oti-igba:

because why would you have an affair? if you are not happy(what ever happy means to you) in your marriage, walk away quietly besides whats makes you think you wont do it again? and what are the guarrantees of happiness in having an affair? people who have an affair never stops they enjoy it. so i say no mending!! no second chances!! throw them out of your house!!

Is'nt that harsh!!!!!! i hope when u're found wanting, u wldnt mind the same action carried on u aswell?.

Hi all,i decided to contribute to this very sensitive and controversial topic. I know of someone who is married to a man who is cheating on her and does not care about her emotions, she is still in the marriage contemplating whether to stay or leave after a couple of years. So its not enough for the cheating party to apologize and be remorseful for his/her actions but to STOP cheating, lying, late nights and bad friends also. Men are most guilty of this. The average married man will not only cheat but society expects the wife to swallow it and keep the home,while exposing herself to risks of std's including hiv/aids+the emotional trauma and deep hurts she has to nurse over and over again. I just think in Africa, marriage does not favour women.

1stCitizen: Many unsincere comments here. In most parts of the world the mending or ending depends on the gender of the party that does the cheating. Unfortunate but true. Even Jesus acknowledges that heart of a man is too hard so Moses advised the issuance of divorce certificate in such situations.

Why is it easy to catch a man that cheats? Because the chances of the woman getting over the hurt is 90%. So the level of carefulness is like 4 on a scale of 10.

Why is it difficult to catch the a woman? Because the chances of getting forgiveness is NIL so the level of carefulness is 10 on a scale of 10.

guy i believe u 100%. I know a guy that has a relationship with a woman that works with TIMARIV for three yrs and even had a child with her. When the woman passed away and nobody to look after the little girl, he just brought her to his house and GBAM. Imagine how shocked his wife was when she saw the little girl. After all the battle the man won and now he and his wife are livivng happily, taking care of the little girl even though the wife has her own kids

oti-igba:
no mending, no second chances, if you cheat it means you are no longer interested in the marriage

if i cheat on my wife, i will just keep quiet for some time and see what her actions will be if she will file 4 a divorce or not. If she files for a divorce, no problems. There are other fish in the sea, but if not, i will just take her for a weekend, away from our place maybe to a quite, nice resort and plead with her and explain everything with her. Allow her to just enjoy herself and i tell u she will forgive u with all her heart. Women are that romance lovers. Those things attracts them a lot

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