ITbomb: the pix pls

This is the pix:

[size=14pt]PLZ DON'T LEAVE ME, YOU SAID YOU LOVE ME FOR 9 YEARS. [/size]

I would like to think that love comes from within. If you can learn to look with the eyes of your heart you would be better off. Besides i have learnt that no woman is realt too ugly to be fixed. If she is too fat, you can always assist her with loosing weight. Get to sure slim they will give you a good diet and get to a dietician too. As for the face etc. I ahve seen the ugliest people become so beautiful by just having a facial from a beuty salon, put on weave, make up and buy attractive clothes. No woman is too ugly to be fixed.

most brothers loose out on good woman because they are too superficial and vain

Omo the description no be here o.

kokoA: Just think about your future children's look sha. They might never forgive you! Think and do what you feel is right.

So very funy.

nothing is spoilt. simply tell her that she is not what you were imagining voice wise and for that your interest has gone with no feelings for her.

Is it also possible that you may have built up an inner expectation of what she could look like.... short (heels), fat (gym), no flatering facial features (after losing weight i am sure they will come out, or is she faceless?) all theses things can be worked on oh!.. well its your choice

@poster, who are the producer of this movie? Fred Amaata or Ejei.

Seun is time to start banning people from posting trash in this forum! Nonsense!!

Bro can't believe u did not check out her pix for 9 years of keeping intouch, I mean dats like d 2nd step after meeting anyone on line.well I tink its bera u come up wit an excuse & make her no u guys can't work tins out. Before its too late.[color=#000099][/color]

Jokes aside, some people don't look good in pictures, but they look very pretty in real life...

Just make sure she doesn't have a little willy under her skirt.

OP, go check the chic out in person before killing the lust - and give us a feedback.

If they are not over-aged, they are physically not good-looking, or they are shabby in character or over pompous...gosh, pls can't there be one perfect girl searching online? Must girls come online to search only when they are contraband goods? Why can' the be a sound original goods out there via online? SMH...People accusing OP of falling in love with someone he hadn't met, pls stop cos it is very much possible & some of u must have done same, so don't come here casting stones cos no one is perfect! You guys should be giving him suggestions on how to handle this dilemma...whether to ignore her looks & move on diligently with the love of human...while hoping for radical transformation, or to quit now & start to find elsewhere (though its hard nowadays to hook up with ones dream girl even in real life)....sighs...everything in life is just moving backwards, even football...hardly do we see more emerging playmakers, stars from every country, instead one man keeps reigning as world best for decades...wahala dey! lol

kenny2gbaski: It all started almost 9 years ago, secondary school days, met her via a popular networking mode in a popular newspaper then and we started the normal Online dating, you know all those kinda luv in tokyo stuffs, We do talk on phone like 6hrs out of the whole 24hrs of a day.

She lives in another state and we both promised on seeing each other just the way young lovers do but i happen to have the overprotective type of parents so i couldnt travel out of my own state to see her, explained this to her and she understand and promised to wait for more time. we continued like that for about 3 years until we both gained admissions into different universities, though i chose to study oversea which really made matters complicated cos we hardly talk unlike before

I Decided to move on after 5years of ghost-dating (U know what i mean) and the truth was things wasn't so similar, I ve really fallen so much in love with my unseen girlfriend in such a way that i just couldn't keep physical relationship for more than a month, then get back to my unseen love again, at a point i felf i was going crazy, that continued repeatedly until we lost contact for a whole year, we are both through with school and i v got a good job here back home, now My Parents wants me to get married,

I've been into few relationships but none of this girls seems to be my type of woman to get married to, the only option on my mind was my Unseen girlfriend, though i never saw her but considering the fact that we v talked for almost 8 years and knew each other so well, she seems to be my type of girl, but the problem is i have never seen her, except for an unclear pic she sent to my phone few years back.
Yeah, she was lazy to learn how to browse the internet and use some social sites which would have been better for us both. anyways decided to give her one more shot by getting her new contacts from her friends. gave her a surprise call on her birthday and she was over excited, we talked for some days, had it at the back of my mind to settle down with her, no matter how Beautiful or Ugly she is. later she told me she was now on Facebook, gave her my username to add me. was busy checking my Fb wall every minute for new request, couldn't sleep all through the night, not until morning when i eventually saw the request and accepted.

Guess what?? i met the shocker of my life! I couldn't eat throughout the day, she was pretty much more ugly looking than i can ever imagined, even though i said i ll go for her no matter how ugly she was, but the ugliness was just too much for me to bear. Not even the best makeup could do a good justice to it. Can't even thinking of living at the same roof with her not to talk of going to bed with her. Very short, Chubby with no Cool face whatsoever, she looks more like a younger Patricia in Eddie murphy's "NORBIT" movie. (Those who watched 'll understand).

I'm 6ft tall, a bit dark and kinda muscular, u can imagine my pain considering our appearances especially if we happen to go out together. Now am so confused, I really wanna quit but where would i really start from after getting to know someone for 9 years? i do luv her still but her face and appearance aint doing any justice. My folks are already on my neck concerning marriage issue and the truth is i don't just wanna get married for the sake of doing it.

What do u think?? what would u rather do? leave your 9yr lover for being so ugly and marry someone who u haven't known and studied for so long cos u couldn't stand your last girl's looks?? I need serious advice please. Thanks

so you are telling us that this babes face 'DOES NOT ENCOURAGE' friendship ?

one begins to wonder in whose image and likeness she was created

Very easy to say beauty is only skin deep (yeah it truly is) and when faced with such decisions ourselves we bail. Have you guys ever seen a Hollywood romantic movie with ugly Romeo and beautiful Juliet or the roles reversed(me I haven't sha)?

@OP, So help you God!

P.S: Please stop crying about your parents. Man up!

@ OP, u don't love someone yet you tell them that they are ugly, its so not a nice thing to say about someone, the fact that your're 6ft whatever doesn't make u the next best thing since sliced bread.
As you claim she's ugly (even though you love her) there is someone out there who thinks she's heaven sent, so please don't bother the girl or even attempt to marry her if you don't love her for who she is.
Make your mind up and tell her, no bulls***ing.

You are a dark and six foot loser! How can you communicate with a lady for 8 years and not see her. Your mix up of english shows you really are unschooled talk less of studying abroad. Absolutely no swagger...dat's why u cant keep a relationship.

my guy nor use fine marry ooo. marry your mugu oooooo

@OP
Follow your heart. If you stick to her, she'll thereafter be your problem not someone else's. Falling in love is a decision not an emotion. Some people could be so photogenic to the point of your much adoing about nothing. I personally believe that if one is good-looking, he/she would be scooped up by those seeing him/her physically before any unknown quantity online would get such chance.

Bro, you dont knw dat gal's history just her voice pls forget her.
I hard a similar experience in Enugu through a wrong Gsm number connection, I was so excited and loved her so much cos she told me she was a virgin, my perfect wife material, after 2 years I surmoned courage and went to her village, saw her and requested her to visit me too, she later came to my house and started crying dat she has lost her virginity to a guy in her village who raped her.
PLS, DO I KNOW HER NOW....?

Maybe you must have been discussing with spirit maid and you do not know. How can you be in love with a woman you have not met and you want to settle down because you have been talking on the fone?

The taste of friendship is not the taste of marriage. You better sit down and look for a woman since you have never had any form of intimacy with her. Make plans to see her in person and assess her and see if you can work it out.

omega25red: first off, use paragraphs when you write a long story

kenny2gbaski: i didn't type this using a virtual Keyboard, sorry, 'll correct that on the pc now

@kenny2gbask
You don't need a full keyboard to insert paragraphs. Study your keypad well.

shymmex:

This is the pix:

[size=14pt]PLZ DON'T LEAVE ME, YOU SAID YOU LOVE ME FOR 9 YEARS. [/size]

OMG.!
Hahahahahahahahaha
Paddy U no Well @ all.

Ugliness goes away with time! by the time u spend enough time with her and look closely and deeper she'll suddenly start looking not so bad, and then it'll become kinda cute. So if you like this girl this much you should just get to meet her in person and spend more time with her.

u be mu mu. This one na part 1 or 2

ExcelDec: Bro, you dont knw dat gal's history just her voice pls forget her.
I hard a similar experience in Enugu through a wrong Gsm number connection, I was so excited and loved her so much cos she told me she was a virgin, my perfect wife material, after 2 years I surmoned courage and went to her village, saw her and requested her to visit me too, she later came to my house and started crying dat she has lost her virginity to a guy in her village who raped her.
PLS, DO I KNOW HER NOW....?

So you loved her because she was a virgin, that shows you never truly loved her.
The moment she got raped you ignored her existence, what a loser you are, God saved the girl from a beast like you. How can u claim to love someone then leave them the moment something goes wrong.
If this is the mindset you live by you won't get very far.

@op,where is d ugly pissure

kenny2gbaski:

i didn't type this using a virtual Keyboard, sorry, 'll correct that on the pc now. My Bad



U can go through the post once again and find out the reason why sir



Really? Should tell her she is Ugly?? Waoh, wish it was that so easy.




I never said i got it from my friend sir, I said HER FRIEND! never met her as well.

Thanks though.

OH BOY! we just have d same predicament, my first luv of 9 yrs was soo not gud lookin and to make it worse was careless about her appearance, plus she had roped mi into wantin to marry her. I knew she was ugly in d beginin but i thot evrytin wuld sort itself over d years. Oh man it became worse! I had to quietly extricate myself. It stil hurts but in d end it was d rite tin to do plus she is stil yung and hence can move on wif som1 else. There so many fine and bright sisters out there. Just help yourself, man.

I think you need to meet her first before you conclude. Get to know her more and if she has a very good character, over time, you would see the beauty. Character makes the beauty of a woman and not the make up you see on their faces.
As for those complaining about meeting people online, you could meet your partner anywhere and sometimes, it is not until you see the person before you know you have feelings. Most people are often moved by infatuatiion since many do not know that love in itself grow with time and it isn't those butterflies we feel in our tummy.

omega25red: first off, use paragraphs when you write a long story.

you are very vain and how old are you that you are succombing to the pressures of your family to get married.
How do you claims to be in love with a person who you haven't seen and you actually talked for 9 years

If she is too ugly, you just need to grow a set and tell her quick now that you just reconnected and not string her along or waste her time.
By the way this friend of yours who gave you her recent contact info had not seen her either?

r u blind/ dint u see the paragraph

GboyegaD: I think you need to meet her first before you conclude. Get to know her more and if she has a very good character, over time, you would see the beauty. Character makes the beauty of a woman and not the make up you see on their faces.
As for those complaining about meeting people online, you could meet your partner anywhere and sometimes, it is not until you see the person before you know you have feelings. Most people are often moved by infatuatiion since many do not know that love in itself grow with time and it isn't those butterflies we feel in our tummy.

I think the best rule if possible should be: If you are a guy & you know you are ugly or say not good looking, not financially able to maintain a normal relationship, pls don't search online, try real life, so u people will know u truly & like u cos of ur person & agree to date or marry u, & if u are a girl & u know u are not obviously pretty, or u know that u are over-aged & not physically gorgeous with an average good character, pls dnt search online to avoid fooling guys & wasting their resources with specially snapped pictures. pls focus on guys within ur physical terrain, so that anyone coming after u must have come cos of ur inner beauty & nt on the I AM PRETTY & HOT GIRl impression u must have created in them through ur special pics. Like this, we can save ourselves all these tales of people going online to look for short-cut when they know they cannot attract anyone in real life based on their entire personality. Pls pls...lets stop fooling ourselves, cos this fooling of guys online via special-effect pics is becoming too rampant among Nigerian sisters! Too bad, lets do sth pls.

ray amayo: nothing is spoilt. simply tell her that she is not what you were imagining voice wise and for that your interest has gone with no feelings for her.

likeits that simple! except ur hrtless

My guy, you fell in love with a non-existing image

Maybe the girl has a lovely voice and after hearing her voice over the phone, you had the picture of a beautiful streamlined shaped lady at the back of your mind

I had a girlfriend back in secondary school, who was attending a nearby school to mine, who was quite pretty. I lost touch with her after school, only to get her contact details, later, from a mutual friend. I still had the mental image of her pretty face and physique at the back of my mind, when I decided to get in touch with her.

After seeing how she looks now via Facebook, Mcdonalds Big-Mac don do something, I had to cut and run !

I will advise you to run too and look for a lady with similar values and background like yours

Love is the attraction towards a person for their noble qualities.

There are things you like about a person that you find noble. These things could be honesty, integrity, a good smile, anything YOU find noble.

This love, though, I can only say for certain is true in my life and around me. It also requires you to know a person honestly, to truly love them. You love a person for the qualities they truly posses, not fake ones.

Any attraction built on qualities that don't exist is a phantom love. If you are loving ideals but not the person with the ideals, then that love is a lie. It may bring you happiness, but it is not real. This is why truth is the foundation of a good relationship.

Because you cannot love a person you don't know, you cannot know if you are in a good relationship until some time has past. This is why we date, to get to know if the noble aspects of a person are really noble and not a lie. This also means love at first sight is built on romantic prohibition (fake love), not true love.

Romantic love is the enemy. This is when you love a person for the mystery of them, not for who they are. This type of false love is very attractive as it fuels itself on prohibition i.e. fake love. The more barriers you put up, the more dangerous and exciting the romance becomes. The saying "separation makes the heart grow fonder" is derived from this statement.

tl;dr
Love is attraction for a person for the qualities(which appeal to YOU) that make them genuine.