A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Y did you put my problem on Nairaland? Lol

Get a dog

fatboyslym007:


Bro this is wrong advise... It is difficult to move on bro, I understand, but you DO NOT want to be bleeping her at all if you want to move on...

Bro get someone to do your cleaning, cooking, preferable a woman, get accustom to having a woman in the house under your authority (treat her ok o, but remember you are the boss).
Moreover, enjoy this freedom, bleep all you can, use protection though... Bleep for like a year, you'll realize most women respect men who are not suck up to them.
Focus on your career and when you decide to try again, do not suck up, listen to their needs but do not suck up.

Have you gone through divorce before? You can not imagine and proffer solution if you have not experienced it.
Pet owners feels the absence and companionship of their missing pets and long for it,not to talk of a human being that you shared your life with under the same roof

She go still come beg, leave her and her family... But please forgive her but never accept the nonsense back. And the best part is please no relationship for now, you fit smash one or two but leave no commitments. You did well brother.
Kan ko shi ló
My senior bros carry that kind werey go abroad... E don complain tire, na block I block e line. They are all crazy.

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

walahi, when my wife left home on business ground, which I disagreed with, she has to go learned some skills them, the father start pleading me to show up, I was broke when she left, I didn't even bother knowing the location she left too, na to just drink, knack my street people and start cooking by myself with help of YouTube, na she come back by herself and I didn't even stressing myself, I only try to make sure money was made and brokenness disappeared

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Be a man. Many have gone through same and survived. I heard someone above talk about your lack of capacity in the other room and that you might be poor. My friend it doesn't matter. I will tell you something because I suspect you are still young and have time. Focus on your career and thank me later. Don't let anyone or situation distract you from your career. This is the most important aspect of your life.

Odafe360:
no work for now because I'm on my annual leave. Till the end of January. Except if i can plan a vacation.

Planning a vacation all by yourself and for you alone will be so boring ....we all need that one person to enjoy life and keep it going .

Mordson:
If you have a well paying business or job, you won't be saying all of this.

Reading between the lines I can deduce the fact that you're very poor. I mean extremely broke. The fact that your wife goes to her mum at the slightest provocation points to that. If you're rich or financial okay, your wife won't dump you like this. Do you think Regina Daniels would ever leave Ned Nwoko, no matter the maltreatment she gets from him? Never.

And something tells me you couldn't satisfy her in za oza room as well. Cos even if you're poor, your wife would have consoled herself with the fact that you make her orgasm all the time in the bedroom. So I understand why you feel miserable.

I will just advise you to get another woman who would accept you the way you are, and you'd forget your ex wife in no time. Except it's extremely hard for you to chyke a woman. 🤨

Op move on from your ex. If you had died of heart attack or cardiac arrest due to her emotional blackmail, you will not be here seeking for advice on how to move on. Please look at the bright side. You are at peace, you did your best to keep your home but your wife was immature. Whether you are good or bad in the other room, it doesn't matter, if you are not satisfied, you communicate with your spouse on the way farward.

You will heal from this pain.This too shall pass!!! You need support from family and close friends right now! You can seek counselling if you can't do. It is alone and put God first in all you do. He will help you heal. Stay strong and am rooting for you!!!!

Odafe360:
you think I'm broke? Lolss... You're pathetic

if you can relate with me, walahi, we go Bleep street people tired, drinks and party and even impregnate someone wives, by the time you wife will be wishing to come back, you will be praying she did not return so quick, na me dey tell my wife now make she commot go spend holiday with her families, she will reply say na because I wan bring another woman come house

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

The product of an idle mind!

Ending your life?? That won't stop your ex-wife from eating rice and stew, with meat after 2 or 3 days. You better discard that thought.!
The first thing you need to do is to make peace with what has happened. Weep, cry, feel bad, feel angry, feel however you want to feel...then LET IT ALL GO!!.
What has happened has happened, there is no turning back now. It is better to focus your energy on your future than dwell on a past that will only suck the remaining life out of you.
As time goes, you will feel less pained and you will only remember that past in passing.
Just like the death of a loved one, after a while we rarely remember them because the cares of day to day life ends up displacing their memories.
The worst mistake you can make is to dwell on it like your life depends on it. It will make you become a shadow of yourself.
Since you are an introvert, surround yourself with family and close friends, or start one or two projects ongoing to keep your mind busy and infuse your life with some new purpose. Not all battles should be fought alone. Sometimes just knowing that someone out there knows how you feel or empathizes with you can give the needed strength to forge on

Sink or swim, the choice is yours!

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

I usually don’t comment on topics such as this but here we go:
1. Don’t distract yourself from the pain, feel it to your core. Process every pain and understand it. Always remember the terrible things she did to you anytime you find yourself wanting to miss her.
2. Get busy, put your whole being into a big project or work. Achieve something that will make you proud of yourself.
3. Delete all memories of her on your phone. Stalk her social media (not advisable tho) to know the whoore she’s descended to if you must, but DON’T CONTACT HER. You need that feeling of hatred to prevent you from making the mistake of reaching out or forgiving her when she comes back (they always do).
4. Forgiveness is overrated. Reconcile with the fact that you deserve a woman that loves you. Any love that is forced isn’t worth it and you’ll regret it more at old age. You don’t have to forgive but ensure you move on.
5. Breed kids with feminine women if you’re financially ok. The sense of purpose those little things bring helps.
6. What you miss is the memories. Replace it with better ones with high class people not lowlives.
7. Lastly, be successful. Success makes you more desirable. But don’t do it for her. Do it for yourself. You’ll wake one day and the pain will feel less and less. And you eventually put it behind you.

Wish you well…

Do you have kid (s), if you have go n take your kid(s), if you have your kid(s) around you, you will quickly recover.

You must be missing the Kuntus.

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

She will definitely come back when the family realises you are not coming to beg this time around. If you accept her back into your home, you have activated the time of your untimely death, beware. Stay with friends, parents or siblings for the time being till you feel better

Kdon2:


Find someone else bro. It's not that difficult. Leave the funk alone!

I bet this is not the solution after break up......if u try to get another idiot to always replace ur previous idiot u will find this sudden flashes of reminisce of the past idiot in the current idiot thereby making u think more about the previous idiot.......

To defeat a woman use another woman.

Changing of location or going on vacation is a waste of money.

How to get a girl easily as an introvert: Patronize a sales girl you like and always tip her,she will likely give you the green light.

tonak:
She will come back, question is, will you take her back. With the way you feel right now, if she comes back you will take her. The biggest mistake I made was accepting her back after she left for 8 months. She became worse. So, ask yourself this question. Once a woman taste outside, it's always very difficult to stay loyal again.

^^^
Interesting take.

Just like your experience proves, there are some couples who separate and stay apart for a season. Once they do get back together, they find out a true reconciliation is impossible - sometimes because one (or both) parties has tasted what's out there and its 'delicious'.

And yet, there are some people who recommend a brief separation (when a marriage is in trouble). The thinking is that time apart allows the couple to clear their heads and decide if they want to continue or not...and that time apart allows them to see what they stand to lose if the marriage fails completely.

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Try and go out more better still get a girlfriend it fill in the space.

The best solution to leave ur ex and forget about her for life is this...........focus on the bad side of her character.....focus on how she treat u as a man with digust......focus more on her negative........infact try to show her more care while she treat u badly ....one day guy u will find out without stress u will walk out on her and her memory will be wiped off ur offerctory lobe.......if uve memorized her phone number then ur entangled..... quickly break her sim and get her a new one u don't know the number .....continue to get her back....her continues disinterest will make u loose intrest

Mordson:
If you have a well paying business or job, you won't be saying all of this.

Reading between the lines I can deduce the fact that you're very poor. I mean extremely broke. The fact that your wife goes to her mum at the slightest provocation points to that. If you're rich or financial okay, your wife won't dump you like this. Do you think Regina Daniels would ever leave Ned Nwoko, no matter the maltreatment she gets from him? Never.

And something tells me you couldn't satisfy her in za oza room as well. Cos even if you're poor, your wife would have consoled herself with the fact that you make her orgasm all the time in the bedroom. So I understand why you feel miserable.

I will just advise you to get another woman who would accept you the way you are, and you'd forget your ex wife in no time. Except it's extremely hard for you to chyke a woman. 🤨

baba dey look for diapers instead of u to give him diapers .....ur buying iron panties for him to put on......2025 .....them go open ur file for this head wey u break.....

Don’t mind those who are attributing your travails to poverty. Your wife is taking advantage of your simping attitude. If you picked her from her mother’s place at the first time , you should have never done it again.

Fujiyama:


^^^
Sometimes it just doesn't work out, perhaps because it was never meant to be in the first place.

You can say all that not after you're married. It doesn't happen by chance.
There's the supernatural hand of God in that, no matter how coincidental or worse it may look. Change your sight hand see what God sees.
If you begin to believe, you begin to see the hand of God.

May God see you through this trying time.Sometimes we make decisions we are so scared of.
Well I was once in deep love and he left without a fight.My brother told me to block him and delete anything have to do with him from my phone.That was when I was able to move on.Try to go on vacation.

Time heals all wounds.

Moving on is always hard, except you never loved the person. I don't know how long your divorce is but i want you to know that you're only human, you'll feel the pain, why not? That was someone you once shared your life with. You'll move on eventually, and when that time comes, you'll no longer feel any pain, you'll just smile, shake your head and keep moving.

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community.

Wait o, are you invariably saying that nairalanders advise you to divorce your wife and you heeded to the advice? Oga, if the answer is yes then you no be man na. U can't preside over a home. No wonder your wife get liver dey leave house at will. And you are here again seeking advice to cope with the divorce they advised you to do.

U can't make decisions as a man. U can't hold down your home, wife leaves at will, u go back to beg, she comes back and leaves again at will. U are not a man. No authority and headship. Na your wife be the authority, then nairalanders. Talk true, if na your daughter wey your wife be, will you support her to marry a man like you who can't fully represent the authority and the headship that a husband represent? U can't even make decisions on your own unless you get advice from nairalanders and others. If na you be your wife, talk true u go marry your type.?

Odafe360:
you think I'm broke? Lolss... You're pathetic

then since ur not broke then I can tell u the problem u have ......

1. Ur a weak over indulging man who always want to please her ...
2. Ur sexual prowess is very poor ...the woman feel ur dick is not satisfactory
3......u alwys want to avoid issues but she use the slightest opportunity to make issue out of nothing
4.. u beg and plead with her often...( Women hate it when u always bow down to their demand )
5... Ur very cold and boring...
6. People don't respect u around. Thts y ur wife is taking u for granted
7. The family of ur wife have undue influence over ur marriage and wife cuz u report issues to them at will

8. No matter how u try to hide it ur a struggling man .....

Elusive001:




You didn't understand my response.

I responded to the child who said that the poster's wife left because he was poor.

Okay

Bro, claiming you don't smoke, drink, or womanize doesn't necessarily mean you're blameless in the situation. Honestly, you might have unintentionally contributed to her actions. Reflect on your behavior and consider addressing any unresolved issues.

If she's made it clear she's not interested, it's best to respect her decision and move on. Alternatively, you could seek guidance from mentors or people she respects to help mediate the situation.

However, I'd advise against involving family members, as they might escalate the situation. Ire o"

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Bro, claiming you don't smoke, drink, or womanize doesn't necessarily mean you're blameless in the situation. Honestly, you might have unintentionally contributed to her actions. Reflect on your behavior and consider addressing any unresolved issues.

If she's made it clear she's not interested, it's best to respect her decision and move on. Alternatively, you could seek guidance from mentors or people she respects to help mediate the situation.

However, I'd advise against involving family members, as they might escalate the situation. Ire o"

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

Odafe360:
I posted a previous topic about my divorce with my wife and i got alot of advice on this platform which really encouraged & have me strength.

I'm really grateful for the nairaland community. The only issue i'm still battling with right now is how to move on, i'm trying everyday to forget the past, but the more i try, the more it's becoming fresh in my heart and the pains too. I won't lie to you it's difficult. Sincerely sometimes i cry and the thoughts of ending my life comes and goes. I don't drink, I don't smoke, neither do i womannize and worst of all i don't have much friends cos I'm more of an introvert.

A snippet of the entire problem is that most times we have an issue and she leaves the house, i've always been the one going to speak to her mum, plead and bring them back home, that's why whenever there's problem and she goes back to her mom's place, nobody from her family would contact me to even hear my side because I've become like a fool to them cos they know i'll still come. This last one that she left, we just had a little issue and she packed a her things and left. So many people not to go to her family house and beg this time around since i didn't send them packing. I swear guys, i've forgiven and tolerated what 90% of men won't forgive nor tolerate from her.

Please guys help a brother with more advice, how do i move on?

At this point, you have to come out of your introvert life style

You may end up feeling depressed if you don't do what is good for you

If you feel you have ended the relationship with her, start another one soon to fill in the gap and prevent you from falling into depression and loneliness

If you you still want her back, go as usual and do the needful

But it's best you decide what you want and take a new step

Start mixing up with people and adjust yourself quickly

tommy589:


Have you gone through divorce before? You can not imagine and proffer solution if you have not experienced it.
Pet owners feels the absence and companionship of their missing pets and long for it,not to talk of a human being that you shared your life with under the same roof

Bro, I have seen a lot of divorce cases and people... It's never a good idea to separate/divorce and still be bleeping, especially for the man...
Before a woman leaves her marriage physically, she had left emotionally for at least 3 months (facts bro). At that point she can destroy you so other women don't have you.

Once she packs out, bro bite the bullet and move on... She's only allowing you to bleep because she hasn't found someone else and keeping other women away from you.
Bro, man can't move on if you're still bleeping her.
Trust me mehn it's not worth it... Move on, self-service away, bleep all you can but never a woman who left you and packed out of your marital home.