There is no shame in telling someone you love that you have a baby. Sooner or later, the other fellow would know the beautiful dream they both nurtured would vanish. What use is it for planning to fail just to avoid failing?

Somehow, it had happen to my close friend. He love the girl so much and pampered her like a queen. Then come the revealation that the so-called last born in the family was actually the gal's baby. She had her while in J.S.S. 2! Unknown to her, my friend would have accepted the baby had he be informed earlier.

Needless to say that lie killed a promising relationship. The girl has not found another man since.

I think that Girl is from warri? 

Poster prove me wrong!

I think she just doesn't want you to find out otherwise the relationship may not start at all.

I will also say that she propably do not have a good mother who will have sit both of you down and and try to explain to you right at the begining instead of allowing playing hide and seek.

I think the girl knew that not many naija man will marry a girl with a child somewhere else.

This is one of the deception that goes with relationship sometimes.

In some part of Nigeria, they refer to marriage as 'black market' until daylight comes you don't know what you have choosen. Sometimes marriage/relationship is luck.

But if you are christian, and prayed fervently, God will direct your steps.

It is not the end of the world, speak to your Pastor if you are a christian, this is the place of counselling that would have unearthed something like this.

The Lord will see you through, if you really love her, maybe you want to sit her down for her to bring the rest of the skeleton in the cupboard so that there will be no more surprises.

well there is a chance that if she told u it was ur baby u would deny it and leave her, but where were u the entire 9 months that u didn't notice she was pregnant.

@ topic the girl did you wrong by not informing you about the baby right from the onset.

its all up to you now, its your call: 1. do you love ur girl so much, you don't want to loose her, baby or not?

2. you just can't over -look it (the baby issue)

naturally this creates trust issues ,but remember what ever decision you make you are going to live with it shikena

Ika, true.


Vagasimple, why did you assumed the babe could be warri? Could you expantiate.

As for the black market theory, it is not impossible judging by what goes on in the society lately. We just have to be prayerful

ima1:

well there is a chance that if she told u it was your baby u would deny it and leave her, but where were u the entire 9 months that u didn't notice she was pregnant.

Now that she didnt tell him and d guy comes 2 know makes it even worse.
as 4 d 9months, could b that the girl had her child long b/4 they met.