if your neighbor gives birth and didnt inform you but told other neighbors, is it okay to congratulate them?

no preaching please because i believe in an eye for an eye.


my friends are divided on this issue.

Haba!! Why is this even a question??

Of course you congratulate them naa. . .Yoruba people say the birth of child cancels all malice (I am paraphrasing here of course)

'Sides, there is nothing in the rule book that says they must tell you. . .babies usually announce themselves. Obviously you musta seen the growing of the belle, so you had to know the baby was coming anytime soon.

Abeg wish them well and carry on with your life oh jare.

By the way, what do you mean an eye for an eye? Are you going to go get pregnant and not tell them when the baby comes. . .abi what?

One problem of living in a face me i face you rooms.

You better go congratulate them before they give you name that is not urs.

well my friend who is involved says he will pretend he isnt aware.

Why didn't he tell you ? If the two of you are not in good terms, and they did it on purpose, then I wouldn't ask you to go and congratulate. Would assume they didn't want your wishes/gifts and hence didn't bother to tell you. On the other hand, if everything was okay between the two families till now, I'd give them benefit of doubt and go ahead and congratulate them. Maybe they were too busy to be informing each neighbour in person.

OYINBOGOJU: One problem of living in a face me i face you rooms.

You better go congratulate them before they give you name that is not urs.

funny enough he stays in oniru estate in v/i.

ouuch! i hope he doesnt see this.

Sisi_Kill: Haba!! Why is this even a question??

Of course you congratulate them naa. . .Yoruba people say the birth of child cancels all malice (I am paraphrasing here of course)

'Sides, there is nothing in the rule book that says they must tell you. . .babies usually announce themselves. Obviously you musta seen the growing of the belle, so you had to know the baby was coming anytime soon.

Abeg wish them well and carry on with your life oh jare.

By the way, what do you mean an eye for an eye? Are you going to go get pregnant and not tell them when the baby comes. . .abi what?

The next time you make me ROFLMAO you will have to wash my shirt.
@topic: You expected your neigbour to come with wine and inform you? Go and congratulate them jor

Smilenw: Why didn't he tell you ? If the two of you are not in good terms, and they did it on purpose, then I wouldn't ask you to go and congratulate. Would assume they didn't want your wishes/gifts and hence didn't bother to tell you. On the other hand, if everything was okay between the two families till now, I'd give them benefit of doubt and go ahead and congratulate them. Maybe they were too busy to be informing each neighbour in person.

No be me joh!@
he will be in a better position to answer that.

Sisi_Kill: Haba!! Why is this even a question??

Of course you congratulate them naa. . .Yoruba people say the birth of child cancels all malice (I am paraphrasing here of course)

'Sides, there is nothing in the rule book that says they must tell you. . .babies usually announce themselves. Obviously you musta seen the growing of the belle, so you had to know the baby was coming anytime soon.

Abeg wish them well and carry on with your life oh jare.

By the way, what do you mean an eye for an eye? Are you going to go get pregnant and not tell them when the baby comes. . .abi what?

end of discusion!

Odunnu:
The next time you make me ROFLMAO you will have to wash my shirt.
@topic: You expected your neigbour to come with wine and inform you? Go and congratulate them jor

the "an eye for an eye" was me insinuating since he wasnt told then he should stay calm.

acidtalk: if your neighbor gives birth and didnt inform you but told other neighbors, is it okay to congratulate them?

no preaching please because i believe in an eye for an eye.


my friends are divided on this issue.

congratulate? yes
go for their party? no

It might sting a little bit that your neighbor told everybody else but you, but you can't withhold your congratulations for a perceived slight. Be the bigger person! Tell them you heard the good news and wanted to say congratulations! If you don't go congratulate them, you have made yourself permanent enemies (trust me, they and other neighbors that hear about it will never forget). You don't want that kind of reputation in the neighborhood.

chaircover: maybe you weren't in when he went round telling the other neighbors; maybe in the excitement he forgot, maybe he has an axe to grind with you whateva

I would buy a gift and a card and take it there; then they will be the ones feeling guilty assuming they did it deliberately and if it were a genuine mistake then that will give them an opportunity to apologize for the oversight and ya'all can go back to living your neighborly life. Life is way too short for all these petty petty fights.

I am not sure buying a gift in this situation is wise (I am assuming the OP is in Nigeria). Gifts like that end up in the trash! You know how superstitious Nigerians are about gifts from people they don't like! Growing up, one troublesome (but probably well-intentioned) man in our neighborhood went to America and bought I and my siblings Swatch watches. My mum refused to let us even open the box!!! She prayed over the watches and re-gifted them to somebody else!!!! Hahahaha! A bloody waste of perfectly nice watches but that's the Naija way for you! Everyone thinks everybody else is trying to jazz them.

Some Lagos tenants are funny set of people. It happened to me too, as in adjacent room and the funny thing was that we use to greet fine. I was suprised to here from another neighbour who heard from another neighbour one week later that the woman has given birth. I only asked after her cos i didn't see for some time. Well i did not say anything till about one month later when i saw the woman in a shop outside the compound with the baby that i congratulated her. I believe in respect and treating your fellow human the way you would want them to treat you! They only told a few selected neighbours: so if they don't see me as their neighbour, y should i c them as one?
Your friend should follow his heart.

PrettyCindy: Some Lagos tenants are funny set of people. It happened to me too, as in adjacent room and the funny thing was that we use to greet fine. I was suprised to here from another neighbour who heard from another neighbour one week later that the woman has given birth. I only asked after her cos i didn't see for some time. Well i did not say anything till about one month later when i saw the woman in a shop outside the compound with the baby that i congratulated her. I believe in respect and treating your fellow human the way you would want them to treat you! They only told a few selected neighbours: so if they don't see me as their neighbour, y should i c them as one?
Your friend should follow his heart.

spoken like a typical lagosian....

congratulating them is no biggie. they probably forgot to tell the complainer....
on the flip-side, they probably felt he's too close to them to need a formal
announcement. i don't need an invite to go to the parties of some of my close buddies.

What a weird arse question, Are you not happy for them?

Births & Deaths bring people together irrespective of whatever misunderstandings they might have between them.

Tell your friend to set aside his displeasure with his neighbour and to go wish them well. It's the mature thing to do.

beautiful contributions i must confess.
might just send him this link.

You mean men also have time for this, 'my neighbour does not greet me, my neighbour did not tell me' thing?

Some people are rather stuck up.

tell ur frnd to go and greet the nw born baby