is that you immediately call out any bad behaviour your wife exhibits that you don't like.

Unless you are not the provider of your home, your wife has no right to disrespect you or challenge your authority.

If this nonsense continues, you'll both end up raising undisciplined wayward children.

Put your foot down firmly.

If she wants to leave let her leave.

Don't end up living a miserable life because of one woman who doesn't know what her role and responsibility is in marriage.

Must she go by December? If she has secured a job let her go na, that’s pettiness from your part.

Guy, you didn't act responsibly at all.

Correct the wrong now because it degenerates to something you'll regret.

Like someone above said, you're too petty. Not everything you count for your wife and in a scenario like this.

You should be happy that your sister inlaw came for omugwo for you, that thing is not easy at all.

She's the one that takes care of that baby, stays awake at night to allow you and wife sleep.

Correct the error not please, you have an angel as a wife and please stop threatening to send her away.

Ask divorces, your life will never be the same if you send your wife away.

This is your family, manage it well.

Poverty. Poverty is the core problem here.

God punish you

Gadafii:
If your wife can't communicate with you but would rather involve third parties like her mom or your mom or her brother, please kick her out, of what use is marriage if both parties cant communicate effectively.

However for the sake of your newborn, I will advise you forgive her, sit her down and explain to her the importance of communication between the two of you and serious warn her to advise her mother about interfering or insulting you at will, otherwise you will not hesitate to send her to her parents house.


Marriage don pass before when person go dey endure nonsense, if you partner doesn't give you the peace and respect you deserve, cut them loose, don't tolerate nonsense in the name of I don't want my child to grow in a broken home or what will people say, fuckkk all of that

Divorce her immediately

And no one mentioned the fact that OP is angry because of the neglect which automatically is an insult to his personality.

You don't want to properly inform me, yet need my financial assistance?

One even said the wife is an angel 🤣😂

I give up on Nigerians.

No wonder we have a president like Tinubu.

Judd007:
Must she go by December? If she has secured a job let her go na, that’s pettiness from your part.

Read the post again but this time slowly.........you didn't comprehend well the first time cos you rushed.

Are u liking ur sister in-law? Wat concerns u when she leaves.....u escalated the issue. U caused the disrespect. Deal with it.

illicit:
What does it matter if she leaves now or December

The difference lies in planning. Some people naturally prefer to plan ahead and be prepared—it's simply part of who they are.

Additionally, if you make a decision that you expect me to fund without consulting me, it implies that my input isn't necessary, and by extension, neither is my financial contribution.

If I was the OP, the wife's attitude won't change anything. I am going to be so happy in her presence that she will start to wonder if marrying me was a good choice.

You r a real man ..

Don't take advice from weak men and street women on nairaland

purples25:
You're really really petty. Making mountains out of molehills because you were not informed of every single movement. Even after being told you still acted dramatically, refusing to pay or take the lady to the park.

How will you live if you hang on to everything like this? You will just become a radical nag. Vex small and then move ahead. Giving yourself bp for nothing.

He is not being petty. People need to call a spade a spade. The man was sidelined and disrespected, and it’s only right that he expresses how he feels. Women often complain about mama's boys and third-party interference in marriages, but when it’s the wife going through third parties to communicate with her husband, people accuse the man of overreacting.

A major cause of divorce is uncommunicated expectations. Now that this man is expressing his feelings, instead of the wife apologizing and asking for forgiveness, she’s resorting to emotional blackmail—and people are cheering her on.

The country is hard, and there’s a lot of pressure on everyone. A man comes home after a long day of work, only to be told, "My sister, who we agreed would leave in December, is leaving tomorrow. Give us some money."

The way a message is delivered makes all the difference. If the wife had approached the issue differently, we wouldn’t be having this conversation.

Now, the sister-in-law is stranded on the road, and it’s the husband’s mother—who lives in another state—informing him about it, not his wife because the wife chose not to talk to him again.

I ask again—when will women start telling other women, "Sister, you messed up"?

illicit:
What does it matter if she leaves now or December

He should even be grateful for the sister leaving before schedule date.
However the real matter of matters is the way they continue to run circle around him(the so-called man of the house)!
They make their decisions, ratified it and only remember to tell him to sanction it when Money is involved! His faraway Mom even get to know what's happening under his roof before him - this is grand conspiracy!
By God, even a teenager will not accept that rubber-stamp appendage, and will challenge you when you make a decision that concerned them without asking for their opinion.
Could he really be that irrelevant in his own house?!

Tallesty1:
He is not being petty. People need to call a spade a spade. The man was sidelined and disrespected, and it’s only right that he expresses how he feels. Women often complain about mama's boys and third-party interference in marriages, but when it’s the wife going through third parties to communicate with her husband, people accuse the man of overreacting.

A major cause of divorce is uncommunicated expectations. Now that this man is expressing his feelings, instead of the wife apologizing and asking for forgiveness, she’s resorting to emotional blackmail—and people are cheering her on.

The country is hard, and there’s a lot of pressure on everyone. A man comes home after a long day of work, only to be told, "My sister, who we agreed would leave in December, is leaving tomorrow. Give us some money."

The way a message is delivered makes all the difference. If the wife had approached the issue differently, we wouldn’t be having this conversation.

Now, the sister-in-law is stranded on the road, and it’s the husband’s mother—who lives in another state—informing him about it, not his wife because the wife chose not to talk to him again.

I ask again—when will women start telling other women, "Sister, you messed up"?

You spoke well, most commenters were doing so with emotions and not bringing their critical thinking skills to the fore .

Tallesty1:
He is not being petty. People need to call a spade a spade. The man was sidelined and disrespected, and it’s only right that he expresses how he feels. Women often complain about mama's boys and third-party interference in marriages, but when it’s the wife going through third parties to communicate with her husband, people accuse the man of overreacting.

A major cause of divorce is uncommunicated expectations. Now that this man is expressing his feelings, instead of the wife apologizing and asking for forgiveness, she’s resorting to emotional blackmail—and people are cheering her on.

The country is hard, and there’s a lot of pressure on everyone. A man comes home after a long day of work, only to be told, "My sister, who we agreed would leave in December, is leaving tomorrow. Give us some money."

The way a message is delivered makes all the difference. If the wife had approached the issue differently, we wouldn’t be having this conversation.

Now, the sister-in-law is stranded on the road, and it’s the husband’s mother—who lives in another state—informing him about it, not his wife because the wife chose not to talk to him again.

I ask again—when will women start telling other women, "Sister, you messed up"?

Unless the family is an abnormal one, and they have no single bit of respect for him, definitely they must have apologized to him, yet he still stayed angry. I am not saying they are right, but after an apology, you try to calm down.

Or does he want the world to turn upside down, all his in laws come to beg, etc, before he pardons them and stops this drastic reaction which includes leaving the sister in law stranded? The punishment and drama is enough, they have gotten the message. If he reacts like this today, what happens when a larger issue is afoot? It is not every time a fly hits your balls that you give them a mighty smack to get rid of it.

I understand your ego... If your wife can't communicate with you... Teach her her lessons and let her know where she went wrong and how it hurt your feelings.

Imredeemed:

"My sister-in-law came to my house for Omugwo and was supposed to stay until the second week of December, which is when I planned for her to leave. However, I found out that my mother-in-law called my wife, and they both agreed to send her back to the village earlier than planned. I came home from work one day, and my wife told me her sister would be leaving the next day, even though she had already stayed with us for three months. I had intended for her to leave the second week of December, so I could buy some things for her before she left.

I was upset because I felt that my mother-in-law should have informed me, given that her daughter was staying in my house. Instead, they made the decision without consulting me. When I asked why the rush, they explained that my sister-in-law had secured a job and needed to leave immediately. I was happy for her, but I still felt disrespected by the lack of communication from my mother-in-law.

On the day of her departure, I refused to take them to the park because, as far as I was concerned, I had not been properly informed about her leaving. Later that evening, around 6 p.m., my mom called me, asking me to send money to my sister-in-law because their vehicle had broken down on the road. I was surprised because my mom lives in a different state. When I asked her how she knew about the breakdown, she said my wife had told her, based on what her sister had said. I was frustrated that neither my wife nor my sister-in-law called me directly. I hung up on my mom and put my phone on flight mode.

When I returned home, my wife refused to serve me dinner, and the next day, she didn’t greet me either. After a long week of work, I took Monday off to rest, but my wife started insulting me, complaining that I hadn’t sent money to her sister. The argument escalated to the point where my mother-in-law got involved, calling me and hurling insults. Every time we have an issue, they threaten to send money for my wife’s transport so she can leave, but this time, I’ve made up my mind: she has to go tomorrow, and they must provide the transport for her. They’ve been making excuses, saying they don’t have the money, but I can’t tolerate the insults anymore. What should I do? The situation is becoming unbearable.

u are petty, because dem no carry u along u dey vex, must they tell u everything? Sometimes we just have to let women do their thing

Op did not grow up. He still thinks he matters a lot.

Person see job, you want them to first seek your permission before leaving, dem for send you proposal na.

Your wife calling your mother when she needed help shows that you're fond of being petty and the only person that can talk to you is your mother. This is not disrespect, it shows the kind of person you are in the marriage; a petty bitch ass who thinks everything and everyone needs his approval and should seek him out first.

Difficult to live with someone like you, tbvh. Those fools advising you to leave your wife and send her out, guess what? They won't even last 24hrs staying with your petty ass.

🤦🏽‍♀️

Bro chil because of the child forgive her
Gals no get sense
Na smal smal pikin tak dey be bastard
Bro see the mistake has been done u are already married with a child
To ur own side be say u no try say u no help the girl life hard if u get forget anything help the poor girl
The gal fit actually Dey in need of money
Life na story na Watin u do dem go talk

You be woman honestly. Like how do you react in such a petty way. Honestly, I will rejoice if someone who is supposed to go on December decides to leave today. I will just give you what I have and claim it's impromptu that money no dey. It will save me from extra mouth to feed till December.


You are very petty

symbianDON:
see finish don enter this matter from your wife and mother-in-law.

The man is falling to show understanding. Even after they explained to him why the sister in-law has to leave immediately.
@Op, I'm suspecting you

illicit:
What does it matter if she leaves now or December

It’s not just about the timing of when she leaves; it’s about the lack of communication and respect. The decision was made without involving me, even though she’s been staying in my house. I had planned for her departure and wanted to prepare things for her. The fact that they made a major decision without consulting me feels disrespectful, and that's what matters here. It’s not about whether she leaves now or in December, but how the situation was handled.