RuuDie:

I think the OP has a point. . . . .I can understand a few good, independent women getting upset because of the tone of the topic - but lets  face it - the ones that would rather insist on the guy doing all the hard work and spending all the cash are by far in the majority.
It doesn't all boil down to poverty or the financial situation of such ladies though - in our society, we have been basically brought up with the mentality that the man does all the catering for; so even in some instances where the women are well equipped to take care of themselves; once a man enter's the picture, they seem to default everything onto him!

I have a very hard time believing that any honest, truly 'independent woman' living in Nigeria would get upset by the tone of this topic - knowing full well that the sort of girls described by the OP are in the majority by far. It's just like a 'good' Naija policeman getting upset by the allegation that most policemen are corrupt and dishonest!  A truly good one wouldn't be upset because he realises what the majority are like, and would quietly point out that he is different. From my experience, these rabid females that shout themselves hoarse to dispute a COMMON fact are only voicing their frustrations from a guilty point of view. The few 'independent women' would have nothing to say other than admit that the majority of girls in Naija are indeed like that, and thereafter point out that a few are indeed different. Simple.

Dats not true, I go out all by myself and pay my bills. Makes me feel real gud.

@OP , You are right about your statement because i my self have thought about it so many time especially each time i went to Africa, it's same in all the western eastern Africa. i hardly see ladies taking themselves out for lunch or dinner not to talk about Club or Bar . I believe is not all the ladies but if 5 % can take themselves out then 95 % has won the text . lol. So for the percentage sake the poster is right. Just visit Europe America even Asia you will see how girls use to do it them selves. I think the major problem is poverty mentality in Africa. , SO PUT THE BLAME ON AFRICAN POVERTY .

pro01:

I have a very hard time believing that any honest, truly 'independent woman' living in Nigeria would get upset by the tone of this topic - knowing full well that the sort of girls described by the OP are in the majority by far. It's just like a 'good' Naija policeman getting upset by the allegation that most policemen are corrupt and dishonest! A truly good one wouldn't be upset because he realises what the majority are like, and would quietly point out that he is different. From my experience, these rabid females that shout themselves hoarse to dispute a COMMON fact are only voicing their frustrations from a guilty point of view. The few 'independent women' would have nothing to say other than admit that the majority of girls in Naija are indeed like that, and thereafter point out that a few are indeed different. Simple.

So if a girl says to you. . . . "all men are liars and cheats!" All you will do is single yourself out?

but women say it all the time,

*yawns*

RuuDie:

So if a girl says to you. . . . "all men are liars and cheats!" All you will do is single yourself out?

Yes, ofcourse!! Try convincin her u'r not one!

Nigerian men are seen all over the world as 'bad' people. Hope u know what I mean (liars, cheats, fraudstars etc)

But stil, women from those same counties stil date and marry them. All u need to do is convince that person u'r NOT one, simple!

Even if a naija gal knows that u r a player, she wil stil remain with u, long as u do sort out her bills.

Naija gals knows that most naija guys are liars (or, sweet mouthers). That is why they just try and hook up with the one that lies less.

Naija guys also knows that MOST naija gals DONT keep one BF. That is why what most of them (guys) do is "chop n run!"

have you forgotten that majority of the clubs here don't admit ladies except accompanied by a male? besides,most ladies don't go to clubs; they rather go to saner places like fast foods,parks,posher lounges,the poolside,

And now a club has become a lee sane place

The independent girls don die finish, what we have now are poor girls everywhere

First ☺₣ ÄŁĻ, you can't have a one man/woman party, secondly, personally, I blend more with guys than girls Ŝ☺ I'm ΩØƚ likely to hang out with girls, preferably Ǟ bunch ☺₣ dudes would make my day. Thirdly, if Ǟ girl wants to spoil herself, it definitely wouldn't involve going to Ǟ bar or an eatery to drink ǡŋ₫ gain extra weight

If you're looking for naija girls that like to spend on themselves, go to Ǟ spa or a boutique, or even those okirika markets.

Hmm,the way these men see their naija sisters calls for concern o,na wa o see comments.

I can't speak for other women, but I take myself out all the time. I try not to restrict myself regarding places I go to, unless it comes to clubbing. I [i]do [/i]try to go clubbing with other women or guy friends. If you go alone, stupid guys take it as a license to be even more stupid (besides, most clubs don't let you in if you're alone; the assumption being that you're an ashewo looking for customer). I've gotten into a club solo before, and halfway through the night a total effing stranger came up to me and offered me money if I'd blow him in the toilet! I want to believe he was drunk, because how a woman in a tshirt and jeans can give a man randy thoughts is completely beyond me!

But sometimes, if you're brave enough to venture out alone, you meet some really cool people (men, specifically; we women are not hardwired to be pleasant to each other in unfamiliar social settings ) But women like me are in the minority, and it has nothing to do with stinginess or generosity. We're socialised to suppress our curiousity as women in Nigeria. Besides which, some joints are just safer when you go with a guy, or are part of a crowd.

PLEASE DON'T FLAME ME, ABUSE ME OR QUOTE ANYTHING I HAVE JUST SAID...I swear, this Nairaland is a freakin' minefield these days!