Getting into a relationship is easy, but keeping it alive is
the difficult part. There are plenty of things, big or
small, that an wreck an otherwise great relationship.
Now, Dr Barton Goldsmith, a California-based
psychotherapist and the author of '100 Ways to Boost
Your Self-Confidence - Believe in Yourself and Others
Will Too' reveals what all can kill romantic relationships
and how to save it from falling apart.
1. Money: It's the root of all evils, as they say. If a
partner has been unscrupulous, getting the trust back
can be a challenge, reports the Sydney Morning Herald.
2. Sex/infidelity: A sexless marriage or unfaithfulness
can extinguish love quicker than blowing out a candle.
Don't let the flame burn out and try to renew your sex
life.
3. Disrespect: Research shows that belittling, insulting
or yelling at your partner can cut the chances of your
relationship's survival.
4. Children: Some live for them, others would rather kill
themselves. Make sure to keep things in balance with
your partner, so you have the energy to deal with any
child issues.
5. Opposite-sex friends: If you don't want your spouse/
partner to dine out and have drinks with a member of
the opposite sex, then you need to follow the same
guidelines.
6. Resentments: Don't hold your pain, hurt or anger
inside. If you are harbouring some resentment talk it out
and put the matter to rest, so you can enjoy your
relationship.
7. Lying/broken promises: Even if you're afraid of
getting in trouble, tell the whole truth and don't break
promises, and find a way to make up for past mistakes.
8. Laziness: Keeping a relationship is hard work, and if
you are unwilling to do it, your connection will diminish
and you will begin to resent your partner.
9. Being mean: If you punish your partner when you
don't get your way, or if the two of you give each other
the silent treatment, you are headed for a lifetime of
emotional pain. Stop the nastiness and learn to talk
about it.
10. Discomfort/remodelling. If you are living in a
construction zone, it's pretty hard to feel comfortable.
Injury or illness can create a similar situation. Your
home should be a place of serenity, so if you are
remodelling or are dealing with physical issues, make
your comfort a priority.

What a load of garbage