@ MONEYBAG

Oh please, not this crap again   Women are supposed to be the custodian of decency, honor and dignity, blah blah blah. . . Everyone is supposed to be the custodian of decency, honor and dignity, whether male or female. If the brother-in-law is any decent, he should have run for his life -- afterall we have the same example with Joseph in the same bible you're quoting from. And as for the woman caught in the act of adultery, go read into the history of that, and you'll see that the reason the man wasn't caught is because he ran AWAY. So please don't come here and post blab suggesting that women ought to know better -- this is the NONSENSE that our forefathers taught to accommodate their indiscretions while at the same time aiming to keep their wives from towing the line of adultery. We ALL ought to know better than to perpetrate that crap!

The only aspect of your post that I really like is the part where you say marriage should be honorable and the marriage bed undefiled -- That implicitly applies to everyone who is married, whether male or female.

Tell it like it is!

@ Poster

What u did was flat out wrong, but even I cannot condemn u.
It's hard to believe that it's just ur smell that attracted ur bro in law and it's hard to believe that the kissing was what made u continue.
Am sure there was an attraction between the bothe of u, so that excuse, please throw it our the door.

What's done is done, now u have to ask God for forgiveness and learn to forgive urself. Then ask God to touch ur husband when u tell him, because u have to tell him. At least with that u can show respect for ur marriage and ur husband. Keeping it from him will only make things worse.

Surrender all to God, and ask for his will to be done. If u truly are meant to be married to ur husband, God will make sure that he helps ur marriage.

Now u in turn have to stay away from sin.

Good luck to u and u are in my prayers.

gurrrlllllllll i know hw ya feel don't blame you, see seriously lets put the factup,why do girls just fall when u touch 'em maybe on their breast, tested it times witout number and they just fall even girls i trust that were just friends imagine, thank God av Change only God knows how many girls that will be under my control

E geti plenty plenty things wen no suppose to happen 4 this life, plenty plenty things plenty plenty nonsense  , YOU R A DISGRACE TO WOMEN, A SKIT OF THE HIGHEST ORDER. IMAO!  THREAD TO D WINDOW

There is no way, and no point to condeming you, pretty much everyone else has already done that like as if they hav no sins themselves. Why are we such hypocrites?
This woman put her dirty laundry out there asking for ADVICE to help wash it, and we just comment on how dirty it is.
Shame on you nairalanders. You all talk like you have no sin.
Shame on you.
And as for the lady in concern,
You know what to do. Ask God for forgiveness, AND REPENT. like f'real. For the sake of your kids (if you have any) and your marriage.
And you've been hearing lots of advice to tell him or not to tell him.
All i can say is that its better he hears it FROM YOUR MOUTH, than from SOMEONE ELSE'S MOUTH like his brother. If that happens, then its likely over.
So just pray HARD and i'd say approach him with the matter. Its really hard, but idk what to say
Pray abeg.

ahan!!! people slow down now, we all know that she committed a grievous thing, very griveous in short, but "judge not so that ye shall not be judged", he who has not sin should cast the first stone, just as Jesus did to the adulterous woman, i ain't preaching, just speaking the truth,
And woman, do what is right and speak to ur husband if not your conscience will continue to prick you, May the good Lord forgive you,

Whether you tell your husband or not, God has taken your marriage away from you. The only reason you stayed away from church was to cheat on your faithful husband with who? His BROTHER Women like you are not fit to be in a marital life.

comechop:

There is no way, and no point to condeming you, pretty much everyone else has already done that like as if they hav no sins themselves. Why are we such hypocrites?
This woman put her dirty laundry out there asking for ADVICE to help wash it, and we just comment on how dirty it is.
Shame on you nairalanders. You all talk like you have no sin.
Shame on you.
And as for the lady in concern,
You know what to do. Ask God for forgiveness, AND REPENT. like f'real. For the sake of your kids (if you have any) and your marriage.
And you've been hearing lots of advice to tell him or not to tell him.
All i can say is that its better he hears it FROM YOUR MOUTH, than from SOMEONE ELSE'S MOUTH like his brother. If that happens, then its likely over.
So just pray HARD and i'd say approach him with the matter. Its really hard, but idk what to say
Pray abeg.

Alot more about morals and values, and less of sin. Its just plain wrong, imagine if she were your wife, would u react this way? Nairalanders are just helping her husband with his Panadol!!!!

she is very freaky girl, super freak,

@poster! since u have acknowleged dat u r wrong, go make it right not comin 2 post on nl cos nobody on nl can make stuffs right 4 u. u gat 2 do it oyo_{on your own}

@contributors! some of d posts r hilarious couldnt help but lol_{laugh out loud}

You are a big disgrace to womanhood.God save men from bitches like you

All u Guys [size=20pt][/size] SHUT UP.[size=8pt][/size] if it were u I dont think it wuld have been such a drag. Pls dear as much as u have done somthing very wrong and might be punished, the earlier u realise u have 2 work on ur self the better, also ask 4 forgiveness and probably conselling.
and remember dnt ever trade ur marraige and happiness with anything. Take care
Advise:1) Dont tell yet. 2)ry 2 handle it maturedly 3) never b left alone with ur brother inlaw.4) Your brother inlaw dosnt love u

, the only way out and finally out, is to tell, tell who??, God in heaven and the person you offended ie ur husband

sure u hv done wrong be ready to bear the consequences humbly

if not the act will continue, now or in 2yrs time

but if u tell,, the burden will be over soon

just like CONFESSION

Good luck

The way you guys are condeming her is making me sick,

@poster
you must be going thru a lot of emotional downs at the moment. I think you should fast and pray for forgiveness, and also for the holy spirit to come into you and take control of your emotions, thoughts and ultimately your life.

The holy spirit is the knower of all things and I think he will direct you on the next line of action. When he does, please do not resist,

You will overcome in Jesus name, AMEN!

one word - CONFESS. if you dont tell your husband bout dis and you just end it nd "ask God for forgiveness", your brother in law will always have something over you and you dont want that, it will come out to him one way or the other and then that wuld be worse. so confess your sins like God wants us to then move on!!!

@ Poster

It's rather unfortunate that u have refused to tell us how you resolved the issue - did u tell ur husband, did u bar ur bro-in-law from visiting, have u changed the perfumed, etc. - perhaps someone in the house in your shoe will know how to handle it.

Be that as it may, i will not join those who castigate you neither will i join those who showed empathy but will only pray that Christians should watch and pray, that they may not enter into temptation.

I still would love to know how u resolved this issue - for the records.

He without sin cast the first stone,
it is normal to me, if i am your husband i will not sack you, but find a short term punishment for you, short term only,

@all
please let's allow this topic to die. its not worth fretting over!

If this issue is not scrutinized seriously, it would be difficult to give any advice. I don't know who you are and I've not met you before but from your post I think I should say something. I wouldn't advise you just go about moving on with your life without knowing what your weaknesses are and how to overcome them. You said you (he) made love to him (you) three times before people came. Am just curious here, were you that hungry for him that you would want to be laid for the second and third rounds by your brother-in-law before you realise the infamy in your act. You have to be careful because I can swear that even in the future you can't stay alone with him for two hours without wetting your pants (I mean no disrespect). I conclude by saying its obvious that you are attracted to him and he is ready to get dirty with you (because I see no geniune affection). So please avoid him as much as possible and start appreciating your husband as the only one who should remove yourpants. You have to struggle against yourself. Goodluck because you've really CHEATED your husband.

mennnnnnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
big mistake
1. dont tell ur husband
2. STOP IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@all

I completely agree with "rockiedink" that this topic is not worth any contribution anymore because the Poster (JOy) said she has resolved the issue and had moved on with her life. She has even introduced the "magic" perfume to her girlfriend who is also dragging a lot of guys around her.

I think the only issue in the mind of almost all nairlanders is how she resolved the issue and if she is unwilling to tell, then we should KISS the topic goodbye.

So much has been said, He without sin cast d first stine.

So much has been said, He without sin cast d first stone,

I can't jugde you girl,i don't know what to say, i know if your husband finds out through another source,the trust is forever broken,and jealousy is a MOTHERF, K, the fact that it is his brother could tear him apart even if he loves you so much.Pray girl pray and keep away from his borther never be alone with him or go anywhere with him,a brother like that can kill his own brother if it comes to it.

Its so gory,

No one can first cast a stone we all kwn that,beacuse if we say we are without sin,there we go deciving ourselves.I guess you already know what to expect before posting your tread here and u got it,both in positive/negative way. You did wrong my dear,eventhough its not my intention to condem you,but i feel the bitterness right inside of my heart, YOUR BROTHER-INLAW! IN YOUR OWN MATRIMONIAL HOME!! haba, did u ever think of the consequence? there are some emotions we should be in control of, just like i wouldnt date anyone my girlfriend or someone close to me has dated before me except i wasnt aware ,"self respect is always very important" God will definetly forgive u cus he is a merciful one,but please do not tell your husband,the good thing you can do is to turn away from ur evil sin,because there are sins that are very unforgiven by human beings,we cant pretend about who we are,we are not God and can never be like him,its a big slap on your husband face and please do not tell me ,the outcome you will forever regret.

Lastly,i dont buy d silly idea of perf smell or whatever it is,if you have respect for who u are married to nor for urself,nothing would make u do what u did. In all good luck as u turn to a new leaf.

@toy boy
thanks for your very wise reply

@ all
Any christian here who doesnt believe that the blood of Jesus is able to cleanse this woman's sins and that forgiveness is not for her, raise your hands up

I believe all you that are casting stones are clean enough to do so. Thank God , Man no bne God o!
Well, Girl Beyond all your excuses there is one thing you fail to understand. And that is the fact that the problem is neither your brother-inlaw nor your perfume or how good you look or smell.
Also the solution is not in throwing away any perfume, what if it is your voice that turns them on will you stop talking to them?
The problem is you. You had a weekness that you failed to deal with and now the weekness has found you out. Even if all this stops/ends, your weekness will still find a way to deal with you in the future unless you deal with it.

Your solution is in dealing with your weeknesses and also be disciplined. This you can only achieve by turning to God.I I'm not talking about Just praying about it and going to church. I am talking anbout giving all to God. Your life and your lifestyle.

One should always think over every actions before taking them. Did you think about the fact that the only way you will be able to totally get the guilt off your neck and even true forgiveness is by telling your Husband?
God will see you through!

Well it one of those things,since u ve repented,GO AND SIN NO MORE.

Hello sweet Joy the poster, Don't those criticizing and condeming you most of them all have done worse than what you did.Only that they can't be honest enough to confess to US THE FORGIVERS OF SIN   as you have just done to us now,don't bother yourself anymore because WE especially I have forgiving you.Your sins are as white as snow now.

Even if you tell your husband I assured you nothing will happen to any of you be reassured. Just feel as if nothing happens and move on with your life,or better still consider it to be one of the SEX you had with men before getting married in that way you won't feel the pain anymore.

Cheers,merci boucoup et à bientôt

GUYZ, RELAX NOW…. PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES, LEAVE HER AND LET HER BE, THE GUILT ALONE IS ENUF FOR HER TO PAY FOR. PLS ENUF OF THE INSULTS OKAY
WHAT SHE DID WAS VERY WRONG BUT……
AM SHORT OF WORDS
ENUF OF THE INSULTS OKAY