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Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by angiemartinez(f): 7:47am On Jun 07, 2012 |
PortHarcourtBoy:curry n thyme 4 soup? Nah nah, i told u phboy dis is nt faling hand, wel jst tink twice, btw ur stomak, ur bed, n ur love. |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by jennyb2: 7:48am On Jun 07, 2012 |
am very very sorry for u if u dnt take to ur hills. an adage says d "eyes dat will go blind will begin to bring out puss in d morning" my dear a broken relationship is better dan a broken marriage havent u heard dat? watever u struggle to get u struggle to keep. trust me dis guy will become ten times worst my d time u get married. |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Nobody: 7:50am On Jun 07, 2012 |
For crying out out loud... my Fiancee cannot cook, she knows it, i'm not saying this behind her...she cannot cook!! I do the cooking most times because I've been doing this since 16... Well, if instead of her improving on her skills, she chooses to stick to her ineptitudes Omo...me I go match oh... no time! |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Ninilowo(m): 7:55am On Jun 07, 2012 |
I hoope you can still remember the issue of the banker lady that was killed by her husband. If you dont want you own to be like that, YOU NEED TO LEAVE HIM IMMEDIATELY! Sorry ffor being blunt. |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Faithnn: 7:59am On Jun 07, 2012 |
Lady, a man that calls u fool cannot be ur husband.The earlier u disengage the better for 4 u.Start a new life with one that values u. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by spothot: 8:00am On Jun 07, 2012 |
@phboy it's either your girl is one of these aje butter girls who practically has been spoilt as far as house chores are concerned or maybe inherrently lazy some girls don't know that for the mere fact that you are a good cook can make ur spouse not to look the other way |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Nobody: 8:02am On Jun 07, 2012 |
shizzle11:i never said she should bring a relative. i said a relative should teach her or a friend. Concerning contentment, read further and carefully too, i'm sure you would see why i said so too. besides, i'm noticing something very fishy on this thread. A few min ago, EloJo spoke like Doctorazz and then erased it. but i'm not sure, i'm beginning to doubt authenticity |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by shizzle11(m): 8:03am On Jun 07, 2012 |
Ivynwa: How come Doctorazz lady started the thread and Portharcourt man took over the thread? Why is she not responding? Are you sure that you are not very domineering, Ph man? Domineering, how ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Nobody: 8:04am On Jun 07, 2012 |
I cook, I clean the house, I get bad sex...wetin some of una dey yarn sef? All my Fiancee can do is lie on the bed and ask me to cuddle her...is that what marriage is all about? As a man I neva try? I'm the one managing her and hoping someday she'd change... if I dump her for one of the many chicks disturbing my life at the moment, you guys would be quick to say "Guys are wicked"... If you love her, advice her oh... 'cos my patience is running out |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by deenee: 8:04am On Jun 07, 2012 |
I am inclined not to have any sympathy for the poster for some reasons which I will state below. We have only listened to your own side of the story and there is one particular piece of information herein about your "verbally abusive" boyfriend. You have added that he is currently unemployed. This present state can be quite frustrating and demeaning for a man's ego. Now, I am aware that my view could be biased and I am also not holding sway for his "act of cowardice", (yes I will call it this because any man that abuses a woman either verbally or physically is one) but how have you helped him in this regard? Do you encourage him with motivating words or embark of a journey of self comparison(your mates are doing this and that and you are still looking for a job etc). The worst thing that can happen to a man is to have his ego bruised and besides relationships is not just about sex and food alone. On second thought, if all you have said is true, then there no point staying another second in the relationship. The holy books spells out the consequences of casting our "pearls amongst swine", but hey this is Nigeria where most ladies get "confused" when you try to be polite and treat them with decorum so I am not surprised! They would prefer to be in a relationship where they are treated like "trash" and kept in the background rather than one where they will be pampered and treated like the "Nubian" queens that they ought to be. I was in Nigeria late last year for my parent's wedding anniversary and decided to visit this chinese restaurant on the island. I ran into three ladies at the entrance and tried to be a gentleman by opening the door for them to enter. To my wider shock, I overheard one of the ladies calling me a "mugu". Upon further inquiry, from my cousin at home, I was told what the derogatory term stands for. Similarly, another lady immediately assumed I was after her BB pin and tel number and instantly declined even before I asked for it just because I offered to assist her with her extra baggage at Shoprite. @ the poster, sorry about your predicament but "I am not holding my breath" |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by seedord247(m): 8:06am On Jun 07, 2012 |
shollypops or wettin be your name . . If your man is MAGA does not mean every man should be. If you used VOODOO on ya husband and it works does not mean it wil work for others. If your man do the house job for you and you are on here gossiping on NL . . who cares? If you are lucky to be the bread winner of ya family . . Pls who cares? If you want to give advice . . be straight forward rather than using your family plight to judge others. ![]() @PBoy. . . I knew all what she has been ranting were true lies. Thank God, you have come here to defend yourself. despite the fact that i got married to a white lady, I have only been to the kitchen twice and i can't remember the last time i do the house work. The people giving her advice are singles ladies bcus they are deprived of man and they want her to join the clique of Oprah. ![]() ![]() Bros . . Na you know where the thing they pinch you ooo. just sit her down and tell her the does and don't she doesnt know. ![]() |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Onyenna(m): 8:07am On Jun 07, 2012 |
If all you wrote here is the truth and nothing but the truth,so help you God..... Was it previously like this?.....I mean, when did all this abuse(s) start?....but, doctorazz, I don't understand...you mean you gave(and still giving) 5years of your life to a guy who is always abusing you!! ![]() scares the sh.I.t out of you!!!! What kinda relationship is that!! ![]() You won't say he is kind or caring or understands you etc.... I don't believe the part where you said you don't wanna leave cos of the shame or what people might say bla bla bla..... What kinda excuse is that?..... I don't mean to be rude but are you in your 30's?....do you have a child for him already?.... You really need to open up... |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by cindyrella(f): 8:07am On Jun 07, 2012 |
I wonder why some people choose to be in prison and call it a relationship. @op You better RUN while you still can. A broken relationship is far better than a broken marriage.. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Nobody: 8:09am On Jun 07, 2012 |
Shollypopz: She's the one on both IDs |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Cuddlemii: 8:11am On Jun 07, 2012 |
Nothing in this world would make me support such. Any form of abuse on a woman is not permitted. I am shocked the op is asking for advise on this when you should have kicked him to the curb ever since. For women to survive a relationship with a man, you have to start thinking and acting like a man. Can a man stick to a verbally abusive lady? most men wont so serve them what they dish. |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Nobody: 8:12am On Jun 07, 2012 |
seedord247:i'm not gossiping Mr. i'm only stating my opinion as you have stated yours. I'm very straight forward. you just need to read carefully and pay attention to little details, it goes a long way. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by seedord247(m): 8:12am On Jun 07, 2012 |
cindyrella: I wonder why some people choose to be in prison and call it a relationship. when was the last time you got penetrated?? A) 3 yrs B) 2 yrs C) 5 yrs D) men are scared of you ![]() |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by sookoo: 8:15am On Jun 07, 2012 |
Run,baby,run.If you get married to this guy,in three months,you will regret every waking breaty you take.Danger!thats all there is to the relationship.You'll find a better guy,by God grace |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Nobody: 8:15am On Jun 07, 2012 |
spothot: @phboy it's either your girl is one of these aje butter girls who practically has been spoilt as far as house chores are concerned or maybe inherrently lazy Aje butter na him I go chop? Me I no be kpako yet I know how to cook wella!! Abeg marriage comes with responsibilities. Please advise her to drop that Aje thing and go take some tutorials on how be a real woman |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by spothot: 8:17am On Jun 07, 2012 |
seedord247:...you wan kill me with laugh |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by seedord247(m): 8:18am On Jun 07, 2012 |
Cuddlemii: Nothing in this world would make me support such. Any form of abuse on a woman is not permitted. I am shocked the op is asking for advise on this when you should have kicked him to the curb ever since. For women to survive a relationship with a man, you have to start thinking and acting like a man. Can a man stick to a verbally abusive lady? most men wont so serve them what they dish. No dey beeee like frog . . Read from page 1 and edit your comment. ![]() |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by 360command: 8:20am On Jun 07, 2012 |
Its better you pull out of d relationship now than to be a divorcee tomorrow. |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by tonmandy(m): 8:23am On Jun 07, 2012 |
Forget d guy. He has some problems. Leave him asap. |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by shizzle11(m): 8:26am On Jun 07, 2012 |
PortHarcourtBoy: @shollypopz I get u, bt you may also want to read ph man's submission above. If she's not willing and raedy to learn from him, then I doubt any relative would be useful eighter. From my observatio and from ph mans responses, its like the op is naturally lazy, not willing to take corrections or to learn, nags to much etc yet she cries fowl. I really think she needs to step up her game and adjust, seeking for sympathy on NL wouldn't help her because even if she parts ways with ph man, what guarantee does she have that the next man she meets wouldn't even demand more from her, unless she is lucky to marry a super-rich man who's realy to condon her lazyness and employ the services of cooks, stewards and what have u, she had better work on her lapses just as ph man has also promised to work on his own lapses cos no one is perfect but I insist, a woman really needs to be up and on the home front more so when she has a men who's always willing and supportive in that aspect. In my sincere opinion, the op shouldn't be complaining ! |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by shizzle11(m): 8:26am On Jun 07, 2012 |
PortHarcourtBoy: @shollypopz I get u, bt you may also want to read ph man's submission above. If she's not willing and raedy to learn from him, then I doubt any relative would be useful eighter. From my observatio and from ph mans responses, its like the op is naturally lazy, not willing to take corrections or to learn, nags to much etc yet she cries fowl. I really think she needs to step up her game and adjust, seeking for sympathy on NL wouldn't help her because even if she parts ways with ph man, what guarantee does she have that the next man she meets wouldn't even demand more from her, unless she is lucky to marry a super-rich man who's realy to condon her lazyness and employ the services of cooks, stewards and what have u, she had better work on her lapses just as ph man has also promised to work on his own lapses cos no one is perfect but I insist, a woman really needs to be up and on the home front more so when she has a men who's always willing and supportive in that aspect. In my sincere opinion, the op shouldn't be complaining ! |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by shizzle11(m): 8:29am On Jun 07, 2012 |
PortHarcourtBoy: @shollypopz I get u, bt you may also want to read ph man's submission above. If she's not willing and raedy to learn from him, then I doubt any relative would be useful eighter. From my observatio and from ph mans responses, its like the op is naturally lazy, not willing to take corrections or to learn, nags to much etc yet she cries fowl. I really think she needs to step up her game and adjust, seeking for sympathy on NL wouldn't help her because even if she parts ways with ph man, what guarantee does she have that the next man she meets wouldn't even demand more from her, unless she is lucky to marry a super-rich man who's realy to condon her lazyness and employ the services of cooks, stewards and what have u, she had better work on her lapses just as ph man has also promised to work on his own lapses cos no one is perfect but I insist, a woman really needs to be up and on the home front more so when she has a men who's always willing and supportive in that aspect. In my sincere opinion, the op shouldn't be complaining ! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by itoldu: 8:33am On Jun 07, 2012 |
You are thinking that after the exchange of vows, everything would change. Mo sorry fun e. Wedding is just another day in a man's life. Here is one thing u can do. BOTH OF YOU can sign up for counselling of nothing less than 3yrs. You'd say its long but i'd advice you do it if you've stayed 5yrs with d guy. With tym, all will be well. My reason is simply thus; you might call it quits now but end up spendin another three yrs making d next guy be the Mr. right. Act right, act now. |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by olatomiwa(f): 8:34am On Jun 07, 2012 |
Babe, this guy is insecured and he is taking out his shortcomings on you. By breaking your self esteem, he is trying to boost his. Its better to have a broken engagement than a broken marriage. You know what, just to be sure...the next time he abuse you verbally, give him as much as he gives. Then sit him down and tell him your fears, if he doesn't change, kiss his ass goodbye! |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by spothot: 8:38am On Jun 07, 2012 |
@phboy it's better you re-post your own side of the story 'cos people are just reading only the opening post before commenting |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Nobody: 8:47am On Jun 07, 2012 |
PortHarcourtBoy:Nairalanders!! u guys are exasperating! Am i the only one reading what PortHarcourtBoy is saying?? This guy has no respect whatsoever for his fiancee. Very sad! ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Doctorazz: 8:49am On Jun 07, 2012 |
I am not on both ids shollypop I used a friends ipad and dats her own I'd. |
Re: My Fiance Is Verbally Abusive by Nobody: 8:52am On Jun 07, 2012 |
^^oh, my bad 1 Like |
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