So my girlfriend was gisting with me that her friend confided in her(my GF) that her(her friend) got RAPED by her cousin when she was 20 yrs and in the process she got pregnant and had the baby though the baby died later! This caused a lot of issue in their family at that time. she(my sis friend) is married for over 5 years now but she is yet to have a child in her marriage though her husband is not complaining for now o, but the thing is she still sees this cousin of hers up till now and she finds it hard to forgive this cousin of hers. she is now contemplating telling her husband what happened btw her and her cousin in the past,

NLders what do u advice her to do should she tell her husband or not? Because she doesnt know how her husband will react considering the fact that the 'RAPER' is a relative. And he may also think her cousin is/has been behind their childlessness!

NL what wud u do if u were in the girl's situation!

The girl should just let go, what has happened has happened, she should forgive and forget!! so that she can move ahead in life.

Why does she want to tell her husband. . what for?

It's not like she had an abortion . .the baby was born but died.

Although  what the cousin did was totally wrong, she cant go blaming him for her delay in having a child . . is she the only one he slept with before marriage?

I aint saying forget . . but she needs to forgive and let go . . maybe then the child will come . . .Amen.

#realities_of_life

If this happened before the husband, then why does she need to tell her husband she lost a baby by another man?

@ Kokoye, this is the duplicate