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Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by lolaluv1(f): 8:35pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
^^^ Yeah, I shouldn't over-generalize and there are always exceptions to a rule. But you can see that a good number agreed with the analogy. Maybe you're reacting because you're not like that. But if you were to look at things objectively, you'd see that it's quite true. Maybe not about all, but about a good number! |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by InkedNerd(f): 8:39pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
*dhtml: I wasn't surprised that guys were replying. I was surprised that not a lot of them were replying. The OP, clearly stated that she needed a male perspective on this but the first few people to reply were the women [which isn't bad since she's said she's ok with us replying]. |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Cipriana: 8:52pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
*dhtml: Please, no vex. I meant no harm with my post. I was just trying to gage the male perspective on this ![]() Mrs, Chima: I appreciate the support. Mynd_44: Thank you so much! I'm taking it all in. I'm just trying to see how I will go about it. I never really thought I'd the type to be on a forum baring my heart to people for advice ![]() Blackteeth: Yes, I did say that I know what to do. I just wanted the opinions and views of some men, that's all. I know which path to take, all I wanted was to know how to get there. It's not that I'm looking for everyone to solve my problem. My heart has already co-signed on solving the problem. Mending things was never an issue for me. It may not be a head cracking issue for you but it definitely is one for me and perhaps anyone else who may be in the same position. |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Russialane(m): 9:06pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
break what sort of break its either we r in or out in essence if i were to be your guy i will prefer to settle whatsoever disagreement we have sooner because if any sort of break comes in girl it means am done with you. |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by lolaluv1(f): 9:14pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
Russialane: Ahem! |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Cuddlemii: 9:15pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
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Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Russialane(m): 9:21pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
@lola.luv WHAT is[b] Ahem[/b] or you r being sarcastic meaning Amen |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by lolaluv1(f): 9:30pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
I just cleared my throat to call someone's attention to your post. Cause I said earlier that our guys don't fancy going on relationship breaks. . . ![]() |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Nobody: 9:31pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
It is best you settle it quickly if you value the guy especially if you were the one that wronged him. Even if you are not the wrong try settle with him, or else you might lose him. @inkie, most guys don't like this type of topic, they prefer the oko ati obo topics. But the poster spoke well is why some even responded sef. |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Cipriana: 9:35pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
lola.luv: So I've noticed ![]() *dhtml: Why? ![]() |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by InkedNerd(f): 9:37pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
*dhtml: Oko ati obo? Ummm, translation please. I no sabi Yoruba o! I can only say basic things, I'm not a Yoruba linguistic expert o! |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Russialane(m): 9:53pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
let me help you all out the dude means most guys prefer the D, I, C, K and the P, U, S, S, Y TOPICS , oko ati obo let him speak for himself not every guy is a pervert, |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Cipriana: 10:06pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
Russialane: Oh I see. I don't think most guys here are like that. Some of them seem like they genuinely care at times ![]() |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by InkedNerd(f): 10:25pm On Jan 08, 2012 |
Russialane: Hmmm, interesting ![]() |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Nobody: 7:20am On Jan 09, 2012 |
Caramba! La senorita de mehico nuevo, interesante. . . That is the explanation I can give why male reaponses are not much. If it were those threads, u woul ave seen so many pages of responses at the moment. Of course, not every guy is like that na. Just sayin my opinion. If you look at a more elstupido thread in sexuality - in luv making, who enjoys most. U can see really elaborate responses from guys only - now how do you explain that? Anyway la poster, espero you ave found.a favorable answer? |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Mynd44: 8:47am On Jan 09, 2012 |
Well since you have gotten the advice you need, can the derailling please start? This thread is a wee bit too peaceful |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Metalgoong(m): 8:57am On Jan 09, 2012 |
@poster I think you should try to work out things with your ex. You know, sometimes people would think that the grass is always greener on the other side. Some of your girl friends, who might even be jealous of your relationship, might be telling you to "forget about the loser , baby you deserve better" ![]() ![]() Let me end with this proverb: If the mountain will not come to mahomet, mahomet must go to the mountain. Goodluck!! BTW, are both of you Nigerian?? |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Nobody: 9:43am On Jan 09, 2012 |
Donde es our poster? Aye, the thread derailers are ready to start their work. . . .I prefer that part, this peacefulness does not make me too happy. |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by tpia5: 11:46am On Jan 09, 2012 |
Dating one nigerian man does not mean you're dating all nigerian men. Why do people keep opening these d.aft threads? ![]() If more men havent responded its not because s.ex wasnt mentioned but because they dont know you from adam but you're calling them as if they do. Jeez. |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by tpia5: 11:49am On Jan 09, 2012 |
Of course i assume the poster is simply trying to drive traffic or might actually be one of those multiple ids. |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Orton10(m): 12:13pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
#Topic, For me, the "appropriate" time apart should depend on; - the issue at hand, - the guy in question and - your very self, poster. If you want him back so bad, why not call him? Sure he feels the same about you? Because it seems like you're the only one trying so hard to make it work. Oh well. |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by LordReed(m): 1:40pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
I for one think that giving of space is a mind trick. You no longer want to deal with the issues concerning your relationship yet you don't want to say you are no longer dating, a silly step if you ask me. Stay together and thrash out your issues or leave and get it over with. If a girl asks me for a break I'll tell her if you want a break fine but I don't accept it as a solution. What will you do in the time apart? You ain't living together so what do you need further "space" for? As far as I know guys this side of the world don't really do the "space" thing. The mind trick is that they are preparing to jump ship but still give you the impression that they want you. A big TRICK! |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Mynd44: 4:44pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
The OP should see me in my room for a private advice session. But the time we finish nacking akpako inspiration go come sharp sharp |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Mynd44: 4:47pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
*dhtml:Who cares if you are happy or not? |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Cipriana: 7:52pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
Metalgoong: Don't worry I didn't have any girlfriends talking in my ear or telling to leave him. And yes, we're both Nigerian. *dhtml: ![]() tpia@: tpia@: How about you do me a major favor and keep your mouth shut. I may not post on this site frequently but I have certainly observed the nasty manner that you reply to people. You are very vile and full of nothing but negativity. If you honestly have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING positive to contribute then please take your poison spewing ways elsewhere. I don't know the kind of hated or evil that is a part of your life and I don't care to know but I don't need any of it. Didn't your mother ever teach you that if you don't have anything good to say then you shouldn't say anything at all?? Did you even have an positive figure in your life to teach you that? If not, then now you know. I know I cannot stop your vile comments on this thread but I certainly won't sit around and tolerate it! Orton1_0: I will give him a call pretty soon. Either that or I'll ask him to meet up with me so we can talk face to face. And yes, I'm sure he feels the same. Lord_Reed: I'm not one to play mind tricks. That's not a part of who I am ![]() Mynd_44: Chineke! I said I wanted my boyfriend back, not that I was looking to replace him ![]() ![]() |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Mynd44: 9:57pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
^^^ Don't worry by the time we finish, you will know what to do to have him back |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by tpia5: 10:51pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
jobless poster keep asking senselessly for unnecessary advice. like we dont know you're busy fishing for na today your type dey internet? idi ti yun e tan abi. anyway, i'm sure you're well experienced in servicing multiple men, no matter how many, within short periods of time. are you female by dna or female by choice? |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by tpia5: 10:55pm On Jan 09, 2012 |
not that it matters!!!! no be me you dey look for!!! |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by goodass(m): 3:06am On Jan 10, 2012 |
'how much time do you think is appropriate for you and your girlfriend to stay apart before either of you decide to get together and work things out?' @OP As soon as either of u is ready, dear. |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by Nobody: 8:09am On Jan 10, 2012 |
@op, I was lookin at your profile, thought u might understand spanish, I was writin very very basic spanish. Never mind @tpia, o da bi pe oko awon okunrin ibile wa ni o fe do jare. To be sincere, I stil don't know the purpose of this thread. . .it has neither head nor tale. Who wrong who? Why the separation? Too many questions, but I don't really care. . .nunca |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by LordReed(m): 1:35am On Jan 16, 2012 |
@OP Glad you don't do tricks however I say forget about requesting for time out. Talk your issues out and get it over with instead of allowing it to divide you. |
Re: Advice From Nigerian Men Needed Please by deniyor: 2:15am On Jan 16, 2012 |
Probably too late now but I'll give my own 50c anyways In my opinion, most naija guys are not so keen on taking breaks. Of course there is the ocassional fights where you both don't talk to each other for a while and then you make up. Apart from those, most wouldn't sit down and say they want to take a break. In my experience, when a naija guy says he wants to take a break, what he really means is - he doesn't want the relationship anymore but he either doesn't want to break your heart or he wants to leave room for shagging later when if things don't work out with the new flings he was looking into. Hell, most will even go for the new fling without bothering breaking up with you. But if you must take a break in a relationship, be sure to sit down and discuss the full terms of the break such as: 1. Is it a break or a break up? 2. If it is a break, how long is the break? 3. Are we allowed to see anyone else during the break? 4. Hell, are we allowed to sleep with anyone else during the break? 5. What is the purpose or what do you plan to achieve with the break? 6. What next after the break? Do we automatically continue or do we sit down after the break to consider if we continue or not? 7. And for the FB savvy ones, should we change our fb status to single, complicated etc? That should always be defined during a break. So no one gets angry or jealous (no guarantees anyways) when smth happens during the break or the break is really a break up. I think by now you should hv made up with your boo or esle you are courting with danger. Good luck |
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