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Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by betrani(m): 5:48pm On Jun 07, 2012
gabriel74: Hello all

My girl wants both of us to plan things together in order to achieve our target. Our Major target is starting a business and then we get married. We are both working and we all have low income. We have been dating for like 5 years now and we really love each other and want to be together for the rest of our life. But due to the fact that I am not financially buoyant, She suggested that it we be great if we should join our income together then it will be easier to achieve what ever we want.
My question is,
Has such cases ever happened to any one, a girl and a guy combining their income together to meet up their target?
A man supposes to be the head of the house, what if in the future she proud that if not for her, we won’t achieve what we are archiving today? Should she assist me or I hustle on my own?

Please I need advice and ask me what ever question I will answer.

Ur lucky Man! Forgive me for saying this; I dream of a girl like that! Who wants to see both of u comfortable! I luv women who will take the challenge of assisting theirs men! Aftrall whats luv all about? I guess sharing! Ideas, belongins and luv itself! Pleasr increase ur luv for her if u were before nw paying lip-service! U ve got the right woman! Not all these Gold diggers who feel; givin u theirselves in bed is their only duty! U go suffer giv them money to chop for nothin abi? Forget o! U equally offer her sometin in bed!
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by betrani(m): 5:57pm On Jun 07, 2012
tellwisdom: Bro, you are a foollllsih boy angry angry. Why would she give you punny and still give u money?? angry angry
What do u mean by this? Mumu! So u don't knw that women hardly come out to offer u sometin other than their selves knwin that makes immediate difference! This girl to me; luvs this guy! And if this guy has confessed of her being with him right from when he was a nobody then u shld be wise enuf to knw that she means business whn she says sometin like this to the guy! Hw many girls in our world today would do a thing like that? Get a brain if urs is malfunctioning!
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by freedizzle1(m): 6:03pm On Jun 07, 2012
Totoplayer20:
Great Girl
Question for you
Will you advise your sister to give money to her boy friend
They are not married and they don't have kids together
Hell NO

[size=18pt]i go with this. my brother, starting a biz aint a issue, sharing the dividends and proceeds can shatter a long-earned relationship especially when you don't have a covenant binding you guys together yet, like being married or having kids[/size]
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by betrani(m): 6:12pm On Jun 07, 2012
Excellent7: Man what a rare gem of a woman you have got.
That babe really loves u I guess.And is taking a great risk with you!!
Or will you rather preferred a woman with the mentality:" my money is my money, my husband's money is our money"?
I will advise if you are sure you are marrying the babe to accept her offer, and be faithful to her. Few women will be willing to do what she offered to do, and to think you are not yet married! Don't be preoccupied with if she becomes proud in the future. What if she does not? People change, and nothing guarantees that the babe you pick when you are made and in cash will not start acting up after a few kids. If she starts acting up, you can at least say you never asked her for funds, as she willingly offered.
Go and build your future and stop looking for smoke where there is no fire!!!
She has been with you 5 good years, you think she has not seen financially stable men, with whom she will not need to take such risks and still stuck to you?
If you wish you may document the partnership and record the cash injection from her.
So much sense bro!
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by Kechukwu: 6:53pm On Jun 07, 2012
My friend you have a girl tht luvs u with all her heart and ready to be mother of your children. Am sorry to say this if you are really genuine you will nt be asking this question rather look on the positive side.

I have plans to get married this year and i am thinking of involving my girlfriend so tht we can plan together and achieve our dream together. Left alone i can do it all by myself which might be next year. Right now i have made change in plans to involve my girl. Two can only work together when they agree.

Go and discuss with your woman and stop wasting your time in this forum.
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by uyai1: 7:01pm On Jun 07, 2012
For your girl to accept to work with you in achieving this dream goes a long way to show how much she loves you and is ready to weather the storms of life with you.Women of her kind are rare this days. What you should be worried about is whether in the long run you won't take her for granted.Better hold on to what you have.
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by Nobody: 8:28pm On Jun 07, 2012
Mr OP, u are very lucky to have a girl like this o. Am in your shoes right now, and i tell u it makes u guys achieve a lot more. Me&my woman have achieved a lot more together. Just make sure u carry her along in any venture that she has her money in, and if possible u could make ur percent contribution on ur joint project slightly higher than hers, say 60-40, by that u gain her respect. I should also advise that u give her a break on some projects and u take it sole handedly as a man. For instance, am working on a landed property, and my woman really wants to support financially, but i kindly told her No, just to keep my head up. So my friend, thank God for ur babe. Goodluck, without jonathan!
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by bros856: 1:16am On Jun 08, 2012
My brother the simple true is that, two heads are better than one. She loves you so much join the money with her own and go for the business but stay in charge as a man, if it doesn't work out for both of you tomorrow (as in Marriage)share the business 50 50 and go your way, don't take everything or cheap her because if you do it means all you have taken will perish. "at tall at tall na him bad pass and na him be winch". I PRAY GOD KEEP BOTH OF YOU TOGETHER AND GROW THE BUSINESS, AMEN.
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by 080ictcom(f): 6:08am On Jun 08, 2012
their is noting wrong in this but pls their is no love in business. make sure that both of you have a strong agreement signed in court incase of had i known.
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by LordReed(m): 6:49am On Jun 08, 2012
gabriel74: Hello all

My girl wants both of us to plan things together in order to achieve our target. Our Major target is starting a business and then we get married. We are both working and we all have low income. We have been dating for like 5 years now and we really love each other and want to be together for the rest of our life. But due to the fact that I am not financially buoyant, She suggested that it we be great if we should join our income together then it will be easier to achieve what ever we want.
My question is,
Has such cases ever happened to any one, a girl and a guy combining their income together to meet up their target?
A man supposes to be the head of the house, what if in the future she proud that if not for her, we won’t achieve what we are archiving today? Should she assist me or I hustle on my own?

Please I need advice and ask me what ever question I will answer.


You have got a gem of a fiancee. Go ahead from all indications she is not a proud person. As long as you don't start to mess around I doubt that your humble beginnings would ever be an issue in your marriage.
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by sabdok(m): 7:17am On Jun 08, 2012
guy, Her type is uncommon out there, if she is really committed to doing that, ur major function is to ensure that ur buz combination gives synergetc result, which will make her not to regret the action she had taken...my point is:u have a magor role to play
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by sabdok(m): 7:19am On Jun 08, 2012
guy, Her type is uncommon out there, if she is really committed to doing that, ur major function is to ensure that ur buz combination gives synergetc result, which will make her not to regret the action she had taken...my point is:u have a major role to play
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by Nobody: 7:40am On Jun 08, 2012
Oga. Ur girl has rare and uncommon virtues. Get all the help u need. Let's face it,even if u get a loan 4rm trusted family and friends,what of running costs,recurring expenses. Guy,take d cash,i'm sure u'l in one way pay her back. Howeva,dat wld be a gud idea if at least u have done formal introduction
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by omosexy1: 10:42am On Jun 08, 2012
@OPs 70% of the posters here are telling you how lucky you are - and I am going to join them on that. The kind of rare gem I pray to have. Remember positive thinking breeds positive action. Women are good money managers, with focus and passion they tend to succeed in business. Now add that traits with a loving man, they will break boundaries to ensure things go right. I have seen couples do business together, their competitors cannot stand them. But for everything there is a disadvantage, the only I see here is this - don't mess with a woman's emotions, she will mess you up.

My Advice to you:- Take the offer, be her partner. It will strengthen both your love and if you are focus, I guess I will be seeing you on the success ladder. Many successful men in Nigerian and even the world, have so much to thank their wives for. So don't be a fool about this one. It is a no-brainer. However, be good to her (emotionally and financially). Be nice with words for her, accept her input and don't hush her up when she is coming up with plans. Also don't be "a sit-down look partner". Because you would not be able to match up with her energy level (women a great multi-taskers). Be the Chairman and let her be the C.E.O (i.e. suggests strategic plans and let her implement them).

My Advice to women:- I know love is hard to find but when you do see a man who seems like he cares, try to add some value to his life. Relationship these days seems not to be fun anymore, apart from punanie, some lady seems not to want to bring anything else to the table.

My Advice to men:- When you get a lady like this young man, be good to her. Rare qualities are hard to find. I will go on my knees and pray I get a lady like that.
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by Panshow(m): 2:30pm On Jun 08, 2012
I don't think it's a nice idea to joint ur income together. Remember, u're not yet married to each other.
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by ayando(m): 2:35pm On Jun 08, 2012
@ POSTER. Everybody will express their opinions on this issue. some will encourage you while some will discourage due to what they must have heard or gone through themselves. but listen to this truth of mine: the girl is really a good n nice girl for coming up with that plan.it shows she rily cares abt you n your future together. Like what other people had said, to maintain your pride n dignity, accept the money as loan n try to respect her opinions. you should also if you can be honest abt it, never cheat on her. Only this will prevent her from be vindictive in the future.You know your girl better than anyone here on this forum, so you should be able to understand what she can do and undo. wishing you guys all the best.
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by ayando(m): 2:53pm On Jun 08, 2012
LET ME ADD THIS: SO LONG YOU ARE NOT A WOMANIZER, EGOCENTRIC AND YOUR FEELINGS TOWARDS HER IS PURE, THEN YOU SHOULD DO A FORMAL INTRODUCTION N LATER DO A WHITE MARRIAGE WHEN YOU GUYS HAVE ENOUGH MONEY. GBAM!!!!1
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by paix(m): 2:59am On Jun 09, 2012
She is a nice woman. I hope u will NOT dump her for other women when the business is well established.
Re: Should My Girl Assist Me Financially Or I Hustle On My Own by dj5naira(m): 8:31am On Jun 10, 2012
It takes 2 to tango.

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