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Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by iice(f): 6:24pm On Nov 30, 2007 |
kasala don burst |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by davestar(m): 7:47pm On Nov 30, 2007 |
Balance the equation gal.life isn't always rosy all d time.u can call d paddy and iron issues objectively. Use ur head to Ahead!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Katch ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Rice and Stew Very Plenty. [font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font] |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by minute(f): 7:49pm On Nov 30, 2007 |
LOL!! u guys shld just take it easy in here. |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by Nobody: 1:23am On Dec 01, 2007 |
wahala dey! Moni your bf don catch you! |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by Nobody: 2:33am On Dec 01, 2007 |
davidylan: na you? |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by Nobody: 2:49am On Dec 01, 2007 |
nwando: me ke? Just read telltoo's post. |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by romeo(m): 8:54am On Dec 01, 2007 |
The game don enter another level |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by inze(m): 10:54am On Dec 01, 2007 |
i don't think you're expecting too much but instead you're simply pouring out your heartfelt and i think he should understand and reason with you. Yes, the guy is always busy, remember he has to struggle to take of of his future family (thats no excuse though) but we all know marriage is not a 1month affair, it takes forever and one has to plan properly for it financially and emotionally, i believe you're working towards the emotionally aspect with the way you expressed yourself but it doesn't go the same way for the guys. "In a relationship, its not important that both partners think the same way. What is important is that they think 2gether." At this note, I'll want you to let him understand how you feel, not just at the introductory level but intensely. As you speak, i sense you want to walk down the aisle with him and you both need to work things out now or, I hope it goes well with both of you. I n z e |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by igbonla(m): 1:17pm On Dec 01, 2007 |
Ogbono soup don sour! |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by Nobody: 2:05pm On Dec 01, 2007 |
sit him down. tell him how you feel for one last time. if he persist. time you show him the red card. |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by otokx(m): 2:24pm On Dec 01, 2007 |
This makes for interesting reading. Are the both parties Nigerian based? The talk of money hard cannot "fly" for not getting your girl a birthday present even if its just N200 recharge card . |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by romeo(m): 8:52pm On Dec 01, 2007 |
Abeg no come Dey promote recharge card as a gift, you wan spoil the babe? |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by goodboybad(m): 5:16am On Dec 02, 2007 |
if telltoo or her boyfriend is as 'BUSY' as he wants her to believe, how come he has enough time to be coming to nairal land to see what we are gossiping about? How come he has enough time to register and post a reply instead of just calling his chick and settling issues? He wants us to believe that he is extremely hard up, but he has enoug to afford an internet connection or at least to visit a cyber cafe and browse sites like naira land. (Abi na Y-Y boy?) And his tone is too harsh and defensive, it is not the tone of a man in love, it is the tone of one who is defending himself at all costs. There is nothing in his post that suggests he loves the babe: he says and if youre getting bored because i no longer take you out then, what do u xpect me to do? go find someome who will! Regard to the religious thingy, its strictly between u and i, if we can live with it fine! if not, fine! what kinda tone is that? With regards to religion, it can really mar a marriage and should be given really serious attention. But as someone said earlier, A man will spend a lot of time on whatever is high on his priority list. It is apparent that his girl is not high on his list. My advice to the poster: Bail out. The guy does not like you enough. And if he is the one who posted that reply, then he is a damn idiot. Bail out. |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by akaluka: 8:48am On Dec 02, 2007 |
what kind of business is the guy setting up that he cant even afford N2000 - N3000 to buy her a gift or take her out.he dey build factory? Moni abeg fashie that guy.he's just a stingy SCRUB if he cant afford the little things that can lighten up friendship,he should go and self-service himself off. no be by force to get girlfriend. and talking off religion,in the long run,u'd be under pressure to convert to his.are you ready to do that? dating and marriage no be the same thing o! abeg shine ur eye |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by wham(m): 10:55am On Dec 02, 2007 |
Bolarge has strong points here @monisoola But just listen to telltoo's good points too telltoo: My recommendation: This Guys doesnt exactly see a future with u. Talk to him about it then make up ur mind. Use ur head & not your heart this time |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by fesse(f): 4:37pm On Dec 02, 2007 |
@poster, pls i advice you to move on with your life. No man worth your price, they are all the same. How can i date a man that will not give me quality time? Oh! girl,make hair while the sun shines. if you insist, well na you nooooooooooooooo. |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by gmobik: 5:19pm On Dec 02, 2007 |
Wow, Telltoo, and if youre getting bored because i no longer take you out then, what do u xpect me to do? go find someome who will! i really can't even afford to spend as much money as i do on credit everyday (well nearly everyday) but i do. im putting myself through such tremendous pressure simply because of you and i! the only reason y i don't take you out baby is because i CANT!, the last time we went out to the movies i had to borrow the moni, which i have just paid back! REmemebr what i gave u last bday? remember what i gave u 4 xmas? so if i wasnt stingy back then , isnt it likely that theres a justifiable reason 4 my apparent stinginess now? Regard to the religious thingy, its strictly between u and i, if we can live with it fine! if not, fine! I really hope im the person in question on this thread, or else i just wasted an hour i should have spent working Cheers folks! ur post is nasty, am a guy too u know. you have just explained out crap,clear your not so tripped by your girl anymore,it happens to every guy but, apply balance and be fair to her. if shes important to you,u wouldn't hav had to make effort to remember her birthday! and besides there ar fun things you can do without having to spend money,as long as she understands the situation. hanging out means a lot u know. i really hope u guys are compactible? |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by Nobody: 5:27pm On Dec 02, 2007 |
to be frank telltoo's post is indicative of a man i would not advice my sister to marry. If indeed Moni is your gf then you are a disappointment, rather than log on to NL to give her a verbal pasting, a simple call or a visit to thrash out issues with her in love would have been most ideal. Moni, you're better off finding a replacement. |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by uchetobi(f): 11:44am On Dec 03, 2007 |
word |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by uchetobi(f): 11:54am On Dec 03, 2007 |
monisoola: don't get carried away by wooden, the issues are more serious than that |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by fabiyi: 12:52pm On Dec 03, 2007 |
Hi telltoo, If you are the person in question, i guess you guys need to apply more maturity in sorting things out. To my utmost surprise, the contributors so far have fogotten to realize the fact that courtship is designed purposely for two different people to get to know each other and to aclamatize with each other ways of life. Well, my candid advise to the guy is that you should at least take it slowly as ladies of today only appreciate what they see at their very hands. let me share my personal experience with you, I like surprises, i mean getting someone un aware most especially when I am taking up a big project. Not informing my babe.This does not hinder my true love for her by not letting her know at the begginning. We used tohave little problem over this as she always felt otherwise, may be consider herself not totally in my heart by not telling her my plan before it materialise. Your man maybe somebody like that, so you need to understand his plight and don't forgat that he his human and needs to be advised. Remember, all that glitters are not gold. Cheers!!!! |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by burn(m): 1:16pm On Dec 03, 2007 |
Telltoo or whatever your name is. I don't really like the way you sounded in ur mail. It's good that you're doing a lot of work. But you need to understand that MEN ARE FROM MARS AND WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS We speak different languages. If you were telling all your stories about time management and budget constraint to a man, he would easily understand but this is a woman and one that you claim to love. You must devise the most effective means of communicating with her. You can't just keep doing what you feel is right and expact her to understand. No my brother, it does not work that way. Your case is a rather critical one, something very little can wreck it if ur not careful. And do not push her into the hands of another man. We men are like wolves and believe me, there are so many waiting to pounce on ur gurl. But if you feel you can't put in the extra effort to make ur relationship work then i think this is the best time to quit. Like I always say: "BETTER A FAILED RELATIONSHIP THAN A FAILED MARRIAGE". GOD BE WITH YOU!!! |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by ifyalways(f): 3:58pm On Dec 03, 2007 |
hmmmn as it seems moonisola is really in love with this guy.there is nothing one can do than wish her the best of the choice she has made for herself. |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by Shinatu: 3:58pm On Dec 03, 2007 |
Stinginess in a man comes with all sorts of other vices. Some men take advantage of an undemanding female to just takecare of their own selfish desires. Someone said Moni should not talk about a gift, why not? She is not asking for the expensive and unaffordable stuff she just wants a simple gesture of love. There can be no love, I repeat no love without giving! Like someone says it is a matter of priorities, if a girl is very important to a guy, he will share what he has with her even if he is trying to set up a business of his dreams. The bible even says your heart is where your treasure is. It is this sermon of 'do not ask for a gift' that has landed many sisters with selfish brothers/husbands who do not have the capacity to think of any other person apart from themselves. |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by iyes(m): 7:09pm On Dec 03, 2007 |
Dear Monisoola, Take it from me, and it's authentic; The only change that happens to people in marriage with time is for the worse, Behaviourally, socially, emotionally, and of course, physically. Never marry on the premise that your spouse will get better on any aspect you do not like, let alone detest, or cannot live with. For those dislikes will sooner aggravate to become detests. Therefore what do you think your detests will degenerate to? Whatever you have now is the best you'll ever get from a relationship (God forbid, marriage) with the guy. Don't be fooled by attempt to cover up his extreme selfishness, which is a glaring defect, as his plans to set up a business (for himself alone). Girl, if he really loves you, what says he can't involve you in that business plan? Afterall, he should start sharing some part of him with you now, if he will ever share the "whole" of his life with you in marriage! But truth is that, he is a "ME, MYSELF, & I kind of person. However, if you do not mind committing lifelong "emotional harakiri" then go ahead and "sentence" yourself to a psychological life imprisonment, all in the way of marriage with someone you are obviously not compatible with, and whose life and habits will bore you to death. The choice is yours. Good luck as you attempt the plunge! |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by ndubest(m): 8:17am On Dec 04, 2007 |
, nice yarn |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by monisoola(f): 9:38am On Dec 04, 2007 |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by rockiedink(m): 10:21am On Dec 04, 2007 |
hmmm, monisoola, is it telltoo? |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by sweetnsexy(f): 11:35am On Dec 04, 2007 |
Homegirl, Move on but before you do try as much as possible to clean up any residue of feelings you have for him. The best way to do this is to confront him on his fuckups and from his response, try to see if he is worth hanging out with or dumping into the trashie. Also watch out for types of response, if he's avoiding decision taking on serious issues, he's avoiding taking the decision to be serious with you. All the best in your love life, |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by monisoola(f): 12:53pm On Dec 04, 2007 |
No, telltoo cant be my boyfriend |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by telltoo: 12:54pm On Dec 04, 2007 |
people!!!!!! i apologfis if my tone was harsh, i was quite upset when i read the post, i cant imagine y she would post stuff abt us on nairaland instead of discussing it with me, also i want to set some issues staright 1. i did buy her a bday present, however i ve been out of town on business 4 over a month and we havnt seen each other, when we do see , i ll give her her present, i wonder y she just assumes i hav no gift 4 her simply because i didnt metion it or send it thru sm1, i actually wanted it to be a suprise, like give her smthng when she least expects it, and i expected thtt if she was upset abt it she d tell me instead of coming to nairaland!! 2. i really cant afford to take her out to places we are used to going AT PRESENT!! cos as she knows ALL the moni i make is going into a project 3. i dont see y she cant suggest tht we go out and foot the bills especially when she knows exctly what im diverting my funds for, she s not xctly broke, shes got a very good job 4. i actually apologise to her if i havnt been paying her as much attention as b4, i m not doing it because ive lost interest in her, its just that my business is still in an immature, fast evolving phase and its demanding all my energy rerserves, both physical and emotional! 5. if i sounded nasty in my 1st post it s because i was upset tht she harbored such sentriments against me and didnt even hint me, please read her post and imagine you re her bfriend, there are some facts u ll discover that will hurt you a little i also strongly object to some posts on this thread that used insulting words on me, thers no need 4 that. please learn not to judge ok? remember the saying that goes, pluck out the log of wood in your eyes before, |
Re: Am I Expecting Too Much From This Relationship? by monisoola(f): 1:06pm On Dec 04, 2007 |
he wont av time to visit nairaland, talkless or writing all that. he doesn't even check his mail unless he has to retrieve some important info. telltoo sounds mean too and frustrated. hope this aint you. |
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