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Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 5:01pm On Nov 10, 2007 |
Siena: That is why you are my soul mate. May our marriage last for ever! aloib: Like I said, come back to Nairaland in about 10 years and report your "new findings"! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 5:04pm On Nov 10, 2007 |
Errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr?---Oh boy, please share all the e-mails you want with anyone you want. I have said my piece. My e-mails are off limits to EVERYONE!!!! I repeat EVERYONE. I am not interested in anybody else's. No one should be interested in mine. I said I have a lot to hide and so many things for my eyes and nose only! That is my fantasy world and no one goes in there understand?---NO ONE. So do what works for you and I will do what works for me. As for examples of what constitutes "privacy" in a marriage--I think you are too young to understand. They are "things" that will interest me only and I alone. Nothing malicious or dangerous--just pleasurable things for my[b] "mind"[/b] alone. --- No sharing those. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by MoOdYLaDy(f): 5:43pm On Nov 10, 2007 |
na wa ooooooo these people are still on this topic |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by mamaput(f): 5:45pm On Nov 10, 2007 |
very soon husband will demand password to wifes brain just to know what she is thinking |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Nkemify(f): 7:55pm On Nov 10, 2007 |
Ther is nothing wrong in reading ur wifes e-mail unless she has something she is hiding but if she refuses to give u her password please do yourself allot of good by forgetting about it. Nkemify. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by SisiEko1(f): 9:02pm On Nov 10, 2007 |
As an adult there r loads of stuff that u would rather keep private whether you're MARRIED OR NOT You know wat i mean right!!! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by aloib(f): 1:18am On Nov 11, 2007 |
almond , u might be experienced and matured but trust me, because you have had bad experiences with friends dont mean i would have, i dont talk bull shit and i knw wat i'm saying, i have different friends and know wat each one of them can do, it all has to do wid trust, |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by aloib(f): 1:21am On Nov 11, 2007 |
but come to think of it, ur wife refusing to give yu her password isnt a big deal o, i mean if no one is free to do that wid me, then its no big deal, there are many things to deal with than worrying over mails or what not, |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Nobody: 1:23am On Nov 11, 2007 |
aloib: Biola, I trusted someone implicitly, I'm still smarting from a kick in the teeth. So, just be careful whom you trust with your passwords. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 4:16am On Nov 11, 2007 |
aloib: Oh what a nice young lady you are. The "sweet sound" of innocence. I have not had bad experiences with friends believe it or not. Please stay over there in the "phillipland" and don't set your feet in Nigeria anytime soon. People like you--so trusting are easy prey. But I like your trusting nature--it is very refreshing. aloib: Yet UHURU!!!! I think we have finally arrived at the same conclusion. Unless you are absolutely jobless or insecure would anyone even think of another person's e-mail contents. I am too too busy for that kind of nonsense and frankly, there is nothing in another person's e-mail that could possibly interest me. I have enough "blockbuster" topics in my own e-mail box to keep me busy for a life time. Siena: I am sorry I hurt you babeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. Throwing lots of smoochies and hugs your way from the "bottom power" of my heart. It was the work of the devil! Promise it will never happen again. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Nobody: 4:26am On Nov 11, 2007 |
if almondjoy's husband ever reads her posts on nairaland . . . we could be witnessing our first divorce on the land. God forbid! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by mamaput(f): 8:09am On Nov 11, 2007 |
almondjoy: i see this over and over again. have you met any "friend" teenager that did not say the same about her friends. did not our parents give us the same advice, there comes a time when people go another way and that is after school. students to students, workers to workers and drop out to drop outs. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by ozigbo(m): 10:57am On Nov 11, 2007 |
The answer is Capital NO. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by angel101(f): 1:21pm On Nov 11, 2007 |
There is no reason why anyone should read anothers emails. for christs sake can i not have a life just cos i am married? for all of u who are saying the man has every right to know, does he also have the right to know that my father has transfered an STD to my mother? huh! gimme a break! every body has a right to some privacy. its totally up to u 2 give up that right or not. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 2:00pm On Nov 11, 2007 |
mamaput: There you go! Thanks mamaput--always with a lot of wisdomly letters. It is good to be young----as teenagers and 20 somethings. The log will soon fall out of most peoples eyes. davidylan: Ooooooooooooooooh! I am pissing in ma pants!!!! I am so scared! Heh! Let us just say I have "privacy" on certain issues just as he has "privacy" on certain issues. We compromise very well. The secret of any meaningful and successful "union"!!!! Learn that davidylan-----learn that! angel101: Amen to that!!! Another wise female in the house!!!! Some relish the idea of "marriage" being a life sentence without any privileges at all. Foul! Infact, the longer you are married--the more privileges you accquire! You earn them! I refuse to give up my rights to my "private fantasy world of e-mails"! Too much pleasure derived from that. That thrill cannot be duplicated even with a boyfriend or husband--sorry oh! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Frankies(m): 2:45pm On Nov 11, 2007 |
I tried not to register my prescence in this tread but I got pissed off by some responses I am reading in here. A wife hid her password from her man and you are talking about privacy? What kind of privacy are you talking about in marriage that your man should not know? If you dont tell such secret to your hubby, what for god sake, are you going to tell him again? MARRIAGE IS ABOUT SHARING SECRETS AND RELATED MATTERS. If not why do you decide to be together and be strangers, yes strangers, that does not know anything about you. Funny enough , a stranger might even know more about you than your hubby. @ Almondjoy I wouldn't know why you decide to be the way you are but I am sure the best is better than anything you think of. As for me, If there is anyway I can know my wife's password to her brain, she will willingly give it to me. I know her PINs,passwords and any other access sensitive issues both electronic and hard materials.Not by force , she believes you have to know and she unconciously does that. I admire her for that and it makes me to reciprocate by being all-time faithful to her I can drop my three handsets for my wife to answer if she cares. She carelessly drops her two fones in the house anytime anyday and will be annoyed with me if she sees a missed call why the fone is near me.(Dont like answering her calls) Above all, she is a very beautiful woman that any man will always dream of. If you don;t have any skeleton in your cupboard, you will give your spouse any access he desires in your life. only few marriages that are secretive survive the test of time. Speaking from experience of a close one. ANOTHER WORD FOR MARRIAGE IS TRANSPARENCY. IT WORKS LIKE A LUBRICANT. I rest my case. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 4:05pm On Nov 11, 2007 |
Please you guys should not come in here if what you have to write has been echoed and re-echoed! Let this thread die a natural death please!!!!!! Frankies: See me see wahala oh! Did I say I wanted to marry you? If I were married to your kind and you ever read my e-mails, I will gladly kick you and your suitcase out! Who cares about your 3 cell phones? You ain't impressing me, sorry! Sure your wife is beautiful and so are billions out there! Now--Step!!!!! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by mamaput(f): 7:50pm On Nov 11, 2007 |
war tactic.: give the dog a bone to keep him busy. That way you can do what you came for. If my husband left all his phones for me etc etc. ., i will thats for me a bone, some people still meet in the good old way and that is through messages my word of mouth. If am meeting my lover today at 10 we will book the next appointment b4 we part. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by deevuu(m): 9:22pm On Nov 11, 2007 |
apart from the privacy ur intrudin on, u will just kill urself, |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Teriba(m): 11:15pm On Nov 11, 2007 |
I can`t remember any thread that I`ve found more educative and enlightening than this-not in a very good way though! I mean, what are people really thinking ? Anyway, I`m going to cut the chase and give the poster my humble opinion. Bay1970, it would interest you to know how somebody defined frienship. I repeat, this has to do with FRIENDSHIP, not marriage in any way. According to Aristotle, " A friend is a single soul in two bodies". Now, I will like to believe that a marriage should be an advanced form of frienship. My main advice to you is to prepare for any eventuality in what you are still calling your marrige today; you do have a union, but you don`t have a marriage. What you`ve seen on this thread is the case of majority of those that have your type of union. Whenever we are married to the wrong partner the result is what you are facing. In the grand scheme of things, e-mail address is just too minor a thing to warrant struggling over. If you find it difficult to let your wife read your mail or know your password, it simply means that, even if you are 45 years old, you are still psychologically immatured enough to enter into any marriage. So, I just want you to see her refusal as a sign of things to come. This thread has shown why divorce rates are increasing everyday; some people`s view of marriage is just too bogus. Isn`t there a difference b/w a marriage and a secret societ? It`s no marriage if it doesn`t mean a total acceptance of your partner-ugly mails in the box included. I still want you to give her the benefit of the doubt though. Please call her and ask why her mail box should be a no-go area for her husband. What she tells you would be revealing. Good luck |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by herthesir(f): 2:33pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
what you dont know doesnt hurt.why on earth do u need the password.why dont u let sleeping dogs lie.it is none of ur bizness.no matter wat married or not she has a rite to her privacy.pls my bro dont take any offences unless u want to break ur marriage |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by matori(m): 2:40pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
too childish and immature.how on earth do u think u can get anything from that-reading texts,e-mails or picking phone calls.TRUST is always better to be built in any relationship. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Frankies(m): 4:41pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
@ Matori Trust, my foot, look my friend, I dont trust blindly. Trust your spouse while someone else could be busy helping you to explore her body. That is bullshit. What if you overlook all those ,believing all is well while something is really wrong somewhere? I believe in trust in a relationship but at the same time there should be an evidence of that trust in form of transparency. @ Almondjoy. For god sake, what part of village are you from? you sound too backward and unenlightened. I dont know what suggested in my mail that I want to marry you. My wife worths more than 1000 of U. Go and get a brain.I know you dont have a great relationship with your hubby and that is why you hide things a lot from him.Reconcile with your hubby. Dont try to negatively influence innocent youths on this site.They will learn how to hide things from their spouse thinking it is the ideal thing to do. I pity you. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Nobody: 7:06pm On Nov 12, 2007 |
almond,I don laugh tire. question : Is it okay to read your wife's email answer :If she let's you besides that it is not okay. hammering on her to let you read it is not okay. It is called intimidation. Intimidation is not love. Almond don't mind these unmarried folks. They will remember these words someday and be wondering why they couldn't see what Nwando was saying. Again no one is hiding a thang. The main issue here is that the wife's email or letters adrdressed to her are not his. He can only read them when she allows him to. That is called RESPECT!! Thank God I married a man who is not like some of these folks I'm reading from. Like mamaput said,what next? a password to her brain? since they're a couple,doesn't he have a right to her thinking faculty? |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by allonym: 1:24am On Nov 13, 2007 |
Should partners be allowed to read each other's emails? Sure, if they've been granted permission to do so. However, everyone has a need for some privacy in their life. For some, it could be emails, for others, it could be a diary. It could be a blog. If your partner has some part of their life they want to keep to themselves, you should respect that. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by almondjoy(f): 9:04am On Nov 13, 2007 |
Frankies: Please I am also a youth! --I am from that Auchi-Agenegbode side in Nigeria where married people respect each other ok? Thanks for your concerns. I will try not to "negatively influence innocent youths". nwando: Leave them jo nwando. We are all in Nairaland abi? They will come back and tell us their findings in about 10 years. Like na e-mail own dey worry me now? allonym: And may God continue to bless you for your words of wisdom! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by RichyBlacK(m): 9:21am On Nov 13, 2007 |
Frankies: Powerful! @Frankies, after reading your post, I was quickly dragged out of that dark and fetid cave almondjoy was pushing me into. A married man who believes in and practices TRANSPARENCY in his marriage! Thank you!!! |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by somze(f): 9:27am On Nov 13, 2007 |
There is nothing wrong in viewing your wife's mail. If she has noting to hide it should not be an issue. My closest Aunt and her husband are like that. They share passwords, pick up each others calls and stuff. I even have all my aunts passwords. Even her internet bank account. I have her husband's business mail password. When I get married I want to be able to share anything with my spouse. It's really not a big deal. If your wife has nothing to hide she will so easily give you her mail. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by RichyBlacK(m): 9:30am On Nov 13, 2007 |
Frankies: GBAM! Omo, this Frankies guy dey yarn correct! That statement is so important it needs to be re-echoed: Don't try to negatively influence innocent youths on this site.They will learn how to hide things from their spouse thinking it is the ideal thing to do. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by RichyBlacK(m): 9:38am On Nov 13, 2007 |
somze: @somze True talk. As far as I'm concerned, there is nothing like privacy between me and my wife. I will not marry a woman who does not believe in complete transparency. @Frankies, I will like to marry a woman like your wife, a woman who has NOTHING to hide. May God not abandon me in the hands of hide-and-seek women wey don dey boku for this world. Amen. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by RichyBlacK(m): 9:41am On Nov 13, 2007 |
nwando: @nwando, But Frankies is married and shares our optimistic view of the coexistence of marriage, transparency and trust. |
Re: Is It Okay To Read Your Wife's E-Mails? by Seun(m): 9:43am On Nov 13, 2007 |
What if she's planning a surprise party for you? Or a special birthday present? |
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